A child expelled from school because parents are gay

Iris - posted on 03/12/2010 ( 65 moms have responded )




BOULDER, Colo. — A Catholic school in Colorado is kicking out a preschooler because the child's parents are lesbians.

The child will not be allowed to re-enroll next year at Sacred Heart of Jesus Catholic School. The Denver Archdiocese posted a statement Friday that the parents are "living in open discord with Catholic teaching."

The statement says students in Catholic schools are expected to have parents who abide by policies of the school and church. The Archdiocese said students with gay parents in Catholic schools would become "confused."

The school's decision was first reported Friday by KUSA-TV in Denver.


What is your opinion on this?

What about parents that have been divorced or had a child out of wedlock? Should their children get to stay in school?

I think that if you can be expelled for your parents "sins" most of the school would be empty and home schooling would be come very popular. I've never considered homosexuality a sin and I never will. But even if I did, how could that justify kicking a pure innocent preschooler out? And how can it be justified that this particular "sin" is worth more punishment then others?

The words, hypocritical, bigotry, discrimination and prejudice are ringing in my ears right now.

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Jocelyn - posted on 03/12/2010




I think that the school was well withing it's rights. It was a Catholic school, not a public school. If it was a public school I would be all up in arms about it, but as it stands, it was a private religious school, and therefore they have every right to run it however they want. But I don't agree with their decision. If the bastard children get to go to the school, then why not the children of a gay couple? But religious institutions are pretty well known for their hypocrisy.

Christy - posted on 03/12/2010




i think it is completely wrong that they would expel a child for the choices their parents make however they are well within their rights to do so. what i can't understand is why the school accepted the child in the first place. obviously the intolerance of gays isn't a new thing in the Catholic religion so if they would have simply denied the child's application no one would have to deal with what's going on now. i also don't understand why the parents wanted to send their child to a Catholic school. of course the children in class probably won't treat their kid differently but i can't say the same about the staff. sure these people might want their child to be educated in a private school but i don't think they took into consideration the fact that the teachers probably would have treated their child differently simply because of it's family situation.

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Despite my on-going frustration with organized religion I believe the school was within their rights!

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Lisamarie : " I was always taught that God loves everyone and is there to guide people, God made the world and everyone in it!! That includes Gay, Straight, Black, White, etc. If being gay was a sin why did God create them that way?? "

I totally agree with you but just wanted to clarify something about ur quote......." If being gay was a sin why did God create them that way? " ......although I believe people are born gay, the church does not! They believe it a choice to ' act gay ' !

La - posted on 03/12/2010




I am a firm believer and supporter of gay rights and I do not agree with the view that the catholic church has on homosexuality. However, since they are a private school I do believe it is within their rights to allow or deny students according to their faith (even if their "faith" is ass backwards and dated in my opinion). The only thing I can say positive about the catholic church in general is that they are more or less consistent in their beliefs...you at least know what to expect with them.

Sara - posted on 03/12/2010




Well, if that's how Catholics want to represent themselves...I think it's stupid and wrong, but it's a private school so can discriminate, however lame it is. It would be nice if Catholics felt the same way about Pedophiles in the clergy as they do about gays. Bastards.

Tah - posted on 03/12/2010




This is not a public school. They are private for these reason,s so that can pick and choose who they allow into the school. I attended catholic school even though I am a baptist and we had to start the day with mass, we had required religion classes, and so on. It is their way or the highway. Now, do i agree with them kicking a preschooler out. Of course not. Do I agree with them judging and discriminating, I don't have to agree with it, but they are the school that they are so that they are so that can teach what they want to whom they want. They even required, back in the 90's when I was in school, that the parents be apart of a church, and if it was that church, they would expect to see you and your family there. I may not agree with the lifestyle, but I also don't agree with making the child suffer. I do however think it would have been very confusing of the child to learn at school that the way her mothers were living was wrong. It would have been a lot of "but mommy the bible says this", and "mommy, my teacher said that". I would think they would want their child in a school, that was more tolerant and accepting. If you have a belief, you stand by it, as the school/church is doing in this case.

Kelly - posted on 03/12/2010




I see where the School is coming from on this one. This is a young child, and I don't think that they are worried about the child being confused about their own sexuality. I think they are looking at it from the perspective that this child shouldn't be exposed to the fact that the Church (and therefore the School) look at his parents as wrong in God's eyes. As everyone is well aware, the Catholic church has a strong stance on certain issues. This doesn't make Catholic's bad people. I could understand the uproar if this were a public school, and I don't think its right for that other public school to cancel prom because a lesbian wants to go with her girlfriend. But this is a PRIVATE Catholic School. No one has the right to attend, it is a privilege. The School and Church have every right to stand by their beliefs, and they don't deserve ridicule for it. It makes me wonder why the mother and her partner wanted the child to attend in the first place. Just as I think it is wrong in a public setting for people to be discriminated against, I think it is wrong in a private setting for people to be forced to accept something they strongly disagree with. They are not out there gay bashing, they are choosing to not accept a child whose family doesn't live by the precepts of the Church. Big difference.

Dana - posted on 03/12/2010




You're actually right, in my opinion, Esther. We may not like it but they are within their rights.

Esther - posted on 03/12/2010




I may shock some people with my opinion on this, but I think the school is well within its rights. Of course I disagree with their opinion on homosexuality, and I think their picking and choosing which sins are acceptable and which ones aren't is shady at best (but this hypocrisy is not exclusive to the Catholic church), but I am a strong supporter of religious freedom too, and since this is a private, religious institution, they have every right to run it in accordance with their beliefs, including frowning on homosexuality and expelling a student for that reason. It's the same as my strong belief that no church should ever be forced to accept homosexuals into their congregation, let alone bless their marriages. I do of course hope that one day they will come to see what I consider the error of their ways and take a more enlightened view of this and live more in line with the "love thy neighbor" part of Jesus teachings, but it will have to be voluntary, not mandated.

Krista - posted on 03/12/2010




I swear, schools must think that their students are a bunch of idiots. Between the onerous threat of them becoming "distracted" by lesbians at the prom, and now the looming spectre of them becoming "confused" because one of the kids has two mommies, it's SO nice to know that these schools are preparing those kids for the real world, where they'll NEVER have to be "distracted" or "confused" by something that they see.


And yeah, the fact that this school is Catholic just adds an extra soupçon of FAIL to the whole thing. One of the children has two mothers, in a loving, committed relationship? That's sinful, and against the church, and will confuse the children! One of their own, however, is buggering little boys? Well...we'll just brush that under the rug. It's not like any of those altar boys became "confused" by that experience, after all.

Patricia - posted on 03/12/2010




Religion, it is what it is and has been for years....but what religion, is our choice.

I was born and raised Catholic...I have my beliefs just like everybody else here does. But I was also raised by parents who taught me NOT to judge or hate or discriminate....and so far, I have done just that. I won't bash the church, because their rules and beliefs have been set in stone for so long that you know they'll never change.(unless of course THEY want to change something) And if I were in that position, like Erin stated, why would these woman even want to put there child in a place that would probably outcast their child? Everybody tells you about what the bible says about gays etc...but they never talk about God's love or the love we should have for one another as humans...that part is always left out....I'd want my child to be in an environment that taught about God's love for his people......ALL HIS PEOPLE!!

Whether you are a man and woman raising children or two men or two woman, a single mom or a single dad raising children.....the word PARENT should never be an issue.

Dana - posted on 03/12/2010




Yes, they're known for their intolerance on homosexuality, Erin, unless you're a gay man who wants to be a priest and molest boys. Then you're A-Okay! I hope I don't offend anyone here but, the Catholic religion makes me sick.

I think you said it best Iris, shall they kick out half the kids that likely are a product of divorce or unwed parents?

Ez - posted on 03/12/2010




I am a non-practicing Catholic, and the Church is reknowned for it's intolerance of homosexuality. That, and it's stance on birth control and abortion, is mostly why I turned my back on organised religion as a teen. But it is what it is, and I doubt it will ever change. If I was in a lesbian relationship I wouldn't even consider sending my child to a Catholic school for this very reason. I wouldn't want my child exposed to that negativity and indoctrination. Yes, it's discriminatory, but so was them refusing to marry my father and his second wife, because he was divorced. I'm not really sure why a lesbian couple would expect any more from the Catholic Church to be honest. It doesn't surprise me one bit that a Catholic institution has singled out a family like this for going against teachings.

Lisamarie - posted on 03/12/2010




This debate always bugs me!! I am not religious, my nan however is a devout catholic ans am not trying to disrespect any religion but what really annoys me is when people use their religion to descriminate!

I was always taught that God loves everyone and is there to guide people, God made the world and everyone in it!! That includes Gay, Straight, Black, White, etc. If being gay was a sin why did God create them that way??

This is just another case of religion standing in the way of our human rights and it is not fair! You are absolutely right that children from unmarried and divorced families should not be allowed to attend if they are going to use God as an excuse for one "sin" then they have to do the same to the others!!

One other thing, if her parents are such "sinners" surely by the word of God they should be "helping" this girl to "repent" for the "sins" of her parents???

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