Joy - posted on 07/13/2009 ( 115 moms have responded )
So this morning I followed a thread to another thread to another thread about abortion. This is something I've actually been thinking about all weekend because my miscarriage is officially termed "spontaneous abortion". Personally I don't like the word being used in reference to a miscarriage but that's a whole other issue for me. Abortion is a topic that hasn't come up so far in Debating Mums, and I was wondering what your views are on it. In a nutshell, here's what I believe. I believe that life begins at conception. I believe that a baby is a baby long before it is medically termed a fetus. I have a faith in a higher power, call it God, Allah, the name is unimportant to me, but my faith would prevent me from ever voluntarily terminating a pregnancy for myself. I think even if I were raped, I would have the baby and more than likely, I would keep it, love it and raise it as I would my son, who was concieved in love. If it were a matter of my life or the baby's, part of me is torn on that one, mostly because I already have a son. Part of me thinks I would sacrifice my life for the baby's. But the other part of me knows that my son would need me still and it would be unfair to him to knowingly take myself out of his life permanently. Now, all that being said, although I consider myself personally to be "pro life", I am also a firm believer in "pro choice". Not every woman shares my beliefs and I don't have the right to make that decision for anyone else. I can't tell the athiest not to have an abortion based on my faith. It just isn't my place. In my head, I can think to myself "Well, she'll deal with the consequences when she meets her maker." But a woman still has the right to make that choice. It is not my burden to bear. So I think abortion should continue to remain legal. What I have a problem with is the 2nd and 3rd trimester abortions. I think those should be illegal unless the mother's life is at risk. I think that if abortion was made illegal again, many women would die, like they did in the days before Rowe v Wade. My mom's cousin died because abortion was illegal. She made the personal decision to terminate her pregnancy, but obviously couldn't have one legally back in the 50's so she did what many women did back then. A "doctor" (not sure if he was really a doctor) was snuck into her house late at night and performed her abortion on her kitchen table. She died a few days later of blood loss. She couldn't go to the hospital for fear of being arrested for what she had done. This is the same kind of thing that would start happening again, in large numbers, were abortion made illegal again. And some stories were even worse than that...women using coat hangers and doing it themselves, etc. At least now, it's a sterile thing, with about as much risk as having a D&C, which that's basically all it is anyways. So, what do you ladies think about it? Just curious to see where we all stand...and we've talked about just about everything else.....so here goes.....