Esther - posted on 12/23/2009 ( 33 moms have responded )
Melissa and Tony Wescott are afraid of their son. They're so afraid of the boy they adopted that they're trying to have Oklahoma law changed so that they can return him to the state's care.
A family claims its adopted son is too much for them to handle."He tried to burn our home down. The note said, 'I'm sorry you had to die,'" Melissa Wescott told "Good Morning America."
She said she and her husband have found butcher knives under his mattress and lighters hidden in his bedroom.
The Wescotts' 11-year-old son has been locked up in a psychiatric hospital in Tulsa, Okla., for nearly a year. But now doctors say he's not a danger to himself or anyone else, and the boy is scheduled to be released from the hospital next month. [for more click on the link above]
I heard about this story on the radio last night and I'm not sure what to think of this situation. The only thing I know for 100% sure is that I feel incredible sadness for this little boy. His biological parents were both on drugs and his mother used during her entire pregnancy. The effects of that abuse, as well as the lack of nurturing after his birth (being moved from foster home to foster home etc.), are apparent. I can imagine that these adoptive parents feel like they are in WAY over their heads. I have a brother who is adopted who has psychological problems. He was adopted right at birth by my parents and was loved and nurtured just as I was right from the beginning but he still has many many many issues, some of which are not unlike the problems this boy seems to have (like the butcher knives for example). My brother is now 32 and my parents still have to deal with very serious problems regarding him on a daily basis and they will for the rest of their lives. Not once, through all the heart ache that they have had though, have they considered giving him back. That thought never even almost entered their minds. He is as much their child as I am. There is no difference. They will never, under any circumstances, turn their back on him. So I don't agree with the adoptive parents taking this position. I also cannot imagine the agony this would cause for this little boy to be rejected, once again, like that. However, is forcing parents who clearly don't want him in their home anymore, to keep this child the answer? I don't know. What do you all think?