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Are you a LIAR?????

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/18/2010 ( 54 moms have responded )

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Do you lie often to your kids about magical things? Do you think it is ok? Like Santa, this Christmas (if you celebrate it) Do you lie and say that Santa is a real person that comes down the chimney and rewards good girls/boys for there behavior during the year? Do you tell them the Tooth Fairy gives you money for losing teeth? What about the Easter Bunny? Any others?

I personnaly am on the fence about Santa....I do tell the the true story of Christmas, and I explain who the true Saint Nick was...but now my son is 4 and choices need to be made. Do you think it is ok to outright lie to encourage imagination? I personnally was devestated when I found out there was REALLY no santa....how far do you take these lies?

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Tah - posted on 10/18/2010

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call me what you like but i do all of those for my children. I think there is so much going on in the world and for them to worry about that it's nice for them believe in those things. My 13 year old knows and he isn't in any therapy behind it and i doubt the other 2 will be either....

LaCi - posted on 10/18/2010

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I haven't gotten there yet. I see myself doing some of it though. The tooth fairy, and santa clause. I think most kids know the easter bunny is a load of bullshit anyway, they just go along with it to get candy. Anyway, I think all the "magic" about santa clause if just good fun for little kids. I don't think I'll try to use santa as some incentive for good behavior, I just think he's fun.

Jodi - posted on 10/18/2010

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Personally, I think there is more to it if you are *devastated* by finding out the truth to the extent that it bothers you as an adult. But that's just my opinion.



I actually do remember when and how I found out (I was 8 and some older kids at school told me) and while I initially didn't want to believe it, I couldn't say it particularly traumatised me. I can't remember it bothering me all that much at all. My 7 year old brother found at at that same time, and he's not fussed by it either.



I've raise my kids with Santa, Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy, etc. I don't see them as "outright lies" just "harmless white lies". My 13 year old knows the truth. He found out when I told him (and yes, he really DID find out when I told him the truth, believe me, I know it sounds far-fetched, but I have my reasons for knowing this). He's not traumatised. If anything, he felt suddenly part of an adult world, and we involved him in the "santa" role that year with his sister and step-brother.

Sharon - posted on 10/18/2010

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I guess I must be a liar.... I do Santa, easter Bunny and the tooth fairy. I can honestly say I had all these things in my childhood and finding out the truth did not harm me in any way. I do not feel bitter about the "lies" and finding out the truth was not traumatic. In fact I don't even actually remember how or when I found out the truth.

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