Are you a potty mouth?

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Is there a place for swearing and foul language? Does it bother you on these forums? I see a number of people commenting on it and I think it's silly. We're all adults here...

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It's how some people choose to express themselves. Just because you were raised not to swear it doesn't give you the right to pass the judgement that they were raised improperly. You said you see use of bad language as ignorant. It is ignorant to fail to look outside your own box and realise that there are people from many different walks of life on an international forum who were unlikely to be raised the same as you. Just because someone is comfortable with swearing does not mean they are uneducated, stupid or lacking in morals. It's just words!

~Jennifer - posted on 11/12/2010

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I just say what I think.
If I think 'shit' I type 'shit'. It's not a big deal to me...never has been.
I am quite comfortable in this community and will type here as I would speak to my friends, because, quite frankly, I have made quite a few REALLY GOOD friends through this community. In that, I will apologize to anyone who may think i'm harsh, or short....maybe a little too blunt.....but this is *my* comfort zone on CoM.
Point is....
We're all from different places, different backgrounds and different levels of 'acceptability' - that's what keeps us interesting, and what keeps us coming back together here. We can all bitch each other out in 1 thread, and completely agree 5 minutes later in the next.
SO.....
fuck off if you can't take a joke.
;)

Please accept my humble apologies for my potty mouth.
If you have a stick in your ass......yank it out- it makes sitting in front of the computer that_much_easier.....

....and chill.

We're good people, for all of our perceived faults.

;)

~Jennifer - posted on 11/12/2010

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Sherri - she said 'fuck' once in that post.





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LaCi Who? - posted 7 hours ago

I HATE people who comment on my son not being dressed appropriately. My son is a SWEATY freakin kid. He's not normal, he likes it cold. No, I won't put a coat on him and let him sweat all over the place because some old fuck thinks it's cold. He dresses about the same as I do, because we enjoy the same temperatures. It's 60 degrees in my house and he runs around naked, so they can bite me. When it's 65 and he wears pjs he SWEATS AND WHINES. rawr.



ONCE.

(and she said fuck twice in the liquor post and you got all butthurt b/c she said 'fuck' and 'christmas' in the same sentence.)



That's hardly 'every other word'.



So, let's get this straight....



Swearing is immoral, but flat out lying about something to make yourself sound 'right' is ok.



.....gotcha.



You also called out Kati, who said 'fuck'.....yep, you guessed it.....once.



So, now we're gonna blow shit out of proportion to make a point?

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Assuming someone is ignorant because of the colour of their language makes people appear arrogant.

Kate CP - posted on 11/12/2010

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Well I don't allow my kids to say those words either but that's because they're mean words and meant to hurt people. Using a curse word (unless directed AT some one) is just a method of expressing extreme emotion.

And I have to say that where ever it is you live, Sherri, I'm very intrigued with. Because from previous posts you've mentioned that nursing is taboo, cursing is taboo, sex education is taboo, and letting your kids have independence is taboo, too. Do you live next to the Cleavers?

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Wow way to put it out there Nancy. When i first meet people i tend to keep it clean until i know what sort of people i'm with then if it suits ( which it generally does) i will relax. So i should grow up i guess but i'm only young so why can't i stay young?

LaCi - posted on 11/20/2010

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No one should grow up. Growing up equates getting boring. As for impressions, I don't really give a damn. As soon as they find out how sick my sense of humor is, for example (because if you can't deal with cursing you certainly can't deal with the things I think are hilarious), they'll form the same opinion.

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Nancy, I CAN speak without using foul language BUT, sometimes I choose to use it. Do I need to grow up?

Nancy - posted on 11/20/2010

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being a potty mouth just shows that you need to grow up!Of course, I am called an old fuddy duddy, but, to me, if a person cannot speak without using foul language, they should just keep their mouths shut!!! there are, [many times ] children around, and, I feel that the children should be taught to speak without all of that garbage! And, if you have any self respect,you will not want people to think unkindly of you. using bad language can turn some people off, so to speak!!! to give a GOOD impression of ones self, using bad language is a no-no!!!!

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That's true Cassie. I heard a linguist professor talk briefly about this topic and she said swearing is used to show you are part of a group. Specific language in general shows you're part of a group. When I'm with my best friend, for some reason every second word is "Dude!" or "Sweeeeet!". Too much time spent watching South Park perhaps? :)

@Kate 'Fiddlesticks'? LMAO, you sound a lot like me and my husband. I would suspect invasion of the body snatchers if either of us stopped swearing.

@Krista - I so agree with you. At people = not cool. About people (to say my husband) absolutely necessary. Around other people's children = not cool.

Cassie - posted on 11/15/2010

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I'm one of those people who use other words in replacement of a cuss word. It's just what I do. I typically don't judge another person for cussing so I shouldn't be judged for not cussing. It's my choice either way.

For example, I say crap instead of shit, dang it instead of damn it, butt instead of ass.

These are just words that I prefer to use and it doesn't make me any lamer or cooler than someone who cusses. I feel like people often cuss to fit in with their situation when they wouldn't otherwise use the words they're choosing to use, at least people I am around. For example, my husband only cusses when he is at work and when he is around his brother. If he isn't in those two situations, you'll never hear him cuss. When he's in those two situations, he curses like a sailor.

Stifler's - posted on 11/15/2010

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Bahaha I do the FARRR.. out! as well. I have the urge to do an Alf Stewart and call someone a "flaming mongrel" sometimes.

Krista - posted on 11/15/2010

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I love swearing. I just fucking love it.

However, I never swear AT someone, because that is just mean. And I rarely swear in public, because there might be kids nearby and I would feel really bad if I swore in front of someone's toddler, for example.

I also have to say that I utterly disagree with the notion that swearing makes you sound less intelligent. If it is every second word, with absolutely no consideration for time or place, then yes, it can make you sound ignorant. However, sometimes a curse word really IS le mot juste for a given situation.

Kate CP - posted on 11/15/2010

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I did something the other day and I said "Fiddlesticks." My husband looked at me like I had two heads. I blinked at myself and said "Did I just say 'fiddlesticks'?" He nodded at me, still looking like I was an alien from another planet. I said "What the fuck?"

Jodi - posted on 11/15/2010

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So for some reason I cannot click on any previous pages to view past comments, sorry if I reiterate what other people have said, I can only read the most current page. :(
I swear occasionally, my weakness is saying "goddamit!", but I don't think I even say it on a daily basis. I have no problem with the occasional swearing and I don't think it makes someone look any less intelligent. BUT, it's the people that have to drop the F bomb or say shit or whatever else in EVERY sentence that DO look less intelligent, appear to have less class and just over-use it in general. Much like when teenage girls have to begin every sentence with the word "like", it's not necessary, it serves no purpose, it's annoying and makes it appear like you don't have a full vocabulary to come up with anything else!
Otherwise, let the swearing be on! ;)

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Firetrucking morons! Priceless.

I love the words used instead of swearing. I do sound like the boy wonder when I'm at work and trying (sometimes unsuccessfully, oops) not to swear. "Jeepers" is a favourite. So is "Faaaaaar-out" - those are close calls! And often I accidently substitute a swear word for another swear word. LOL.

Rosie - posted on 11/15/2010

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i've never understood that either anika! what really gets me is when people say" the "f" word" instead of fuck. what word pops into your head when you say "the f word"? obviously fuck.i don't get it.

Stifler's - posted on 11/15/2010

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Same with firetruck instead of fuck, you're still intending to swear and cleaning it up because kids are around. I wouldn't want my kids running around calling each other firetrucking morons.

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I don't get why people think saying 'Shit!' is bad but say 'Sugar!' isn't. The intent is the same. You're still cursing something. Shouldn't it be the meanings behind what you're saying that is offensive and not the actual word/s? If people stopped getting all riled up about a few words, they'd lose their power and wouldn't be so fun to use.

And do people actually say "Holy Cowpatties"?!? That is hilarious!

Corinne - posted on 11/15/2010

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Ah, lovin' it! Taken me ages to read that little lot and my sides are absolutely killing me now, actual tears have fallen - funny :)
Yes, I swear, so does my husband. Occasionally, the kids hear it but they have been taught that curse words are for adults not children and I will be very unhappy if they use them. Do I care if people swear on here? No, couldn't give a rats arse. It's not 'bad' or 'foul' language, it's just a word and therefore just language. :)

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And that, Dana, is why we (I mean that as a general we) need to stick the fuck in there...we don't want to sound like some sugary version of Robin.

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I have a potty mouth. IMO they're just words. I was raised in a home where swearing wasn't allowed and look at me now, I can curse with the best of them. Let's face it, saying Holy Fucking Shit feels better than saying Holy Cowpatties.

Minnie - posted on 11/15/2010

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This thread is hilarious!

I don't cuss much. Once in a while. But usually I don't have a need for it. Could care less whether someone else does. Goes in one ear and out the other.

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Just answering the OP w/out reading the 6 pages of responses yet...

No. Yes, quite a bit actually, but since we are all adults.... I don't mention it. ;)

Desiree - posted on 11/15/2010

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Katie, at the same time I don't like the way it makes me feel either, I don't like me when I swear so I don't do it simple. Everyone has their own way of dealing with things.I was bought up that it was wrong to swear in any company that it was rude and bad mannered. I am sure if I sworn in front of my parents I would have gotten the hidding of my life for it, no it just wasn't worth the punishment so it just became a normal.

Yes everyone swears I just don't think its a necessity. I can express myself just as well with out resorting to swearing. I get better results with dripping nice sarcasm than I do if I had to swear at someone.



Yes I can say its an adult thing, but I don't want to. I try to lead by example. I will cross all the other bridges as I get to them.

Rosie - posted on 11/13/2010

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desiree, how do you teach your children that they can't drive if you do it? or how do you teach them that they can't drink alcohol, but you can? seriously, all you have to do is say it's an adult thing.

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I'm a good, solid, law abiding, upstanding citizen and I swear. I try not to do it in front of my son but I still slip from time to time. On forums like CoM, this is where I allow myself to let loose. I don't think it makes a person seem less intelligent or morally bankrupt if they drop the F bomb during a heated debate. This type of forum is where a lot of us say out loud the things we normally don't even discuss in our real lives so the swearing here doesn't bother me at all. Like Dana:) said, we're all adults here...

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Wow swearing makes you immoral OK then. I swear, but only when it is appropriate, i.e. when I am with my friends and there are no children around. I hate hearing children swear. I don't see what the big deal is, we are all adults here and have the option to just not read things that offend us, but why general swear words offend people is beyond me. Swearing AT people is completely different and is rude and unnecessary.

LaCi - posted on 11/13/2010

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*sigh* I haven't uttered a single bad word today.

There's still plenty of time though.

Desiree - posted on 11/13/2010

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I don't think there is ever a time and place for it but then that just me. My mom always told me while growing up that swearing stole a piece of your soul and made you ugly. So I believed it and just don't do it, and have taught my kids the same thing, how can I teach them its not nice if they hear me doing it?

Jocelyn - posted on 11/13/2010

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Holy fuck I went to work tonight and look at what I missed!!! I should have called in sick :P

Sherri - posted on 11/12/2010

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I don't think in your own home it is horrendous to swear or even at a friends house etc. I certainly am not a saint and I do slip at home here and there. I do however, think that it shouldn't be done in public as it can be offensive to many people. I just feel that many people tend to fall upon using cuss words far to often when there are so many other words that are just as fitting when you are having a conversation with others. I can not stand going out and having people swear all the time in a public place (I.E. a restaurant, park, mall, local sporting events etc.) where my kids have to hear it and nobody even blinks an eye. I have to say I usually will say something to them especially if my kids are within ear shot. It usually makes them stop pretty quick. If I am not with my kids I usually just roll my eyes and walk away so I don't have to hear it.

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It's odd. I swear but there is no way i would allow my children to swear. They don't get grounded but they get spoken to if they do swear.
I try not to but i still don't think some one is any less of a person if they do swear.

Sherri - posted on 11/12/2010

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No nursing isn't taboo extended nursing is considered taboo and is a complete foreign concept here as I would say most mothers only nurse till 3-6mo's.

I don't see our kids not having independence I think they have plenty. They just have a lot of supervision and our kids can't walk anywhere because there is nothing within walking distance without crossing a major highway. My kids nearest friend is 5 mi away there is no way they could walk anywhere here. Hence why are kids aren't allowed to walk to school either.

Our kids do have sex education too they just don't have it in elementary school it isn't until they start high school in 9th grade that they will begin sexual education or health classes.

Sherri - posted on 11/12/2010

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I guess Kate it depends how you were raised and where you come from. It truly is socially unacceptable where I am from and is considered very offensive here. In our home my kids aren't even allowed to say Damn, Jerk, Idiot, Stupid, or Shut Up. Those are considered swear words in this house and if the kids are ever caught using them they are punished by being grounded for a specified period of time.

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Ok just have to say something so I'm the 100th poster! Wow Dana its gotta be a record, 100 posts in a thread thats been alive for 9 hours! You sure know how to ruffle some feathers ;D

Tah - posted on 11/12/2010

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@Loureen, same deal here..can't see the alerts on the post, and i still can't mark something more than once....whoever their IT's are, they are milking this...lol...their kids are going to have a merry xmas from working on fb glitches alone...

Kate CP - posted on 11/12/2010

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They're just words. I will never understand why some words are such a big deal to people.

Chrystal - posted on 11/12/2010

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I think that there is no reason for foul language. If you are trying to have adult conversation, then it doesn't make you look adult when you use foul language.

Stifler's - posted on 11/12/2010

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I think saying fuck as every second word is a bit annoying and excessive but every now and then if someone swears in their post who cares and it doesn't offend me either way.

Katherine - posted on 11/12/2010

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Sometimes it feels good to say Fuck.


Fuck.
Whew that did feel good.

Katherine - posted on 11/12/2010

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Nope, doesn't phase me, unless every other word is fuck. I swear BFD. WE allow it on the welcome page if we didn't who would embrace that? The only thing I have a problem with is derogatory names and we all know what those are.
Swearing pfffft.

Nikkole - posted on 11/12/2010

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i swear sometimes not as much as i used to since my sons favorite phrase now is "what the hell" lol

Krista - posted on 11/12/2010

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Only when my children (or any child for that matter) isn't around. I'm very aware of my language when impressionable minds are around.

Charlie - posted on 11/12/2010

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Yay for alerts BUT NOW when i go to check i cant see the markings on my own posts *shakes fist *

Kate CP - posted on 11/12/2010

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Holy shit! Alerts are working again! Fuck me holy!

...fuck. That's just for added "oomph". ;)

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