Sara - posted on 10/20/2009 ( 81 moms have responded )
I am not a fan of this theory. I think that it encourages you to coddle your child too much. I see so many posts on here about people that can't get a 5 year old out of their bed. To me, that is the result of attachment style parenting. To be honest, the people I know that have employed Attachment parenting have succeeded, they're kids are really attached, but I'm not sure it's in a healthy way. I want my child to be independent. I want to nurture her, but also encourage her to experience things for herself without me holding her hand every step of the way. I did practice a modified form of Ferber. Has my daugher never slept with me? Of course not, she has a handful of times (and it was a nightmare for me, let me tell ya). Do I let her scream for hours at a time and ignore her? No! Do I want to help her develop the tools to self soothe and sleep through the night? Yes. That's why I belong to the Ferber camp. Any thoughts about this topic? Are you a believer in Ferber or a method like it? Or are you a believer in attachment style parenting? Are you somewhere in between?