Bachelor/ Bachelorette Parties

Tanya - posted on 06/27/2010 ( 28 moms have responded )

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How far is too far?

Are Strip clubs ok?
How about collecting kisses from strangers?
Asking strangers for their underwear?
Getting lap dancing?


Also what is the tackiest thing you have seen at one of these parties?

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Tania - posted on 08/03/2010

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For my bachelorette party we headed up to the cottage for a girls weekend. Lots of food and booze and fun.
LOVED IT.
I am not one for strip clubs but all my girlfriens wanted to go for theirs and thats what we did. You take it for what it is....just a good time with the girls.

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Erin - posted on 09/24/2010

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Also, what is good for one should be good for the other. He wants a stripper then he can't be upset when you want one!

Erin - posted on 09/24/2010

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I had a bachelorette party stripper and all and my husband had strippers too! It was only fair if he got to have a party i did too. I don't see anything wrong with it. the girl strippers for my husband came with a bouncer and there were no cameras aloud. The guy at my party aloud cameras and my sister made sure that she got plenty of pictures. I showed them to my husband and we both just laughed about it. He told me a lot of details from his party too. I think if you are in a relationship where you are open and honest and you care about the other person its not an issue. We both came home to each other.
I think strip clubs are ok.
It depends on the kiss( a little pck on the cheek, ok. tongue in mouth no!)
the underwear thing eww!
Lap dancing is fun.

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How far is too far? any type of sexual activities...

Are Strip clubs ok?yup, I love strip clubs so I won't prevent my fiance from going and I will go myself.
How about collecting kisses from strangers? As long as it's not tongue kissed no issue.
Asking strangers for their underwear? EWWWW, but I don't care.
Getting lap dancing? not an issue


Also what is the tackiest thing you have seen at one of these parties? everything is tacky at that point, isn't it?

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I told my husband he was done with strip clubs if he wanted me. If he was younger and hadn't really got to experience that part of life it might be different but we got married when he was 30 and he's experienced plenty.
Asking for underwear is hilarious, but I think a little odd.
But I am very possessive and my husband has a very short leash.

Heather - posted on 09/22/2010

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I host Fantasia Parties (sex toy parties) and do alot of them for bachelorette parties. I have seen some raunchy things go down at some bachelor parties though. I mean, I don't care if my hubby goes to a strip club (he comes home to me), but I have seen some guys take it too far and actually end up sleeping with a stripper. I couldn't imagine marrying a guy who would do that.

Jessica - posted on 08/03/2010

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My husband went paint balling for his bachlor party and then afterwards him and his buddies came back to the house to BBQ and drink. They all got pretty smashed, lol, but they all had a blast as well.

Jessica - posted on 08/03/2010

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My bachelorette was most awsome. I'm into alot of supernatural stuff so to start the night off we went on this ghost tour thing followed by drinking and dancing at my favorite Rock n' Roll bar and then we all went to Dennys for sober up food! lol I had a blast:)

Stifler's - posted on 08/03/2010

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P.S Body heat are awesome male strippers, me and my friends had so much fun laughing at the desperado women the other night and getting tipsy.

Stifler's - posted on 08/03/2010

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It's tradition.. the last time you can run a muck and be disgusting and your partner can't say anything about it. That being said I really hate hens nights with penis straws and shit... so lame. Would rather have a spa weekend.

Charlene - posted on 06/30/2010

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I've never been to a bachelorette party, but I remember being at a club one night when there was a bunch of guys there for a bachelor party. The best man kept asking me to give the groom a blow job since it was his last day of being single. :/
IMO, if you are engaged and about to be married, you are not SINGLE. Ugh. He was really persistant and kept trying to put his arms around me and pull me over so I eventually had one of the bouncers, who was a friend of mine, kick them out.

We don't have stripclubs in our province.. the closest one is the next province over and it's apparently really skeezy.
If we ever get married, I probably will just have a Fantasia party and go out for dinner and a couple drinks.
The partying/clubbing stuff is so not my scene anymore. I feel too old, even though I am most definitely not, I just went so much before I was even legal. :P

Charlie - posted on 06/28/2010

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I took Jamie to his first strip club which also had a sex show with a bunch of my other friends , doesnt bother me as long as he looks and doesnt touch .

Male strippers are soooo funny and awkward and shiny LOL a bunch of us girls are going for a laugh in a few weeks .

September - posted on 06/28/2010

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Too far IMO is cheating! Strip clubs were fine with me and yes my Husband did enjoy a few (I preferred the striper come to me rather than me go to him). I'm not so sure I'd be ok with the kisses or the underwear but I guess it may depend on the circumstances. I trust my husband fully therefore I had no worries and vise versa. We both had great bachelor/bachelorette parties! As far as tackiest goes....I think I have yet to see it! I think most bachelor and bachelorette parties all have a little tackiness to them, unless you're just going out to dinner or something of that sort.

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My friends typically have a lingerie shower as a bachelorette party. My party was a Slumber Party complete with penis shaped brownies and a flashy penis veil. My husband went fishing with his groomsmen.

The only true bachelorette party I went to was for my first married friend. We went to New Orleans....Bourbon Street...and none of us were legal drinking age. Erica did the whole candy necklace thing where strangers pay her to eat one of her candies. And there were plenty of older guys around to take care of the underage problem we had. We tried to get into the strip club, but it was 21 and up. It was a bit over the top for me. I would have felt guilty for partying like that had I been engaged at the time. Though there are some classier places around Bourbon that I would have been okay with for my bachelorette. But when you're young, you don't chose the classiest places, you chose the places that aren't carding and have the most guys to buy drinks.

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Ewww....Elisabeth, that's disgusting! Gah....

Just for the record, I saw male strippers ONCE and will NEVER do that again....GROSS! Female strippers on the other hand......line 'em up! lmao....I can definitely admire a woman's body. When I was younger I MIGHT have been to a FEW strip clubs....

Nikki - posted on 06/27/2010

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We did a Jack and Jill party for ours went to a strip club and had a stripper dance for both of us (female) then we rented out the two penthouse suites which connected had a get together with our close friends and then slept seperately and didnt see eachother til the actual wedding, yeah we did it the night before...... worst idea ever I had to run to the bathroom and have my gfs take off my dress so i could puke , not so fun !!! but I have been to a few bacherlorette parties where we went bar hopping and got her to do stupid things, nothing sexual and went to strip clubs, but all girl ones, IDK none of my gfs like male strippers nor do i too beefy and shiny yuck...... my husband has gone to a couple i say yes to strip clubs, no to hookers, the last one he didnt go to they went to a rub n tug thats too far idk how his fiancee allowed that at the time, I would have lost my shit

Tanya - posted on 06/27/2010

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Oh Elizabeth thats so gross. I can't believe they would want a sucker out of some girls snatch. *shudders*
We had an outbreak of staff infection at one strip club her. When the girls give lap dancing here they are touching the men. They often rub all over their faces and the staff would get into the mouth or eyes. Too funny

Johnny - posted on 06/27/2010

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I think my husband's friends are too old for this now, LOL. At his bachelor party (to which my dad was invited) my hubby got smashed. He got up on the stage at the strip club to demonstrate better "dancing technique" to the stripper because he thought she wasn't any good. He tried to grab onto the pole but fell off the stage. It wasn't a pole, it was the spotlight coming out of the floor.

Ever since then, they've had relatively tame parties. I actually bartended for one. They had topless poker dealers for it, but none of the guys seemed to notice that they never even took off their shirts. They were all too drunk & losing too much money. I thought it was hilarious. The guys paid like $500 dollars to see breasts that they never saw. Men! lol.

In July, we are all going together (including my daughter) to a Mariner's game in Seattle for a friend's bachelor party. The guys will probably go to the pub for a while after, but they're all coming home to the hotel that night with the wives & girlfriends & kids. We're getting old. They even planned a 9:30 am brunch for the next morning at the bachelor's favorite Italian place.

When we were young, oh the stuff we did was so dumb. But that's the fun of being young.

Joanna - posted on 06/27/2010

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I've never been to a bachelorette party, thank god. Male strippers do not appeal to me whatsoever. Well, I take that back, have you seen the guys from Thunder Down Under? MMMM. but 99% of male strippers don't look like that.

I was, however, a stripper for 2 years when I was 19-21, and I didn't work in a dance club, I worked for a company that only did bachelor parties. It would be 2 girls for 2 hours, and all we did was dance and give lapdances. If it was me and my best friend dancing together sometimes we'd kiss each other (it brought good tips), but that's as dirty as it got. This was in North Dakota though. When I moved to California, my now-husband told me he'd gone to so many bachelor parties where the girls were having sex for $20 tips, doing dildo shows, etc etc, and it was just insane to me. Working a 2 hour bachelor party in North Dakota I'd make $200-300, doing just dancing. So the thought of doing all that stuff (especially for so little $) was just crrraaaazzzzzy!

I will let my husband go to bachelor parties now, as long as they are at a strip club. Private parties I'd rather him stay away from, and he knows not to even ask to go. But even now I'd probably go to the strip club with him!

Carolee - posted on 06/27/2010

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I've never been to a bachelorette party, and I kinda got screwed out of my own (we found out I was pregnant and ended up half-eloping).

My husband and I have a rule, though. If he goes to a strip club, I go with. And if he gets a lap dance, I get one, too. But that's a general rule... not just for parties or whatnot. My husband honestly doesn't like going to those clubs, though. He says all the women look like boys with boobs to him. I've never been, so I keep asking him to go (lol), and he keeps saying no!

As far as the other things go, I would be okay with hugs from strangers and drinks bought by strangers (as long as they are made in front of me and are only touched by people I trust). Other than that, I think it's a little bit too much.

Elisabeth - posted on 06/27/2010

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BTW I'm not saying that if your husband had a VIP party this is what happened this is only in the club I managed, although it was a nightclub not a sex club, I'm sure it doesn't happen everywhere!

Elisabeth - posted on 06/27/2010

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Been to a few Hens nights, nothing too bad except one girl's goal was to have one last one night stand before getting hitched, needless to say, this is going way to far.
I once manager a nightclub that had a VIP room were quite a few bachelor parties were held and none of them were tame. About 90% of them had strippers that also did sex shows, masterbated in front of the audiance, used sex toys and put lollipops or candy necklases inside themselves and the bachelor would pull it out with his teeth or suck it out. He was also allowed to finger her and everyone had body shots off her including from out of her pussy. They were served by nude waitresses and if they paid enough were allowed to have sex with them on the bar. (although I witnessed this many times as I was often serving drinks or directing the girls I never joined in and always had my clothes on!).

I warn you it is a lot better to let your soon to be husband go to a licensed strip club were the most that will happen is a lap dance with no touching then to let them have a private VIP room. Even if they say there will be no strippers or anything, most of the people I was talking about above did not know that these girls were going to be there as it was a surprise from their mates. I am happy for my husband to go and look at girls taking their clothes off or a harmless no touch lap dance as long as his not sucking lollipops out of their vaginas!

Tanya - posted on 06/27/2010

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OK so I have been to one very tacky bachelorette party. We all had to wear shirts that said thing like tease, bitch and of course mine said slut. Super fun.

I wouldn't want Justin at a strip club at this point in our relationship. I know one couple that had both parties at a female strip club. They go into a fight as did most of the other couples there together.

If Justin was invited to one at a strip club as long as he was honest about where he was going and didn't get a lap dance I would be ok with it

Caitlin - posted on 06/27/2010

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Been to one bachelorette party, it was okay I guess, the strip club was a TON of fun, not a tacky strip club, no touching, but some of the guys were just amazing the way they could "lap dance" and not even touch you but leave the women gushing nonetheless. If you touched, you got kicked out (the main rule) but women are crazy in those places! The fireman routine had me wanting to run up on stage and take him as my won (I was single at the time.. not my party).

When I was getting married, I didn't get a party, my sister was a maid of honour (turned out to be a horrible idea). She decided that she wanted to go out for mani-pedi and a big meal out followed by a movie the night before my wedding (as a kind of bachelorette thing). She's clueless, she knows I hate people touching my feet, never get fake nails put on because I cant be bothered to take care of them and I really didn't want to do the whole thing. On top of it all, I was still getting over the morning sickness stage of my pregnancy and was tired a lot, so staying up super late the night befoer my wedding was a horrible idea, and I told her that, so instead of doing something with me she invited her friends out with her and left me high and dry... I wasn't thrilled about that, on top of it, she didn't give me a wedding gift until x-mas (we were married in may, it was a wedding, x-mas, baby welcoming gift). Worst party ever IMO.. Oh and she conned us into inviting one of her friends that I hate, and she didn't give us a wedding gift either..

I think as long as the party is tasteful, it's okay, ti depends ont he people throwing it and the type of strip club you go to I guess..

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The ONLY bachelorette party I went to was a ROYAL GONGSHOW! Everyone except myself got ABSOLUTELY shittered and I had to "look after" everyone.....we lost one girl and ugh....it was horrible! I tend to steer clear. I don't drink much and to be quite honest drunk people irritate me! " I love you, man! "....why do they have to contantly invade your personal space.....ahh! lmao. I hope I don't sound like a snob? The whole idea of bachelor(ette) parties seems so....I don't know what the word is.....they're just not for me!

Rosie - posted on 06/27/2010

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at my bachelorette party we went to a coupe bars, i had a candy necklace and boys were supposed to bite a piece of candy off. i felt weird doing it so after the third guy came along, i started eating them myself. i didnt' dance with anybody or anything. i had fun with my girlfriends! they threw a "surprise party" (sex toys) for me before hand, and i loved it!


i was at one once where there was a stripper, and he was rubbing his junk all over some girls face. i thought it was gross, not to mention borderline cheating IMO, and did not have him touch me in anyway.

i don't want my husband going to strip clubs anymore. i took him there for his bachelor party (nobody threw him one, so me an my friends decided we were gonna), and i thought i would dig it. i like porn, i like girls, and the thought of both of those with my husband excited me. as soon as he got a lapdance, i got VERY jealous. i've never been that way before, i'm not usually jealous. he doesnt want me to feel that way again and respects my wishes, thank god.

if other men want to have a party at the strip club go for it, as long as their woman is comfortable with it. i'm not to keen on people rubbing naked bodies on other people though. they can go and just watch.

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