?? - posted on 08/11/2009 ( 39 moms have responded )
In my area there are a lot of girls who have purposefully set out to get pregnant so that they don't have to work and they can use the child as a reason to keep some guy in their life that they feel for one reason or another they are completely and totally attached too.
I personally think it's dispicable - and definitely not the ideal situation to bring a child into the world.
A lot of these girls also deny the father of the child many of his natural rights as the father. Everything from just spending time with them, to him wanting to take his child for a weekend or even a week because of their numerous reasonings, whether it be "he's not a good person" or "his friends are bad people."
I also know that a lot of these guys did NOT want to be a dad yet, let alone with HER but are trying their hardest to be a GOOD dad. A few of them, I know, asked if she would have an abortion. A couple other ones said that she should be open to abortion, or adoption, when he stated he did not want the child.
Personally I think abortion is every womans right to choose. It's none of my business - I don't think it should be used as a form of birth control like some people do. And I think that men should be responsible for themselves - make sure the chick he's sleeping with is on BC, use a condom - protect himself ya know.
BUT - do you think that a father should be FORCED to be a dad, if he openly said he didn't want the child to begin with, and was "tricked"? Do you think it's fair that a woman has the right to choose TO have a baby if the father does NOT want it OR choose NOT to have the baby if the father DOES want it? Should that father be held responsible for the woman choosing for him that he has to be a father?