Bigger is Better? (Warning Adult Question)

Kari - posted on 01/06/2013

I've been with my fair share of men (& maybe YOUR share, too LOL), & i have had phenomenal sex with men of all shapes & sizes. Too big is no good, too small is no good. The best sex I have ever had has been with men who are average (or slightly smaller). I used to think that "bigger is better", but not anymore. :)

Shell - posted on 01/03/2013

I guess I'd agree with most of the ladies.... bigger is better... as long as it FITS and doesn't hurt! My hubby is just perfect, sometimes I have to stretch a bit to fit, but the sex is phenominal!! I get the O almost every time. But 1 out of 25 times we are in a position that he bumps something painful (my cervix) and I'm like yowser. So... he wishes he were bigger, but I'm like baby THAT much bigger ain't no playmate to Mama! lol

Never been with an uncut man. So no opinion there.

Basically... size matters. Who the woman is determines what size it "just right"!!!

Toni - posted on 01/03/2013

I have been with both ends of the scale.
My ex was, ahem, large, and yes the sex was great.
I also had a fling with a guy with an itty bitty barely there penis, to the point that I didnt feel a thing. You can probably guess why it didnt go further than a fling.

My husband however is your average size, maybe a little smaller, and the sex is just as great as it was with my ex, but better at the same time. It is better because I have true love toward my husband and he is better at other areas of sex that the larger guys tend to over look.

So to answer the question, yes there is such thing as too small, and probably too big as well, but average size is perfect for me.
As for cut vs uncut, I prefer uncut as that is the way the penis is supposed to be.

Hauwa - posted on 01/01/2013

Yeah bigger is better

Julianne - posted on 06/27/2012

I have only had 2 boyfriends so I don't really have much to compare. I think uncut would be the best fit for most women though. Since without a foreskin the penis can't dock properly and doesn't keep the moisture in.
Brad has a magic penis. It changes size with erections. between 7-9 inches, the shorter it gets, the thicker it is.

Sarah - posted on 06/25/2012

i prefer uncut and perfect size for me is between 5 and half to 7 inches. anything smaller and just dont feel or dont stay in, anything bigger can be painfull i did date one young guy who was nearly the size of a coco cola bottle, british bottle size and would make my jaw ache, i couldnt get my mouth round him, i had to go on top of him all the time to manage him going in and def couldnt do doggy

Denise - posted on 06/25/2012

Oh,and by the way,to comment on a woman's size in relation to her lover's member-I have had 2 kids both quite big normally without tearing .To this day,my husband still says my lady parts are very tight.He actually has a hard time lasting due to this.So,I guess we just fit well.

Denise - posted on 06/25/2012

I would love to be one of those good natured girls who say that size does not matter as long as he knows what to do with it,but...I'd be lying my ass off.Anywho,I would definitely have to say bigger is better.I have only been with a few guys(all circumcised) and they could not please me at all.In the past,most guys were so bad that I had to fake it just to make them stop.I just didnt get a pleasurable feeling at all.Now that Im with my husband,I couldnt be happier.I get mine only when Im on top controlling things but still LOOOOVE having him on top holding my legs in the air to go deeper.Hope its not TMI.In the beginning,we had a bit of trouble making him fit since I was almost virginal but when he got in it was well worth the wait.

I dont know if most people would consider him to be big or not but in my opinion I couldnt handle more than him.Sometimes it does hurt in certain positions.I've also noticed that my sweetie's member makes most men look like they arent done with puberty.Even guys in porn dont get me hot n bothered like my hubby does.It kinda baffles me that what gets other women going,I find somewhat laughable.

Rachael - posted on 06/25/2012

penis size matters to a degree. if you are going to get married to someone and they are so small you can't feel it there might be some sexual problems down the road. too big that it hurts can also cause sexual problems. i don't care how much i like the guy if sex isn't good b/cuz i can't feel it or it's painful that's a problem. i prefer a little above average and i don't care if it';s circumsized or not as long as they maintain good hygiene.

Janice - posted on 06/25/2012

I have only been with my husband so I can't say for sure. However, I have never had a problem with being satisfied so his size is not an issue. Haven't measured but I heard the average is about 6 inches and I would say my hubby is average. In some positions it has hurt so if he was a lot bigger I think it would be a problem.
I do wonder if the size of the woman matters too. I am very petite 5'2" and around 100lbs. If I was taller would a bigger penis be "needed"? IDK Lol

Meredith - posted on 06/25/2012

Big is definatly better, and if he stays hard longer it is a dream cum true.

April - posted on 04/04/2012

Oh and the average size of the American male is 5 inches, which I think is pretty big and chances are most of us have been with a "big penis" :)

April - posted on 04/04/2012

I've had 4 partners and they were all different sizes. Not sure who was circumcised and who wasn't, so I can't really compare that. I can tell you the small penis was the worst sex I've ever had...ever. Seriously, I try to wipe it from my mind . My husband is the biggest out of everyone I've been with, and I love it! He's pretty big--about 8 inches. I do not know if I would want to go bigger than that..I think he is just perfect!!! :)

Lady Heather - posted on 04/04/2012

Even an average one can be a problem for me because I have a crooked cervix and it is easily bumped in a not too pleasing way. Probably a micropenis would be a turn off. I like to think love can overcome anything but ummm...he'd have to bring some awesome toys to the table.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 04/04/2012

And Cathy...I am getting my ruler out! ;)

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 04/04/2012

LOL - Well I will join the fun... My man let's me go first every single time. He enjoys pleasuring me first (so do I)...then he can have at er' or I at him, whatever he wants... ;)

Cathy - posted on 04/04/2012

The statistics for Mr Average...



http://www.mraverage.com/results.htm

Patricia - posted on 04/04/2012

LMAO, you can even have sex again after but you aint gonna reach it cuz your so pissed off from trying the 1st time your like forget about it lmao.... Its so much easier for men damn theyre lucky lol

Stifler's - posted on 04/03/2012

YES it's frustrating

Patricia - posted on 04/03/2012

Tell me about it, I have the same problem.. I think moods have alot to do with it... Or have you almost got there and the feelin goes away cuz he moved in a wrong way ugh.. Hate that lol

Stifler's - posted on 04/03/2012

I can do that too sometimes Patricia I just keep coming but then other days I don't even come.

Patricia - posted on 04/03/2012

My boyfreind calls me a minute man.. I have it down I can go like 3 times to his 1.. But when i dont he does say oh shit well you took to long... lol Thats why i stay on top I control everything until im done then I will get off and have him put me however for his...

Stifler's - posted on 04/03/2012

And that's exactly how it feels sometimes jen, he's done and I'm just getting started.

Stifler's - posted on 04/03/2012

My pet peeve is my husband ASKING me if I've come. It turns me off. Of course I'm not going to come if you're like HAVE YOU COME YET? Lately it's like he's forgotten how to have sex.

Stifler's - posted on 04/03/2012

Lube...

Jen - posted on 04/03/2012

My pet peeve is when men are only about pleasing themselves. They get off and leave us at the starting gate!!

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I know the cure for that. Fake an orgasm and then push him off and go to sleep. LOL

Patricia - posted on 04/03/2012

OH MAN BIG PENIS DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH IT... SUX LOL MY BOYFREIND ALWAYS LETS ME GO THEN HIM.. HES THE ONLY GUY THATS DONE THAT.. USUALLY IT IS LIKE BAM BAM OK IM DONE LOL... BUT EVEN WITH A TO BIG PENIS HOW CAN YOU EVEN ENJOY IT.. IT WILL HURT TO MUCH I THINK...

Mother - posted on 04/03/2012

Average size all the way!! I suppose average size is different for everyone tho. I had a man, DAYYYYYUM he was fine. He a huge members but sadly.......didn't know how to use it!!! :(



My pet peeve is when men are only about pleasing themselves. They get off and leave us at the starting gate!!

Jen - posted on 04/02/2012

Yes, larger is definitely better. I just don't feel it as well if it's smaller. However for oral sex, smaller is defintely preferable otherwise, I gag. If I truly loved a guy, a very small penis wouldn't be a dealbreaker but it would prey on my mind unless he made up for it in other ways (nudge nudge wink wink)



I've only 1 experience with an intact man and if i had 2 identical men, both with caring hearts, etc, and the ONLY difference wae that foreskin, I'd take the guy who owned it. It does feel better. I never got dried out with him. He was crappy in bed but that's another story.



When people give the cleanliness argument, I always think about the few men who really had wretched hygiene but the man with the foreskin was never icky. However ladies, let's face it. Smelly testicles are awful and it doesn't matter if he has a foreskin or not.



ETA: I've never known anyone that I would consider too big. I did have the pleasure of a 12" once and would happily revisit that occasion. :)

Lacye - posted on 04/02/2012

Ah! The age old question! I've always heard the quote:



It's not the size of the boat, it's the motion of the ocean.



HA! Yeah right! Too long hurts. Too short is no fun! Too thin is no fun. Personally medium sized and thick. That is how I like my penis to be!

Aleks - posted on 04/02/2012

I don't think its just the size (ie, length). I think girth has A LOT to answer for ;-)

Also the shape!!!! I've experienced the pencil/sausage where its just straight, average size/length, decent girth... and.............. BORING! Even when the guy/s were a decent enough lover/s. I didn't realise this until my current man :-D Lucky for me, we are a good fit physically in both ways ;-D

Not to mention emotionally, life and dreams, etc etc..... And that is why we ended up still together even after whirlwind romance followed by pregnancy after 3mths... living together, buying house together, 2nd child and.... all the ups and downs of life (ranging from very big, big, meh and small) in the last 7years. Love you sweetheart ♥ Muah!

Patricia - posted on 04/02/2012

Ok we all want a guy with an average size penis, what we dont want is the pencil, or all balls lol WOW!! Really if you met a guy if you thought he was oh so cute, and nice but you didnt love him and you seen his lil penis would you learn to love him with his lil penis, most likely not... unless you have no idea about sex or your a virgin... We are woman we get to pick and choose lol So in saying that i do think size MATTERS!!!!

Samantha - posted on 04/02/2012

My husband is Japanese so I've gotten my share of rude comments/questions....but he's also 5'11" to my 5'3" so things work out just perfectly down there thankyouverymuch! I do not like too big...I guess I am just a bit sensitive down there.....pushing a baby out will probably change that a lot (eek!)

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 04/02/2012

Vaginas are stretchy.



Anyways, being from the US I've only encountered a handful of uncut penises and those were on men I was taking care of not having a relationship with. The care is a little different, but there are no big differences from what I've noticed (of course I didn't have to apply a condom catheter to any uncircumsized man)



My husband is big (IMO) and it took some work to get used to that since my ex wasn't big at all . My husband also isn't a jerk (he's 5'6 so maybe the height factors in) My ex is practically the king of the douche bags and has entitlement and superiority issues.



Size isn't the issue though, it's all about personality and if he knows what he's doing in bed. My husband was a virgin, so I didn't have to worry about reprogramming him :)

Sherri - posted on 04/02/2012

I personally would only ever be with a man that was circumcised. Size to me does not matter.

Rebecca - posted on 04/01/2012

I'm just sitting here laughing to myself thinking, what if I posed the same question to a group of men about women's vaginas? Come on guys, what do you think, do you like your vagina big or small.....most guys would probably have no idea either way and just get happy their penis is in anything.



I know I said it in the other thread, but I do believe that some bodies just fit better. It has less to do with size, I think put shape and proportion of not just the penis, but the lady parts and the two partners bodies together. Some people physically click together, even if they don't mentally. I know I've had a few experiences like that.

Joy - posted on 04/01/2012

I don't think cut or uncut makes a difference (not in my experience anyhow). But, I've been with men of all sizes and shapes and never once has a "smaller" man pleased me. Maybe I have the Grand Canyon of vaginas or something but to me, size does matter. Not TOO big but...it's gotta have some girth.



ETA:

After reading your last question Rebecca, about you imagining a woman has a huge vagina if she likes them bigger....I prefered them bigger before I ever had a kid lol And I honestly don't think I have a "Grand Canyon" sized vagina but I think maybe I just prefer the feeling of it hitting all the spots at once, instead of it being too small. Kinda like playing handball up against the drapes if it's too small lol

Stifler's - posted on 04/01/2012

A baby came out of there! LOL

Isobel - posted on 03/31/2012

I haven't read yet but I will say this...it's kinda like money. No, being rich doesn't guarentee happiness (in fact too much brings difficulty) BUT having none guarentees misery.

Rebecca - posted on 03/31/2012

Is it just me, but most times, in real life, when a woman tells me how she only likes guys with big members, I always imagine she must have a huge vagina.



...just me? Yeah, my brain goes to odd places sometimes.

Stifler's - posted on 03/31/2012

Jaime you can get "sleeves" to put over their penis to make it bigger and they are ribbed. I'm so getting damo one for christmas hahahahahaaha.

Patricia - posted on 03/31/2012

usually the guys that are bigger are jerks lol they are so in to themselves.. eeeerrrr annoying the penis doesnt make the man, ok you have a big penis now what can you do... it doesnt get them a job, personality or mak them attractive.. my boyfreind is just the right size, plus its the way he handles it anyways some guys are just in for themselves when their done thats it.. he allows me to finish then he will.. i love him even if it didnt work no more.. when you love the person enough you can look beyond the negative.. but i know some girls that only go for the size.... lol i just laugh and say girl your crazy...

Sarah - posted on 03/31/2012

ive dated alot of people and all of them and i truly mean all of them were idiots. the guy im with now is average size but because i love him so much, its not about the size or width to me, its about how he makes me feel. so ill agree with you its the guy thats attached to it that matters xx

Krista - posted on 03/31/2012

Either extreme is bad, needless to say. Other than that, it depends on the guy, and on the couple's willingness to play and explore and figure out what positions bring maximum enjoyment for both.

Teresa - posted on 03/31/2012

I only have experience w/ one, cut. We were not a good fit (not to say that we didn't have good sex sometimes though), but I don't have a clue if he was just too big for me, if I just have issues (well, I KNOW I have issues), or what.



I think I'd prefer smaller, but yes... it would have to do w/ the guy attached as well since I'd have to be married to him. ;)

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 03/31/2012

I have had large, medium and small. Circumcised and uncircumcised.



Too big (long) is bad for me. Like Rebecca 3 I have a tipped Uterus, it hurts and is not enjoyful. The small is crap, like Johnny, I could not tell it was there. BORING!



So, I have to agree that medium is best. However, with that said, they still need to know how to use it too. If they cannot use it, they may as well be small. I mean, there isn't much fun when it takes 2 mins. They also need to know how to enjoy foreplay. That is a biggie for me.



As for circumcised and non, no, no difference, IMO.



ETA:

My ex is 6'5", he was very large but he knew how to take it slow, so it wasn't too bad. Other's, that have been large have just been gung ho and did not take time, it was painful. ;) My husband is medium and it is perfect... lol

Minnie - posted on 03/31/2012

I've only ever had one partner, my husband. So nothing to compare, but I'm happy with him :).



I'm the same as you, Jaime, I don't think I'm sensitive in that area, because pushing wasn't painful at all to me, I tore both times too, no pain.

Jaime - posted on 03/30/2012

i've only ever slept with two men. hubby's circumcised, but i don't know or care about the other guy. all i know is he always wore a condom, and since i don't seem to have much feeling in my vagina (i pushed a bowling ball through the proverbial straw without feeling a thing, i can't possibly have too many nerves down there) the condom helped with friction and i could feel it better.



as far as i could tell otherwise, they were both the same size and length, but hubby won't wear a condom and how do you tell your extremely vain and jealous husband that you want him to wear condoms because another man did and it felt better??



this issue depresses me. i'm married to a man who is great in bed otherwise, but i can't feel it without a condom. ugh.....

Stifler's - posted on 03/30/2012

It only hurts if I sit up straight on it or it hits a certain way.

Rebecca - posted on 03/30/2012

I'm the same as you Johnny, I have a tipped uterus and endometriosis, if a guy is a giant - it can hurt. I've always been into really tall guys and had a lot of painful sex in my twenties with them. It wasn't until I had a few average sized guys that I realized dating guys who are 6'5 might have a disadvantage (if they are proportional). So, I'm good with medium, average size. I would take a small guy over a giant guy as well.



However, if I loved the guy and he was huge and he was very patient and a great lover - I'm sure we could work something out.