biggest loser trainer to adopt to save her fit figure

Charlie - posted on 04/23/2010 ( 27 moms have responded )

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US Biggest Loser trainer Jillian Michaels doesn't want to ruin her super-fit figure by getting pregnant, so she's planning to adopt kids instead.

"I'm going to adopt," the 36-year-old tells Women's Health magazine. "I can’t handle doing that to my body."

"Also, when you rescue something, it's like rescuing a part of yourself," she adds.

Jillian was overweight as a child and after winning the battle with obesity she doesn't want to risk undoing all that hard work by gaining weight with a pregnancy.

Her attitude has attracted widespread criticism from the health industry, with some experts accusing her of passing on dangerous ideas to other women about the 'health risks' of pregnancy.

Meanwhile, others have praised her for wanting to save a child in need — no matter what her reasons.
What do you think? Is it wrong to adopt just because you don't want to get put on weight ?

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Mary - posted on 04/25/2010

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I have no issues with her adopting. I don't even care what her personal reasons are for choosing adoption over birthing a child of her own, as long as her primary motivation is to love and nuture that child to the best of her ability, regardless of it's origins.

I am a little bothered by her making a public statement about the potential detrimental effects that pregnancy can have on a woman's body. As someone who makes a living encouraging and teaching others how to overcome obstacles and make the necessary changes to be fit and healthy, her statements about pregnancy and it's impact on the body seem in direct contradiction to what her career is all about. Although it may not be intentional, she is implying that she doesn't believe that she herself could cope/deal/overcome with her own body image issues related to pregnancy.

It's not that I fault her for having those fears...a large majority of woman have them. I know I did to some extent post delivery. However, I don't make a living as TV personality motivating people to lose weight and develop a healthy lifestyle. If you're someone who packed on the pounds after having 3 kids, I'm guessing you'd find her "you can do it!" message to be less than genuine, and be tempted to tell her she was full of shit. After all, she found the the prospect too daunting to undertake herself, so why the hell should you believe her when she tries to persuade you that you, an average, everyday mom, can tone and trim your post-childbirth body, when she publicly stated that she "couldn't handle" the impact that pregnancy has on her own body?

I think she just lost a whole lot of credibilty as a motivational trainer by making that statement in public.

Sharon - posted on 04/24/2010

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I understand her issue. I don't totally agree with it.



What I'm afraid of... is if she can't commit herself 100% to bringing a baby into this world... can she commit 100% to an adopted child? Can she sacrifice of herself to provide for a child who could possibly develop special needs? THAT is what scares me.

Jodi - posted on 04/24/2010

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I actually wonder if she is too obsessed with her body and fitness to go through a pregnancy, how is she going to cope with being a mother, one of the most selfless jobs in the world? Just a thought :)

Jess - posted on 04/27/2010

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She makes adoption sound like a quick trip to the pound, saving an unwanted family pet ! Would she even be raising the child, or a team of nannies ?

Sara - posted on 04/26/2010

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Honestly, her opinion strikes me as naive and as a mother who "did that" to my body, I'm a little offended. Just because you're pregnant doesn't mean you can't be healthy. I mean, look at the super models who have kids and are back on the runway in 6 weeks, getting pregnant doesn't mean you can't love your body or be sexy or fit or healthy...give me a break. Sounds to me like she has issues. Sure, it's nice she wants to adopt and all, but it sends the message that pregnancy damages you somehow, and that's simply not the case.

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La - posted on 04/26/2010

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I've always thought she seemed way too self absorbed...I'd be surprised if she even follows through with adoption. If she can't sacrifice a stretch mark free tummy for the love and bond that she could have with her child then I am skeptical of what she will be willing to give up for any other person at all.

Lea - posted on 04/26/2010

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I think that most people are really selfish, they just can't admit it to themselves. If Jillian knows that her body is more important to her than getting pregnant, at least she can admit it. I would hate for anyone to go ahead with something they know they will resent. She would just take it out on the child. Hopefully, this inability to sacrifice one thing doesn't speak about the rest of her personality. I applaud people who want to adopt. I just hope she is doing it for the right reasons and is aware that there are still many other things she will sacrifice to raise a child (well). I hope she is willing to do the rest of the work.

Iris - posted on 04/25/2010

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I couldn't say it any better than Mary N and I agree 100% with all she said.

Charlie - posted on 04/25/2010

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Mary N , you put it perfectly !

I think anyone adopting is a beautiful gift to that child and to themselves , i think while her publicly announcing her reasons for it was a little foolish no one should judge her for not sacrificing her body because she could have easily chosen to not have children at all and yet she has decided to adopt which i think is a selfless act .

Yes it would have been an amazing inspiration to mums all around the world to be able to watch her train her way back into shape but its not what she has chosen .

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I can totally understand where she's coming from!!! I've struggled with weight my whole life and finally got it where I wanted when I was 33. It was easy to maintain and I was happy.

Now, I got pregnant the first time at age 36 and have 2 beautiful boys (3 & 1) who are the light of my life. BUT at age 40, I am now almost EXACTLY where I began with my weight. It's a huge struggle to get it off and I hate my body every day. In hating my body, there is a part of me that is not happy and I know that sometimes that extends into the rest of my life.

If she wants to adopt to save herself this agony, good for her! She's thinking further ahead than I did. While I wouldn't change having had my kids, I wish I could change the outcome to my body.

It may sound shallow, but if you think about it don't we all feel better when we look good? It is a part of our psyche, so there's no use denying it. If you've spent the better part of 20 years getting your body to where you're happy, can you imagine just how terrible you feel when you undo it all (because of pregnancy or whatever)? I know exactly how that feels.... It sucks!

Jodi - posted on 04/25/2010

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Thank you for that post Mary. My hubby and I were discussing this last night, and came to the same conclusion.

What an inspiration she would be to millions of women if she were to go through a pregnancy and succeed in getting back into shape. Quite honestly, she could even focus on the healthy eating for 2, and pregnancy exercise, make it a project for herself to even write a book for other pregnant women (you see where I am going).

We decided that perhaps she really ISN"T the mentor she makes out to be if this is how she feels, because ultimately, she doesn't even have the confidence in herself. As a trainer on Biggest Loser, a part of what she does has been about helping contestants with their emotional reasons for overeating. This tells me that she has never quite conquered her own emotional issues.

Krista - posted on 04/25/2010

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I agree with Mary N's post as well. I hadn't really thought of it that way. I can sympathize with her and understand why she'd be afraid to put her body through pregnancy, but her rationale IS very short-sighted.

C. - posted on 04/25/2010

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@Krista.. I think that would drastically change her career.. In a good way! She would be such an encouragement to women all over who had a baby and wants to lose weight. I just read Mary N's post.. I think she's right. She just hurt her career by making that statement in public.

C. - posted on 04/25/2010

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I think she's being selfish. Struggling with weight is very hard. I have been through that. But, to bring a baby into this world? It's definitely worth it. It's pure selfishness on her part. Adopting is a great thing, yes, but I agree with Sharon.. If she can't commit 100% to bringing her own baby into this world, how can she commit 100% to an adopted child?



She'll probably spend all her time exercising, will need a nanny.. And then what would have been the point in adopting a child that will never see their adoptive mother? I honestly don't think she can commit herself fully to being a mother from what she's stated, IMO.

Krista - posted on 04/24/2010

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One thing as well is that her CAREER is based upon being fit and having an abdomen you could bounce quarters off of. So part of it is probably that after having worked so hard, she's scared to backslide, but another part of it probably is that she doesn't want to jeopardize her career. If she's committed to being a mom and can give a child a good home, then I'm really not concerned about her reasons.

Erin - posted on 04/24/2010

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Oh I know all about the changes our bodies go through during and after pregnancy :( I was slim and relatively toned when I fell pregnant, but gained A LOT of weight and was left with a body that was totally unrecognisable. It's only now, that my daughter is almost 15 months old, that I've dropped some weight and beginning to realise it is possible to get back to my pre-preg size. But my body will never be the same, and I accept that. It took this body to make, nurture and birth my baby. I should CONGRATULATE it, not despise it for looking differently. Now that I'm on my way back I realise it was a sacrifice I was happy to make for the sake of having my child.

I understand that people have hang-ups and obsessions about food and weight, and thankfully I don't. I'm sure that would make giving your body over to your baby much harder. And obviously we only have the media's version of events, so accuracy is a question. I just think a woman being so obsessed with her weight and body image that she can't fathom being pregnant, for the damage it might do, is sad really. And there are probably issues there that need to be dealt with regardless of whether she were to get pregnant or adopt.

Dana - posted on 04/24/2010

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Not necessarily if she thinks she's doing right by her child to begin with. I know on the show she's all about keeping yourself healthy and your weight down so you can live a better life for your kids.

Who knows too, some women bounce right back after having a kid, some women's hips change and body type changes and never go back. Maybe she knows her family history.
I honestly find it hard to believe. I've watched the show for 4 yrs now at least and she just doesn't seem like some one who would say such a thing. I'd like to hear more about it and her response to this coming out like this.

Erin - posted on 04/24/2010

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I agree with Jodi and Sharon... If she can't 'sacrifice' her body for 9months to have a baby, I think she's going to have some issues with motherhood. I think adoption is fantastic, and I would like to say her motivation for adopting rather than bearing her own didn't matter. But in this case, I think they do. I'm not saying she's wrong, just that she will DRASTICALLY need to re-prioritise her life once there is a child involved. Before she's even a mother, she has already put her own needs ahead of her (hypothetical) baby's. That is a concern IMO.

Joanna - posted on 04/24/2010

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I highly doubt she couldn't get back into shape after a pregnancy, if she's a trainer... she obviously knows how to work out. I do however understand what it's like to have issues with body image, and if she is that worried about it, why criticize her for making a choice she feels right for her? Just because you don't sacrifice your body to have a child doesn't mean you won't sacrifice your life to be a good mother. I don't think her not wanting to go through pregnancy would make a difference in her parenting skills. I agree though that I hope her body issues are far behind her and she doesn't pass them on to her child... but that could go for anyone who's faced those issues in the past.

Krista - posted on 04/24/2010

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Quite honestly, this is a personal decision that she has to make. Some women want to be a mom, but can't quite get past the physical aspect of it.

As a recovering anorexic, I had MAJOR issues after my son was born to not revert to my unhealthy life style. I have these same issues again now that I'm pregnant once more, but know that if I did it once, I can do it again.

Some people aren't strong enough to get past those issues. I applaud her for knowing her limits and doing what is going to continue to make her a balanced, healthy person.

No one can be a mom if they don't enjoy every aspect of it. And besides, there are millions of children in this world that would be nowhere without those that wish to adopt.

Jocelyn - posted on 04/24/2010

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I feel the same with Gillian. To go your whole life struggling with a huge weight issue and to FINALLY be a point where you've gotten it under control, I'd be a bit reluctant to do anything that would jeopardize it as well. She still wants to be a mother, so she's going to adopt. Nothing wrong with that!

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To each their own. IMO, this is silly and there are far more pressing issues to be so hyped up over. I am sure she has weighed the pros & cons about adoption vs. pregnancy and made the right decision for her. I don't agree that she needed to air her business aka celebrity style, but she did. She should expect the backlash she is receiving. Had she simply went through the adoption, THEN explained some of her rationale, I don't think this would be such a hot topic. I do applaud her for wanting to adopt, but did she mention she wanted to adopt an infant or an older child?

ME - posted on 04/24/2010

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Actually...having been raised by a Mom with a troubled relationship to food, I sort of wonder if she's capable of raising children without passing on HER food issues! Women who are in great shape when they get pregnant, lose the weight quickly (2 months out, I only have 4 lbs left to go, and i would never say I was in GREAT shape) anyway...she would have nothing to worry about! I think adoption is a wonderful gift to a child, but I would be concerned about this attitude!

LaCi - posted on 04/24/2010

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I really doubt that pregnancy is going to destroy her figure, I would bet that within a year of giving birth she'd be right back to her lean muscular self, with some added stretch marks, but no big deal. However, I'm all for people adopting, so I don't really care what her reason's are. It's still a great thing to adopt ;)

Dana - posted on 04/24/2010

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She's one busy lady, I imagine it has more to do with just the weight gain too. Either way, I don't fault her for whatever she wants to do. Some women don't want to have children at all. I'm glad she'll be giving a child a good home.

Lady - posted on 04/24/2010

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I think as this has been a life long battle for her and she's finally got to the point where she is actually happy with her body I can understand her reasons for being reluctant to undo all her hard work. At the age of 36 the baby weight would be harder for her to lose and I think it fine if she wants to adopt, their are hundreds of kids needing good homes with loving parents, does it really matter about the reason she wants to do it as long as she's going to be a good mum - who cares?

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