Bikinis!

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I was at the public pool with my son and a friend yesterday. I shamefully admit that my friend & I were pointing out girls and women as in "Cute bikini", "Cute figure/shape", "Pretty 1 piece", "Should NOT be wearing that one" "Cover up please" "Poor little girl"



So, what is your opinion on bikinis? Here are some things I observed:

Women wearing micro-mini bikinis that are too small for them

Larger/plus sized women wearing 2 piece suit with rolls of fat hanging over

Women wearing extremely skimpy bikinis-this is a public pool and for the most part a lot of families and kids

Little girls wearing STRING bikini bottoms and teeny tops

Tween/teen girls showing way too much skin

One overly pregnant lady in a 2 piece-pretty suit actually, but I didn't need to see that

One lady in a tiny bikini bottom who did NOT shave her bikini line....ewwwwww!



I honestly don't mean to offend any of you! I have no idea what you guys look like, body shape, size frame, etc. I personally wear a bikini top, and long board shorts. I have bikini bottoms, but don't feel comfortable in them as my weight settles in that area. The manufacturers make so many different styles and shapes of bathing suits to fit specific body styles. Your thoguhts? Opinions?

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Amanda - posted on 08/10/2009

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stacey and chrystal, i absolutely agree! who cares what someone wears, if they are comfortable then good for them!!! i also hate the way we women judge each other on looks allthe time, we are MEAN!

Angie - posted on 08/04/2009

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I think it is so crazy how people get so offended...I think both Amie and Sharon are right...

My husband doesn't agree with bikinis on babies, I think they are cute! I wouldn't dress my daughter to make her look sexy in anyway!!! My daughter wears a 1 piece and I usually wear shorts and t-shirt. I believe when parents are dressing their children in string or just regular bikinis...they aren't thinking "Hey look how sexy my 8 month old daughter looks." But for the teenagers I think they should be dressing modestly and give respect to their own bodies.

Now if my daughter has a nice body and she can look good in a two piece when she is a teenager...I'd probably have no problem with her wearing it...I probably say my husband wouldn't be too thrilled about it. d

Iris - posted on 08/03/2009

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My girls own plenty of 2 piece. Both normal bikini tops + pants and bigger tops with shorts. I would never buy my daughters string bikini, but I don't see anything wrong with them wearing normal bikinis by the pool or at the beach. I'm not the only parent thinking that because the majority of the girls over here are wearing bikinis.
As for other people on the beach. They have the same right I have to be on the beach, whatever shape and size they may be. And it does not offend me one bit to see an overweight person sunbathing next to me on the beach. Speedos, I'm pretty much used to them from living in Europe. As long as people cover there private bits I'm good.

Esther - posted on 08/03/2009

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Wow Sharon. I don't like the sexualization of young girls either. I don't get why parents let their daughters walk around with "Juicy" on their behind. But I think there is a huge difference between a string bikini and a normal two piece for a young girl. I don't think that has anything at all to do with "pimping out" your daughter and I don't think that's provoking perverts either. If a pervert is there, they will be gawking at little girls in one pieces too. To be honest, I found your post a little offensive to moms like Amie & Mary who dress their daughters in very cute, very age appropriate two piece suits.

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Stacey - posted on 08/09/2009

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i dont even know why they make bikinis like that....its rediculous but im saying if its not showing off your private areas then wear what you want but a THONG?!??!!! COME ON!!!

Stacey - posted on 08/09/2009

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i agree with traci the bikini thongs aren't appropriate unless your swimming or tanning in your private pool but to be around other children is just ignorant but other than the bikinis that should be something you wear under your pants and not swimming well feel free but if your around public please dont wear a THONG to the beach for God Sakes.those are for private pools in your backyard not the public beach

Traci - posted on 08/08/2009

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When we lived in Japan we went over to Camp Schwab(? Maybe Torii Station...I can't remember now :) to use the pool on base. There was a woman there with her young son and husband and she was wearing a thong bikini. That is just plain ignorant! I mean, I've heard of people wearing them on the beach (which I think that is ridiculous as well, but at least its not at a public pool!). Have some class, people! :) I don't care if you look like Giselle, a public pool is not the appropriate place for such attire. And in front of her boy? He must have been 8 or so. Weird.

Crystal - posted on 08/08/2009

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I haven't read through all of these, but this is one of the reasons why I have never worn a bikini - everyone ELSE out there is just so critical of other people's bodies!! Why do we care so much what other people are wearing? I agree with not letting young girls wear skimpy things of course, but when it comes to other adults, who am I to say what they should or shouldn't be wearing? I have always been a smaller person, but have always worn a one piece (sometimes even with shorts over!) because of this - knowing other people are looking and judging.

By the way, pregnant women are beautiful! :) I had a friend who wanted to go swimming with us as she was 9 months preggo, and no 1 piece fit her - she looked FABulous in a bikini!!! :)

Stacey - posted on 08/08/2009

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well i was pregnant when wearing a 2 piece and nobody cared except me lol...i still care because i have a bit of the extra skin and stretch marks while swimming around the skinny beautiful women...but i personally hate one pieces i feel to cramped because they are so tight ...i think people can wear what they feel comfortable with..because its part of life people wear what they are comfortable with..pregnant or not hot or not and fat or not ...not all fast people are self concious of their bodies so if they are happy the way they look chances are they will be wearing a 2 piece instead of one...so i think if your comfortable then wear it if not then dont...but the tween girls showing too much skin parent should be more responsible and want to conserve their children. but if your an adult feel free be comfortable and happy.

Krista - posted on 08/06/2009

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I find that very little girls and babies in bikinis is ADORABLE, given that it's not a version of a suit that Pamela Anderson would wear. A cute little bikini with full coverage bottoms is an "aww" factor for me. That being said, older children and tweens and teens do NOT need to be showing me their itty bitties if you know what I'm saying. Which isn't to say they CAN'T wear a bikini, just one that covers a bit more.
I must say that on my vacation to Cuba, I DID wear a bikini and I'm not super skinny, but I had that "when in Rome" mentality. I wouldn't go to a local beach wearing one as I'm not comfortable enough to do so. If anything I wear a nice tankini that covers, but still has the ability to be pulled up if I'm laying down tanning.
Pregnant women in bikinis....well, it doesn't really bother me. To each their own, but I do abhor extremely large women wedging themselves into two pieces of material that wouldn't cover Kate Moss. I just see it as tactless. So you want a killer tan? That's great! Do it in your teeny weeny itsy bitsy in your backyard and cover up a bit more when out in public.

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I also get complimented on my 'healthy full' veins when I get blood work @@



Oh, and I love getting complimetns at my boobs too ( . ) Y ( . )

JL - posted on 08/05/2009

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Everytime I go to get my teeth cleaned my dental hygenist tells me my teeth are the equivalent of a cadillac. Which I find to be a strange compliment. She tells me that many of her patients have Fords....they always need replacement parts and tuneups...LOL!

I was born with hip dysplasia and I have to go once a year to get Xrays on my hips to make sure everything is ok and the last two years I have had the same male X-ray technician always compliment my hips since I can get into the odd positions for the X-rays without being uncomfortable. It is weird to have a man hit on you because of your messed up hips...haha.

Jocelyn - posted on 08/05/2009

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haha it's amazing the complements you can get from nurses/techs. i get told every time i go in for blood work that i have lovely veins. lol

Kate CP - posted on 08/05/2009

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LOL! I have never had any one ever tell me I had nice boobs except my husband or ex boyfriends. I did have a woman tell me I had a pretty uterus once. I was in the hospital for stomach pains and they did an ultra sound. She said my uterus was very pretty. I was like "Uh...thanks?"

Jocelyn - posted on 08/05/2009

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haha i remember this one time at work, I was wearing a halter top which was pretty low cut (on me anyways, it'd would have been normal on someone with normal sized boobs lol) and this one woman was just staring at my boobs, in awe, and came up and asked me if they were real. when i said yes, she told me they were the most fantastic boobs she'd ever seen! man that made my day!

Charlie - posted on 08/05/2009

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WAHAHAHA i miss my tiny waist , perky butt and huge boobs , i actually had people quite frequently ask me " where did you get them done " LOL those boobs could get me anything back in the day (( god i sound about 90 myself )) .

Kate CP - posted on 08/05/2009

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When I was 17 I had the hottest body...I made heads turn and women fume. Now I have my momma's butt (birthin' hips!), a baby belly from my daughter, and thankfully I have huge boobs to balance it all out...but boy does it do a number on my back. I don't go to public pools. My mother has a pool and I'll go swimming with my daughter every so often but I wear a black swim "dress" I guess you could call it. It's slimming and gives good lines...but it would be better if my figure was a LOT smaller. My husband says he loves my body, though. I guess that's all that matters, right? ;P

Charlie - posted on 08/05/2009

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We have a 90 year old guy who gets around on a zimmer frame , he dresses completely like a homeboy , boxers hanging out , giant hoodie , a cap with the little gold sticker on it and bling .
He is the coolest old dude i have seen !!

Nichole - posted on 08/05/2009

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Haha..Sharon. For real though. I think states should have a department that highers people to go around and stop people from wearing certain stuff. Guts hanging out, ew, gag!! I was actually at walmart a few weeks back and there was this group of people in front of us and my hubby has me laughing so hard I was almost on the floor because he was making fun of the one girl who had on a tank top on that was way too small for her and a pair of shorts that were too big for her with boxers hanging out the top. Her gut was sticking out of the top of boxers and the bottom of the shirt that didn't go past her belly button. My hubby was saying he wanted to yell at the guy she was with for letting her leave the house like that..lmao.

Sharon - posted on 08/05/2009

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LMAO Nichole. you're killing me. I'm an honest friend. I was people watching at walmart (always fun!) and just wished I could help people get dressed. I know inreality some of us just don't care and sometimes its laundry day. But watching the 60 yrold sagging gut and half shirt woman made me wanna vomit. She wasn't ugly. But good lord she wasn't a teen anymore. You can be a rebel and not dress like a "grandma" and still look good! I saw a really nice older biker lady at my BILs funeral a few years back. Black leather was so tastefully done, miniskirt just the right height for a funeral and the silver studded vest was to die for. But her gut was covered.

Nichole - posted on 08/05/2009

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OMG..I so agree with everything you just wrote here. I am 28 and I do still wear a bikini because luckily after I had my son I bounced right back to be skinner than I was before I had him. I always see women on the beach who definitely shouldn't be wearing bikini's. I think the manufactures of the bikini companies need to stop making extra large. My rule of thumb is "Just because they make it in your size does not mean you should wear it!". I say to my hubby all the time I need to get a job being fashion police so I can help people dress themselves. They make bathing suits for larger women for a reason and if you feel you should be wearing something that doesn't flatter but you want too then hit the gym before you do it so others don't go blind. I am sorry if I am offending anyone here but ladies come on, look in the mirror before you leave the house. I also like to say, "Did your mirror lie to you today?".
The little girls in skimpy bikini's also bothers me, there is no need for a 12 year old to running around flaunting her stuff. I also see the little girls now wearing short shorts with some of their butt cheeks hanging out. No wonder why children are having children nowadays its because parent don't have any control over their own children.
I am so glad some one posted this, it just makes me laugh and think back to all the gross stuff I see at the beach.

Amanda - posted on 08/04/2009

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i agree that teeny tiny binkinis are wrong for little girls but have also seen age appropriate cutsey 2 peices for little girls. and as for grown women.... i say no matter what you look like, and what your body looks like wear whatever you are comfortable in (obviously, as long as it is appropriate for the setting, i hate to see thong style and anything that doesn't fully cover the chest at a public pool/ beach with mostly young children). i wore a bikini in florida in april 6 months after my son's birth and felt great! yeah i had stretch marks and a messed up tummy, but it felt so good! i have since lost the rest of the belly and now the skin is far too wrinkly/saggy for a bikini so i have parted ways with all of my wonderful string bikinis from years past! but anyway, just wanted to say if you dont like what you see don't look!!!!! plus sized women have the right to be comfy too, and if they have the confidence to show some rolls, GOOD FOR THEM! we should all be that comfortable with our bodies!

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Last summer my friend's 13 year old daughter & her friends apparently went bikini shopping together at the mall. The 2 girls wanted to buy matching bikinis to wear to the public pool. The daughter was sleeping at the friend's house, and she jsut simply told her mom that she and the friend bought cute suits. My friend called me up the next day LIVID that the OTHER mother, who took the girls to the mall, approved of the skimpy suit. The daughter made the appeal that she boguht it with her babysitting money, and that's what she wanted. It was brand name: Roxy-so it was more revealing. My friend took the bikini away from her daughter! (And then ironically offered it to me!!) Teen girls don't always know what's best for them in the moment.

Mary - posted on 08/04/2009

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Whoa, whoa, whoa....I think we might be misinterpreting each other here! I could be wrong, but I don't think Sharon was implying that ALL 2 piece suits or "bikinis" were necessarily wrong...it obviously depends on the suit! And, she has a point...we do need to educate our children, in an age-appropriate manner, about the dangers that sadly exist in the everyday world around us. We have ALL seen little girls in attire that is clearly a bit to grown-up or "provacative" to be considered appropriate...but that doesn't mean that all little girl "bikinis" fall into that category. The sad truth is, the sicko pedophiles of this world find allure in the most innocent of attire...in their twisted mind, a 2 y/o in footed pj's is a turn-on. They obviosly do not view anything in children the same way that normally functioning adults do...that is part of what defines the mental disorder they have.

Sarah - posted on 08/04/2009

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Well, here's my thoughts!
My daughter has a two piece swimming costume, like a crop top and shorts. Doesn't look trashy in my opinion.
As for adults, i think women should be able to wear WHATEVER they like. I hate the notion that we have to stifle our own individual style 'just in case'.
I don't like the notion that women are 'asking for it'. Men can parade around topless with no fear, we should be able to wear what we want.

Tho i may look at someone and think 'wow they look trashy' they have the RIGHT to dress however they please.

With the kids, until they are adults (i hope) i can steer them away from 'trashy' clothing etc. It's all about teaching them what we think looks good etc. Once they've grown up tho.....they will wear what they want regardless. :)

Krista - posted on 08/03/2009

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I don't like the idea that girls should not wear bikinis because it could lure in perverts. That gives the message that the victim is at fault when an assault happens, and that is NEVER the case, no matter what she was wearing. I agree that many young girls' clothes and bikinis are inappropriate, but because it's unnecessary for a child to dress like an adult...not because of the potential for sexual assault. Of course kids need to know how to be safe; not to approach strangers, for example, but they should not live in a world where they are constantly afraid. There are a lot of harsh realities that we learn as we grow up, and our innocent view of the world is shattered, but I'd still like my kids to feel safe and happy in their innocent little world while they're children.

Sharon - posted on 08/03/2009

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My kids have all my love & confidence - its the others out there that can't be trusted. I don't think we've scared our kids, they just understand that some things aren't done - ie. walking alone, and why - per each age they get a limited explanation. I'm lucky that my 14 yr old is so tolerant or maybe thats becuase I raised him right, but he's happy with indulging his protective mom and looking out for his kid borhter sister.



Your children can't trust anyone not known to you. In our part of the county there are 2 pedophiles who pictures are posted to the school doors - how do you hide that from your kids? You have to explain in some way. The 7 yr old gets the explanation as "there are bad people out there who like to hurt little girls and that is the man you have to stay away from." It sucks, it really sucks, I wish it weren't this way, but these same men go to the public pool. There is nothing to stop them. They are shopping at Walmart with us and the same grocery store. They drive past my house where my kids are leaping in and out of our pool.



If I let ONE thing slip and something happened who would I blame for the rest of my soon to be short life?



I'd like to pretend these sick monsters out there looking for another chance to grab a child but I can't because reality stares me in the face every time I go to school to pick up my kids.



I used to check this website that listed pedophiles by localities. At one point the big town near us had 14 high level child predators. In a town of 43,000, not to mention the number of lower level pedophiles and the ones living there without registration.



To each there own. I'm not wrapping my kids in cotton wool and hiding them from the world, and I"m not going to scare them to pieces, but I will do all thats practical to protect them and give them the skills to protect themselves.

?? - posted on 08/03/2009

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QUOTING Sharon: Still - like I said - lesson learned and I won't forget and I'm going shove down my childrens throats till they understand its a scary scary world out there.



That scares me about parents. There is a difference between being protective and making your children grow up in a world where they are scared to express themselves for fear of the "scary scary world out there." Little girls are very much allowd to wear 2 piece bathing suits, and should even be allowd to wear a bikini with cherries on it (for example) without fear of the "scary scary world out there." I remember I used to go to the beach in my panties or a pair of shorts and no top ! It's not the scary scary world we need to "shove down their throat" it's the soft gentle and remarkably strong embrace of confidence, security and responsibility that we need to give to their life.

Amie - posted on 08/03/2009

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Sharon ~ It seems to me you were replying about my post. So I feel the need to respond.

Pimping out my daughter? Well that is the the rudest comment I have EVER gotten about how my daughter is dressed. She does not look like a prostitute thank you very much. She looks like a little girl that is swimming. Just like the TONS I see at the pool, beach and pretty much everywhere I look. She does not wear anything that is not age appropriate.
Why would anyone dress there kid (in a bathing suit or not) to look attractive? Granted it is a plus that they look cute but I doubt it is in the forefront of ANY mother's mind when choosing something. That is not offensive to only me but probably any mom who sits there and goes.. OH this will look so cute on (insert name).
NO ONE intentionally exposes their children to perverts. For you to imply that any mother does this is also offensive. BLAME THE GOVERNMENT for that one. They are the ones that after catching these bastards releases them back into society. My mom lives 2 BLOCKS from a VIOLENT sex offender. She can't afford to move and the petition to get him removed has gone NOWHERE. Apparently these asses still have rights so wherever they place him, guess what, tough titty he's that communities problem. This particular one has a thing for tween and teenage girls. My mom worries constantly about my sister because of this but has not made her stop wearing her bikini's. WHY? Because it does NOT matter what they are wearing. If one of these sicko's are going to target YOUR child they are going to do it when they are vulnerable and left alone somewhere. Just as he did with his previous victims. My sister never goes anywhere alone now, she always has friends around and when they can they all drive. They also all KNOW what this guy looks like because when they are released into a community it is LAW that the community be forewarned. So if they ever do happen to see him they turn and leave. If YOU do not know who is in YOUR community that is your OWN fault. If it is different in other countries than how it is here, talk to your representatives and DO something about it so you do KNOW when one of these perverts enters your community. For the ones who haven't been caught yet, their easy enough to spot and keep away from. For an observant parent anyway. If you get offended by what I've said then so be it... I took offense to your post.

To everyone else:

String bikinis ~ Seems there's been some miscommunication on the use of this term also. TO me a string bikini is one of those things that is basically MADE out of string. It has a couple triangle pieces to "cover" the private areas and that is it. The ones that tie at the sides.. my daughter has two of those... though they are mock tie ups. Just their for decoration basically.

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Blame the manufacturers and the mother! There are darling and APPROPIATE 2 piece suits for girls, and down right trashy. No, a girl does not need to be in a skimpy and seductive 2 piece. A girl needs to be a girl and the mom needs to protect her girl. When I was at the pool the other day I ran into one of my 5th graders. She was wearing an appropriate 2 piece sports bra style top and boy shorts bottom. Yet her friend was wearing less and more developed on top.

Jocelyn - posted on 08/03/2009

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*sigh* one day i will wear a bikini...after my boob lift and tummy tuck and ass implants LOL.
anyways... i have seen some bigger women who have been totally able to pull off the bikini look, but they are the ones that are in proportion, they carry their weight well, they aren't "chunky". and then there are the women that should not, for any reason, ever put on a bikini...*shudder* the ones where their stomachs are wider around than they are tall... that's just wrong.
and hairy guys....eew. just wax, please.
same for you hairy women lol
now as for little girls in bikinis, if i have a daugher, i will probably put her in both one piece and two piece swimsuits. but the type of suits i buy have the built-in cloth diapers, so that just makes more sense to me in case of a messy indecent :) but that being said, i do not like string bikinis and will never buy one for my daughter (if i have one).

?? - posted on 08/03/2009

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I agree with you Jenn.



I can see how a 6-7 year old would like it though and totally not take it as anything sexual -- she's probably thinking I like mommies kisses and I love cherries!!!!!



BUT - it is a mothers reponsibility to protect her lil girl from her own innocence sometimes. That lil girl knows no different, but we do. Would we let them wear miniskirts with their panties hanging out - and - would we let them wear string bikini's with lips and cherries on them? I wouldn't let my daughter, but that's me.

~Jennifer - posted on 08/03/2009

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....I saw a ...maybe 6 or 7 year old girl at the beach wearing a white string bikini (her mom at least had the sense to double knot the strings-- thank goodness for small favors) BUT.....this bikini had lip prints and cherries all over it. Now, even subconsciously speaking......lip prints and cherries....eh...not so 'cute' (to me) on a 6 / 7 year old. It just struck me as being the 'wrong' message.

(Or maybe I'm just reading way too far into it.....)

?? - posted on 08/03/2009

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I agree there is a huge difference between a two piece and a string bikini. And even then there are some cute bikinis for younger girls that are age appropriate and cover more than enough. And lets face it... a pervert isn't gonna give a shit if the lil girl is in a one piece, two piece, shorts and a t-shirt or a whole snow suit......... a perv is a perv is a perv. Obviously there's a 'limit' but there's also circumstances, situations, opportunities that can be controlled - and the appropriate measures taken - a lil girl could even be at a beach in just a diaper or a pair of panties and it wouldn't make a difference.



Purposefully dressing your daughter seductively so that she looks "sexy" is completely different than lettin your lil girl wear a 2 piece bathing suit to go to the beach so that she can build a freakin sand castle.

JL - posted on 08/03/2009

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This may sound bad to some moms but I tell my 6 year old daughter all the time that I don't want her looking like a hoochie mamma and that she will not demean herself by looking like trash. If you ask her she will tell you that she doesn't want to look like a hoochie mamma because she is a smart girl.

JL - posted on 08/03/2009

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I am against the teeny little bikinis for little girls but the normal two pieces don't bother me. My 6 year old daughter as a one piece and a two piece. Her two peice has a top that looks like a sports bra kind of like a short tank top but not a tankini and the bottoms are a skirted bikini bottom. I do think that there is a difference between a two peice suit for a little girl and a teeny little string bikini. Most of my daughter's freinds wear two piece bathing suits and most of the stuff on the market is not inappropriate but there are some on the market that I cannot figure out why anyone would decide to try to sell fthat for a child to wear. I do hate when little girls wear juicy sweatpants or shirts that say stuff like I'm hot . What the hell are those parents thinking.

Sharon - posted on 08/03/2009

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HEY! I did say Quote: That said I have seen really cute tankini w/boy shorts for little girls that cover nearly as much as a one piece End Quote - I figured thats the type of thing you've got your little one in, you said it covered a lot.



I was never molested as a child but there were some huge news stories while I was growing up and twice I and a friend were stalked to the point where we had to run for help. MY friend was the target. I was awfully gawky and she was this tinkerbell cutesy type. I litterally had to pull her away from this freak who kept promising her a good time.



I've never forgotten it or what my dad said "its probably those trashy clothes her mom dresses her in." She did wear trashy, she wore it well mind you but it was still trashy. Daisy Duke shorts that would have made daisy duke blush, cropped shirts and we were 7 years old. I was always jealous and wanted to dress the way she did.



Still - like I said - lesson learned and I won't forget and I'm going shove down my childrens throats till they understand its a scary scary world out there.

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I can honestly say that I still wear my bikini! But I have my own backyard pool and the only people that get to see me in it are my hubby, family, friends and the odd creep from the telephone company that is beside us!

As for my daughter she has 2 bathing suits. One is a one piece and the other is like a little surfer outfit. It's a one piece that is pretty much a t-shirt and shorts all together with a zipper in the front! I think she looks cute in them and see no need to have her little belly sunburned!!

As for all the others mention I shutter to think of some of the images you ladies have described!!

Sharon - posted on 08/03/2009

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I don't see the point in pimping out your child in front strangers. 15 or 16 yrs old she's nearly a woman and needs to learn how to handle her body and how other people deal with it and see it - I'm ok with that. But toddlers and young girls.. why? Why expose them other peoples sick minds? There is so little we can control out there.



That said I have seen really cute tankini w/boy shorts for little girls that cover nearly as much as a one piece. But the other more revealing bikinis - ask yourself whats so cute about it? She's showing nearly as much as super model does. Who finds that attractive in a small child? Perverts. Who intentionally exposes their children to perverts? They're every where these days - thanks to government that refuses to mete out the punishment they deserve.



Perverts don't wait for you turn your gaze away either, they'll stalk you, if they're truly sick, waiting for the chance to steal your child.



My daughter is a little girl and she is going to stay a little girl for as long I can possible help her too. There is enough worry and stress in this world for me to deal with out trotting her out in adult outfits to prove to other people she's "hot".

Amie - posted on 08/03/2009

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Ok I wasn't going to post but I got to bring the other side to it since no one else seems to have.
My daughter owns 6 bikinis. There is nothing wrong with how she looks in it. Granted I don't buy her string bikini's. I don't agree with them for adults in any rate as it is so I'm not getting my daughter one. If you want to show THAT much go to the nude beach.. it's thataway. Ridiculous. It's just an attention grab.
My girl looks fine in her bikini. She's completely covered in all the right areas and is never out of my sight as it is. She also has more than a few friends who wear bikini's so obviously I am not alone in my thinking.

For other things, like overweight people, old people in speedo's, etc. I don't have a problem with it. If it something I find unattractive though I avert my eyes. It's not something I sit and dwell on because they have every right to dress how they so choose just like everyone else.

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oh...forgot to add - one of my favorite pastimes at the beach is watching all the people (men & women) walking around in suits that they have NOOOO business being in...fat rolls hanging/drooping all over the place giving them the most bizarre tan lines...this is probably mean, but they make me feel a little better about my less than perfect self ;-)

I'll never be called skinny, but there are ways to minimze the visual damage I inflict on others!

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Well, as someone who LOVES summer & the water, I'm a tankini girl myself. Probably could have gotten away with a bikini pre-baby, but I'm rather modest, and quite frankly, they aren't hardy enough for really swimming/diving or body sirfing at the beach. My biggest motivating factor? I prefer 2 piece suits for both Molly & I b/c they are easier to get on & off!! I personally may never wear a one piece suit again, just b/c I HATE having to pull a wet suit down to pee!! UGHHH! As for the girl...I have both one & 2 pieces, but again...the 2 piece suit is just easier to get on & off of her. I don't really think it's a "bikini"...it's got a little skirt, but you can judge for yourself from my profile pic!

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I think people should have to go through a application process in order to wear a bikini. LMAO : )

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Well I am now 37 and I feel I am to old to wear a bikini myself. I am a size 7 and I have absolutely no stretch marks, but I would not wear a bikini anymore. I think some people are just very confident, with themselves, but when you see an over weight woman in a bikini its not attractive at all. There are plenty of bathing suits out there for every body type, so why not wear one that flatters your own body. Also there are some people that thrive on the attention. The way I see it is if you are comfortable in what you are wearing then go for it, but be sure to look in the morror before you leave your house, because if you don't have a typical bikini bod then you are sure to get some looks!

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Oh there is a definately a cultural difference when it comes to nudity. Europoeans are far more confident than Americans! At the very tip of Arizona at the Utah border is Lake Powell. We went there on a road trip last summer and was really surprised at the influx of Eurpean travelers. (Of course, the American dollar dropped, making for affordable holidays) I observed the European women far more comfortaable in their skin. Topless sunbathing, skimpy suits, and women of all sizes too. They help each other wrap towels around, dress/undress. Definately more comfortable.



Loureen-I'd LOVE to hit that Ladies Pool with ya!!!

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I think it depends where you are. I don't think it hurts to look bad or show too much off if you are at the beach or a pool as long as you know your not offending anyone.

I also think it is another one of those cultural things. I admit that I cover up a lot more in Tennessee than I ever have in the UK even though it is much warmer and I have never seen anyone sunbathe topless at the lakes even though the weather is HOT in the summer.

If you go to an English speaking resort in mainland Europe, you will not see many one peices and half the women wearing two peices only wear the bottom part. I don't personally do this anymore because of my beliefs and the fear of sunburn, but I am a little shocked that people are offended by certain people wearing a two peice. Just be thankful they are wearing both parts. It could be worse.

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We have a ladies pool In coogee , Sydney . it is a rock pool , built into the side of a cliff overlooking the ocean , very private and fenced .
It is women only and boys under 5 are welcome. ladies come from the very young to the very old , i love that place because of the comfort level , everyone is free to just laze around the pool and no one cares or judges , we are all just ladies hanging at the pool , and pretty much everyone gets around their with nothing but their swimmer bottoms on especially the old ladies .Even i was topless swimming while 8 and a half months pregnant ! LOL


I always feel so relaxed and refreshed after spending the day there .

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I wore a two piece while I was preggers, but the bottom was a skirt. Kinda hard to keep shaving the bikini area after awhile. My two waxing experiences were a disaster. As far as little kids in bikinis, too much. I don't mind a grown women who is on the huskier side wearing one, but there is something off about a little girl who still has her baby fat wearing one. That should be the requirement, not until the baby fat is gone. LOL



I also think you're at the beach, no matter what size you are you want to be cool, comfortable and maybe catch a tan in those spots that are normally covered. No one is flawless, I'm 5'4 and 122 pounds and my a** has got flaws all over. Not to mention this belly of mine that just doesn't look right at all. As Joy Behar would say (with a Brooklyn accent) So what, who cares! :)



Slightly off the subject. Does anyone else see teenage girls walking down the side of a road, half dressed, a mile of cleavage, bad make-up and all. I know they're coming into their own but, aren't they just asking for trouble....

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We can always count on Jo to speak her mind ;-) You are right, there are definately some pregnant women that can pull off looking just darling in a 2 piece and there ARE maternity 2 pieces on the market. But trust me when I tell you that what I observed yesterday was NOT a maternity 2 piece! It was a regular triangle top & standard bikini bottoms. But just not flattering at all on this pregnant woman. I just didn't need to see it.

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I think it's all a matter of respecting yourself and the ones around you. I think it goes for everything in life, not just bathing suits. Yes everyone should be free to wear whatever they feel comfortble wearing, but lets face it - there are many things we need to take into consideration. Child or adult - the more 'revealing' the outfit, the bigger chance of being the victim of sexual abuse - whether it be gawked at or assaulted. (I am not saying it's inevitable or that it's right - but we can't just ignore that there are predators out there and if you openly allow yourself to be put in the "spotlight" of a predator by dressing scantily, you open up a lot more opportunity to become a victim).



That alone is why children, young girls, tweens, and teenagers should be more cautious about wearing such tiny outfits. And mothers should be a lot more protective of their babies. In their own backyard pool or a friends - that is one story but at a beach or public pool - you can control many factors - dressing your daughter appropriately is a good way to close many doors that lead to dangerous situations.



As for pregnant women wearing 2 pieces. It's the same as adults - there's some women that can pull it off and there's some that can't! Kylie - you looked amazing while pregnant, your pregnancy pictures prove that! You could have walked around in a g-string and nipple pompoms and looked beautiful !!!!!!! (that was a compliment not meant to be crude lol) Erin, the same goes for you too. You looked gorgeous while pregnant and being in a 2 piece would be very attractive, beautiful and proof of the earthly bodies amazing creation.



But then there are other women who look like a whale ate a whale and then that whale was ate by a seal and they just look fat... no one wants to see that packed into a tiny lil string bikini. How horrifying would it be for that child to grow up and find a picture of their mother pregnant with them trying to pull off a sting bikini..? It's just not appropriate.



No one wants to see the big sweaty ball sacks of the old men that wander around naked with more hair than a chimpanzee. No one wants to see a pregnant lady that looks like she's just obese and you can't tell that she's pregnant. No one wants to see an obese woman be "proud" of her obesity by tryna stuff it into a bathingsuit that isn't big enough to cover all that needs to be covered.



Im sorry if I sound rude, or judgemental or whatever... but... it's how I feel about bathing suits and clothes in general. If you can't wear something respectful then don't get upset when someone ends up telling you that you're dressed inappropriately. And if you wear a "little less than everyone else" don't be surprised when someone takes it in a negative manner... there's always going to be someone out there that will say something, can't expect everyone to be ok with it.

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I am equally disgusted by most of your list, with one exception. I don't mind pregnant women showing off cute bellies in a bikini. If you have a spiderweb of purple stretchmarks, that's another story, but I don't think women need to hide their baby bellies. Huge, hairy, too young, and too old, should definiely cover up though! I used to wear a halter bikini top and a skirt...but since having a baby I just stay away from having to wear a swim suit at all. Living in the prairies in Canada, it's not too hard lol!

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Fourtunatly in my old hometown , Bondi , Sydney most of the men there do look like the models from Aussie bum and who knows they probably were .
There is one ad in particular i love it was banned in the UK apparently its an Aussiebum ad , he is wearing nothing at all mmmmm.haha

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I used to wear the string bikini top with boy short bottoms. That was pre baby. I'm 5'8 and I weighed 140lbs so looked pretty good in it. Also I was only a b cup so I didn't spill out of it either. (sorry if thats tmi!!lol) Post baby I am.... a little heavier, so many stretch marks my belly looks like a road map of China and my hips will never be the same. I am now a tankini/skirtini gal.



As for bikinis on children, I hate them. I think it is so wrong and Breanna will not wear one until she is a teenager at least!!

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