Body Modification

Marylea - posted on 02/14/2011 ( 54 moms have responded )

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Okay so I was just on facebook and a friend of my 13yr old sister was posting pictures of her newly stretched ears and I thought this would make a good topic for debate.



What do you think of body modifictions? Do you think that its okay for young teens (like my sister's friend) to be making the decsion to "modify" themselves? As a parent would you allow your child to ever modify themself? When does it become too much? If you as a parent have body modifications do you think you have a right to tell your child they can't have them?



I'm a young mom, I was 18 when my daughter was born. And it seems like "bod mods" are the norm for my generation. I remember when I was in the hospital one of the nurses had been shocked that I didn't have any tattoos. She told me that she hardly ever saw anyone who didn't have a least one. I'm not against piercings or tattoos but I do think there's a point where people go over board. I think that things like tongue splitting, or implantions; such as horns, are disgusting. I also think that genital pierces are pretty gross as well. I think that like everything else in life its all about moderation. A few tastful tattoos can be very nice to look at but covering yourself from head to toe is going to look pretty bad when you're 75yrs old. I have 5 ear piercings and I plan on getting my nose done later this month. That will be all for me. I'm still undecided about getting a tattoo or not (I want to get my daughter's footprint on my back if I do indeed get one).



I think that there are repercussions to body modifications that teens don't consider. Like ear stretching for example, once you go so big there's no turning back, your ears will never be the same. I think its a decsions that teens take to lightly, it looks cool now so they get it but what about later on in life?



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~Jennifer - posted on 02/14/2011

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*finishes cleaning re-pierced nipple*



.....Body mods?



What body mods?



I started with tattoos when I was 13. I'll be 39 in April, and I'm still planning "what to do with the other leg"...after the first leg is finished, and after the back piece has a little more work.

Some people just like tattoos, piercings, etc...

It's obviously not for everyone, but I've known since I was a pre-teen that I wanted this done.

I AM a walking billboard for my artist.

Would I let my daughter do this?

...maybe.

If it fit her personality, I would consider allowing her an approved piece of art - around 16.

I would allow her a piercing (no facial) around 14...depending on the amount of maturity she shows @ that age.

I would make sure she understood what the repercussions of these decisions would be.

Tattooing is a way of life around here.

My kids go to birthday parties @ that tattoo shop - kid's b-day parties....

My children's uncle is a tattoo artist....mom is coated in tattoos. I think that if anyone's kids would have a lifetime of understanding of tattooing, piercing and what it means regarding 'permanence', it would be mine.

I honestly feel for the parents ( like my mom was) that think "My kid would NEVER do this, so I don't have to worry about it"

...you're in for a big surprise in the teen years.







About the "when you're 65 /75/ 85" thing......

Who the fuck is gonna be lookin' @ you thinking "Gosh, gramma would be HOTTTTTTT if she didn't have all those tattoos"

Cut me a fuckin break.

Charlie - posted on 02/14/2011

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I love body mods they are another form of self expression but there are certain things that need to be chosen as an informed adult IMO like tattoos and permanent things like stretching , having said that stretching is reversible up until a certain gauge , non permanent things like piercings are fine from around 16 .

Tracey - posted on 01/08/2012

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Once she is 18 my daughter can do whatever she likes to her body but until;t hen she can stick with one ear piercing. Not because of my feelings regarding body modification but because she keeps changing her mind about what she wants. Have told her she has to like the same design for 1 year before she gets anything done.

Amanda - posted on 04/30/2011

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I have 4 large tattoos, and working on a full sleeve soon. I am not one for peirces due to many metal allergies. My 13 year old has her nose peirced (this is all she will have done until she is moved out of my home).



For those who think people cant get decent jobs due to body mods, that cant be more untrue. My bestfriend is covered in tattoos, has many peircings and is the Manager of her Walmart (makes great money), and working on becoming district manager. I know many people with body mods working in Corp world.



For those who think how silly someone will look when they are 80. When I am 80 the last thing I am going to worry about is my tattoos on my saggy skin, seriously why would anyone in their old age be so worried about their tattoos? Unless cougar has taken on a whole new meaning.

Merry - posted on 10/11/2011

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My old coworker had two tattoos done in white, they were cool looking and very subtle, he was manager and didn't have to cover them since they weren't too obvious. I'd be happier to have my teen get a white tat then a dark bold one.

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Dusty - posted on 01/07/2012

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I think alot of teens take this issue too lightly. You're right, they aren't really thinking of how it's going to look at 75 or whatever age when they are older. I have 2 tattoos, & plan on getting a few more. All of which can be covered easily, if necessary, for a job, etc. I also had a few piercings when I was younger (lip, eyebrow, & tongue) I no longer have my lip or eyebrow pierced, although I do still have my tongue pierced, but I take it out for work. Tattoos need to be thought through alot. Is it something you are going to regret 5, or 10 years down the road? Does it have meaning to you, or do you just think it "looks cool"? All of my tats have meaning to me, as do the ones I still have yet to get. My tongue piercing, well, I just like it. It can easily be undone if I ever choose.

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As long as shes legal age, she can do what she wants. That would be 16 for piercings (except for ears) and 18 for tatts. She can pierce her ears as many times as she wants when she asks. I have 7 piercings (i took half of them out.) and 9 tattoos, my ears are stretched to 00 and I will be getting some more tattoos once i give birth. Its a part of my culture, why would i deny my daughter that?

Corinne - posted on 10/13/2011

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I think I'd be more inclined to let my kids have piercings than tats, but then I'm 31 and only just designing my first tat. I'm also getting my nipple re-pierced soon, had to take it out to feed the babes. I'm in the U.K and you have to be 18 to get at tat, I think if you find an artist willing to do someone younger than that, they're probably not the best person to be doing it. As a choreographer, I've had to turn away some fantastic dancers, just because of body mods. I hate turning talent away cause some director/producer has a stick up their arse. You can't wear piercings on stage anyway (health n safety) and tats can be covered with make up or costumes, what difference does it make?

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I have no problem with this stuff.Although as a mom, i have a problem with the age.

I believe the age is way to young to make a choice like this.I know people who did it young and 100% regret it now:-(

I would stress its perfectly okay to want to do these things but until you are at an age were you know 100% you won't regret it etc 13 is way to young imho.

Jocelyn - posted on 10/13/2011

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I know only a couple of you will enjoy this as much as I do, but I got dermal anchors near the corners of my eyes a couple of months ago ^_^
LOVE them!!!!!

Stifler's - posted on 10/11/2011

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I love different coloured tatts too not a fan of black if I ever get one.

Merry - posted on 10/11/2011

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I'm a prude.
I really don't like body mods.
I would discourage any alterations but I would listen to their opinions and desires. I'd be open to them convincing me if they have good mature well thought out reasons and intentions.
But I really prefer my kids stay more natural.
I'd be fine with my girls getting one hole per ear and my sons one hole in one ear but I really hate nose piercings.
Eyebrow piercings, tongue, lip, cheek, cartilage, nipple, genital, hand, etc piercings I think look weird and I'd strongly discourage but in the end it IS their body and even if i say no they can do it at 18. But I'd try to avoid outrightly refusing because I think that would make them explode farther into mods at 18.
Tattoos I think no, not til 18.
Gauges, yuck.
Horns! Heck no.
Honestly I hope my kids feel like I do and appreciate the natural body

Stifler's - posted on 10/11/2011

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My body has a tendency to reject piercings too. I got my belly button repierced the other weekend and it was red and crusty for a while and really hurt. I'm not scared of the actual piercing bit hahaha I got one in the top of my ear (the cartliage) when it was cool to do that and it never healed I ended up taking it out after a year.

Brittany - posted on 10/11/2011

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He also had three piercings on the left side of his lip and all of them migrated out along with the snake bite on his left side. For some reason his life side always migrates out.

Brittany - posted on 10/11/2011

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@ Emma,

Everyone is different but, I will tell my husband got his nipples pierced and he had the worse time with them.

They bleed for a long time after. They then got infected, we have no idea how, but they did. They would clear up and then get infected again. They then started to migrate out of his body. Which was PAINFUL for him. He went back to our guy and he said not to worry they just have to settle in. He let them go for a year and it just never stopped. He took them out about a month ago and his nipples are still very tender. When he can get away with not wearing a shirt, he won't wear one. You can look at his nipples and tell they are tender.

Everyone is different and this was just his experience.

Krista - posted on 10/11/2011

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I'm not a fan of ear gauging. If my OLDER teenager wanted it done, I'd put a limit on the gauge size, and it'd be a damned small limit. I'm really hoping that ear gauging falls from favour by the time my kids are teenagers, because I'm just not a fan of it.

Tattoos will also have to wait until they're an adult. Teenagers aren't always known for their long-term thinking and good judgment, so heavy-duty permanent body mods will have to wait until they're a bit older and more level-headed. I got a tattoo at 19, and wish, in retrospect, that I'd been made to wait until I was 25 and a bit less impulsive.

Ear piercing is fine, once they're old enough to understand the process and take care of the piercings. Facial piercings, like nose and eyebrow, or navel piercings? I want them to be at least 16. I've seen 13 year olds with nose piercings, and I just don't think it's appropriate.

Charlie - posted on 10/11/2011

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My friend got both of hers done the other day , she said it REALLY hurt at first a little pain for about an hour and then no pain at all and I saw them the day after and they looked great , no swelling or redness !

Sherri - posted on 10/10/2011

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I hate hate hate ear gauging and won't allow it as long as they are under my roof and actually pray they will never do it anyways.

I really don't like any and would never approve of the tongue splitting, tongue piercings, horns etc.

Now tattoos eh I could care less about, piercings as long as when and if they outgrow them can be removed I am also fine about.

Brittany - posted on 10/10/2011

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I am not sure if many of you have noticed but, I am a pretty laid back mom. I listen to heavy metal music, I have a few piercings, I am a Biology nerd, I own ferrets and I let my daughter listen to Lady Gaga.

Extreme body mod does not bother me, as long as the person doing it is a responsible person. I have meet people that enjoy doing meat hook hanging. They say it is spiritual and brings them closer to God. If that is how they get in tune with Religion, then so be it. These people are know are upstanding citizens with jobs. They are good people.

As far as my children go, it depends on the age. Caoilainn, 4, is just now wanting to get her ears pierced. My husband, and the Father of all three of my children, has his eyebrow pierced, his lip pierced, a Medusa piercing and a dermal on his spine.

As long as it is age appropriate, in my book, then I am ok with my kids having it.

JL - posted on 10/10/2011

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I have piercings and tattoos....large tattoos and so does my husband and many of my friends. My best friends husband is a tattoo artist with his own shop and art gallery. So like Jenn my kids are growing up around people with tattoos and piercings. They know that they are permanent and they also know that much thought was put into each tattoo and piercing. They also know that mommy and daddy are picky about their artists. When it comes to my kids getting tattoos and piercings it will all depend upon laws, their level of maturity and what they are wanting done. I pretty much have the same stance as Loureen. As far as being a senior citizen with my Half sleeve, rib cage covered, back tattoo, 6 ear piercings and whatever else I end up getting...Oh I don't care because I have enjoyed life and instead of denying myself because I don't want to be an old saggy lady with tattoos and holes. My tattoos will be reminders of the certain times in my life and of the person I was and am. I will look at them with pride, remembrance, and a little laughter. Just think how colorful my ashes will be ;)

Stifler's - posted on 10/10/2011

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ROFl I hate that too. When people play with their tongue bar all day long and stick it between their teeth and run it from side to side of their mouth. really?

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Also I dont' mind tongue piercing but for one thing. It drives me crazy watching people play with it all day! It's like watching an old person play with their dentures.

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it depends on the modification. A discreet piercing is one thing but I honestly do not think a young teen should be making a serious body modification for which there is no return - such as ear stretching. I would not allow my son to do it however would not have an issue with him doing it when he came of age. I am a tattooed person myself and plan on getting more when I turn 40 next year.

I do have to say though that some modifications make me question a person's psyche. That would be the tongue splitting, the horns and the big big ear stretching. I think there is something wrong wtih wanting to make such a massive change. The horns in particular concern me. I try so hard to be open minded but if I had to deal with someone who had horns, my first thought is that this person does not feel their own abilities are enough but they must make some massive (and horns fit this) statement. It worries me.

How do you go back from horns? I mean, I know you have to be pretty damn committed to them.

I just am waiting for neck stretching and lip plates to be the norm.

Joy - posted on 10/10/2011

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My daughter got her navel done at 13 and has gotten her lip,nose ,and tongue done,she is now 17.We did a lot of research and talking before each one.The gauged her her ears to but have since let those close.That was the only on I really had issues with.

Natalie - posted on 04/30/2011

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I have tattoos and a piercing in my tongue.Started at 18 and will stop when I am bored.
Anything under 18 I find silly though. The law in the UK states tattoos are for 18 and overs only. Piercing rules are different,however,and many young teens get pierced at the ages of 13 and above. I'm talking about belly buttons and eyebrows etc,which in my opinion should not be allowed until at least 16.
I know it is a case of 'my body my rules' but if my kids got tattooed under 18 I'd be pretty annoyed! Even my dad frowns upon my tattoos now and I am a 28yr old mum of 4 lol

OhJessie - posted on 04/30/2011

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I didn't mind a *tiny* nose piercing or ear piercing or even a navel piercing. Just have it done by a competent professional. I loathe the ear "stretchings", tattoos, and I didn't allow face piercings -I said once you're settled in a good job situation, THEN you can mess with your face if they don't mind. Before that, forget it.

Constance - posted on 04/29/2011

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My 15 yea old started stretching her ear lobes three years ago but my best She wants her labret and bellybutton. So she will proballyhave those in the next coupleof weeks. She wants a tatto but she has to go through a whole lot befoe she will get inked.
I hve had tattoos for over 12 years and my artist is working on adding my back piece and My other outer thigh. I have also had pierecings for 12 years. So we are pretty open about it all.

Jennifer - posted on 02/14/2011

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most mods will have to wait until 18 for our kids but some of the standard piercings we would allow at 16...ears, nose, lip/monroe. as for facial piercings though, no multiples. if they want their nose pierced, thats all they can have until they are 18 for example. absolutely no tattoos, or heavier mods until 18. definitely no navel piercing for a teenage daughter.

i started stretching my ears when i was 14 and it definitely did not go over well with my parents. 8 years later, and i am still in love with them. it never was a phase for me, though...i've been obsessed with mods since before i can even remember. my mom says (endearingly) that she always knew how i would turn out :-P

Stifler's - posted on 02/14/2011

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I think they look hot but not on my teenager! I'd let them get whatever in their ears or navel because I had that and no one can see it or cares.

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I don't like ear stretching. There will be none of that under my roof. Or tongue splitting or forearm tattoos. Or Monroe, labret, snake bite etc. piercings. They can do all that after they've moved out and got a real job. So many teens get lame looking tattoos just to have a tattoo, especially the Southern Cross tattoos, nautical stars (are they in the US armed forces? I don't think so) and stupid shit all over their backs.

Minnie - posted on 02/14/2011

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Are those actual pieces taken from the skin? Ewwwwwwww lol. Looks neat but I wouldn't be up for it. :P Do they use local for that?



I have no problem with an adult making an informed decision. I won't be paying for anything more than ear piercings for my teenagers though.

Krista - posted on 02/14/2011

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I feel much the same as Loureen on this one. There are certain body mods that are fine when you're an immature teen, like standard piercings. Yes, sometimes the hole is permanent, but at least it's usually pretty subtle. However, for more major, irreversible things like tattoos, tongue splitting and ear stretching, I would want them to wait until adulthood.

Jenn - posted on 02/14/2011

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I'll second what Jenn said about the comments regarding when you're older. I guess I'll just be the crazy old bat at the nursing home with the wings. ;)

Jenny - posted on 02/14/2011

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I like how Jenn put it, if it suited their personality. It would really be a decision made on an individual basis. If the body mod was tasteful and had meaning, I would have a hard time saying no. I would be comfortable so long as it could be covered, Anything on the face and I'm tying you up until the urge passes.

Jocelyn - posted on 02/14/2011

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Nikki it's gross lol. They cut the outside lines, and then peel away the skin in between.

Cyndel - posted on 02/14/2011

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I'm not much for body mods for myself, but if you want to thats fine. I'm just of the opinion that they should mean something, like my cousin who is designing a tattoo comemorating her son who died from heart problems at 3 months old. etc.
If they don't really have a meaning ok, just think it through and know your gonna be stuck with it forever or pay a hefty price to remove it.
Anyway, I think that no one under the age of 18 should get any major mods, and no one under 16 should get more then ear piercings, I would say a cartilage piercing is ok if the parents don't care. between 16 and 18 things like belly button rings, or a nose ring etc ok.
But not out of defiance or rebellion, those often turn out as regrets.
I don't know laws around minor's receiving piercings or tattoos, but I would think they would have to have parents or legal guardian present for most stuff until 16? or 18?
The only other piercing I want besides my ear's is a tiny, tiny stone on the side of the nose, but my husband doesn't like them so I respect his opinion and decided not to get it, not a big deal, but I think they are pretty.

Jocelyn - posted on 02/14/2011

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Loureen, that's pretty bad ass :P I love how scarification looks, but the process just makes my skin crawl LOL

Nikki - posted on 02/14/2011

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I am ok with piercing's, or anything non permanent under the age of 18. I think tattoos and body modification should be left until they are slightly older, maybe even started work or college so that they get an understanding of how their modification will impact their life. I had a few face piercing's when I was a teenager and I really regret them. They are not me at all and although I took them out years and years ago they have never healed.

I have no problem with others wanting lots of tattoos and body modifications, but I think it's important to know who you are before you begin making permanent changes to your body.

Jocelyn - posted on 02/14/2011

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I'm all for body modification. I have 8 tattoos and 9 piercings (currently; the piercing number was a lot higher in high school) My piercings include 0g stretched ears.
I don't regret anything. I got my first tattoo a couple of months before my 18 birthday, and started piercing myself when I was 15. I married a tattoo artist :P
I don't have a problem with tongue splitting, branding, even implants can look really cool.
Scarification freaks me out tho, I just can't get past the pealing-your-skin-off part :S
I will let my kids do what ever they want (legally--eg no tongue piercing until they are 16) depending on maturity level. I also know from experience, that if you really want something done, you will find a way to do it. So if my 15 year old wants her lip pierced, sure why not? I'll take them to a parlor and they can get it done professionally. I pierced my lip the first time with a safety pin omg lol.
I think at 65 I will be an awesome tattooed grandma. I'll have brightly coloured hair. I'll still wear highheels. When I'm 90 and in a nursing home, when the cute male nurse is giving me my sponge bath, then he can look at my tattoos and think "damn, she's awesome!"

Joanna - posted on 02/14/2011

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I love body mods, I have 20 tattoos (with more planned), and have had at least 20 piercings.

That being said, I regret a few of the tattoos and piercings I got while 18/19/20. And now I'm working to cover them up.

I think teens need to be taught the importance of being unique, that it's in many forms, not just physical. However if they do choose modification, it needs to be well thought out.

I will personallybuy my girls tattoos for their 18th birthdays. But I will give them 2 years first to really think out what they want. As far as piercings, maybe at 16 something like a nose ring, if they are responsible enough to care for it properly (I wasn't at 16, lol).

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IMO people need to wait at least until they get out of their early 20's before doing anything. I mean really...at 85 how stupid are you going to look covered in tats, ear holes down to your collarbone, a face full of metal, etc. etc. etc. I think people really need to think about what they are doing BEFORE they do it.

Marylea - posted on 02/14/2011

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I don't know, it adds a personal touch. I realize that everyone knows who I am but I always put my name at the end of my posts and blogs and such, so its probably habit I suppose.

Jenn - posted on 02/14/2011

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BTW - just out of curiosity - why do you always put your name at the end of a post? It's just funny, because we already know who you are.

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I don't think you should do anything like that until you are 18. I have tattoos and had piercings (most are removed now), and even had my ears stretched. But - I will not let my kids do any of that until they are 18, just like I waited.

Sara - posted on 02/14/2011

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This is what I worry about when teens make decision like body modification, tattoos, etc...I worry that they will regret it, and it will take a lot of time and effort to repair it should they want to. When I was 18, I had purple hair, got a tattoo and my tongue pierced. But it was a phase, and aside from the tattoo (which isn't visible to the public) it was all stuff I could undo and did. You grow up, you change your mind. I mean, ultimately it's your body, but if you're covered with tattoos and piercings and body mods of some kind you're probably not going to be the top contender at whatever job you apply for when you're 35. It's not fair, but it's life.

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