Bragging

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 10/14/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )

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We have all known people to bragg…and sometimes it comes off as fine, we don’t mind listening and other times you want them to shut the (Bleep) up, about whatever it is they are talking about…

Is it a person’s tone of voice, that makes it tolerable?
In your opinion when does it become annoying when others are “Bragging”

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Kimberly - posted on 10/15/2010

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“Tell me what you brag about and I'll tell you what you lack”

~Spanish proverb

Amie - posted on 10/14/2010

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When you start comparing your kids to mine, then it's too far. (Oh __ isn't doing that yet, mine did it at ___ age

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Liz, nobody can MAKE you feel anything. I'm not just singling you out but if something someone says inadvertently makes you feel inferior, that's on you. This is a huge problem I have with CoM's.....too many people mistake someone else's excitement, joy, sense of accomplishment etc. to be an attack or a put down to them. MOST of the time, such is not the case.

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Dana - posted on 10/14/2010

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Bragging....there is a fine line. I agree with Amie, although sometimes there are those people who always respond to you with something their child is doing. Then I wonder if they're actually computing what you're saying or they just want to brag about their kid instead. I don't necessarily fault them, we all love our kids but, it can sometimes be awkward.

Jenni - posted on 10/14/2010

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For me it only really bothers me when it's excessive. Like if you're working with a co-worker who can't stop talking about how awesome they are every day, 8 hours a day.

Although sometimes it can be comical... there was this one woman who worked at one of my jobs. She was a temp worker and was whining one day about how much she had to pay for daycare and her commute to work was an hour and how she could barely afford it. Then another day she was in the cafeteria and couldn't find her sweater, she started ranting about how someone took her sweater while looking directly at us. She claimed it was a hundred dollar sweater..... :P When she finally did find it... it sure didn't look like one to me. The other girls I was sitting teased her and said "Well if it's worth so much maybe you shouldn't leaving it lying around or wear work clothes to work". She huffed and said she didn't own any clothes cheaper than that, her jeans were hundred dollar jeans and yada yada. Our supervisor overheard her and said "Wow! you must be rich then". She was like "Yeah! I use to be!" lol it was all so tacky and laughable. Considering she worked through a temp agency for minimum wage, was a single mom and had to drive an hour away to find work. (Another conversation revealed she was on a "welfare to work" program). The woman obviously had issues.

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I brag all the time. What of it? ;) "I can do anything you can do, better! I can do anything better than you!"

Jodi - posted on 10/14/2010

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I love hearing other moms brag about their kids, it shows how proud they are and they should be! Until it gets to that one-upping stage, my sister is the queen of this which is ridiculous in our situation. I'll say, "Jaelyn made a 5 word sentence today!" And she'll retaliate with, "Well, Griffin does that all the time." The difference is, my daughter is 20 months, her son is 3 yrs.



Newayz, I don't brag to anyone but my husband and my mom, my child is advanced and no matter how much effort I put in or how proud I am, people always assume I'm rubbing it in their faces, like I can't be verbally proud and excited about my daughter because she's ahead of the curve or something? So, I for one, keep my mouth shut normally.

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One thing I have noticed is that I really think about things I say now. For example today I was out with my friend who has a 15 month old daughter. My son is 10 months old and I was just going to say how he's totally off bottles now and has his milk in cups instead and I was caught in my head whether to say it or not because her daughter still has a night bottle and I didn't want to sound like I was a) bragging or b) judging, which I wasn't intending it to sound like that at all.

Rosie - posted on 10/14/2010

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i don't know how to explain when it becomes annoying. i can understand one upping to an extent, cause you want to brag about your kid doing good. i can't really say when it becomes annoying. maybe when they don't let you finish braggin about your kid, adn take over the whole conversation?
i love hearing about my friends kids accomplishments. it's cute, and i get excited with them!!

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I'm totally cool when moms get excited about their baby reaching the next milestone. I love hearing the first steps stories, first words, etc.

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I find it funny when people brag about something that you a) don't care about or b) they're telling a load of pork pies! It annoys me when people act as though they are high and mighty and better then yourself, but tbh it's all objective!

Becky - posted on 10/14/2010

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Yes, the one-upping is when bragging becomes annoying to me. Or, when you know it's overly exaggerated because of the language they use, and they just go on. I mean, yeah, every mother thinks their child is the cutest, smartest child in the whole wide world, but when you go on and on about it and get quite insistent about it, it gets annoying. Chances are, your child will not be Miss America and is not, in actuality, a genius.

Bonnie - posted on 10/14/2010

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I agree with Sharon..can't stand the 'one upping'. That does it for me. Truly irritates me.

Sharon - posted on 10/14/2010

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ahhhh I forgot about the "one upping" bragging thing. I HATE THAT. The minute you mention your kid kicked the winning goal, they have to tell you how their kid did it 5 times in a row.

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I can't stand when someone brags to make you feel like your less then them, one of my sisters does it all the time. But when someone brags because they finally got something they have worked for it doesn't bug me.

Tah - posted on 10/14/2010

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i for one never sit around and say how beautiful i am and how awesome my children are and how i have the best husband ever and how i am just special or that my parent's loved me more than all the others because of my intelligence and the fact that i am so smart made all my children walk and talk early...i don't mean to brag...but.....

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I think Dana's last sentence nailed it for me: As long as they are not putting others down in their efforts to brag, I don't mind hearing it, in fact, I enjoy hearing people brag about something they have accomplished.
That said, sometimes people brag in a way that, even though they don't SAY anything bad about anyone else, they imply it, and that makes me mad.

Louise - posted on 10/14/2010

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I don't like people that try and out do other people or try and make them feel small. By this I mean people who take great delight in making you feel uncomfortatble for example if you book a holiday to cornwall and you are excited about going and then somebody turns up and tells you all about there fabulous cruise they have booked and go on and on about it. I think people should think what they are saying before it comes out of there mouth.
We all like to bragg at times about family and friends achievements and this is different to bragging about money and material possessions. I have no time for people who like to out do others it is not a very nice trait.

Sharon - posted on 10/14/2010

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When someone comes to work raving about how their child kicked butt on the soccer field, or made the deans list etc, I share their joy.

when they go on and on about it for days on end or drag it down into the details for each minuscule action - I get irritated.

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Bragging is bragging. I think it depends on who's doing the bragging and the context in which it's done. Everyone's entitled to brag once in a while. As long as they're not putting others down in the process, I'll tolerate for a lil' while!

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