Bryce Dallas Howard Post Baby PIcs

Mrs. - posted on 05/15/2012 ( 21 moms have responded )

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The Help's Bryce Dallas Howard enjoyed a sunshine stroll with her baby daughter Beatrice over Mother's Day weekend.
The actress, who welcomed her second child with husband Seth Gabel on January 19, opted for comfort in loose blue sweat pants, a stripped zip-up hoodie and moccasins.
The 31-year-old cuddled her newborn, who was dressed in a pretty pink outfit and cream beanie, on the afternoon outing.

The Spider Man 3 star has been nesting since the birth and it was the first time she has been seen in public.
In 2003, Bryce talked openly about her struggle with post-partum depression following the arrival of her eldest child, Theo, 5.
In an essay for Gwyneth Paltrow's GOOP blog, she wrote: 'Before Theo was born, I had been in good humour about my 80-pound weight gain, but I was now mortified by it.

'I felt I was failing at breast feeding. My house was a mess.

'I believed I was a terrible dog owner. I was certain I was an awful actress,' she revealed in the heartfelt confession.
But she said she overcame her depression with the help of friends and family, including her famous father, Hollywood director Ron Howard.

'Do I wish I had never endured postpartum depression? Absolutely,' wrote Howard.

'I...feel deep gratitude for those who stood by me, for the lesson that we must never be afraid to ask for help.'
Bryce is famous for her role as uptight housewife Hilly Holbrook in the acclaimed adaptation of The Help and her other film credits include The Twilight Saga: Eclipse and The Village.

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The article is not that interesting, but the pictures have caused a bit of a stir with folks. Four months out, BDH looks to have gained more weight post baby than doing the usual celebrity 2 months shed. Apparently, she gained 80 pounds this time out pre-baby.

As a person who went through PPD the first time, I remember BDH on various talk shows speaking about how one day she just woke up and no longer had her PPD - easy peasy. I remember this well because I was over a year out and still struggling in therapy to feel back to normal (I've never just woke up and felt all better - thanks!).

Even though, she sent out what I think is not the most informed message about PPD, I still feel for the girl because it looks like she might be suffering again - either that or just still indulging in food.

Now a lot of people are saying, "Give her a break, this is the real normal after pregnancy!" and while I get that it is kind of nice to see someone not snap back after 2 weeks or something, I think this is excess. It would be one thing if she started out from a larger weight to begin with, but she has always been a naturally slim girl.

What do you think? Normal or excess? Positive image or negative?

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Sarah - posted on 05/15/2012

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I think it's no-one else's business how she looks.

I'm just glad when I had my babies I didn't have all the world commenting on how I looked and what message that was sending to others.

Lady Heather - posted on 05/15/2012

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Ummm...I had a baby in October and I looked just like her at Christmas. I am also a slimmer person normally. I don't know why, but I just didn't lose any weight for a few months. And it was like the weight redistributed itself to make me look huge. Then suddenly in the new year it started coming off and now I look like I did before I got pregnant. Not anything I did or didn't do. This didn't happen with my first and I gained waaaay more weight with her. It came off steadily from the start. Baby number two was just different. And I was breastfeeding and everything.

I will never judge pregnancy weight gain or postpartum weight loss because I have been the woman who gained bajillions if pounds due to a medical problem and I have been the mum who inexplicably stayed fat. Give her 9 months at least before you jump to conclusions.

Sal - posted on 05/17/2012

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May be she wasn't "naturally" slim but had to work realhard at it, 80 pound does seem slot but probally far more realistic than the ladies who are back in tiny clothes with in weeks

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 05/16/2012

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At four months, I was still trying to figure out my babies best schedule. I was HAPPY, if I got to have a shower that day! I was HAPPY if I got to eat a meal without a crying baby. I was HAPPY to get some sleep, whenever (my son did not sleep through the night until he was five months and he did NOT like napping). Man, there were soooo many more things I was thinking about when I had both of my kids, during the first six months, the very last thing I could give two craps about was my weight. Seriously. Four months is nothing. Actually, I have not met one woman that has jumped up and started going to the gym or excercising to lose weight, within the first six months of giving birth. I am sure there are some out there but it is NOT the norm.



The norm is to get back into the swing of life - the day to day parts - while having a new baby to fit into that schedule or rather, to fit your schedule around your new baby. The norm is to focus on your baby and your family, not the superficial views of weight. Not in my part of the world anyhow.



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With my daughter, it took me a heck of a lot longer to get back on the ball. It would have been a good year before I actually started thinking of my weight gain. I mean, 76lbs wasn't a light gain (as some of you have encountered, yourselves..). Especially when I was used to weighing between 105lbs and 120lbs, since I was a teen. I am 5' 8" and I seriously felt like a beached whale (after going from 105lbs to 181lbs, in less than 9 months - I didn't gain until my 3rd trimester). However, my focus was on my new life not my fat! ;)

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Not losing weight four months after baby is not "excessive." "Excessive" is when you're even bigger than you were when pregnant two or more years down the road and still claim it's because you had a baby. Had some woman tell me out of the blue that she was big because she "just had a baby two years ago." For one, I didn't care. For another, that's two years that she could have been doing something about it, and she probably could have gotten somewhere if she'd tried.

But four months??? God, you'd have been horrified to see ME at four months, ugh.

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Oh, and we don't even know what kind of metabolism she has. I'm 5'2 and the smallest I've ever been was a size 8 jeans and 130lbs and had to practically starve myself and exercise like crazy to get that way and STAY that way. If I ate anything more than the size of an apple for a meal, I'd bloat up and get huge. Fast-forward to when I was pregnant with Julie and was told I wasn't eating enough. No wonder I gained so much. Nobody is paying attention this time around, though. Plus I can't eat most of the time because it fucks with my blood pressure or something. The doctors don't seem to know what it is either, since all my tests come back okay.

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Exactly. She's dealing with a brand new baby and she's having to figure out this whole new little person and possibly deal with a jealous older sibling who is also probably just starting school and is adjusting to that and now is having to adjust to a baby sister and God only knows what that might be doing to Bryce, trying to figure all of that out, along with trying to keep shit together for herself and her family. I'll bet you a hundred Hollywood houses weight gain is the LAST thing on her list of worries right now.

This shouldn't even be an issue, what difference does it make whether she lost it two days after having the baby or doesn't get rid of it until the baby's in high school, no two women are the same, and none of us are even close to being in her situation (she's an actress too, let's dump that on top of her list of bullshit to worry about) so what gives anyone the right to say she's too fat, she's had a whole four months to lose that, what a horrible person she is for not getting her ass in a gym like a crazy person...

Krista - posted on 05/16/2012

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I actually gained weight after my pregnancy gain, simply because I could eat "normally" again. I had gestational diabetes, and had a VERY strict diet. I was unable to eat any bread, any cereal, any fruit, any pasta...I was basically on Atkins for the second half of my pregnancy. So after my son was born, I started eating those things again. Not in excess, but as an average person would. I only gained 25lbs with my pregnancy, but gained another 15 lbs afterwards, as my poor, shocked body clung on to those carbs as tightly as it could. It had nothing to do with my mental health or emotions. I was just too damn busy with my newborn to even THINK about my weight. That very well could be the case with her -- the pounds may have crept on, and it might not be due to her being sad or mentally unhealthy. She simply might not be thinking of her weight right now, due to being preoccupied with her new baby.

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Whelp, I was also skinny (underweight) before my first and in a size 0-2 and gained about 70 pounds and I don't believe anyone said because you are slim to begin with, that it just "falls off" after...it didn't for me, I had to work at it. I don't weight myself, but my size is around 4-6 now...and like you, this is more natural for me than my start weight (because I was underweight before).

I was a skinny woman to begin with and many of my friends were as well....and I don't know anyone who gained weight on top of their pregnancy gain, after the birth, unless there was some serious depression or eating issues. So, I'm not sure this is what a skinny woman looks like after kids.

If you look at what she looked like when she was pregnant, there seems to be a very large weight gain in my face and body. Again, I have NO problem with that, outside of worry for her mental health. What I'm not sure I like is saying that this is the "norm" after four months, to gain. While I understand the urge to have more images of "realistic" looking new mommies out there to combat the "unrealistic" craziness of most celebrities...I'm not sure praising her for gaining weight on top of the pregnancy weight, after birth is not any better than idolizing celebrities for shedding it so fast it is unhealthy. Both do not seem healthy to me.

I hope she has no probs losing it, it sucks to be under the gun having to lose weight to work. I should know, I had to do the same...without her money or huge career (compared to mine).

I have to say though, going back to the gym to take care of yourself after you've had a child is not about making anyone feel like a frump, it is about making sure you stay healthy and as happy as you can given the stresses of motherhood.

She doesn't look all that happy to me...this is the first photo of her in public in four months. She hasn't been in public in four months....when I'm feeling happy about myself I don't tend to hide in my house. Of course, how can you really tell from a photo anyway.

"Others who don't have nature on their side and actually want to enjoy being a mother come under fire for being lazy."

As well, is enjoying being a mother exclusive of exercise or eating well? I thought taking care of yourself helps you enjoy being a mother more? Did someone call her lazy? I know I didn't.

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Um...As one of those "naturally slim" people...



I was 97 lbs pre baby (5'8" tall). I gained 70 lbs during my first pregnancy, and about the same during my second.



After my kids, both of them, I looked like this! No, the weight doesn't just "fall off" even if we're naturally slim to begin with!



After my first, I was able to lose 20 lbs easily, and finally, just as I got pregnant with my 2nd, I was back at my target weight of 120. (being underweight to being with, and never being able to gain until I got pregnant, I figured I'd take advantage and keep a few extra pounds) So, when pregnant with my second, gained about the same...and was only able to lose down to 150 lbs in the first year.



This is what a skinny woman looks like after 2 kids!



LOL...I think that she'll have no problem losing, once she's in the mood to, but seriously? I'm glad that she didn't hit the gym to make the rest of us feel like frumps.



Besides that, she's looking pretty happy to me

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Everyone carries post baby weight differently. For some it's have a baby and the weight is gone. Others, especially in the celebrity world, are on diets and training regimes throughout the pregnancy and then hit the gym the minute the baby is out. Others who don't have nature on their side and actually want to enjoy being a mother come under fire for being lazy.

Aishwarya Rai is another who is being criticized for post baby weight gain.

My only criticism of Bryce would be the wardrobe. Surely there are more attractive tracksuits that a person in her position could afford....

Mrs. - posted on 05/16/2012

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Heather, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't say much...but I'd be worried. I'd probably offer to watch the little one so she could get out for a walk or offer to go grocery shopping for her or something. There are ways to support and nudge a person into speaking about their worries and problems without saying, straight out, that you are worried about their weight. That's what good friends do.

So are you saying, that it is the norm to actually gain weight, without any excess eating or lack of activity, after you give birth? I can understand if someone continued to eat like they were pregnant and didn't try to increase with moderate activity, that would put on weight...but unless there is some other health issue, it seems a bit out of the norm, in my life experience.

I don't doubt that what happen to you, did happen to you. I'm just not sure it is the norm.

My concern is not so much about her individual case (although I worry for her and hope if she does have PPD again, that she is able to get the proper help...with her money I'm sure she would have access), but with people setting this up as the "norm" example and slamming the unhealthiness of those people who slim down in a crazy amount of time. I think both are not healthy examples and neither should be hailed as something to aspire to. I'd much prefer to hail someone who seemed to lose it at a moderate pace and was not embarrassed by the process.

This doesn't mean I think any woman should be slammed for their bodies after giving birth, I'm just not sure this is the example to aim for.

Lady Heather - posted on 05/15/2012

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I'd have been pretty fucking pissed if one if my friends approached me about concerns with my weight when my kid was that young. I get what you are saying, but I still think its too early. I am telling you, I lost nothing after having the kid and gained some weeks. It was nuts. And I didn't even have time to eat. I spent all day feeding the baby and trying to entertain the toddler. It wasn't my doing and I'd have been offended by the suggestion that there was sone thing wrong. Actually mostly I'd just be sad that people were noticing how fat I was. My Christmas pics this year...holy crap. Did not need someone to point that out to me.

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I know people who used to be size 6-8 and now their kid is 4 -5 and they're still size 16-18 and staying home eating and I honestly don't think that it's post natal depression if it goes that far it's general depression. I worry about the health and mental state of someone with one child who goes to daycare who can't seem to figure out how to live aka take kid to daycare, clean, find time to look after themselves.

Mrs. - posted on 05/15/2012

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That quote was from her experience with her first child, not this present child.


But, yes. I agree that is probably what she is doing, staying at home and eating. That's why I'm not sure this should be hailed as a "normal" for women after four months post birth. I don't think the celebrities that take a few weeks to take it off are a good example either.

To me, I see someone who is struggling and probably not taking care of herself. I'm not sure that she is "doing what feels best".

If she was a friend, who I saw gained a large amount of weight after baby - I would worry about her health. I wouldn't use her as an example of "normal" or "natural" weight gain for a mother. Generally speaking, most people lose some weight after delivery, they don't gain. Like I said, if she was a friend...I'd be concerned.

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I think this is realism. " 'I felt I was failing at breast feeding. My house was a mess.



'I believed I was a terrible dog owner. I was certain I was an awful actress,' she revealed in the heartfelt confession.

But she said she overcame her depression with the help of friends and family, including her famous father, Hollywood director Ron Howard." " 'I...feel deep gratitude for those who stood by me, for the lesson that we must never be afraid to ask for help.'





Haven't we all felt like that? Some people gain weight after kids and have post partum depression and stay home doing nothing and eating. I do anyway.

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I gained 60lbs with my first and never lost it. Thankfully I've only gained 20lbs with this second baby and I only have two months left so hopefully I won't be any more than 210 when this one is ready to pop (that's how much I weighed with my first). Then my ass is going to the gym every day because the college gym is covered in tuition w00tw00t xD

I think that's reality. It's hard to lose weight for most people, especially when they've just had a baby! And if she's paying more attention to her kids than herself, then yeah, she's going to keep that weight on her, and there's nothing wrong with that. After I had my daughter, I didn't care, I just figured out how to take care of a baby and didn't worry so much about the weight. People shouldn't care so much about what "celebrities" look like after they've had kids. Most of them lose the weight through unconventional means so yeah, to see someone not give a shit about the limelight and what it does to their image, it's nice! Refreshing!

And she lost the weight once, I'm sure she can do it again, and that makes me feel good about losing the weight for myself because I know it can be done!

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Poor girl...going through ppd is hard enough without such a sudden, huge weight gain on top of it...It must be wreaking havoc with her self esteem :(

Krista - posted on 05/15/2012

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WAS she "naturally slim", though? I think that a lot of "naturally slim" celebs actually work like frigging dogs in order to maintain an acceptable Hollywood weight.

I wouldn't call it a positive or negative image. It just is what it is, and I hope that she is emotionally healthy and enjoying her beautiful son. And I hope that people don't give her a hard time about her weight. If she wants to lose the weight, then she will in her own due time.

I DO have to say, however, that it is a bit refreshing to see an actress who did not "bounce back" before the episiotomy stitches were even healed.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 05/15/2012

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Heather, I was the exact same way with both kids.

With my daughter I weighed 105lbs (very underweight for my height) when I got pregnant, when I went into labour I weighed 181lbs. It took a good year but I lost most of it. It came off all on its own. I went down to 125lbs. Over the years, I slowly gained weight, mostly when my husband and I got together (we had a lot of fun drinking and I like the fattening drinks - liquors)

Then when I had my son I weighed 160lbs when I got pregnant, when I went into labour I was 205lbs. Now, 18 months later, I am 148lbs.

I have always been naturally slim (except when I was partying, with my to-be husband, which was self inflicted...sigh).

So, I agree, everyone holds their weight differently during and after pregnancy. It just is what it is. ;)

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 05/15/2012

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I think her baby is soooo cute! I think she is doing what she feels is best. Being a Momma. ;)



Even naturally slim girls, can get fat...doesn't mean she won't take it all off again. Or maybe she won't. Maybe she is going to be a Momma that dedicates herself to her kids and not her image. Her Dad has mega money (she has made enough for herself, perhaps, too), maybe she doesn't care too much about her career right now. Maybe she is going to do "fat" movies next...heheheee



I guess we'll have to see.



I am not gonna judge her, she looks happy.

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