Can moms smoke pot?

Tasha - posted on 06/10/2011 ( 298 moms have responded )

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I know pot is not leagle to smoke, but what about parents who have the right to medical marijuana? Is it different than a mom who is depressed or has anxiety and takes prescription drugs? Or having a few glasses of wine? Do you think a parent can be under the influence of any of these and still be functioning at a level to take care of kids? I dont want to upset anyone who may need medication for an illness, its just there is a big medical marijuana debate in the state i live, and it sparked this question for me. What are your thoughts or experiences?

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Tara - posted on 06/10/2011

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Yes moms can smoke pot. Whether it's for recreation or medical reasons, I have no issue with it.

That's not to say moms or dads etc. should smoke pot in the presence of children.

But I can parent when I'm under the influence of pot, wouldn't parent under the influence of more than a drink or two.

It's not a hallucinogen, it's not a psychotic nor is it physically addictive. It produces a mild high and has tremendous medicinal properties, has been shown to reduce the size of some types of cancerous tumours and alleviate many symptoms of illnesses and disease.

It can be grown without altering it's natural state and can be used without processing. Every living creature on earth has endo-cannabinoid receptors in every cell in their bodies. This medicine has been around for a long long time.

No biggie to me.

Kylie - posted on 07/19/2011

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Wow, i didn't know that Sherri. That is messed up, sad and funny at the same time. Especially when you see that heart disease is the number 1 killer in America and obesity and diabetes is epidemic but it’s legal to sell “food” with obscene amounts of calories and saturated fats. It’s legal to buy guns from walmart but you can go to jail and lose your children for growing a plant. I guess as long as it's taxable and the corporations can control it, then its fine and dandy. Sick people and incarcerated people are big business in the US, so i guess i shouldn’t be surprised that cannabis is considered equal to heroin and ecstasy.

Tara - posted on 06/10/2011

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@Dyan,
Being under the influence of pot is not the same as being drunk. There is a HUGE difference actually. Physically, Mentally and Emotional.
Many people who take pain killers on a regular basis, or who are on anti depressants, anti anxiety medications etc. are at more risk of side effects than someone high on pot. Not to mention death.
Do you know how many US citizens die each year due to medically approved and prescribed medications? Tens of thousands each year, do you know how many people die from smoking pot? None, ever.
The difference in physiological response in the body between alcohol and pot is significant. One is a depressant one is a stimulant.
I have anxiety, I have been prescribed anti anxiety medications, if I take one, it relieves my anxiety, but it also leaves me incapable of dealing with life, can't make dinner, hang out with the kids, take them anywhere, teach them anything, or basically function at all: I feel brain dead.
I can smoke a puff from a pipe and feel the same relief of symptoms without any of the side effects, actually the only side effect to the relief of my anxiety is a pleasant mellow buzz... not to bad and much better than all the aforementioned other side effects from the big Pharma company.
And I can function around my kids just fine when I'm high by the way, no problems at all, never have had any. Always capable of reacting to an emergency, always attentive and willing to assist them and teach them and play with them.
And so often our perception of things is clouded by one or two personal experiences or worse than that, the media.
Pot is not an evil drug, it does not leave most people incapable of parenting their children any more than aone or two glasses of wine makes you incapable of parenting yours.

Krista - posted on 06/10/2011

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My thoughts are that IF you are currently the primary person responsible for your child, that you should not be impaired in any way.

Anti-anxiety drugs or antidepressants are a bit different, in that it is the initial condition, not the medication, that is causing the reduction in function.

So, with regards to medicinal marijuana, if your condition is so severe that you are actually LESS impaired under the influence of marijuana, then so be it. But as a general rule, I think that anybody who is going to be impaired in any way should ensure that someone else is there to be sober and available in case anything happens. So if I feel like having a few glasses of wine, my husband will stop at one. Or vice versa. I never want to be in a situation where there is nobody in my house who has their wits about them sufficiently enough to deal with an emergency.

Charlie - posted on 07/19/2011

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Patricia for someone who is so against marijuana and claims the people who use it are some form of inferior humans you sure have the ability to make yourself sound absurd , you make little sense , you lack the ability to debate with intelligence and your posts contain nothing of value that contributes to your side of debate ...please if you want people to not smoke marijuana , if you are the shining example of what a non pot smoker is than do your side of debate a favour and not type a word , reading it kills more brain cells than a single puff of a joint .

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Caroline - posted on 07/16/2012

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My husband and me both used to smoke pot until our five year old caught us and kept asking if she could smoke some

Laura - posted on 08/14/2011

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Up against alcohol.. Pot smoking as long as it is not done in front of the kids is just fine in my books.. Its illegal and shouldnt be.
Alcohol.. OMG, how many grown ups have had alcoholic parents and got treated so bad.. THAT should be illegal!

Jessica - posted on 08/11/2011

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0.0 ummm... I don't smoke pot, and I never have. I occasionally (about once a week), go outside and smoke a cigarette... but no pot... but I have a neighbor who sometimes smokes pot.

She is nicer and a better mother when she is "high" on pot so... when it helps her illness I think "maybe they should just make it legal" and then I think "then they would have to not be greedy". The meds they put people on are more harmful. I hold nothing against pot smokers, in fact, If I didn't break out in hives every time I got a "whiff" of second hand stuff, I might have considered trying it... but nope.

I just think this is a bit "off" but... we should just stop judging each-other as parents and... let each one do what works for them, minus some special cases involving abuse(actual abuse, not fluffy 'abuse' that some people cry out when one disciplines a child... and trust me... they do call it out). I don't know... maybe it's just me... but... doesn't it get tiresome judging and forming opinions about every parent or group of parents you see?*this is to the ones that do, I am too tied to specify too much, I am about to go to bed*... I dunno...oh well... nighty night.

Mrs. - posted on 08/07/2011

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I think that's why I like any tour that takes me under a city, you know like in Edinburgh....all basement smell all the time.

Mrs. - posted on 08/06/2011

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I actually dig the smell of moldy basement...even though I'm allergic to it.

Johnny - posted on 08/06/2011

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I love the smell of Liquid Paper. But it just gives you a nasty headache.

Meghan - posted on 08/04/2011

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Pot has been decriminalized in some states, for example, here in Massachusetts if you are caught with under an ounce it is simply a $100 fine, you basically just get a ticket. I myself haven't smoked pot in a long time, but it affects different people differently. I used to actually smoke rigth before cleaning my apartment because I found it actually helped me focus more. I also do not believe all the stuff about Pot being a gateway drug, I know many people who smoke or have smoked pot who have never touched another drug. i agree with those who have said you should not smoke in the presence of your child, if i did smoke it would be outside, away from my children, as with cigarettes, i have yelled at my ex for smoking with my infant (now 4 yrs old) daughter in the room.

LadyJane - posted on 07/28/2011

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1. Cigar smoke isn't as bad as Pot. My grandpa used to smoke cigars when I was real little.



2. My son is actually allergic to smoke, including BBQ so regardless have to be kept away from it. At least far enough where the smell is undetectable. If my neighbor were smoking a cigar, my son will immediately be brought inside the house. All windows and doors closed and not allowed back out until the smoke is gone... That also goes for cigarette smoke. The nicotine (sp?) alone has been declared a drug which is why smoking cigarettes is considered an addictive substance as well.

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i smoke what you guys in the states call pot lol and my boy is 20 months! i smoked it before i had him (strong stuff) but then when i was pregnant and breast feeding i quit!! i found i was so stressed all the time ( just like all mothers) and never relaxed. i even started to resent being a mum!! i love my boy please don't get me wrong, its just that i never took a step back to recharge and always felt like a bad mother!!! my friend told me she switched the type of weed she smoked to naturally grown stuff, very mellow!! so when zach got to about 9 months i would have a spliff (joint) after i put him to bed!! i can honestly say it has done us the world of good because he can now grow up like a normal boy without having his mother trying to stop him from doing everything!! i never used to let him make a mess or get messy or play that much, because i was always wound up so tightly!! now i have a much more relaxed attitude towards everything!! i also find i don't need to go out and get drunk once a week like some of the none pot smoking mothers i know!!! i don't know how the hell they do it???? being hung over and having a toddler is just the worse!!! however i guess they need there time out too!!! so anyway i understand that the people who don't really know about pot and just see it as being illegal, would think its a terrible thing but i just want you to know i believe i am some what of a better mother for it!!! xxxx much love from England!!

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i smoke what you guys in the states call pot lol and my boy is 20 months! i smoked it before i had him (strong stuff) but then when i was pregnant and breast feeding i quit!! i found i was so stressed all the time ( just like all mothers) and never relaxed. i even started to resent being a mum!! i love my boy please don't get me wrong, its just that i never took a step back to recharge and always felt like a bad mother!!! my friend told me she switched the type of weed she smoked to naturally grown stuff, very mellow!! so when zach got to about 9 months i would have a spliff (joint) after i put him to bed!! i can honestly say it has done us the world of good because he can now grow up like a normal boy without having his mother trying to stop him from doing everything!! i never used to let him make a mess or get messy or play that much, because i was always wound up so tightly!! now i have a much more relaxed attitude towards everything!! i also find i don't need to go out and get drunk once a week like some of the none pot smoking mothers i know!!! i don't know how the hell they do it???? being hung over and having a toddler is just the worse!!! however i guess they need there time out too!!! so anyway i understand that the people who don't really know about pot and just see it as being illegal, would think its a terrible thing but i just want you to know i believe i am some what of a better mother for it!!! xxxx much love from England!!

Charlie - posted on 07/20/2011

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Meh* sugar fuels energy that is pretty basic "Refined (processed) sugars may have some effect on children's activity. Because refined sugars and carbohydrates enter the bloodstream quickly, they produce rapid fluctuations in blood glucose levels. This might trigger adrenaline and make a child more active. Sometimes, falling adrenaline levels bring on a period of decreased activity." it is awash with theories and I agree there are other culprits but that just strengthens my point .

Regardless of the culprit the point is that juice , cordial , kool aid , ice cream , lollies give children their first high , the foods they consume react with their bodies be it sugar , colourings , preservatives , MSG they were getting cranked on this long before they knew what a joint was .

Look at chocolate it may not be the sugar but chocolate has certainly been shown to cause change within the body and mind from hypertension to stimulating endorphins and seratonin giving us that warm and fuzzy feeling ( that you can aquire from illegal drugs as well)

Even that first cup of tea , hot chocolate or coffee gave people a buzz most likely long before ever touching drugs.

Charlie - posted on 07/20/2011

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Meh* sugar fuels energy that is pretty basic "Refined (processed) sugars may have some effect on children's activity. Because refined sugars and carbohydrates enter the bloodstream quickly, they produce rapid fluctuations in blood glucose levels. This might trigger adrenaline and make a child more active. Sometimes, falling adrenaline levels bring on a period of decreased activity." it is awash with theories and I agree there are other culprits but that just strengthens my point .

Regardless of the culprit the point is that juice , cordial , kool aid , ice cream , lollies give children their first high , the foods they consume react with their bodies be it sugar , colourings , preservatives , MSG they were getting cranked on this long before they knew what a joint was .

Look at chocolate it may not be the sugar but chocolate has certainly been shown to cause change within the body and mind from hypertension to stimulating endorphins and seratonin giving us that warm and fuzzy feeling ( that you can aquire from illegal drugs as well)

Even that first cup of tea , hot chocolate or coffee gave people a buzz most likely long before ever touching drugs.

Mrs. - posted on 07/20/2011

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Whelp, I gotta tell you it was way worse withdrawal to cut sugar completely out of my diet than it was to give up my pot habit. Seriously, I was cloudy headed and felt like I'd been hit by a car for a month.

To elaborate on a quote by Dave Chapelle, quoting Rick James... "Sugar is a powerful drug."

Constance - posted on 07/20/2011

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Addicts don't get phsycally dependent the first time they get high. No matter what the drug is. Addicts get addicted to the feeling they get when the get high the first time. After you get high you want that same exact feeling you got the very first time. It is called "chasing the high." The trick is you never get the same exact high again, and by the time you figure that out you are physically dependent on the drug.

Does the drug still numb the pain you are hiding from? Yes it still numbs but the intense high you get the first time you never get again.

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children get high off of sugar. it is addictive, it is a drug. Its not to hard to understand.
Sugar is a carb, carbs give you energy, when you eat too much, you get too much energy.

Sherri - posted on 07/20/2011

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That is a total myth Feen and has actually been proven.

Contrary to popular belief, studies have shown that there’s little connection between eating sugar and hyperactivity. One study compared a group of normal kids to a group of kids whose parents believed they were sensitive to sugar. Each group followed a different diet for three consecutive weeks. One of the diets was high in sugar, one was low in sugar, and one contained artificial sweeteners like saccharin. After nine weeks the study showed that the different diets had almost no effect on behavior. The supposedly sugar-sensitive kids were just as little affected as the normal kids when they ate more sugar.

Why do kids seem to get so wild when they eat sugary foods?

Scientists think that the culprit may be other ingredients in sweet foods, such as caffeine in things like chocolate and soda. There’s also the excitement of getting a sugary treat. Lots of times things like cake and ice cream are served at parties or other events that get kids excited. Sometimes just the thrill of eating that stuff is enough to get a kid hyped u
http://indianapublicmedia.org/amomentofs...

Charlie - posted on 07/20/2011

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You havent seen a kid spaz out on sugar ??

What children experience with sugar is the effects of it as a drug in their system , it gives people a high and a felling of happiness , it is highly addictive and people experience withdrawl symptoms ..its called " The other white drug" for a reason , children are not immune to this and this is often a persons first high .

Charlie - posted on 07/20/2011

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I know people who took hard drugs who didnt touch pot but I can assure you 99.9% of them had their first high with sugar !

I dont believe in "gateway" drugs I believe in people who are more susceptible certain drugs , I believe personality and the psychology of the person have far more to do with whether a person tries drugs or becomes addicted .

Constance - posted on 07/20/2011

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I don't believe pot is the gateway drug. People who like pot likes it because of the way it makes them feel. It relaxes people when they smoke it. Same as herion. Cocaine, angel dust, methe, and X are stimilates.

I didn't hang with potheads they were too sleepy for me. My sister didn't hang with my crowd because we were wired. You can't compare them in the same form.

Natasha - posted on 07/20/2011

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Pot is not a gateway drug, you got a mind of your own and your the gateway, if your a person who knows once you like something you and get attached then don't try it but if you try it don't blame the pot blame yourself drugs in general don't just fall in your lap, there either prescribed or you go out and get them yourself. You make yourself the addict, and if you can't control it, it's your own fault! I think pot as a gateway is totally crap some people go straight to meth and skip mary jane whats the excuse for that? It's all personal choice and it's all in your control. If you want to point fingers start by blaming the government for bringing all these drugs into the system, people just made it into a profitable resource causing more problems.

Natasha - posted on 07/20/2011

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Pot is not a gateway drug, you got a mind of your own and your the gateway, if your a person who knows once you like something you and get attached then don't try it but if you try it don't blame the pot blame yourself drugs in general don't just fall in your lap, there either prescribed or you go out and get them yourself. You make yourself the addict, and if you can't control it, it's your own fault! I think pot as a gateway is totally crap some people go straight to meth and skip mary jane whats the excuse for that? It's all personal choice and it's all in your control. If you want to point fingers start by blaming the government for bringing all these drugs into the system, people just made it into a profitable resource causing more problems.

Natasha - posted on 07/20/2011

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Pot is not a gateway drug, you got a mind of your own and your the gateway, if your a person who knows once you like something you and get attached then don't try it but if you try it don't blame the pot blame yourself drugs in general don't just fall in your lap, there either prescribed or you go out and get them yourself. You make yourself the addict, and if you can't control it, it's your own fault! I think pot as a gateway is totally crap some people go straight to meth and skip mary jane whats the excuse for that? It's all personal choice and it's all in your control. If you want to point fingers start by blaming the government for bringing all these drugs into the system, people just made it into a profitable resource causing more problems.

Johnny - posted on 07/20/2011

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Also, the prescription drug addicts I have met never seemed to be much for recreational drug use. They generally got addicted after having it prescribed for a medical reason... then things got out of hand. Although, I've noticed a lot of alcohol abuse issues amongst those same people. I do not think addiction issues are as cut and dry as some people like to think, and concepts like "gateway substances" really do not address the root causes in the slightest.

Johnny - posted on 07/20/2011

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I have actually noticed in my circle growing up that the pot smokers and the cocaine snorters/E takers were in kind of separate groups. The pot smokers stuck with pot most of the time, it was the kids who got into the so-called "party drugs" that got into a lot of trouble. There were definitely some people who used being stoned as an excuse to be a lazy bum, but since I went to college after high school and then on to grad school, most of my acquaintances were successful people who also happened to smoke pot. I didn't really hang out with the party/rave crowd too much, but they weren't much into smoking pot, too "hippie" for them.

Dana - posted on 07/20/2011

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I don't know really, Dmak. I know of people who never smoked pot but, did cocaine and prescription pills. I really don't think ANYTHING is a gateway drug. I think you're either going to try harder drugs or not - regardless of if you've used alcohol or pot.

Mrs. - posted on 07/20/2011

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"I am trying to shed some type of different light onto this forum which I believe has gotten way outta hand.... :-("

Elaborate?

Constance - posted on 07/20/2011

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@Patricia, You are right our system is messed up. Why do we spend so much fighting over legalizing something when murderers go free. Everyone knows she killed her just has the jury knew, but because the prosecution didn't give a good enough arguement she has walked free. Some many other people get away with crimes because too much time is spent on something that is stupid. IMO

Patricia - posted on 07/20/2011

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You know whats really very sad....sitting here thinking about what Sherri shared about the time one can be sentenced and fined for marijuana.....just recently Casey Anthony got away with MURDERING her daughter and premeditated how to do it also....yet people are sentenced time in jail for small quanities of marijuana? Just a thought....Whats up with our judicial system anyways???
I am trying to shed some type of different light onto this forum which I believe has gotten way outta hand.... :-(

Constance - posted on 07/20/2011

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I believe that pot as with any drug should be used with care. You should never get behind the wheel of a car if your mind is altered.If you truelly know how something effects you. There needs to be a legal limit just like alcohol when driving.

If we did legalize pot completetly then the government could tax the hell out of it instead of spending billions of dollars a year on running around trying to arrest people and using the court system. It is all about setting limits and it can be done. However, it should never be smoked around children ever. That is where the problem lies with it being legal. There will always be idiots in this world and no matter how hard we try they will always be idiots. I have known people who won't smoke a cigerette around their children but will smoke a blunt in the same room. That is what gives parents who are responsible about using anything a bad name. The handful of idiots.

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Do you guys think it's a fair statement then, to say that if a person doesn't try pot, they're less likely to try harder drugs than someone who does use marijuana?

Jenny - posted on 07/20/2011

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It's just because it is more common though. It's not any deeper than that. If cocaine was the most widely used drug than it would be called the "gateway drug".

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When I say that pot is a gateway drug, I just mean that it seems to be the drug that everyone starts with. I've never met a heroine user that didn't start with marijuana, BUT that doesn't mean that pot is automatically going to lead to harder drugs.

This is probably a whole other debate though...

Krista - posted on 07/20/2011

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Exactly. Saying that pot is a gateway drug to heroin is like saying that kissing is a gateway to sadomasochism, simply because most sadomasochists were kissed at some point in their lives. It conveniently ignores the fact that MOST people who kiss do not move on to nipple clams and TENS units.

It's much the same for marijuana. Yes, some people who smoke it do wind up using harder drugs. But the vast majority do not. You'd be just as accurate if you said that drinking milk as a baby leads to heroin use.

Rosie - posted on 07/20/2011

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you know this whole pot is the gateway drug bull makes me go nuts. ALCOHOL, is the drug that EVERYBODY i know has tried before they go on to other drugs. every last one of them. and the ONLY person i know to go further than marijuana is my sister. but surprisingly enough her drug of choice, that she can't seem to get rid of.....alcohol.

Sara - posted on 07/20/2011

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So out of honest curiosity, Sherri, do you think alcohol should be illegal as well? All the things you've just mentioned I've seen those and way worse due to alcohol.

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