Can moms smoke pot?

Tasha - posted on 06/10/2011 ( 298 moms have responded )

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I know pot is not leagle to smoke, but what about parents who have the right to medical marijuana? Is it different than a mom who is depressed or has anxiety and takes prescription drugs? Or having a few glasses of wine? Do you think a parent can be under the influence of any of these and still be functioning at a level to take care of kids? I dont want to upset anyone who may need medication for an illness, its just there is a big medical marijuana debate in the state i live, and it sparked this question for me. What are your thoughts or experiences?

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Erin - posted on 06/15/2011

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Patricia, your claims that marijuana has no medical benefits is blatantly false. And that's coming from someone who hates the stuff. I don't like it. I don't like the idea of parents using it recreationally. But I totally support medicinal marijuana.

There's a patient at my surgery dying of lung cancer. He has tried every narcotic (Norspan patches, Ordine, Endone etc) under the sun, and his pain is still out of control. He has now started acupuncture (also done by one of the doctors I work for) because he is out of pharmaceutical options. If the acupuncture doesn't work, he is screwed. Medicinal marijuana is not legal where I live, and it should be. Because without it, it is quite likely people like this man will end their days in unnecessary pain.

Patricia - posted on 06/15/2011

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Marijuana DOES NOT help pain!!!! It's a PROVEN FACT!!! GOOGLE IT for crying out loud!!! Sheesh!!! lol

Patricia - posted on 06/15/2011

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OMG!!! Heavens NoOOo...NooOOOO and NOOooo!!! A parent who smokes pot in front of their children only shows their children to disrespect not only themselves but the law!!! Good grief!!! And anyone who CLAIMS to smoke it for medical purposes......GiveMeaaaaaBREAK!!! It's an excuse to continue your expensive brain cell killing habbit!!! All I'm saying...............!!!!!!

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So instead of teaching my children about responsible drinking i should just shelter them from everything right? Ok gotcha. Will do.

Jodi - posted on 06/14/2011

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Ah, Jessica. Hope you never fall of that high horse, because methinks it will be a hard fall. It is so easy to sit up there and make blind sweeping judgements......

I actually don't use pot. I can't stand the stuff. Even just the smell of it makes me ill, but there is history in the reasoning for that (long story). But a glass of wine or two over dinner in front of my kids? Are you for fucking real?

Stifler's - posted on 06/14/2011

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Haha Jessica you sound like my mum "ALCOHOL IS THE DEVIL" . They never drank in our house but guess what.... I had about 20 standard drinks during the week and 20 on the weekend by age 19. You can't control everything your children do by telling them it's bad and disgusting.

Constance - posted on 06/14/2011

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Jessica I agree with Tara. I respect your opinion but to jump to conclusions about everyone who does things differently. I have a severely damaged back so I have to take several perscriptions to maintain. Most days I can't even stand for more than 20 mins. I have 7 kids I have to care for and without the help of the doctors I would even be able to get up by myself. for me it is the lesser of 2 evils. Without it I can't be a mom at all with the medicine I can still take care of my children. As far as my drinking goes I drink a couple times a year and I am not ashamed to enjoy a drink with friends on a Sunday afternoon. I know my kids won't hide things from me because we are very open with them.
If you read my first post I only agree with pot because of the benifts but not to smoked around a child and not to get stoned out of their minds.

Amber - posted on 06/14/2011

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im disabled and suffer with chronic pain ive been on morphine fenatnyl patches and the side effects of these were so bad there was no way i would be able to care for my then 18 month old son i had to live with my mum til eventually id had enoough and since then ive been on a coctail of pills all with awful side effects ( weve moved to a new home withmy partner who has had to quite work to look after me) i started smoking pot a year ago and i can function so much better on that then my prescribed medication i feel almost like a normal person i do think every person reacts in theyre on way to certain things. i dont beleive people should be judged by smoking pot but i know that i would be labeled a bad mum because of it.

p.s i dont drink or go out partying i spend all my time with my son

Tara - posted on 06/14/2011

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Jessica, it's not your opinion that has offended me, it is your delivery and your self-righteous attitude.
Have you ever suffered from chronic pain that isn't relieved by conventional treatment?
Have you ever been through chemotherapy and radiation treatment for cancer?
Have you know some who was wasting away due to AIDS?
If you answered no to any of the above questions, than please stop judging people who use a medicine that works.
You are entitled to your opinion, but when you start telling people that we are disgusting and that we are a disappointment as parents because we take a prescribed medication, that is given to us for specific reasons by a doctor.
As far as I'm concerned I would have a lot less respect for a parent who pops percocet or oxycontin or vicodin or palladol, etc. when their children are present, as I know how addictive they are and how they can mess with you a lot more than pot.
I have respect for a parent who chooses the most efficient treatment with the least amount of side effects to the patient and their family.
How is someone eating a pot cookie, smoking a pipe or using a vaporizer harming you??

Jessica - posted on 06/14/2011

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Yeha, sometimes i come across harsh... I know. but I feel strongly about certain things and can't help i.. we can agree to disagree.. what else is there to do?

Lacye - posted on 06/14/2011

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Jessica, I think that this is one of those subjects that it's better to say, "We'll agree to disagree" because let's face it, you are coming off pretty snobby right now. I don't agree with marijuana use but then again, it's not my place to judge others as you have so obviously done.

Jessica - posted on 06/14/2011

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I stick to my original statement. And i think you are even worse if you drink or smoke in front of your child, let alone after they go to bed. but like i said, In my opinion. And there are plenty of other ways to reduce pain without doing drugs. yes, marijuana is a drug.. but pot smokers wouldnt see it that way because theyre too stoned. And I will teach my daughter what a nasty disgusting habit it is to do those things, and not hang around people who do. Just like me. If I am judgmental for wanting to be around sober people than so be it. in my opnion, once again.

Constance - posted on 06/14/2011

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@ Jessica, I will say that is absolutly the most judgemental thing I have heard in a long time. I enjoy a glass of wine, maybe a bottle of beer, maybe a nice strong mixed drink, or even a shot of whiskey. It doesn't qualify me or the majority of people disgusting or bad parents. I drink in front of my kids. I also have tattoos and piercings does that qualify too. I also have to be on perscription pain pills. My uncle just past away after a 4 yr very painful battle with Pancratic Cancer. If he was smoking pot to ease the pain that is ok with me. Hell I would have gone and bought it for him.
Enjoying something legal is fine as long as a parent is capable of caring for their child, but the majority of us disgusting parents have one maybe two and we are done. If I am a disgusting parent then so be it my kids know better. I will still teach them not to judge someone like you. How about you?

Tara - posted on 06/14/2011

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Yes I would be a much better parent hooked on Vicodin for pain or taking lorazempam when I'm suffering anxiety.
I would be an incapacitated mother who is unable to do anything with my kids, but at least I wouldn't be doing "drugs" lolololol
Do you know how many people die every year due to prescription drugs? Drug treatment clinics admit and treat thousands of people addicted to prescription pain killers every year.
People lose their lives, ruin their families all because of a pharmaceutical drug. Oh and they die, in large numbers every year.
Those things just don't happen with medical marijuana..
Do some research on this 3000 year old drug that has many many medicinal properties and almost no negative side effects. And not one single death attributed to the direct ingestion or inhalation of marijuana.

Krista - posted on 06/14/2011

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"I dont think parents should drink or smoke. both should be illegal. I thkink smoking pot and drinking makes you a disappointment as a parent. yes i said it. i think moms who have a glass of wine to "wind down" are disgusting as well as pot smokers. there is no reasonf or it to be legal."



Hey, even Jesus liked wine. Was he disgusting? :)



"no one needs "medicinal" marijuana".



Yeah, why don't you go tell that to my husband's cousin, who is in a wheelchair with Multiple Sclerosis, m'kay? Why don't you tell that to my friend's dad, seeing as his painkillers for cancer were no longer making a dent in his agony? Oh wait, you can't tell him that. He's dead. And he died suffering because he was unable to get medicinal marijuana, mostly due to the attitudes of people just like you.



It must be comforting to cling to your judgmental opinions, but frankly, your viewpoints are utterly lacking in a little thing called "empathy". If you choose not to drink or smoke marijuana, that is admirable and is totally your prerogative. But to make such nasty statements towards those who do not share your convictions...well, I would rather be a "disappointing" and "disgusting" parent who enjoys a glass of Pinot Noir with my steak, than a parent who is at a constant risk of nosebleeds from the dizzying height of her horse.

Jodi - posted on 06/14/2011

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" i think moms who have a glass of wine to "wind down" are disgusting"

Oh well, chalk me up as a bad parent. Having a glass to wind down now while watching my son bake a cake. Yep, even drinking it in front of him. The horror :O

Charlie - posted on 06/14/2011

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Yeah Jessica because obviously prohibition does wonders to stop it *eyeroll*



"i think moms who have a glass of wine to "wind down" are disgusting as well as pot smokers."





really ? what else gets your goat ?

parents who have "me time" ?

what about parents who take panadol for a headache?

Oh what about the pill ? those horrid nasty side effects surely they couldnt be a "good" parent when affected .



Hell everyone cancel your coffee with the girls it is FAR to stimulating.



Actually marjiuana has many PROVEN medicinal benefits , just be thankfull you haven't had to find that out for yourself.

Stifler's - posted on 06/14/2011

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I dn't have a glass of wine to wind down. I just like the taste, every day. It wouldn't be prescribed to the person if they didn't need medicinal marijuana either.

Jessica - posted on 06/14/2011

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I dont think parents should drink or smoke. both should be illegal. I thkink smoking pot and drinking makes you a disappointment as a parent. yes i said it. i think moms who have a glass of wine to "wind down" are disgusting as well as pot smokers. there is no reasonf or it to be legal. no one needs "medicinal" marijuana. Be a parent and stop doing drugs. IMO.

Tara - posted on 06/13/2011

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It can have negative side effects on growing children, but again no one is suggesting giving kids pot nor are we suggesting smoking it in their presence. Your exhaust fumes from your car or subway ride also linger on your clothing, but are dispersed by wind etc. just like the smoke from my pipe when I smoke in my garden shed and then walk to my home, take off my coat etc.

Carmina - posted on 06/13/2011

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i think even legal marijuana is okay to use. as long as its not taken too far, and if it is there should be someone sober to be around. its no different to having a few drinks, i tihnk its actually safer! but of course the kids should never be able to see you smoke it or smell it on you.

Tara - posted on 06/13/2011

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@Hope, no one has suggested that they smoke pot around their children. No one has suggested that they only smoke pot. Some people eat their medicine. Some use a vaporizer.
And if I have a doctors prescription for medical marijuana, children's services can't do jack shit.
There are a ton of anti-depressants on the market, all of them responsible for at least one death. The clinical trials of these medications are paid for by big pharma, and they allow the trial coordinators to drop anyone from the study in the first 1/3 of the time of the study for any reason without having to include any of it in their final results.
Meaning, when someone in the early part of these trials complains of negative side effects or even dies, that info does not have to be included in their published results.
Marijuana has never killed anyone, there are very few side effects.
It should be my choice to use medicine that works for me with the least amount of negative side effects. Marijuana has been used for more than 3000 years as medicine with phenomenal results and no deaths. None. Ever.
Over doses of iron can kill you,
Contraindications of drugs can kill you,
Unusual side effects can kill you,
Marijuana comes with no list of "possible side effects that require the attention of a physician, as almost ALL prescribed meds do. Why??? Because they know there are no physical side effects of marijuana that can lead to illness or death.
Go, grab a bottle of prescription meds from your medicine chest, look up the contraindications and possible side effects and the number of reported deaths due to that med.
Now I'll find a link to the product monograph available to physician in Canada who prescribe pot and to the pharmacists who dispense it.

Hope - posted on 06/13/2011

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I'm sorry for offending you. I did not call you stupid. But pot does have negative effects on growing children, which is why I posted it.

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Woah Hope, I take a little offense to you saying pretty much that my mother killed my brain cells and compromised my immune system. My Immune system is just fine and I'm not stupid.

Hope - posted on 06/13/2011

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Seriously? The smell and smoke remains around the mom so wherever she is the children/babies are inhailing the second-hand smoke from that. There are many other drugs for depression on the market that the mom can take and not expose her children to pot. Also I think Child Services would not allow it. Why would anyone want to expose their children to pot and its negative effects to healthy children? Its not worth losing children over either by social services or by killing of children's brain cells and damaging their growing immune systems.

Kimberly - posted on 06/12/2011

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oh no my father smoked and so did my aunt. i have absalutly nothing against pot smoking. i ocassionally did it up until i was pregnant. but my dad was impaired to take care of me. and so was my aunt. my dad would smoke to get baked. not just a couple puffs each morning.

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My Parents smoke pot everyday. They were NEVER impaired to be looking after my brother or I.

Jenny - posted on 06/12/2011

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It depends on the person.



When I smoke, I'm not impaired in the sense others would be. I've been smoking for 15 years though so I have a tolerance. I don't hide behind closed blinds and eat cookies. I'm at appointmenst and going for walks and puttering around in my garden. For me, it brings me to a level of calm I wouldn't otherwise have. I conduct my life in the same way any other mother does when I've had some and am equally as capable of handling the unexpected. I am perfectly comfortable being my children's sole caregiver after smoking marijuana.

Amanda - posted on 06/12/2011

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well i personally do not agree with it..i think that u can not take care of children properly while under the influence of anything...if i drink my husband does not so he takes care of the kids...even if i have one or two drinks and its the same if he drinks...same thing for any drugs...except for things like headache pills or things like that but a major perscription that could haze my judgment then my husband watches the kids...even if i feel fine its just to make sure nothing happens...

Sherri - posted on 06/12/2011

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Marijuana I argue has been the cause of many automobile accidents and indirectly the cause of few deaths. So do I agree that it doesn't effect your response time and being able to function the same as being completely drug free NO.

Tara - posted on 06/12/2011

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I'm truly surprised at the number of people who think a mother on pot is unfit to care for her kids. For most people using medical marijuana, the effects of the drug that cause the euphoria are mild to moderate, but not debilitating.
I would sooner be with my kids after smoking a joint than be with them after taking an anti anxiety pill or the anti-depressants I used to take ( had to take at bed time because they made me so loopy).
I have degenerative disk disease in my back, I can take Tylenol 3 with codeine for the pain, but they make me feel spinny and light headed. I can smoke a small puff from my pipe and feel definite relief from my pain without it affecting my balance or thinking abilities.
I can function just fine, I can and have in the past worked in an office while dosed. I can and have been around my children when I was dosed.
If you have never smoked marijuana or eaten it etc. you can't say what it would do to you or how you would feel around your kids.
I would never take vicodin around my kids, but I know someone who does, every day, all the time. She has a prescription for a legit condition. But she is looped up all the time, she doesn't drive or mow the lawn because of it. And her mom watches her kids some days, when she can't.
I have never had a problem, never had an issue, never put my kids in danger etc. etc.
It's different for everyone, but so are the effects of the thousands of prescription drugs that do in fact kill people every year. Marijuana, prescription variety or otherwise has never killed anyone, ever.

Stifler's - posted on 06/12/2011

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I have been against pot smoking in past debates but I would like to question... what drugs DON'T have side effects? Yes recreational drug use is a bit questionable especially being wasted or stoned taking care of your kids but is impaired reaction time, irritability and other side effects of commonly used drugs by mothers any better?

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Sure why not! Should you do it in front of your children or near your children? Absoultely not! I believe this question isnt a matter of should pot be legalized or if its good or bad. But yes pot can infact be legal for medical purposes!

Sherri - posted on 06/12/2011

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No any person that is impaired should not be caring for there children at that time while they are under the influence. I am huge anti marijuana and will not condone under any circumstances a parent using it while caring for there children and I don't approve of medical marijuana either.

Constance - posted on 06/12/2011

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I agree that pot has a lot of good points for medical reasons. I do not think a parent mom or dad should be smoking anything that can alter their childs state of mind. Now if someone uses a vaporizer to get the actual part of pot that treats symptons. Which eliminates the smoke but has the benifts that people need.

I only agree with it if it is for medical reasons. That s the only way it is legal at this point. It still needs to be monitored because just like other drugs if you are using it for realief not to be stoned out of your mind.

Samantha - posted on 06/12/2011

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You can hate me for that or whatever i state, what i have seen and what i have heard. Just cause a person in the timber industry said it was bad doesnt make it so. Remember when they said it would turn you into a suicidal person, or how about a serial killer, is that true? Or how about it would turn you into a child molester, or make you addicted to herion? That never happend to me or anyone else i know.



Its my opinion dont like it i dont care, i love my son and i dont smoke pot but i feel for medical and recreational use its fine, no different than alcohol. Am i saying we should do it while pregnant, no more studies should be done, but they cant since they loose funding.



i just know i wont do anything to loose my son, so i will play by the game.

Samantha - posted on 06/12/2011

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jenn sounds like they where taking away for alot more than marijuana, so dont only blame it on that, they only take them away cause its illegal. No one actauly knows if it hurts or not, personaly i dont think it does.

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Samantha - posted on 06/12/2011

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Really i had a doctor tell me it isnt a big deal since THC is stored in fat cells not lung tissue, plus since its natural it doesnt harm anything. It doesnt cause an addiction and theres ZERO known deaths for it, if its natural and not touched by man made substances. The only studies on it that has shown it killing anything was done on monkeys, however long ago, where a man put them in a chamber and slowly drained them of oxygen.

A woman yet again did a study showing it doesnt hurt babies and they turned out healthy, smart, and socialy better than other children.

I think marijuana should be legal, ive done my homework on it for many years.

Kimberly - posted on 06/12/2011

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i know for me i stopped taking all pain meds for anything. i have pushed thru them now two years of meds free i dont have headaches i heal faster. yes i am 23 years old saying this but i also know when the time comes to need pain meds i will still smoke pot first before using something that i will need for the rest of my life. and when i do start taking pills for pain it will affect me so much different beacuse i stopped taking them completly. any medication no cold meds no fever reducers. and i have had no more than a slight cold for the past two years. and i agree i hate pain meds i would smoke pot responcibly. when my kids are old enough to sleep threw the night and i am no longer breastfeeding and i dont do it to get complelty backed or what ever lol.

Dana - posted on 06/12/2011

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Yes, Jenn, I'm aware that it couldn't be regulated, which is why I said not that I think it *should* be regulated. :) I think I was just having a hard time coming up with the proper word at the time.

Mrs. - posted on 06/12/2011

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The better mom thing comes from a long series of responses in the thread, not just yours.

I'm not assuming that your pain is less than mine, not at all. All I'm saying is that you win no points by pushing through horrific pain on a regular basis because you wish to avoid a meds that might have...if you have already found they have...worked for you. I was speaking in the general sense.

Most chronic pain docs will say that pushing through will only continue or set off a pain cycle. Some people do a lot better if this is cut off at the pass by something, wether it be weed, tylenol, anti-inflammatory med or pain killers. When you cut it off, the pain cycle doesn't have a chance to start and you generally may not need to take more than if you waited or tried to push through. That does not always apply to acute pain and not always to everyone.

I see I upset you, based on you calling me ignorant, or threatening to call me ignorant. I'm sorry that is the case. I was debating your opinion not attacking it. If you thought otherwise, it was not meant that way.

Jenni - posted on 06/12/2011

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What's weird is that when I was a regular pot smoker before I had kids, I never really felt paranoid. But now, when the kids are at their grannies and I have one puff, I start calling to check up on them every hour on the hour. :S

Jenni - posted on 06/12/2011

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I think, just like drinking, there's a time an a place. I quit when I had children for the most part. There is the odd time when we go camping (just my husband and I) or have a date night and there has been the odd time I took a puff recently (now that my daughter is a bit older, I'm done bfing and she sleeps through the night) after the kids are asleep and we're watching a movie.

Honestly, I'd much rather have a puff of marijuana than drink. No hangovers, less impaired and the buzz is gone within an hour or two.

Sure, mom's are allowed to let their hair down as long as they're being responsible with it. I wouldn't see it any differently than a mom who has a glass of wine.



In Canada, the police don't bother people about personal use. It was even decriminalized for a short time.



I don't think there's a problem at all with people wanting to use it for leisure purposes, as opposed to medical purposes. To each their own. I still wouldn't feel right about smoking it while I'm caring for my children but I'm sure there's some moms who do just fine. It isn't the same as being impaired from drinking. It doesn't make you sloppy or anything, just paranoid (which is one of the biggest reasons I don't partake when I'm caring for my kids).

Katherine - posted on 06/12/2011

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Haven't read the other posts but IMO, if you're out with friends why not? As far as RX marijuana goes there IS no precedent set for that. I'm assuming you would use care just like with any other substance that's legal that could cause you to have inhibitions.

Jenn - posted on 06/12/2011

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@Dana S - it can't be regulated who can handle it and who can't, just in the same way that (legal) alcohol is now - some people can handle their booze and some people can't. That's up to the individual to assess their own tolerance.

And I know for a fact that marijuana DOES pass over to the baby. My cousin recently had her kids taken away, because her baby had marijuana, cocaine, and oxycoton found in his system right after he was born. Yep - she's a real gem.

Stifler's - posted on 06/12/2011

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It's phentermine. I was taking it (prescription) for weight loss but it also gives you a lot of energy. It's non addictive legal speed.

Tara - posted on 06/12/2011

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Can I ask why you were prescribed Duromine Emma? I just did a google search and everything I've found says it's a weight loss pill, but from your post it sounds like you were taking it for something else. Do you mind telling me, I'm interested in whether it was prescribed for "off-label" usage for something other than what it's labeled for.
Thanks

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