Sarah - posted on 04/11/2011 ( 205 moms have responded )
Ok, so bear with me, I'm trying to get all my thoughts in order! lol
I've been thinking a lot about c-sections lately, a couple of threads I've seen have me wondering.
I'll start with the fact that I myself had a c-section with my youngest as she was breech. I had a great experience, very little recovery time, got to hold baby straight away etc. I couldn't fault my c-section at all. My vaginal birth with my eldest was the complete opposite! Nightmare, blood transfusions, a week in hospital, took ages to recover.
Anyway, I loved my c-section, BUT once I got home and out and about and people asked me about the birth, the negativity I got for having a c-section really surprised me. Comments like "You took the easy way out then" and "Oh no! That must have been SO awful, you must be SO heartbroken to have missed out on a REAL birth"
It actually made me start doubting myself, wondering if I SHOULD feel all heartbroken, if I HAD been a wimp and taken the easy way out.
I soon got over that though, I realised there actually were other women out there that had enjoyed their c-section, that I had done the best thing for me and the baby and that I wasn't a weirdo! (well, not because of that anyway! haha)
So I'm wondering now if perhaps some women feel bad and depressed about their c-section because it's portrayed as the way you SHOULD feel after one. I wonder if other people paint such a dim view of them, that it leads people to think they're always a bad thing.
I've also noticed that a lot of articles advocating VBAC's, tend to start of with a paragraph or two about some poor women who has has a horrific c-section experience.......why do they need to demonise the c-section to highlight how great VBAC's can be?! Can't VBAC's be great without slamming c-sections first?
I want to add here that I know some women do have bad c-section experiences, just like women have bad vaginal deliveries. I'm not trying to say we should all rush out and have c-sections.
I'm also not against VBAC's or natural births, I think women should have the choices they want.......I just don't get why c-sections have attained such a bad reputation.
Sorry, what a ramble! lol Your thoughts? :)