Veronica - posted on 07/06/2011 ( 20 moms have responded )
So - My 8 year old daughter is a huge helper with the younger children, and so is my 7 year old son -- they are great with helping with chores, playing with the little ones, and helping with a diaper change, or even feeding the one year old.
However, now they think that because they do these things, and are responsible in a lot of ways - that they can also discipline the younger children - they've even gone as far as spanking my 4 and 3 year old!! I discuss with them that my husband and I are the only ones who discipline any of them -- but its not registering -- Im unsure of what to do to make them understand better and leave this up to mom and dad, instead of them taking it into their own hands.
I do not feel that they have too much responsibilities either -- they love playing with and helping mommy care for the little ones - and I have NO problem with them helping out - they are learning great skills for later in life. I just need some suggesstions on how to seperate it being ok to help the little ones, but not go as far as thinking they now have the right or upperhand to take matters of discipline in their own hands --- thanks for any advice or help in advance --