Vegemite - posted on 03/16/2011 ( 22 moms have responded )
I had a conversation with a girl I know about childcare and who should and shouldn't send their kids. She said that mums who don't work in paid work should not send their kids and only do because they want to bludge while someone else looks after their kids. While mums who have to work can't get spots for their children and then miss out on work and the pay they need to help support their family.
I told her I send both my kids to child care even though i don't get paid to work but we have a business and if i worked somewhere else doing the same hours getting paid wouldn't that be the same. She said no because i could hire someone to work. But we can't afford the wages. They go two days a week to a private childcare center. My oldest started going at 22 months just after my youngest was born then the youngest started going at13 months. I originally started sending the oldest because i had depression during pregnancy and after baby was born and just having the break of only one child two days did wonders. Then when they both started it help even more. We applied to many child care centers in our area and it only took a few weeks to get in. If a mum who works needs a spot that my kids fill then my children get moved to a different day, it's the policy of the center that mums who work get priority.
She also said she had only applied to a couple of centers 5 months before she had to get back to work. I asked her if she thought that that was the reason she didn't get a spot, because she didn't apply to enough centers. She said that she only liked two places and wouldn't apply anywhere else and mums who don't work should keep their kids at home.
I told her my boys loved going and learn a lot of things as well as how to interact with other children. Her response was that you don't need child care for that that's what play groups are for. I told I'd tried play groups but couldn't find one where i enjoyed to company of the mums and thought it pointless to cook for the meetings and sit around gossiping about how terrible their privileged lives were and any mothers that didn't show up that week. She told me that my attitude was selfish because i wasn't there for me but so my kids could play with other children. She then proceeded to lecture me on how her tax dollar pays for my kids to go. I told her i wasn't eligible for payments and she insisted everyone was. But we pay more tax in GST than the average yearly wage there for the government considers that we earn too much not thinking that what we earn must go back into the business and at the end of the day we have what any average family does.
She still insists that I'm selfish and just want two days off the bludge and that she and her family are missing out because of that.
What do you all think about this? She has made me completely furious with her. I haven't talked to her since because I don't want to speak badly out of anger towords her.