Child Curfews

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 04/08/2012 ( 22 moms have responded )

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Should young people be subjected to night-time curfews as a way to reduce crime?



Youth curfews are widely used in the USA to keep children off the street at night; a state of curfew makes it illegal to be out of doors between certain publicised times. In the USA over 300 individual towns have passed local curfew laws that vary in detail, but are all aimed at reducing juvenile crime and gang activity. In Britain a 1998 law allowed local councils to impose curfews for all children under ten, although none has yet chosen to do so. In defining the motion the proposition should think about the age groups at which the curfew is aimed, the hours it would operate, the penalties for offenders and any possible exceptions, for example, is it permitted to be out in the company of an adult?




I absolutely think it is a great idea. I have a set curfew for my daughter. She must be in the house by 8:30pm weekdays and 9:30pm weekends. She is going on 14 and I do not see these times changing anytime soon. I am required and responsible for ensuring she is safe.



I know and see way too many young children walking the streets late at night. I have witnessed, on several occasion, children as young as 7, walking the streets at midnight. I always ask myself, "where the hell are their parents and why are they allowing them out this late?".



I think if there was a curfew, those neglectful parents that fail to care what their young child or teen is doing while running around at all hours of the night, would have no choice but to know. The curfew would help protect these children, since their parents are not. Someone needs to help them and give them a sense of security.



I do think it helps with crime. Most crime occurs at night. People like the cover of darkness. Youth crime is growing rapidly.



Some would say this is an infringement on the child's individual rights. That a curfew suggests that ALL children are potential law breakers and should not be underminded as such.



I say, there is no reason for a child to be running the streets without an adult supervisor. What is a reason a child needs to be out alone, after 10pm? I can see mid-teens that work, this should be an exception to the rule. There, of course would need to be other exceptions. Perhaps, a later curfew from age 14 and above.



You can typically tell what they are doing. Whether they are up to no good or are innocently trying to get from point A to point B. However, even then, I would be picking my child up from a late night at work.



Thoughts? Do you think a youth curfew makes sense or is a crock, that would or would not help with youth crime?

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The town we live in has a 10pm curfew for underage children, basically meaning if they're out they need to have an adult with them, if not of course the local police will talk to them if they see them, and I think this is a good thing. You will still have trouble makers, but I think it keeps the other kids safer and gives the local authorities enough power to question why underage children are out after dark when it is less safe. Never had any problem with the curfew myself, I didn't roam the streets that late when I was a kid so I don't think they're being deprived of freedom, they can still be out, just not walking the streets alone.

Jennifer - posted on 04/09/2012

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Many of my friends who were allowed out that late were only out to escape the worse things going on at home. I think a mandated curfew is good in theory, but who's going to protect these kids from the drunk parent, mom's boyfriend, or drug party that is going on in their home??

Sneaky - posted on 04/09/2012

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I'm all for curfews - as long as they are enforced with exemptions for work or school.

Vicki - posted on 04/09/2012

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I have no experience as a parent of a teen... but I have been a teen :) I never had a curfew and it wasn't needed. Instead it was understood that my parents knew where I was and when I'd be home, depending on what I was doing. If I was later than I said I'd be and didn't contact them (only happened once!) I knew I'd really let them down, made them worry and it didn't happen again. When I was out had to be sensible, rarely out late on school nights and only all-nighters at friends houses who they knew. Maybe I was just a goody-two shoes but I was never one to roam the streets or shops, more likely to go to a movie then home, organised activities or hang out with friends at their houses.

Karla - posted on 04/09/2012

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I don't mind them. Where I live they are reasonable, kids can't be out after 11 during the week or midnight on weekends unless they are going to or from work or school.

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Most of the crime committed by school age teenagers are done around when school ends and for a few hours after so I don't think it would make a huge difference in the crime rates

Sophia - posted on 02/21/2014

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Yes young people should have curfew. In my home everyone have some kind of a curfew.. I don't just roll in my home anytime I want.. I have to show respect for rules of being a mom and wife. Everyone respect that we live in a home not the park. So be in at this time. If you are running late please call. This way we stay safe knowing about each other where about.

**Jackie** - posted on 04/10/2012

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My curfew was 9 on weekends and 8 on school nights when I was a kid. On weekends, I either had to be in the house by 9 or call from my friend's house by 9 and she would talk to my friend's mother (obviously there were no cell phones). I plan on doing the same thing but I would rather my kids bring their friends to my house.



I don't think that anything good can come out of a child out on the streets past 10 pm...especially around here. Everything closes by 9:30 pm...what are they doing?

Sherri - posted on 04/09/2012

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Nope not okay with it. Teens are going to sneak out and cause trouble if there is a curfew or not.

Jennifer - posted on 04/09/2012

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My parents never ALLOWED me out that late, but it happened. My parents were sometimes neglectful and sometimes abusive, but I never had to deal with some things. I know that my parents would open their home to any child that had those kinds of problems no matter what time it was. I think they had a sense that told them it was abuse and not just a rebel kid or parents who just didn't pay attention. Of course my parents both came from really abusive backgrounds. I follow their example when it comes to letting kids in. I may never win mom of the year, but several kid's have told me I'm the best mom they ever had.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 04/09/2012

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True, I would hope they could seek comfort in their room, if anything. These are the kids that need to be reaching out and seeking use of the services available to them. Perhaps, trying to stay overnight on weekends at friends homes.



There are always going to be those children that are not only neglected but live in abusive situations. More needs to be readily available for them. However, in a situation where it is just the parents being mindless and not giving a crap of what their children are running around doing or they have never disciplined and set boundaries, a curfew would do good. IMO

Aleks - posted on 04/09/2012

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MeMe... I know that to be the case. I have seen it my self and known of parents like this..... I think that there should be other means in "helping" those kids and/or parents out.. more constructive ways (even though they are usually more expensive ways) in doing it, which I didn't go into in previous post (its very late here and I should be in bed snoring... but instead am catching up on all COM things I haven't been able to for the last few days...lol)

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 04/09/2012

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There are just many parents that have already proven to me that they cannot be trusted to protect their children or do their jobs. I feel bad for those kids. They have no one to tell them "it is time to go home and be safe"... :(

Aleks - posted on 04/09/2012

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I already live in a nanny state.... this type of curfew (legal one that is) would fit in nicely within this state (... rolls her eyes and snarls).

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 04/09/2012

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I was one of those kids that was out all hours of the night. I did not listen to my mother but she didn't try very hard either, she never did anything, really. At 13 I was out until 3-4am, if I came home at all. There were times I didn't come home for 2-3 days, she had no idea where I was.



Honestly, I kinda wish there had been someone, even if it were police or a policing neighbour, to call in on my ass and make me go home.



I was never up to any good. I never vandelised or distructed people's property but I was drunk very often and smoking dope. It just wasn't a good scene for a young teen.



I make sure with my daughter and will with my son, that they have very reasonable curfews, that are enforced. I love and care about them too much. There is no need to be out late, until she is working.



However, there are kids out there that I see frequently, that obviously are growing up in a home such as I did. No one cares enough, no one tries enough. They have been forgotten and have no one to tell them to go home and be safe. This is why I think a curfew is a good idea. Most kids that are cared for, are already inside by then, so it would be prominently reaching out to those that do not have discipline or a caring parent at home.



I do agree, though, that those in their mid-teen would need a later curfew. I would be inclined to say no later than midnight. Since, many do work and are involved in activities. Although, with that said. I would always be picking mine up.



Here in NS, Canada. You can get your license at 16 but you are on a 2 year probation, meaning you cannot be driving after midnight and before 6am. So there is a curfew in regards to driving. This is for any new drivers, though. You could be 30 and first get your license. You too, must undergo the 2 year probation. I think that is a great thing. ;)



ETA: I have had friends of my daughter, age 13, knocking on my door at 11pm, asking if she can come out. My daughter is already in bed by 11pm 95% of the time on weekends, definitely on weekdays. I tell them sternly, that it is way too late for them to be looking for Courtnie.



Seldom but at times I allow her to watch a movie on a weekend night, which may go till 11:30pm. Her bedtime, though, is 10:30pm on weekends and 9:30pm on weekdays. I just wonder how some of these kids even get the appropriate amount of sleep, let alone have adequate parental control to have them inside at a reasonable time.



Honestly, it blows me away. I feel bad for them, since they often feel unsupported and cared for. A few of her friends have said their parents don't care enough for them.....it's so sad.

Stifler's - posted on 04/08/2012

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Yeah I don't know. I lived out of town so I wasn't roaming the streets as a teen and kids here seem to be home before dark anyway it's the older teens that get into mischief vandalising things.

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when i finally started hanging out with people (as a senior in high school, lol) my curfew was be home by 9pm at the latest Monday through Thursday (and usually only if it's something school-related like a play or choir/band concert) and 10pm Friday through Sunday unless we worked out the details beforehand. when i was younger than that, i couldn't go out without an adult and no one in my family ever wanted to go anywhere, lol.

Lady Heather - posted on 04/08/2012

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It's sad that it even needs to be considered. You would think it would be common sense for such young kids. I've seen the 10 and unders out alone late though. :(.



I actually object to blanket curfews for teens though. I was out quite late frequently on the weekends because of work. I did catering for weddings and held a weekly gig with my band at a local restaurant. The hours were usually not within the standard curfew and once we could drive the parents were happy to let us make our way home. I just think a lot of kids at that age are actually quite responsible and they needn't be punished for the wrongdoings of others. My band jobs in particular were quite irreplaceable experiences, and not just because that's where I fell in love with my husband.

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A curfew never worked for me as a teen. I constantly broke it and was the trouble maker out of the 3 of us! But right now my son's curfew is to come home at dinner time. In the summer, it's "come home when it's dark". But he's right across the street playing with his friends and I usually just walk over there.

Janice - posted on 04/08/2012

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Well when I was a rebellious teenager a curfew would have made me so mad but now as a parent I'm all for them.

Dove - posted on 04/08/2012

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I don't have teens yet, but the only time my kids are out after dark is if they are at an adult chaperoned activity... and are driven home.



I don't know what our curfew will be as teens yet. I'll have to decide when we get there. Your times sound fairly reasonable to me though.



I want to say there isn't a reason for kids to be wandering the streets at night except for trouble, but then I remember a night that my friends and I walked a mile from one friend's house down to the store and back. No trouble involved.... and it had to be around 10pm. ;)

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