child massage

Jen - posted on 03/08/2012 ( 34 moms have responded )

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A healthy practice or teaching bonding and destressing your child, or not appropriate?

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Stifler's - posted on 03/08/2012

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I think baby massage is good. I've never thought of kissing my kids, cuddling or giving them massages with baby oil on their abdomen and arms and legs as 'inappropriate'. We learnt baby massage at mother's group (run by Queensland health) where a massage person came in and taught us tricks to help alleviate teething, constipation etc.

Johnny - posted on 03/09/2012

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We learned baby massage in our newborn drop-in program at our local health care centre. I still give my daughter massages when she needs comfort or she's sick. Some cultural groups have felt the need to distance ourselves from our natural ways as much as possible, I suppose a hold over from Victorian-era beliefs. I think that most western societies are moving past that, but it will take longer for some groups than others.



My mother was raised without any physical affection. She suffers from depression. Out of her 5 siblings, none of them are mentally "okay". My grandmother was orphaned soon after birth and was raised by a series of governesses. I don't think she knew how to be affectionate with her kids, but now that she has the wisdom of the intervening years, she can see the damage it did to them all. Both my mother and my aunt made a purposeful decision and discussed how important it was to show us affection, both physically and verbally. None of us have ended up with the emotional problems of the previous generation.



So when I hear about parents who think it is wrong some how to be physically affectionate, it just makes me feel very sad deep down inside.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 03/09/2012

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What, someone out there thinks it is inappropriate to kiss their kids!! Whoa... Those poor kids. That is a part of the bonding process. Good thing she doesn't know me, she would think I was really weird. I can kiss my lil' guy 100 or more times a day! LOL My girl, maybe once or twice a day - on the head - she is too old for that now, she says. *eye roll*



Anywho, I think kid massage is probably great. Especially baby massage. I did a bunch of reading on it after I had my son. Needless to say, I was too scared to do it, other than on his legs or arms. I was worried I may do it wrong and hurt him... sigh...



They say it helps for many things. From stomach issues to growth spurt cramps back to easing digestion and blood cirulation. I wish I would've went to the courses they held in my area. I was just too damn tired and lazy after having my boy (and it was winter by the time he was old enough), that I couldn't pull myself together to go... :(



I say if you learn how to do it properly for a baby 2 months and older, go for it! They would probably LOVE it.

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My goodness....I don't think I could go a full day without kissing my lil' guy!



J gets massages. I've done them since birth. I get a Swedish every other week, my masseuse taught me this massage movement to use on J when he was an infant that is supposed to relax him and help him sleep. It didn't help him sleep, but it did relax him and he still enjoys it. And NOW it helps him sleep too :)

Elfrieda - posted on 03/08/2012

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You don't know what? That it's weird? It's weird to me, but like I said, not necessarily wrong. It depends on context.

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Lisa - posted on 04/19/2012

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I love to massage my kids and they massage each other or even mom *lucky me right?* :D. Usually they strip down, and i rub them with some therapeutic oil *meadowfoamseed*, along with light scented candles. It's fun rubbing those little feet, and doing karate chop massages on their butts hehe :).

Jennifer - posted on 04/19/2012

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I was not raised with physical affection, and it makes me uncomfortable after the kids are a little older, so they are missing out, too. At least with me. As babies I loved and massaged and tickled and held, as they grew it slowly stopped until I was just hugging my teens. My husband rubs and tickles, and kisses and holds them. I hope that gets them past my limits as a parent. At least it seems to, our 16 year old will still crawl up into his lap when she has a really bad day.



I know that many people veiw any touch by an non-parent adult as bad. I disagree, even if I can't do it. Many of my students need touch to help themselves calm down. Even autistic kids who *hate* to be touched can be given scalp rubs or hold hands. People are silly and think about sex way too much!!

Michele - posted on 04/18/2012

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Actually I think now that she is 15 she could go alone with my permission. I could also sign off to let her have a male therapist but she would kill me.



That said, we enjoy the time anyway.

Jen - posted on 04/18/2012

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Really? Most spas i have gone to allow the parent to sign off on it. Odd they are that restrictive.

Michele - posted on 04/18/2012

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I did massage with my infants and now my daughter and I get a regular "couples massage". She is too young for the spa to allow her to get one on her own. She just turned 15. They also won't let her have a male therapist - not that she would want one ;)

Crystal - posted on 03/15/2012

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Everyone should be encouraged to massage their children at any age. Not only is it a bonding activity, massage has been proven to help with self-esteem, mental focus, and a variety of other physical and emotional benefits. I love doing massage stories with my pediatric clients and encouraging their parents to continue it at home.

Mother - posted on 03/09/2012

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My daughter isn't little anymore but I always rub her little feet for her and rubbed her legs . Now.....we rub one another feet with lotion after we've both had our bath and shower.



Can't kiss our babies?? How absurd. I kissed my baby all over and pretended to eat her toes and fingers. Stole her nose and fluberted her belly. (blow a raspberry on her belly)

Krista - posted on 03/09/2012

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I agree krista, but in her view only couples kiss and its not appropriate affection for parents and kids.



Poor kids. That's really messed up. I LOVE kissing my little boy, and yes, I kiss him right on his perfect little smoochy lips. He puckers up like a tiny baboon, and how on earth could I refuse? That silly, silly, sad woman. She's really missing out. She probably also thinks it's "inappropriate" for a parent to nom on her baby's toes, or bellybutton, or that delicious little armpit chub that they have when they're about 4 months old.



Not kissing a baby...imagine!!!

Corinne - posted on 03/09/2012

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I did a baby massage course with both my babies and never thought that anyone would deem it inappropriate. Both of them loved it and still, at 5.5 & 3.5 yrs old will ask for a 'rub' when they're out of sorts.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 03/09/2012

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I know what I would like to massage on my teen, sometimes! Her brain! Oh my goodness, she is soooo "out there" sometimes... LOL Gotta love her.... It's all a part of being a parent though. I may make it through with only half my hair going grey, save the other half for when my son is a teen... ahhhh....

Jen - posted on 03/09/2012

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Oh i give my kids massages a few times a week meme :). You should kiss your teen more for the embarrassment factor hehe ;).

Jen - posted on 03/08/2012

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I agree krista, but in her view only couples kiss and its not appropriate affection for parents and kids.

Krista - posted on 03/08/2012

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LOL i have a friend who doesn't think they should kiss their kids vicki.



That's fucked up and sad.

Jen - posted on 03/08/2012

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i don't know elfreda i know full body massages are normal in a lot of countries, india being a prime one. And even then you are still covered up.

Elfrieda - posted on 03/08/2012

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I can't even imagine someone saying massaging your child is inappropriate... maybe they have something else in mind than what I think of when I hear "massage". I constantly massage my husband's shoulders or my son's head, or lightly scratch his back or palm of my son's hand to make him squirm. Basically, if they're in arms reach, I'm touching them. How could that be inappropriate?



Maybe they're thinking naked older child with massage oil, etc. That's kind of weird, but not necessarily wrong. But kids don't need massages like that like we do. Don't you remember as kids asking, "Why are you stretching before we play?" "Well, so my muscles don't get sore." "Sore? You mean like a bruise?" "Er... no."

Vicki - posted on 03/08/2012

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Society is screwed. A mother touching their baby is natural, not sexual at all. Next it'll be said we can't hug or kiss them.

Jen - posted on 03/08/2012

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Anytime you touched your childs body esp their bare skin people will say it is not appropriate. I will agree scalp massages are just wonderful :)

Krista - posted on 03/08/2012

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Why wouldn't it be appropriate? It's not erotic massage we're talking about here -- just gently stroking and relaxing your child. I didn't do it a whole lot, because my kid is ticklish as hell, but I often massage his scalp to relax him -- my mom used to do it to me, and I remember just loving it.

Vicki - posted on 03/08/2012

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I can't imagine why it wouldn't be appropriate? Touch is so important to a baby's development. I didn't do it much as it was cold when ds was born and we don't have heating, but it's lovely.



Agree I would like one too!

Firebird - posted on 03/08/2012

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Screw child massage, I need a massage! lol jk I think it can be a great way to de-stress a child and of course there's a bonding experience... I fail to see how a any massage (for adult or child) done right could be inappropriate.

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