Co-sleeping...good or bad?

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/13/2011 ( 192 moms have responded )

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Ok, so if you DO co sleep, when is it appropriate to stop? If you don't do it, why not?

I fear the older a kid gets, the more likely they will not be able to sleep on their own if they do co sleep. Opinions on the matter?

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I was honestly more worried about tummy sleeping than co-sleeping. When I was able to put my son down (becasue he only slept ON me) he was way more at a peaceful sleep on his tummy. Well every time I attempted to place him on his back or side he just wailed. On his tummy, a peaceful sleep. Those were the times I was able to place him in the co-sleeper, or at least have hubby sleep in the guest bed. 6 years later my son still prefers sleeping on his tummy! And yes, in our bed too! Last night he wandered in around midnight.

Rosie - posted on 05/15/2011

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i feel that by saying it's a motherly instinct to not to it (rolling on their babies and suffocating them) is kinda insensitive to those mothers that HAVE done it. are we prepared to say they DON'T have any type of motherly instinct in them?

MY motherly instinct told me they needed to sleep in their own bed, and I needed to sleep in mine. my motherly instinct also told me that they needed CIO to help them sleep. i hate it when the whole "motherly instinct" crap is used as a reason against peoples choices. my babies needed to sleep, so i helped them learn. that's MY motherly instinct. yours may be different. :)

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Simple Laura, those mothering instincts don't prevent a lot of women rolling onto their babies when in a deep sleep. I rolled onto my pregnant belly a lot when I was first pregnant. That only stopped, not because of some mammalian instinct but because my belly was so huge, I couldn't do it at all.

Just because we are mammals doesn't mean we are meant to do anything except produce live young (as opposed laying eggs), produce milk, are warm-blooded. I don't think it's a smart idea to emulate too many mammals as I have no desire (on most days) to devour my young when times are bad. Lionesses will allow a new pride leader kill her youngest litter of cubs. Certain primates carry their babies by the leg.

But that's a bit beside the point.

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Not to me Jean, it was perfectly natural to me to have him in his own crib and me in my own bed.

And I have to ask, why does there seem to be a problem with any "Western idea" vs Eastern?

Merry - posted on 05/15/2011

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I don't worry about suffocating my baby, I have mothering instincts that kept me from rolling onto my pregnant belly, why now would I not be able to control myself and not roll onto my baby?
Sleeping with your baby in your arms is what we as mammals are designed to do.

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Gosh after mths of no sleep for both of us.I could not believe how bad i was esp my baby with lack of sleep.When we were getting sleep, my baby was taking her feeds again so well.She was happy and content.
I was not confused or forgetful and i was able to begin to eat again and it felt great.Sleep deprivation is not good, it went way beyond that for us.Some days i could not follow or take in a conversation.It was awful.I guess each to there own.I respect all of your views, i don't necessarily agree but i understand were there coming from :-)

Penny - posted on 05/15/2011

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I have slept with all 3 of my babies, spesh when they were first born. I never did it everyday, more like a couple of days a week til they were like 3/4 months( at the rolling around on their belly stage) I then felt safer with them being in their own beds wiggling around :) haha. But I mean it can't be that bad, as everytime I was in hospital after giving birth the nurses there showed me a way of breastfeeding on my side to allow the baby to feed off me and allow me to get a bit of rest.

Mel - posted on 05/15/2011

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no not really, I would never want to risk suffocating my baby, and also getting more tired myself form having to try and keep a baby safe. The times I did do it was such a broken horrible sleep because your worried about your bub, so no definately does not make more sense to me and I definately dont think its cold.

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I think it's a very Western idea with the bassinets vs. bed sharing and kids being in their own room and it being bad for their independence to sleep in their parents room etc.

Jenn - posted on 05/15/2011

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Yeah, to state that babies should be in a cot or basinette
from day one just seems cold to me. Doesn't it seem to make more sense to keep your baby with you? Seems more natural to me and it's mostly a western thing to be of the mind-set that babies should be in their own bed.

Mel - posted on 05/15/2011

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@ Karen no your not reading it wrong, I honestly dont know anyone (apart from on here) who co sleeps and I dont feel its something that is safe or good for a child. I think that parents who do this, do it for themselves not thinking of thier babies, but this is just my opinion and based from what I see with others also, its definately not the norm where I come from which is why I never ever considered doing it. You can keep your baby safe with them next to you in a basinette or by sleeping in thier room on the floor or a matress, or by having a baby monitor. We got the very best one we could find (for a price) and that keeps me at ease at night with my 9 month old. I can see what shes doing and that shes safe

Stifler's - posted on 05/14/2011

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I am all for it, whatever helps you get a good night's rest. Kids are pretty adaptable too well mine was, I've changed his routine heaps and he gets used to it after 2 days. He's gone from bassinet to cot to toddler bed and recently he's been going in my bed at 5am so we can cuddle and sleep and some mornings he doesn't.

Jenn - posted on 05/14/2011

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My four year old son sleeps in our room with us every night, he has his own room and bed but he just likes to fall asleep and snuggle in our bed. I don't have a problem with it but i do admit that he is getting a little to big for it. I am going to be starting to move him into is own bed as he starts school soon and i want him sleeping in his own bed when he starts kindergarten. We also have a 20mth old daughter, she sleeps in our room as well but in her own bed, although she will occasionally crawl in our bed in the middle of the night if she wakes up, she rarely stays there though, she just likes stretching out in her own bed. The funny thing though is i never co slept with them when they were babies, they would sleep in my bed during feedings until they fell asleep but i would always put the back in their own cribs. However they both slept in their bassinet/crib in my room as babies. My son only started seriously co-sleeping with us at around 2 yr old. But like i said my goal is to get him in his own bed by kindergarten. I should also not that i only have a 2 bedroom house at the time so that is why y daughter sleeps in our room. Half of our bedroom is set up for her decorated and everything. I am considering putting them in the other room together but am hesitant because they are boy and girl. But i have read about it being done and working out, i have even saw an adorable bedroom idea in a magazine (I believe it was Today's Parent or Family Circle) for a boy and girl sharing, with gender neutral colors. It was really cute actually, the little boys pillow had the little man symbol you see on bathroom doors and the girls pillow had the girl symbol (you know the stick person with the skirt). It was too cute.

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@Mel "Babies should be in a basinette or cot from day 1, with parents in the same room for at least the first few months"

Should? Really?! There is no absolute when it comes to this topic and making such an all-encompassing statement is ridiculous as is stating that babies going into their own room causes them great distress.

Maybe I'm reading your post wrong. I hope I am.

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Until recently my middle child slept beautifully but now anywhere from 10pm, they all go to bed around 7, he wil get up and come into me. Some nights i put him in his bed other nights i couldn't be bothered. My youngest is a sucky sleeper and with teething at the moment he is awake at least 5 times a night :( No sleep in my house lately.

Merry - posted on 05/14/2011

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Haha, I never sleep through the night! I'm always awake once or twice to check the clock, pee, or take a drink! I couldn't expect my kids to sleep through if I don't :)

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Just the phrase "Sleep through the night" is something I have no concept of! My son has rarely ever "slept through the night". He wakes up every single night and wanders in or calls out for us. I think maybe 5-6 times in his whole life he stayed in his bed. And those weer the times he was just utterly exhausted and/or sick. I am so stinking jealous of all you moms with kids who SLEEP through the night! No waking up, no running into our bed, no calling out for us, or with kids that sleeply put themselves back to sleep! Oh well, it is what it is. Well allsleep in my house, just depends on the bed!

Jenn - posted on 05/14/2011

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I co-slept with all 3 of my kids. With my first, when he was about 20 months when we stopped and it wasn't that hard to have him sleep in his own bed. With the twins, I stopped when they were about 6 or 7 months because that's when they started sleeping through the night.

Johnny - posted on 05/14/2011

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It should entirely depend on what is riht for each family and baby. But I am seeing a lot of misinformation about co-sleeping in this thread.

1. It does not kill marriages and sex lives. Uncreative partners do that, mixed with poor communication. If co-sleeping is not the choice of both parents it may well cause marital discord. But that has more to do with elationship issues than co- sleeping.

2. It is not inherently dangerous unless it is done specifically in an unsafe manner. Do.some research.

3. If it lead to particularly clingy children you would see people from all around the globe still hanging off their mommies. But you don't and many many cultures do so.

Lisa - posted on 05/14/2011

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My daughter was in her crib the first night we were home with her. Obviously I was going in there every couple of hours to feed her and check on her. But it seemed to go well. At 8 weeks old, she was starting to sleep through the night. I did however take naps with her on occasion, just because I liked the closeness and cuddling. :)

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I've co-slept (bed shared) with Roxanne on and off since she was born. She has ALWAYS started off in her crib, and enjoys going to bed, but when she was younger and breastfeeding instead of staying up, I would just bring her to bed with me if/when she woke up to feed. Now that she's older (2 1/2) she still comes in with us whenever she has a rough night or just insists she wants to snuggle. She's always been a pretty good lil' sleeper, and like I said, she loves her crib and always starts off in her own room.



I love snuggles

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I had one of those Arm's Reach co-sleepers attached to our bed when Matthew was an infant. It was OK. He was just the kind of infant that would NOT sleep unless he was being held, cuddled, cradled. I rarely used the co-sleeper, and used his crib even less. We tried very hard not to put him into our bed with us, but it was the only we we could all manage a few hours of sleep. As the years progressed, we just accepted that a bed is a bed, and we all need a good night's sleep. Our philosophy is "pick a bed and sleep in it", therefore we usually play ring around the beds here. Honestly, sleep is a battle that I no longer fight with. My son is 6 and sleeps best with mommy or daddy, or both in the bed. I honestly don't care where he sleeps becasue like someone else mentioned, it won't be forever. Yes he starts out every night in his bed. But half the time he wakes up in our bed, or somehow my hubby winds up in his bed. Last night the dog was having seizures, so I slept downstairs on the couch to monitor him. Hubby was already in bed when I simply told my son "Go crawl into my bed next to daddy". Co-sleeping is really not an issue in our home. Now, with school getting out in 2 weeks, we are gonig to try the good-old bribery tactic of trying to get Matt to sleep in his bed the entire night by himself, without running into our bed or calling out for Daddy. He really wants a Nintendo DS, and he can earn it by sleeping on his own.

Kate CP - posted on 05/14/2011

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Ashley: You should NEVER co-sleep when you're over-tired or on medications like morphine. THAT is very dangerous and it's a good thing you followed your gut on that one! Also, some one mentioned play pens and cribs. I do have both and I use both but that doesn't mean I'm not co-sleeping and reaping the benefits of both. During the day my son is either in his bouncer, on me, or in his playpen. When he gets big enough for a crib he'll be able to nap and, if I'm feeling comfortable with it, sleep at night in it in his own room. Right now he's only 3.5 months old and I want him near me at night. He's at peak risk for SIDS so I want him to be RIGHT THERE when I sleep.

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Nikki S, just from your last post there.I was advised by a nurse while i was on morphine, pretty out of it and over tried after my e/c-section.To b/f my daughter in that state with her lying in bed with me.I was told i could also get some sleep at the same time.I found her advice crazy and very unprofessional.I told her i would not in my state be doing that.I told her politely i will feed and put her down in her cot.

Merry - posted on 05/14/2011

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Thanks Teresa and loureen! Yup, Fierna Juliet came out 5/10 at 10:17pm, she was 8lbs 2oz 20.5inches. I labored from 1.5-10cm in 4 hours! Pushed like 15 minutes and she was born at home in the birthing tub!!! It was amazing, and amazingly painful :)

Nikki - posted on 05/14/2011

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Thank goodness I am not going crazy!

I forgot to add to my post, although I said I feel there is no wrong or right answer but that it is up to each individual parents to decide, obviously there are some exceptions. If your a smoker, or under the influence of drugs or alcohol, or an exceptionally heavy sleeper then obviously it is not the best option to choose even if you want to bed share.

Mel - posted on 05/14/2011

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I dont do it because I consider it unsafe, I did it a few times with my oldest because she had problems and was very unsettled, but it was very hard for me to sleep, or my hubby we fraked out, we did sleep with her on the couch a few times, or I brought her in bed, this stopped by the time she was a few months old though. With my second I did it once when she was unsettled for 3 hours straight. My child nurse said it was ok that after that period of time.



Also yes your second para is right, it causes them great distress getting into their own room. Babies should be in a basinette or cot from day 1, with parents in the same room for at least the first few months, my daughter outgrew the bassinette quick, so then I had to move her to the cot and ended up sleeping in her room on the floor, wasnt too comfortable, but worth it and I needed to also make sure I heard her movement and could check her easy. I then purchased a new video baby monitor my old one had broke and then I was happy. I use baby monitors for both my kids now

Amy - posted on 05/14/2011

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I think co sleeping can be good and bad. Depending on how you do it. Personally, it wasn't for me. My kids are such blessings, but have to keep a healthy marriage and we aren't for making love with kids in the room. We consider that a healthy part of our relationship that needs maintained, as it were. My kids were in the same room for the first few months of life - just easier for me nursing - and then in their own rooms in cribs.

Not sure about when they get older. I know habits are difficult to break and the older they are they may not understand why they're suddenly booted out of the bedroom. I just took my cuddle times at naps in THEIR rooms in rocking chair or their big kid beds when around 18 months. It's a to each his own thing in my opinion. Works for some, not for others.

side note on co-sleeping. we only had two beds growing up and i 'co-slept' with my sister for years once i turned 2. thought it was fun. would rather be with her than boring ole mom and dad. :)

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I'm confused... Ashley are you talking to Kate or Marina? Did I miss something, I thought Kate was purely talking about her own experience with bed sharing? Marina said the thing about parents co sleeping for comfort, Kate was just responding to her... I think?

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Kate personally i dis-agree with what you said.

I co-slept for my daughter.If you read my comments there was no need to do it second time around.

I tried everything to get my first daughter to sleep in her own cot.I would sit crying hearing her cry ..cry it out method sucked.

I went through hell trying to do what was "right".My daughter would not go to sleep until she was soothed by me.I then put or down in her cot.She might of slept for an hour but she would wake all the time.I put her in my bed, she slept all night.

So respectfully i did it for my child not for me.I was happy to sit up and wake up every 20mins or less to her.I asked myself is this good for her.Do i want her to have a full nights sleep or sleep on and off like this.I think i made the right choice for her.Don't tell me i did it for my OWN COMFORT.imho.:-)

Your right many may well do it for there own comfort which is there choice but lets not paint all with the one brush.

Nikki - posted on 05/14/2011

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I co slept (bed shared) full time until about 5 months, then we had a cot next to our bed which she slept in for most of the night, I would put her into bed with us in the early hours of the morning. At about 7 months she refused to sleep in our bed any more. I would be happy for her to still sleep with us (she is 18 months) I feel more comfortable sleeping closer to her and I really miss it to be honest.

I think it's a really personal decision, there is no right or wrong answer that is suitable for every family.

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@ Marina: When I was 13 I made myself sit through a horror movie about snakes to cure my phobia and ended up sleeping in my parents bed for a few nights. I was absolutely terrified. I think the kind of unhealthy relationship you are implying would come with plenty of other symptoms and would probably be parent-driven. I think if your child needs you close and you welcome them into your bed, then no, there is no age limit. If you keep them close because you don't want to be close to your partner or because you are lonely or whatever reason that ignores your child's needs, than that's never good, no matter what age. I really don't think that's the case with most co-sleeping parents, though.
By the way, I always had a low sex drive, but that is absolutely not why I have my daughter in bed with me. I think for most people that's a totally different subject altogether.

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I do a half and half night. For the first half of the night, or until whenever my daughter wakes up for her feeding she sleeps in her crib (could be 2 hours could be 6 depending on if she's teething) and than we do co-sleeping until we get out of bed in the morning. It's just easier for me because we both fall asleep while she's nursing. She's 6 months old now. When she was first born we did co-sleeping all the time, I had a c-section and it was a horror to get out of bed every couple hours to get her, and my hubby sleeps right through her crying in the middle of the night and I could never wake him up to get her for me. So I was either on the couch with her or in bed with her. Because we are doing half and half sleeping though I'm sure it will be easier for her to transition into sleeping in her own bed once she's sleeping through the whole night, like 8+ hours. Although I don't mind having morning cuddles in bed :)



Edited to say: Her crib is also in our room, she only slept in her room once before and that whole night I couldn't sleep. I'm just not comfortable with her sleeping in a seperate room yet. So in a way we are always "co" sleeping because she is never truly alone.

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Wow, I just do not understand co-sleeping. I only did it out of sheer exhaustion when I would wake up in the middle of the night to feed our son when he was really young and I was adjusting as a new parent.. sometimes I would fall asleep while feeding him so he'd end up sleeping with us. Other times, I'd manage to put him back in his basinette safely where he would sleep. He's never had problems this way, he's never had crying fits over being too needy, he plays very well on his own during the day at 6 months old and once you learn your babies cries (like true crying from fake crying, which takes a certain age to hit actually more than anything.. for me it was somewhere around 4 months old) then you really realize they are old enough to start to be alone, expecially at night. The crib was in our room, 4 feet from our bed. I just don't see how it all matters. He's the happiest baby and anytime he truly needs it he lets us know and we're there for him all day long. Food, toys.. he sits right infront of us and plays on the floor that we vaccuum every morning........ so I just think it's overkill and sometimes mommies take it waaaaaaaaay too much to the next level of letting their kids sleep with them too much, too long. I've seen it get in the way of sex lives and cause problems during the end of co-sleeping....... just stuff I would not want to deal with. Becoming a mother is hard enough without having a baby attached to you 24/7. Playpens, cribs...... great useful things that really help us get sleep, and stuff like dishes and laundry done during the day. Why not utilize it? I don't have to worry about my dog stepping on my kid when he's in the playpen next to me while I do dishes where I can give him new toys......... geez.

Kate CP - posted on 05/13/2011

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"Does anyone maybe think that it is really for the comfort of the mom (parents) more so than the kids??? "

Yep. It comforts me to know that if my son needs me I'm RIGHT THERE. That I'm reducing the risk of him dying from SIDS by having him within arms reach of me at night. That I can hear him cough or choke and I'm awake in an instant and able to respond in a heartbeat. It is VERY comforting to me to know that my baby is as safe as possible and right next to me.

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I love co-sleeping with my 2yo. She's so comfy. She'll sleep in her bed until the middle of the night and then she comes and sleeps with me.
I really don't think there is a set age, in fact co-sleeping, as studies have shown actually is a positive thing.
http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/t071000...

http://www.naturalchild.org/guest/tami_b...

Just a few. But it's interesting how the western culture frowns upon it.

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When my first child was born, I was single and he slept with me for quite awhile just for the simple fact that he ate every 2hrs around the clock. Then when we moved and I finished college he still continued to sleep with me because we only had a studio apt. When he was 2 I did transition him into his own bed. It did take some doing but I did it. Then I met my husband and we had a daughter several yrs later. She was gravely ill from the time she was born. When she finially come home from the hosp she slept with my husband and I or in a basinette beside our bed. She would always wind up in our bed by morning if she started out in her bassinette. She was home for a total of 8 days before she had to go back to the hospital. She then passed away a couple of days after that. I've always been glad that she slept with us and I got the chance to always hold her. I would even hold her when she slept cause I knew she was really sick and I didn't know for sure what was going to happen. Then I had another son 11 months later and he also slept with us. I was still so distraught about my daugher that I couldn't imagine him anywhere else. When he was 6 I started putting him in his own bed but he would be in our bed by morning. He had pretty much transitioned himself into his own bed when my husband and his father died. Christopher is now 10 and he sleeps with me. He sleeps now in the bed or on the couch. It has been 2 yrs since his father passed. He can sleep on his own. I think it's up to the individual on what they want to do. I wouldn't change anything that I've done with that parenting decision.

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We co-sleep with our infants, but don't generally bedshare. Our babies sleep in a cradle next to our bed, so I can breastfeed. I wouldn't mind bedsharing if we had a bigger bed and my husband's sleep habits weren't so out of whack. Once the babies sleep through the night consistently for a few weeks, into her own room she goes. It worked with our oldest. I hear horror stories of bedtime with kids, but bedtime is actually very pleasant with Eliza. Hopefully this works with Jacie. She's 8 weeks old and I think she'll be in our room for another 2 months or so...we'll see. She wakes and eats way more than Eliza ever did.

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i won't bedshare. well, i take that back, i won't bedshare after like 4 weeks. my babies when i took them home all had a hard time sleeping in their cribs (in the same room as me) so i would hold them obviously and they calmed down a bit. everytime i moved them to their crib they woke up and cried again, so i just let them sleep with me until i could successfully get them to sleep in their own cribs. i always tried to get them in their cribs first, and then if that didn't work i'd take them in bed.
i won't do it after that. i know too many people who have 11 year olds in bed with them. i find that very scary, lol. why anybody would want a child in bed with them is beyond me, but apparantly some people like that so what ever they do i could give 2 shits about. i do have the biased opinion the longer they do it the more difficult it is going to be to get them in their own beds though.

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Newborn, Laura?! Yay!!! She's here!! :) Congratulations.

Sorry if you've made a post about it somewhere. This is the first one I've been on in a bit. :)

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I co slept with three children. All my children were out of my bed by a year 1/2, with zero tears, and no sleepless nights. If I was to have another child I would co sleep with them also. My oldest child is 13 and I have missed a hand full of nights sleep, due to sick children, not children not willing to sleep.

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We bed share with our newborn, we plan on stopping when she wants her own bed, or when she gets a new baby sibling!



I think the longer you wait the easier it gets for the kid to move into their own bed, I'm talking 2-4 year olds here. By the age of understanding and reasoning etc, most kids can be smoothly transitioned into their own beds with no issues.



I don't think it's a selfish mom thing, I think humans were designed to be social creatures and we enjoy sleeping with others near by. I'd assume most who can't sleep well with another person were likely not sharing their parents bed as kids!



We didn't let Eric sleep with us, we were told it was dangerous. But I still felt it was his right to breastfeed on demand and to be comforted to sleep. So I got up with him every night, for two years now. I wish I had let him sleep with us, we both missed out on alot I feel. But I guess I did the next best thing in my mind.

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We co sleep ...my eldest transitioned to his toddler bed easily , my youngest 10 months will sleep in his cot during the day without a fuss and in our bed at night , Im not sure yet but judging by the way he transitions daily I dont think it is going to be an issue at all .

If either of them want to crawl in our bed then they can for as long as they want or feel comfortable ...Cooper does occasionally crawl into bed with us on really cold nights .

We also co slept withour parents and while I cannot remember when we were transitioned we would crawl into bed with them , when they seperated we would often sleep in mums bed as 11 , 12 , 13 year olds .

As for being intimate ...well there are many other rooms in the house we still manage it a minimum of 2 times a week or more we have date nights where the boys stay at grandma's ... ; )

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I have done co-sleeping with both of my children. My oldest slept in her crib until we moved out of my parents, and she had a hard time adjusting to being in her own room. It took a year to break her of sleeping with us.

My youngest co-sleeps with me. She is 4 months old. She sleeps a lot better in my bed and when she sleeps, we all sleep. However, she has just started rolling over and I feel it is now dangerous for her to be in a regular bed, so we are switching her to her crib.

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I think depends on the what kind of sleepers the parents are, as far as choosing to co-sleep is concerned.

Like others, I am a very light sleeper. I have to wear earplugs and be in complete darkness to sleep. I tried for a few weeks with my daughter, but she slept fine in her crib after a few weeks. I hadn't had a decent night sleep when I did it and managed to grab them afterward.

As far as how long, I don't think it is appropriate for a child who is going through puberty to co-sleep. They need their own space to go through that awkward time.

Sometimes I do wonder though, after reading things here and hearing from other moms, if the co-sleeping is sometimes used as a means to avoid being intimate with their partners. I know many woman suffer with hormone related, or emotional distancing after having children. Having several children in the bed for a number of years would limit the already limited time you have to be naked and sexual with your partner.

I'm not saying ALL co-sleeping parents are like this, I'm just wondering about some.

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i co sleep and, i only do it cause there are times i just have a lack of sleep. but i really wish he would sleep in his own bed most of the time for one you really dont get a restfull sleep. and second they dont get a restfull sleep either. but i sleep walk and i end up waking with him in bed with me lol.

Erin - posted on 05/13/2011

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I planned on co-sleeping, but my daughter had other ideas. She never settled in bed with me, but put her in her own space and she was a miracle sleeper (6hr stretches at a week old, 8hrs by 2 weeks and 12hrs by 8 weeks - no joke).

As she has got older, she has gone through phases of wanting to be in my bed. I admit I don't really enjoy it now, because she kicks and rolls around a lot in her sleep. But I still allow it on the odd occasion it happens, because I want her to know I am available to her at night too.

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