Controvery arises at Homecoming dance
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"It is important to dress for your body type BUT how many women actually know how to dress for there body type?"
And that is why *if* the school wants "modest" dress they should have specific guidelines for the girls to follow when choosing a dress. "This dress is too short on me, according to the rules." That way no one is left wondering why they were left out when it was a simple case of not dressing for your body type.
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Heather - posted on 09/28/2010
yeah...it's sad, but I think it would be hilarious to find out that these girls were the biggest bitches in school and tortured other girls and those tortured girls' parents were the ones that turned away these twits at the door...In that instance, I'd probably say "Go Parents!" Otherwise, it's just bad policy to let volunteers dictate what's appropriate and what's not without a written standard.
Jocelyn - posted on 09/28/2010
They are 17 years old, and tho a couple of those dresses we hideous (gqtm) I didn't think that any of them were inappropriate. They showed pictures of a few dresses that WERE allowed in and I found those to be inappropriate.
That school has a lot of explaining to do.
Kate CP - posted on 09/28/2010
Aaah, Mesquite. This is actually very close to where I live. I will share with the world the ways of Mesquite and Garland, Texas...
It is very common for young girls aged 13 and up to frequently have expensive manicures, perms, weaves, dye-jobs, and designer clothing. It's kind of like a mini Miss Teen USA pageant year round. This is also a very conservative part of town and the way the dances are chaperoned is by using volunteers. These people don't work for the school but they have final say...and they're usually parents. I'm not surprised at all by this, actually. I find it very sad but...it's not surprising.
Sharon - posted on 09/28/2010
If its going to show your vag - then hell yeah - discriminate. If its that short then you can't wear the dress. It doesn't fit. Just because you can get it on - doesn't mean it fits.
We've got plenty of big girls out here wearing spandex to prove that factoid.
Tah - posted on 09/28/2010
those dresses are nothing compared to dresses for dances that i have seen where i am from..they buy one inch of fabric and have someone make their dress, but they forget to cover her chest, bum or ginky(my mom's word) and then the whole neighborhood comes out, blocks traffic on the street and watches the couple leave, they come downstairs to certain music, like my brothers outfit was peach and cream and silver, so he came downstairs to the song "peaches and cream" by 112. they are usually 2 pieces, sometimes as tight as a swimsuit and these girls are not stick figures they are busty and have sir-mix-alot booties. The dresses on here were from amish country compared to those and i think the girls are owed an apology because the pictures show that some were worse.
No it's not fair to discriminate on those things, Cathy. And in this particular case, the school WAS being discriminatory. But if they had very specific rules for what is considered appropriate then they have the right to turn away anyone who wasn't following those rules.
And yes, it is tricky when buying dresses for different body shapes. I have two friends that are sister-in-laws and they share clothes all the time. They are the same size, except one has a big booty. The other friend's short dresses are NOT appropriate for her. So it is important to dress for your body type.
A little point I'd like to make, I can wear an identical dress to one of my friends. I'm 5'7", she's 4'10". On her the dress would be knee length on me it's a mini dress.
Is it fair to discriminate against someone based on height, build, genetics in any circumstances?
Brittany - posted on 09/28/2010
I think that if the girls want to wear short dresses they should stick to a length that is not too revealing. If either one of my daughters tried to wear something that short, they would be changing before they walked out the door. I believe in being kinda traditional. I think we as parents should teach our daughters to respect their bodies and not be too revealing and 'show off' what they have just because it is 'trendy'...
I wish I had a job tha paid that well when I was at school lol, my shop work only earned me £20 a week :-). A couple of girls had custom made dresses but they have never worn them again because they were very bridesmaidy for want of a better description, but they were fairly cheap as their moms made them. We were only the second year to have a prom so, most people didn't spend too much money on it. I think that if you can re-use soemthing it is worth spending the extra money....
Charlie - posted on 09/28/2010
Well i had it custom made for my formal and i paid for half of it from my job working 5 days a week after school but i have worn it several times , its a beautiful dress that doesnt date so im sure i will get more use out of it although mine was not most amount of money spent at my school , pretty avregae really ........
Wow, my dress hair and make-up cost £20 at most for my school leaving prom (at 16 years old)!
Although I spent more on my uni leaving ball - my ball gown cost £100 (my second most expensive dress, my wedding comes in at no.1), and I am pleased to say as well that i have so far worn my ball gown 4 times. I couldn't justify spending any more money, I had a mortgage and bills to pay :-)
OMG!!! $1000 for a dance?! Are they insane?!
Okay, had to get that out of my system. On to the real issue.
The school should set specific rules for dress if they are going to monitor the door and turn away girls based on what they are wearing. The definition of "modest" can vary from person to person. The rules should be been stated as follows:
1. No dress higher than finger tips when arms are straight down by your side
2. No more than 4 inches from collar bone to neckline
3. No dresses showing the stomach
(examples of rules from my high school)
Anyway, the school was being discriminatory and has a lot of explaining to do.
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