Cutting off your hair

Meghan - posted on 02/14/2011 ( 45 moms have responded )

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So my cousin's g/f just had a baby. We were messaging back and forth and at one point she said she now understands why women cut their hair short after having babies. I asked her what she was talking about, and her response was that her 3 week old baby was spitting up on and pulling her hair (even the tiny fly away pieces) and she was thinking of chopping it off.

How many off you cut your hair short for JUST that reason? We have all heard of the mommy do (a ponytail) or I would wear a hat on those days I could wash all the spit up out. I just didn't think cutting hair off cause you have a new baby was a common thing.

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Kelly - posted on 05/17/2012

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Im sure everyone likes what they like for a reason. I have two little girls. My oldest will be 4 in Aug, and my youngest will be 2 in Sept. My hair is past the middle of my back, thick and naturally curly. If I just put my hair into a ponytail with out it styling it first it will just poof. If I leave it down and air dry, my hair will weigh the curls down. When I straighten it, I end up putting it in a ponytail right away because it gets in my way when Im dealing with the girls. I dont wash my hair everyday and I use dry shampoo alot, so when it comes time to wash it I have to shampoo twice and then condition it. It then takes over 30 min to dry and another 25 min to straighten. In between all of that I have to chase after them, get them ready as well and still do my makeup. So I made the choice to have my hair cut off. I just cant take care of it and style it like I used to before I had kids. I LOVE LOVE LOVE my long hair, but its just takes up too much of my time. I like to wear my hair down, and Im tired of having it in a pony 95% of the time. So next Friday I will be hacking it off! I have hair extensions, so if one night I want long hair, I can have long hair. I can have my cake and eat it too!!!

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**Jackie** - posted on 05/18/2012

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I could never cut my hair short. The shortest I've ever had it was shoulder length. I don't have any problem with stuff getting in my hair. I enjoy getting ready in the morning. We put music on and my daughter and I dance and get ready for a good 20 minutes. I went to the dollar store and bought her a make up brush set and she does what mommy does.

Not only is it a great bonding experience for us but it's like for 20 minutes, I'm keeping a piece of me and my previous (full time banker) life.

Plus, my husband calls short hair cuts "mom hair" and has pointed out that he doesn't like it soooo that's another reason why I stick with it. :) My hair is more than halfway down my back and (thanks to my hair dresser sister) it is very healthy and I have a lot of cute styles she taught me about to get it out of my face.

Janice - posted on 05/17/2012

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I did have long hair when I began working in daycare and cut it short about a year after I started. I worked with toddlers and my reasons (besides just wanting change) were being sick of getting paint and boogers in my hair! ;)

Janice - posted on 05/17/2012

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I actually have grown my hair out during both my pregnancies so that I could put it in a ponytail. I LOVE my hair short but it must be washed and styled every day to look good and some days there just isnt time and a ponytail is easy. My son is five months and my hair is shoulder length. I am dying to cut it short again, because I hate the way it looks down no matter what I do but I love having a pony tail. So torn!

Isobel - posted on 05/17/2012

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I cut my hair short after both my wedding and after my children were born...and in my experience as a hairstylist...it's an extremely common thing to do. I don't think it's necessarily that reason, but more of a symbolic gesture to recognize the change in our stage of life...we feel like a different person, we want to look like a different person. Babies chewing on it and having handfuls of it fall out ever day doesn't help, but in all my conversations on the matter "wanting a change" was always the top reason.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 05/17/2012

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I cut my hair short (to me, it was short), to my jaw line, when my son was 6 months old. I did it because I was just tired of doing it all the time. I have naturally curly hair. It is red and it is VERY thick! Well, all I can say is, I have been growing it back out ever since. I hated it short. It ended up having a complete mind of it's own. It was sooooo puffy and untameable. I think it took me more time to do, then when it was long. **sigh**

Jenny - posted on 05/17/2012

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I cut my hair really short during my last pregnancy, i just couldnt stand the feeling of it on the back of my neck, it drove me crazy!

I also did it because i wanted to have short hair for when the baby comes. Out of reach of their tiny fingers. It was just one less thing to worry about that way.

Amanda - posted on 02/16/2011

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I LOVE cutting my hair off!!!! so really it doesn't take a baby for me to go do it :) i grow it to the middle of my back and then chop it almost boy-short then grow it again (so i chop it about every 2 years). i plan to leave it long for a little while now though, and unfortunately it is ALWAYS in a bun/ponytail/hair clip because of the baby pulling it all the time.

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I cut my hair off for the first 3. However, my last 2 I just left it long. (way past my shoulders, close to the butt long.)

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my hair is short because i like it that way. i can't stand it on my neck so i would just end up having it up all the time in a ponytail anyway, regardless of my having a child. but i did let it grow out during my pregnancy and then cut it after i had my girl. but she doesn't spit up so much so that's not a reason i'd have to add to my list of why my hair is short.

and yes, i have to agree with some women on just feeling like i need a change. it feels good to get my hair cut and look nice. it just doesn't look good long very often. i also like to dye it. and yeah, i've changed my hair around after all kinds of life-changing ordeals. my senior year of high school, my freshman year of high school, my first job, after i broke up with my boyfriend (now my husband), after we got back together, and now after we've had our first child.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/16/2011

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My face is to fat still to cut off all my hair...but if it wasn't, you bet your sweet ass I would cut it short! I love my hair short.

Marylea - posted on 02/16/2011

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I cut mine off while I was pregnant because being pregnant was making it fall out :( I lost big clumps in the front and was feeling really insecure about it, I had had short hair before I thought why not. But after I got it done a lot of moms that I knew told that they had cut their hair short after their kids were born for convience sake and they assumed that's why I had cut mine too.

Katherine - posted on 02/15/2011

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I hacked mine after my second. She was literally giving me headaches from pulling it. I cut it so that I could still put it up though. It's a sensible thing to do lol.

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I had PPD pretty bad after my son was born. When he was around 10 months old, he was teething and not sleeping much, I was exhausted, and one night he yanked on my waist length hair one too many times. I put him in his crib, shoved my hair up into a pony tail and chopped it off. I was mortified! I called my friend sobbing and she came the next day to take me to have it fixed. I went into the salon, told the woman what had happened and she says to her friend in the back "Hey Monica, we've got another pony tail Mom!" Apparently, it's common for new moms (especially PPD moms) to chop off their hair. Her next request was that I turn around so she could see how bad of a mullet I had given myself.....it wasn't pretty but thankfully, my hair grows fast. It's been 2 and a half years and my hair's almost back to the length it was before.

Veronica - posted on 02/15/2011

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Can you see my profile picture?? That was my shaved head back in 2002 :)

Sharon - posted on 02/15/2011

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I didn't cut my hair for the marines. I sure as fucking hell didn't cut because of my baby.

Sherri - posted on 02/15/2011

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I cut it all off after my second one because he thought my hair was his security blanket and I couldn't stand it so I went from to my waste to above my shoulders in one fell swoop.

I now have it back to almost my waist but didn't grow it again till the kids were older.

Charlie - posted on 02/15/2011

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Ive always had short hair after the age of 18 ( I previously had hair below my bum ) it's easier and suits my face better .

Veronica - posted on 02/15/2011

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Its all about preference and i feel convenience for most. I personally will never cut my hair ever again. I had long,(boasting now) beautiful hair -- I decided to give myself a short do, which looked pretty good - as I went to "thin" out the top a bit - i used a razor as I watched be done before - and ended up scalping myself! - so i buzzed/shaved ALLL my hair off, right to the scalp. Although it was fun, and I didn't look too bad - as it grew out, it just looked like absolute shit - and after gaining a lot of weight with my first daughter - it looked even worse. Ive since let it grow, with only doing trims, and I tried a perm, and I usually color it at least once to twice a year - for fun - and a different look. My hair is finally almost to the length I want it again - middle of my back. As for the kids - ponytail/bun works great for me - i shed hair like crazy from having kids - so a ponytail works great to "keep the hair in" especially when Im cooking. And its nice to put up when running around after kids, or doing chores. And then its fun to curl up and get sexified for my hubby ;) hehehe

Stifler's - posted on 02/15/2011

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i'm the pony tail mum too. if i straighten/blow dry it it stays down for going out for dinner and then it's back in a pony tail hahaha. i'm trying to grow it really long my friend tashna has this really really long hair and i'm like how did it get so long and she said it took 10 years. by then the kids will be old enough to not pull it.

September - posted on 02/15/2011

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My hair was soooo long prior to giving birth so yes I did cut it. It was about shoulder length once I had it cut and at a prefect length for not getting in the way of breastfeeding without having to put it in a pony tail.

Joanna - posted on 02/15/2011

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Funny, I just mentioned this to my mom, after my 3 month old grabbed a hunk of hair for the 500th time today.

I think part of it is changing hormones, too. The day before I found out I was pregnant I found myself crying inthe bathroom shaving the side of my head. And them after baby comes they change again.

Brandi - posted on 02/15/2011

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I think a lot of women cut it off right BEFORE they have their babies. Maybe it is to feel prettier, or better about yourself. I know I did it, I regretted it after I did it though. My hair is still short, but now it is only because I actually like it this way.

Jocelyn - posted on 02/15/2011

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I cut my hair drastically when I was 8 months preg with Conner, and then after I had Brooklynn, I cut my hair again (tho not as short).
My friends generally seem to all cut their hair to the typical "mom-bob" a month or so after they have their kids lol

Jenni - posted on 02/15/2011

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I am seriously clueless about hair and mine is so thick and wavvy... I assume they think if they cut it too short it might turn into a big puffy frizz ball. Are they wrong? I've never been brave enough to find out.

Jenn - posted on 02/15/2011

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Jennifer - that would seriously PISS me off! If I tell a hairdresser to do something to my hair, they better do it - not do what THEY want. GRRR!!!! That seriously makes me feel angry just reading that.

Jenn - posted on 02/15/2011

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I know lots of people who have cut their hair short after having kids, myself included. Although I only did it once and then let it grow again. I think it has more to do with wanting a change then spit up in my hair. Luckily I came to my senses though and remembered just how shitty I look with short hair. I like to keep it around shoulder length or a bit longer - always have.

Jenni - posted on 02/15/2011

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I'm a ponytail flipped into a bun mom.
I always ask hair dressers to cut it short, am very clear on how short I want it and they always refuse and tell me I'll regret it or wind up leaving it about 4 inches longer than I asked for. I'm not one to nit-pick and not really big on hair so I just think "meah" and go on my way.
I think next time I get it cut though I'm going to be more adament about how short I want it... I mean it's hair... it grows back? Plus I'd like to see them live with this mop I call hair. :)

LaCi - posted on 02/15/2011

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Someone asked me If I was going to end up with "the mom" haircut, which apparently is bob-ish. I refused, and I grew my hair out to my butt.

I did recently cut it to about midway down my back ;p

I will say, it takes FOREVER to fix it, and the real reason to go for short hair is time my short hair took 5 minutes to fix, medium short took about 15, but this length? 2-3 HOURS.

Louise - posted on 02/15/2011

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I cut my hair short when my sons were small as I just did not have the time to wash and blow dry it all the time. I had my hair cut into a short style so that I could just get out of bed brush it and not think about it for the rest of the day. No drying, stragitening or spraying to be done. Just brush and go!

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Not with the first. With my second, when he got to about 9 months old, I got really upset with having my hair ripped out at every opportunity. I got patronisingly told "he doesn't understand he's hurting you". Not the point when he was hurting me. I walked into the bathroom, grabbed the scissors and cut. My hair was down to my waist, I cut it right off to the nape of my neck.

Nikki - posted on 02/15/2011

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I have never heard of this before, I like my long hair and I wouldn't get it cut for that reason. I got my hair trimmed and thinned out before I had my baby but that was because while I was pregnant I didn't shed one single strand of hair and it was becoming unmanageable.

Meghan - posted on 02/14/2011

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I can understand the needing a change thing...I always switch from my natural shade of blonde to the dark hair I have now.
I personally just love having my hair long and when J was in the newborn grab and pull stage I never thought of cutting it. I just used it as a time to gently teach him. Preference is one thing and I get that obviously. I just wasn't sure if it was as common as my cousins g/f made it out to be-so I turn to you ladies lol

Iridescent - posted on 02/14/2011

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I did with each one. It was the fact that I didn't have time to care for it, the baby was grabbing at it, and it was heavy and gave me headaches combined with lack of sleep that caused my decision.

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I did with my son and I'll probably do it again when I deliver the new baby. It's pretty common everyone I know ended up cutting their hair for that reason after they delivered but its just a convenience thing. I hate having my hair in a ponytail all the time at least with short hair you can wash it and go and look a little more 'together' than if it was stuck in a ponytail. My hair is usually quite long though and grows like crazy even when I'm not pregnant so with Aiden I had my hair cut twice during my pregnancy, twice after delivery and by his first birthday it was down past my butt regardless. I just chopped my hair short the other week and by the time I deliver it will probably need to be cut again, on the flipside I want to get a family portrait done right away and I do look better with long hair so I might wait and just suffer with a bun or a ponytail for that first month at least. It does seem like a big pain in the butt though when you're running after a toddler or are luggin a little baby around all the time, and I'm going to have to do both at the same time so I don't think my long hair will survive past the first week lol.

Stifler's - posted on 02/14/2011

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I didn't have a problem with my hair being long at all. I dyed it different colours and stuff all the time no matter what. But I like to go blonde when I want to feel good.

Kate CP - posted on 02/14/2011

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Never heard that...I've never really had long hair before (it's down to the middle of my back now) and so far no problems with the new baby. I don't want to chop it off...but I will if piling it up in a bun on the top of my head doesn't work.

Melissa - posted on 02/14/2011

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Im told to many times. My mum kept telling me to I choose not to. Its really annoying even when tied back she grabs hold of it pulls it chews on it but I have to leave it long for my wedding. 2 more weeks and Ill chop it all off. Long hair and babies dont mix

Alyssa - posted on 02/14/2011

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I never did it but my sister made the comment that every time she had a baby (4) she would cut her hair quite short. I did colour my hair though, maybe it has something to do with hormones and the life change and we feel the need to do something different??

Isobel - posted on 02/14/2011

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I cut my hair off after EVERY major event in my life. I did it after I got married...again after each baby, after I graduated college...it's kind of a never ending cycle...every time I do it, it feels like a fresh, new start.

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I drastically cut my hair before Eliza was born. I've actually been thinking about making an appointment to get a cut before this next baby comes. I don't know if the two events (cutting my hair and having a baby) are related or if I just so happen to need a haircut. The pre-natals do wonders on my hair growth though...so maybe the two events are related.

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