Amanda - posted on 12/15/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )
Okay so this really isn't a debate...but I need a few ideas on how to handle my 4 yr old daughter. I do inhome daycare and I have a family that I've been watching for over a year, and they have 2 children ages 5 and 1. Their kids are very well behaved, and are actually becoming part of our family! The problem I'm having is that my daughter who is 4 and the daycare girl is 5, and they go to the same preschool but are in seperate classes. Which I was a little dissapointed about at first, but now I'm sure glad! My daughter has always been super sweet, really polite, and listened to all directions the first time given, and didn't talk back to me or anyone for that matter. But since schools started I've been having a horrible time controlling these 2 girls! My daycare girl has gotten completley rude, to everyone and anyone. Manipulative with my fiance and I and her parents as well. She bosses around my 2 younger daughters and her little brother. She is rude to my daughter and calls her mean names. My daughter is now picking up on these habits, and is starting to be rude towards her sisters, and talking back to my fiance and I. My aunt is her teacher at school and she's noticed a significant change in her and says that she's so bossy that most of the other little girls don't want to play with her anymore. The 2 of them here afterschool are NONSTOP fighting, being rude to eachother, slapping eachother, not sharing. The list goes on and on!!! I've tried seperating them, and have tried talking to my daughter in her room alone, and telling her that she needs to be nice to her little sisters and should respect my fiance and I as well as other adults. I told her her friends at school will not want to play with her if she keeps being mean and bossy. She agrees and than 2 seconds later she's right back at it. I've tried a sticker chart to encourage good positive behavior but no luck!!!!! Any tips or advice would be super helpful!!!!