Laura Zoey - posted on 06/27/2011 ( 56 moms have responded )
Do you think women make better moms if they have always wanted to be moms?
I see two sides to this:
Women who always wanted to be a mom have the advantage in that they likely spent a lot of time watching their mom, other moms, moms on tv, etc. and were making judgements on the best ways to parent, they likely spent time reading parenting books and pregnancy books. Maybe they babysat and already had lots of experience with babies and kids.
The downside would be they could be over confident, like I don't need your help because I know it all. Not ask doctor's questions thinking they know as much as the doctor, not asking for help when things get hard because they think they should be able to handle it alone. Getting over confident and maybe ending up screwing things up.
Then there's the women who didn't dream of being a mom, they could be better since they don't get that over confident attitude and maybe end up learning even more and better once they are pregnant or a mom. Accepting help and advise and getting a better overall view on parenting.they could be more driven to do it right since they haven't been over exposed to all the downsides to parenting. They wouldn't be burned out from babysitting or caring for other kids etc.
Downside could be they didn't want to get pregnant, might not really enjoy babies or kids, maybe don't enjoy learning stuff or maybe don't find joy in the simple mothering things.
So idk, this is all just speculation, I don't really have much expertise in knowing the answer here. What do you guys think, who has the advantage in mothering? Is there other things that factor into it?