Jenny - posted on 04/12/2012 ( 111 moms have responded )
I was reading one of the articles on COM about anti-spanking which gave an example of a mother smacking her child on the butt in response to his having a tantrum while waiting in a long line at the check out.
In response someone posted "If I was in that store, I would have given my items to a store worker and told them, "I am sorry, I cannot stay to purchase these at this time, because my child is too tired to wait." Immediate consequence for the child...when you misbehave, we leave! Then I would take my child home and put her down for the nap she probably was missing anyway!"
I don't think that spanking him was effective because that just lead to more tears and tantrums, but at the same time I don't see that taking him home was anymore effective in teaching him to behave better at the mall.
To me that sounds like the child got what he wanted - to get out of the store. That's why he was whinning, because he was bored and tired. Would this not re-inforce to him that if he has a tantrum in a store when he gets bored, he will get to leave?
Do you agree or disagree? And what would you do in that kind of a situation?
What other options do we have in these type of scenarios?