do you think breastfeeding after 1 is ok?

Sherri - posted on 04/04/2012

Sorry that looks insane to me. Breastfeeding and/or breastmilk would not be that important to me if I couldn't breastfeed. I would be driving to the nearest store buying a bottle and some formula without blinking an eye.



Not to mention do you know that milk banks actually pasteurize their milk. Something that I know you are strongly against Lisa.

Johnny - posted on 04/04/2012

It is a bag that hangs around your neck and has tubes that lead to the nipples.



http://www.medelabreastfeedingus.com/pro...



And speaking from experience, it is not as easy as one would imagine to find donor breastmilk. I live in a city where there is a milk bank, but it is only for sick or preemie babies because of lack of supply. There are plenty of nursing mothers here, but finding enough moms who have enough milk to share and the time to pump is a huge challenge. The milk sharing communities are not all that great, and I was unable to find more than a temporary supply. And frankly, the cost of proper transport would have been prohibitive even if I had been able to find a solid supply.



Also, having used an SNS for several months, it was a GIANT pain in the ass. As a mom who went through all that with my first kid, I won't be doing it again if I can't nurse. I'll take some domperidone and nurse for hours. And if that doesn't work, screw all the bs about pumping all night, making myself sick with herbs sitting up all night searching the internet for donor milk while trying to get a baby to latch on to a freaking tube!! No thanks. I'll be more than happy to sterilize a bottle and fill it with formula. This time I am going to be a complete mother, not a crazed milk obsessed harpie.







And Laura, yet again, your naive commentary is rather offensive,



"If I couldn't breastfeed I'd use an SNS and pumped milk, or donated milk.

There are choices, just not common ones!



Doesn't mean I wouldn't feel bad, I would, but I'd make it work."





So you would feel bad because you couldn't breastfeed despite making all sorts of efforts to do so? Wow! That just blows me away. You know I'm very pro-breastfeeding, but there really are a shitload of more important things out there that make a mother a good mother.

Sherri - posted on 04/04/2012

What the heck is a supplemental nursing system??

Minnie - posted on 04/04/2012

I, too, would not use a bottle, but a supplemental nursing system with donated milk instead if I could not produce milk for some reason. :)

Laura Zoey - posted on 04/04/2012

If I couldn't breastfeed I'd use an SNS and pumped milk, or donated milk.

There are choices, just not common ones!



Doesn't mean I wouldn't feel bad, I would, but I'd make it work.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 04/04/2012

Laura---



I don't have anything against bottles, I simply would never use them for my babies as I have no need or desire to.



Ah, I thought this very thing too. I did not have a need nor a desire to, with my daughter. I had no desire to with my son BUT I had a need to. ;)



Until you are faced with a medical issue as I was, never say never. You NEED to feed your baby, how you do it is not a show stopper when you only have one choice. ;)



Remember, that most woman that bottle-feed do it because they had too for what ever reason. Even, if it was because they emotionally could not breastfeed.



However, you do not know when something may happen and you are pushed to change your ways.



I learnt this very quickly, with my son. I did NOT want to bottle-feed with formula. I simply did not have a choice. It saddened me deeply. I was a mess for weeks. I was sooo worried I was hurting him. Then I learnt more and educated myself on the matter.



No, it is not natural in the sense as giving the baby your breast, of which you naturally produce milk. It is, however, natural to want to feed them and keep them healthy and growing. If having to give them a bottle is how you do this, then it is natural.



The first time my son took the bottle, it was natural to him. Even after 3 months of exclusive breastfeeding, he transitioned wonderfully. To this day, he does not just suck on the end of the nipple, as many kids I see do. He engulfs the entire thing, right up to the rim (end of the entire nipple), just as he would if he was breastfeeding. Yes, it is natural, just with a man-made device.

Laura Zoey - posted on 04/04/2012

Patricia its a shame that bottles are used more then boobs and every health organization in the world spends tons of hours and dollars to try to fix this problem!



It's not the way nature designed. Thus, unnatural.

I can't explain it any better, there's the definition of natural right there too.

It's not a dis, it's a grammar fact.



I don't have anything against bottles, I simply would never use them for my babies as I have no need or desire to.



Patricia you seem to just have something against breastfeeding in general. Is it anything you can share? Was it difficult for you to breastfeed? No one should feel guilty for not being able to breastfeed and I don't intend to bash bottles but what I say is usually factual and straight forward. Sugar coating is not my style online :)

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 04/04/2012

I don't think anyone means it is "natural" in the sense of the material of a bottle. We all know it is man made.



I think what is being said is it is just as natural for a mother to feed with a bottle, as it is for a mother to breastfeed. Not that the bottle is natural but the process of use is. Since feeding your baby is natural regardless of how you are doing it. The tool may not be but, the feeding via bottle is natural, in a symbolical way. It still shows the mother loves the baby and is ensuring they get a source of food that will allow them to grow appropriately.



A baby will take a bottle from birth, thus telling me, even though it is man-made it is still accepted by them as a natural way for them to eat.



If that makes any sense. I know it does to me but that doesn't always mean much. lol

Janice - posted on 04/04/2012

Sorry Patricia, while bottle feeding is normal and perfectly acceptable it does not fit the definition of natural.



nat·u·ral adjective

1. existing in or formed by nature ( opposed to artificial): a natural bridge.

2. based on the state of things in nature; constituted by nature: Growth is a natural process.

3. of or pertaining to nature or the universe: natural beauty.

4. of, pertaining to, or occupied with the study of natural science: conducting natural experiments.

5. in a state of nature; uncultivated, as land.



http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/n...

Patricia - posted on 04/04/2012

Its not unnatural, especially when its the only way some ppl can fee their baby...

Dont tell me no they can breastfeed

1. they just cant do it, uncomfortable

2. They dont produce milk

3. they adopt a new born or maybe take over the responsibility for whatever reason it is..

So it is natural, because we made it natural.. how else possible to feed a baby do i call another bf mom to feed that baby, NO!!!

You cant say its unnatural, not a boob but sure as hell close to it... I think more bottles are used then boobs.....

Laura Zoey - posted on 04/04/2012

Patricia, feeding a baby with a bottle is unnatural.

It's not wrong, gross, weird or wrong it is just unnatural.

I'm sorry you're so hung up over the word unnatural but it's not a dis.

It's a simple fact and it's not n insult.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 04/04/2012

Karla B---



Thank you for that bit of info on males having the ability to breastfeed. I never knew it.



Excuse me, though, while I **shudder**. Sorry but, that IS just weird. Yeah, perhaps because it is not something we are accustomed to. Although, currently, when I think of a hairy nipple in my babies mouth....ummm...I think I will pass. LOL



Call me ignorant, prejudice against male breastfeeder's or what have you. I am not "in" to it. ;)



That's some crazy shit!



To each is own there, I say. :o/

Teresa - posted on 04/04/2012

I pumped some when my twins were little (mostly to get my supply up). That thing was a pain in the butt. Why would I put myself through that if I didn't need to? Dads can bond just fine and be VERY involved w/out ever feeding the baby. In fact, my ex was so good at giving baths that when my son was born I was afraid to bathe him cuz I'd never once done it w/ the girls til they were old enough and big enough to be crawling around in the shower w/ me. ;)



Yeah, sure... if you want to go the bottle route there is nothing wrong w/ Dad taking part (IMO), but if baby is fed strictly from the breast and Dad has a problem w/ it.... Personally, I'd tell him to suck it up and get over himself... and go change a diaper. lol

Patricia - posted on 04/04/2012

Lisa,

Thats what i was looking for you gave me a responce that i was looking foe from a mother who just bf.. Your not telling me oh no its odd and unnatural, THANK YOU...



Next i explained that i understood about children stil bf.. if you read all the comments we came to an agreement about it... We all sorts changed thge subject to men feeding with bottles.. I agree why buy a pump but still why shouldnt that man have an option to feed his baby...

Celeste - posted on 04/04/2012

"I wouldnt care if i seen a lady bf her toddler in public, i would just keep walking.."



No, you're missing the point.



You said: Yes woman breastfeed where i live, but only til a certain age, like i said before i never seen a toddler get breastfed"



My point is that just because you haven't seen it, that perhaps there are more toddlers being breastfed than you think because they're nursed at home. Like I said, I stopped nursing my twin boys in public when they were toddlers because they were fine waiting til we got home.

Lady Heather - posted on 04/04/2012

The other day a cousin of mine asked a bunch of us if it was okay for her too bf her near two year old in front of us. I was like ummm...why are you asking? Apparently her inlaws have a problem with it.



I think it's totally possible that women in your area do bf longer but you don't see it because often older toddlers just do it before bed and naps.

Minnie - posted on 04/04/2012

There's no judgement, and I'm not offended.



I tell you the truth when I say I solely breastfed because we considered nothing else. It made and still makes, sense to us for me to breastfeed.



If my husband came and said please let me feed the baby I would hand express some into a cup so he could feed the baby. But we have no need to go and purchase a pump and bottles, have me go through the time to pump when my babies are usually worn on my body and have the freedom to nurse whenever they want to, usually a few times an hour. And it simply has never crossed his mind to want to feed our babies my milk.



-You- don't have to raise your children as a 'cave man' does (your words), but in our family we seek to raise our children in a more grass-roots style.

Shawnn - posted on 04/04/2012

Patricia, you now have me completely confused. First, you put a question up that can be read as either a sarcastic one, or a judgmental one. Then, you get upset because, according to you, we are all giving either smartass answers or being snippy about it...



But I've been thinking about this, and I wonder one thing: Just because YOU take your kids off the bottle by the age of 1 year, why should EVERYONE wean by a year, whether it's bottle or breast? And, why should you consider it "weird" if someone is breastfeeding an 18 month old, or older? Do you tell women that bottle feed at that age that they are "weird"? Or just that they should have weaned by 1 year old, because you do?



Why do you think that breastfeeding is weird? And, BTW, I loved the link from Karla, and have heard stories of men who DID take hormones to be able to produce milk to breast feed. So that just creeps you out? But you get upset because some daddys don't want to feed, or don't feel left out because their babies are bf babies, and they don't "get" to feed them?



I'm just trying to understand where you're coming from, and just when I think I've gotten it figured out, you jump on another tangent.



How about lets say this. Everyone weans when they feel right about it. Dad feeds if he wants to. If he doesn't he doesn't feel left out. Dad feeding may be "natural" or may not, depending on your point of view.



as someone else stated, a breast gives nutrients, formula gives nutrients, but the bottle is just the delivery method. I think the most important thing is that the nutrients are being given, regardless of method, and regardless of the sex of the giver.

Patricia - posted on 04/04/2012

I wouldnt care if i seen a lady bf her toddler in public, i would just keep walking... This has nothing to do with a man bf, it was about a man just feeding also, in that saying with a BOTTLE.. Where does ppls minds wonder.. Idono that was kinda odd... wat it wasnt even that it was if they felt left out.. I expected to hear no dads ok, or ya he helps or no he dont want to or ya he sad cuz we only bf.. That wasnt what i got, i got NO its not meant for men its a womans job... IN WHAT BOOK IS THAT....If i told my kids dad no you cant feed the baby they would of been like wtf thats my baby too, or its not only your baby, whats wrong with me feeding the baby.. That would be a stupid argument.. LMAO

And that Hey Lady was good lol!!!!!

Celeste - posted on 04/04/2012

Would it be possible that you just didn't see toddlers breastfeed? I stopped nursing my boys in public a little after a year. So, no one in the general public knew that my boys were nursed to 3 1/2 and 4 1/2. And honestly, I didn't really discuss it

Karla - posted on 04/04/2012

Hey Lady,



Fine, maybe it is "natural"

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Male_lactat...



It says:



"Male lactation in zoology means production of milk from mammary glands in the presence of physiological stimuli connected with nursing infants. It is well documented in the Dayak fruit bat.



The term male lactation is not used in human medicine. It has been used in popular literature[which?] to describe the phenomenon of male galactorrhea which is a well documented condition in humans.



Newborn babies of both sexes can occasionally produce milk, this is called neonatal milk and not considered male lactation.



Male lactation was of some interest to Charles Darwin, who commented on it in The Descent of Man, and Selection in Relation to Sex (1871):



"It is well known that in the males of all mammals, including man, rudimentary mammae exist. These in several instances have become well developed, and have yielded a copious supply of milk. Their essential identity in the two sexes is likewise shewn by their occasional sympathetic enlargement in both during an attack of the measles."



Darwin later considered the nearly perfect function of male nipples in contrast to greatly reduced structures such as the vesicula prostatica, speculating that both sexes may have nursed young in early mammalian ancestors, and subsequently mammals evolved to inactivate them in males at an early age."



I just remembered my daughters telling me about a man who wanted to bf his baby, so he tried it and liked it and actually began producing milk. Maybe we as a species are evolving (back) to a natural state of both male and female milk production.



I mean I knew it was normal for a dad to want to feed the baby, but maybe it's both normal and natural!



;-)

milk it baby! and peace out!

Patricia - posted on 04/04/2012

Yes woman breastfeed where i live, but only til a certain age, like i said before i never seen a toddler get breasrfed.. So maybe thats why i feel the way i do about breastfeeding.. When i said did a dad feel left out i meant no disrespect on it wasnt fair babies only got breastfed,I was just wondering, you guys said ask if you wanted to know so i did but I hit a nerve on some ppl.. I understand now why ppl choose to keep breastfeeding and i appreciate all your advise... But when someone says why woukd my husband feel left out its a womans job its not meant for men and BLAH BLAH, im like ok why so hostile!!! My first son I was still in school, so dad had to take care of him... Second son wasnt in school i stood home... My third child i worked from 4pm-1am so guess what dad had to take care... So if my daughters dad was out with my daughter and he was bottle feeding her noone would say, OH LOOK HOW CUTE THAT LIL BABY IS EATING.. Its more like damn that guy is alone maybe his wife died or they divorced.. NO IT'S BECAUSE MOM'S AT WORK--- WOMAN DO WORK---

Dont act like its odd for a man to feed his baby... Or its not meant for him...

Your right he cant breastfeed but we make things so dadies have as much right as moms do...

Now is that bad or moms just baby hoggers...

April - posted on 04/04/2012

As a mother of a 3 1/2 year old boy that just self weaned a few weeks ago, damn straight I think nursing after 1 is okay!! I would have continued if he wanted. Natural duration for human breastfeeding (without interference from others) runs from 2 1/2 to 7. I always thought nursing at 1 was weird, then I made it to 1 and it was fine! Then we got to 2 and that was fine too. I don't know how I would have felt at 4 or 5 because I didn't make it that far, but I feel strongly in letting a child self wean. I may have used some don't offer, don't refuse techniques if he had been approaching 5 or 6, but I would never forcibly wean a child unless I had a medical condition.

Kaci - posted on 04/04/2012

In some cultures and even in earlier/ancient times, women would breastfeed their babies until the age of 5 and 6. Of course they also feed them actual food as well, but the stigma of 1 year being the cut off is completely unfounded imho. It is the perfect food. If you produce it, and they're still willing to latch on, why stop at 1? I was breastfed until 18 months when I stopped taking the breast. Most babies wean themselves, but some don't. If I would have been able to breast feed, I would have continued long after 1 year. I would have gone as long as he felt comfortable with taking the breast. I just think for myself and I don't always follow what is socially acceptable. A lot of what is passed around as gospel has a lot of room for interpretation and personal preference should be what influences your decision. If you feel 1 is the cut off, then no one can judge you for that. Same for women who feed until 3 or 4 years old. Live and let live! :0)

Teresa - posted on 04/04/2012

Considering where you posted that it sounds very random. ;)

Sherri - posted on 04/04/2012

Well back in the day my grandmother was one of 13 children and my great grandmother didn't breastfeed any of her children. They didn't die. What she used I am not 100% clear on. My grandmother didn't breastfeed either of her children either and they survived.

Teresa - posted on 04/04/2012

Hope it happens soon for you!

Sherri - posted on 04/04/2012

Right now it isn't an option he just doesn't feed consistently enough on a schedule. He either cluster feeds or goes for 2hrs. The problem is you just never know when that is going to be. So hopefully that will change soon once he gets on a more consistent schedule.

Teresa - posted on 04/04/2012

I'm sorry Sherri! I wasn't away from my son for more than an hour and a half til he was 1.5 years old, so I can relate to never getting a break. Is there a way you can get out (if you aren't already) for 30 minutes or an hour for a walk or something else short to get a breather?

Sherri - posted on 04/04/2012

My husband does wish he could help out and feed our son. He feels badly that he can't help out in that department. However, my son right now refuses to take a bottle. We will really be working on it soon so that I can run out and run an errand without him in tow.



He is 7wks and this mommy needs at least a few hours without one of my 4 kids in tow, just to be able to rejuvenate. If not he will be weaned much earlier than planned because I can not possibly go until he is a year old and never even leave him for a few hours. I will literally be insane and can't even contemplate that being an option.

Becky - posted on 04/04/2012

A natural age of weening is anywhere between 2.5 and 7 years. Why would you stop giving your child the milk that is being tailor made for them and give them milk that was made for a baby calf? If a child needs milk then they need breastmilk, human milk. We do not technically need any milk after a natural weening has occured. Our bodies do not produce the enzymes needed to properly break milk down anymore. No other mammal weens from the breast and then goes on to drink another mammals milk. It isn't necessary, and in my opinion, it's plain weird. It's only "weird" in America to breastfeed past infantcy because we have made it weird. Why is it weird for a 3 year old to ask their mom to breastfeed, drink the milk made for them, but it is not weird for a 3 year old to ask their mom for a glass of cow breastmilk? It's simply cultural. We need our culture to get back on track with what is natural. God designed things perfectly, we have simply messed things up.

Laura Zoey - posted on 04/04/2012

Ok Patricia. Yes my husbands thoughts were strong and a bit rude but he was being completely honest and not trying to sugar coat his thoughts.

He wouldn't go say this to someone's face.

It's like you see a fat woman eating a plate full of fried twinkles and you think oh my god what a pig. Yeah that's harsh but that's your personal thoughts.

Maybe I should have censored my husbands thoughts before sharing but I wanted to share his first thoughts as a dad when I asked the question.



Unnatural---- not the way nature designed it. Tylenol is unnatural, spandex pants are unnatural, bottles are unnatural, Cheerios are unnatural.

Unnatural doesn't mean bad it means not natural.



If I were not able to breastfeed I would still be the one bottle feeding our baby. Maybe he would help here and there but I'd want to be as close to nature as possible for the baby so I would be the one feeding even if it was a bottle. So this is why my husband assumes something extreme happened to make a dad bottle feed a baby because he knows I would always want to be the one feeding if we had to use a bottle.he isn't on parenting boards all day, his only parenting info comes through me so his opinion is based on what I say. So in his mind, I'm a good mom, I want to breastfeed, if I had to bottle feed I'd still be the main feeder, so he assumes that moms who don't want to feed their baby must not be 'good'

It's a wrong assumption but it's just that. An assumption based on what he sees.



Go ask your husbands about parenting topics, I'm sure every one of them has some crazy assumptions or ideas lol.



And Patricia, idk where YOU live but does no woman breastfeed? Does every woman pump? I am not the only one I know of who hates pumping, or can't afford it or something.

Jeannette - posted on 04/04/2012

Of course I think it is okay. It is recommended until at least age 2, but even after 2 their are still benefits. I made it past age 1, but not to 2 with my son. I'm hoping to go to 18 months (at least) whenever I have baby 2. My son was off a bottle at age one. There is a difference between a bottle and breastfeeding, though. Breastfeeding gives nutrition (and comfort) and technically if you don't want to breastfeed you can pump and put it in a cup. But bottles don't give nutrition. That is just where you put the breast milk or formula. (If that even makes sense.) I work weekends and I stopped pumping at 1 year. So during the week I breasted my son and on the weekend he drank whole milk out of a cup.

Janice - posted on 04/04/2012

My husband has never felt a strong desire to feed our children. With our daughter she received bottles so infrequently in the beginning that by 3.5 months she was refusing those few bottles completely. Actually, my husband has always felt that a perk of breastfeeding is that he doesnt have to get up during the night. Now with our 4 month old the same has happened, he refuses bottles and so its just me and I'm okay with that.

My husband plays with our children every night and my daughter is so attached to him that when he is home I am not good enough. She has been sick the past few days and she only wants Daddy to comfort her.

Karen - posted on 04/04/2012

hi



I agree with let them wean themselves. I had four kids and they were all different.



When I was first pregnant the first time I hung out with a friend of mine,who lived about a half an hour drive away and didn't get to see often, who already had a 3.5 year old and a 3month old.



She BF both of her kids and was good at it. I was with her many times in public and she would BF without anyone knowing...a master lol. One time when I preg the first time we talked about whether I would BF or not and I was surprised as I had thought of not. She laughed and said she thought I may not because I seemed shy and if you BF you definitely can't be shy as you all know, when its time it doesn't matter where you are its time lol. So unless you want to excuse yourself from many adult conversations you learn to BF around others and be comfortable! Told her I didn't think that would be a problem once I learned how. She invited me to her house for a "training" day someday.



Well you know how it goes , never got there and low and behold the baby was here. Guess what I learned real quick....its not as easy as it looks , especially at first....now after 4 it is though! Anyways 3 weeks after my son arrived I went for a visit. By then I was very discouraged, my nipples were very sore, I would get engorged and have to pump to releive the them but that sometimes made it worse and it hurt like hell everytime he latched on. I was ready to give up. It was just too hard especially when I had to be out and then it was worse because of all the extra clothing I had on to contend with.



Well I went to my friends and she educated me really fast, thank god! She gave me pointers that knoiw one else had said and made it sound easier.She said it would be easier to just watch and she surprised me by taking her blouse off and picking her youngest and showing me upclose and personal how to get a good latch. I think I was so surprised at seeing her topless I didn't really comprehend the rest of the procedure . She showed me about 4 times before I got it lol. Let me say I'm no prude, my surprise was because since I've known my friend since we were like 5, I had never seen her in less than a bathing suit or undies so to see her standing there topless so nonchalant was a surprise and exciting and strangly calming and relaxing. She noticed my attention and laughed and said I would get used to it.



Wasn't long before it was juniors time and before I knew it I too was topless and was being helped getting my son latched properly. To be honest the first time he latched properly was like the first time having an orgasm lol. I didn't know it could feel so good and not hurt. It was wonderfull. I must say though at first it felt really strange to be sitting around topless breastfeeding and wondering why I didn't do it at home. My firend said she is usually topless at home and it waas something I did also at home after that it was just too easy.



While I was there though I got another surprise and that was that her 3 year came and climbed up on her lap as we were talking and latched on. She could see my surprise and then the topic of weaning came about, one that |I had not considered. She said she decided to let her kids self wean. Her oldest usually climbed in bed with her and her hubby in the morning and would nurse and usually before bed but only on occasion during the day.



When my time came I too decided to let them sel wean. |They were all Different. People get hung up on old the child is and all that but I figured they would only do it as long as they needed .My oldest self weaned himself at 13 months , my next daughter Bf morning and night just a little till she was 4 yrs, my next son until he was 4 and a half yrs and my last daughter who was a cuddler morning and nights in our bed till she 3yrs. It took substantially longer to wean my hubby though lol. He cried when my milk stopped lol.



I don't think any age is weird its ytour and your childs choice....not society. Nothoing wrong with being off the bottle sooner and on real food but there is still something to be said about the binding that goes on when BFing. My kids are older now and we still have a very close bond!

Karen

Vicki - posted on 04/04/2012

I've only skimmed the last couple of pages, been at work all day. Patricia I just have to say I appreciate your comments on the previous page about learning from others experiences...



My partner never fed our baby milk as he was exclusively breastfed. He never felt he was missing out as, well, he doesn't have the boobs. It was his job to support me in those early months while breastfeeding is establishing and help with other baby related stuff. I know a couple of stay at home dads who feed their bubs expressed milk. I don't see anything unnatural about that at all, and don't have a problem with Dads feeding their babies in general, it just wasn't something we needed to do.

Mary - posted on 04/04/2012

Babies died, unless the family was wealthy enough to employ/enslave a wet nurse. These were the only options when a mother was unable to nurse her own child.

Jodi - posted on 04/04/2012

"So back in the days if someone couldnt bf what happend with the baby... Im pretty sure something else was used.."



Actually, no babies died.

Patricia - posted on 04/04/2012

A father is good and important for a baby but not to feed him... You wouldnt have that baby without that father...I aint never heard from a mother that dads shouldnt feed their babies they werent meant to... Where do you guys get this... Everything on earth was made for something or for use but we dont do everything the way cavemen did it.. We invented a whole new world.. The only thing you guys do natural is bf, everything else is artificial.. So back in the days if someone couldnt bf what happend with the baby... Im pretty sure something else was used.. Men feed their babies because they know damn right its a responsibility for parents.. This is some way out stuff unbelievable... I know your talking to me my name doesnt need to be spelled out every post.. i get it...

PATRICIA---- your wrong----- you dont understand----

See i helped you---SARCASM AGAIN:)

Stifler's - posted on 04/03/2012

BTW I bottle fed and my husband gets up one night a week so I can sleep the whole night and also fed the baby when she needed feeding while I attended to our other kid or just to give me a break.

Karla - posted on 04/03/2012

Patricia

You seem to be intentionally exaggerating the replies given to your question. Please understand that the replies weren't personal and in my opinion no one was being judgmental in their response.



Laura's husband just shared his first thoughts when he sees a man giving a bottle, but he didn't tie a judgment to it, just speculation about circumstances.



You said So tell me why am i wrong believing its ok for a man to feed his child..

No one ever said it was wrong.



You don't like the responses, fine. As for me, I was sharing my experience... you asked, I shared. I didn't judge, but judging things as weird and stupid and right and wrong seems to be your delight and joy.



Have fun with that.

Stifler's - posted on 04/03/2012

I agree it's unnatural, we were designed to breastfeed and men can't breastfeed. It doesn't make it wrong for people who bottle feed to have dad feed the baby while mum does something else or dad get up at night to give mum a break.

Patricia - posted on 04/03/2012

OMG!!! I simply asked if a man felt left out, no big freakin deal.. I get back NO whywould he, he dont want to feed the baby, only moms should feed babies... If it was seen we would think something bad happend to the mother. Why would that even be thought of... PPL these days their unnatural lol

Karla - posted on 04/03/2012

Patricia,



Okay, being natural does not equate to being right or wrong. Breastfeeding is natural because by nature we are designed to breastfeed, that does NOT carry any judgment with it. As I stated, we are lucky to live in an age where there are other options for differing problems and life-style choices.



For instance, someone has curly hair and they straighten it; so now that's not her natural hair, but that doesn't make it wrong either.



It is okay for a man to feed his baby, no one said it wasn't.

Patricia - posted on 04/03/2012

I was being sarcastic because she said it was unnatural for a man to feed his baby.. What the hell does that mean, why are you guys so right when im so wrong.. Plz because i didnt breastfeed and allowed baby daddy to feed his own child.. What world are you guys from??

Sarcasm again!!!



Why would a person even think about something like that, it is natural for a man to feed his baby on planet earth.... LMFAO

So tell me why am i wrong believing its ok for a man to feed his child...Is there a rule book or mothers book that says men should not give babies milk...Every man i know that has kids fed every single one of them

Karla - posted on 04/03/2012

Patricia,



So what about working moms how do they get their babies fed- U cant take a baby to work... Not so unnatural after all huh...I know feeding is not the only way to bond...I may be young but im not dumb... ;)



Is this another question, or are you just being sarcastic?



We, each and every one of us, makes our own lifestyle choices depending on many factors. Of course a woman who has to work or chooses to work has options for feeding her baby that aren't the tried and true natural option of breastfeeding. We are lucky to live in an age where there are many, many options.



Let me guess though, you were just being sarcastic.

Karla - posted on 04/03/2012

Laura said,

"he just explained further "when I see a man feeding a baby a bottle I wonder, oh no what happened to the baby's mom? I assume she died or divorced or something bad happened as to why she isnt with her baby"

Now his thoughts are a bit harsh I think as there's plenty of reasons a good loving wonderful mom wouldn't be breastfeeding but he thinks most moms would want to feed the baby themselves, as I would."



Laura did add that her husband's opinion was "a bit harsh." I doubt it was near as "stupid" as some people here took it. If mom is breastfeeding it's easier to NOT PUMP - therefore the baby's dad does get used to the status-quo of not feeding the baby. It's just habit and a life-style choice. (ETA)And actually, no matter what year it is (1800/2012), that is what is natural.

Patricia - posted on 04/03/2012

So he's not unnatural, but a man who feeds his baby is? Man whats wrong with this pix.. I didnt say they lack anything I was wondering if they were liked bummed out by it... Why wouldn't it cross a man's mind to feed his baby.. Maybe it is the area ppl live in... Plus i guess maybe because we are a younger age and we dont think so old skoo!!!! So what about working moms how do they get their babies fed- U cant take a baby to work... Not so unnatural after all huh...I know feeding is not the only way to bond...I may be young but im not dumb... ;)

Minnie - posted on 04/03/2012

My husband and our daughters hardly lack of a bond simply because they were solely breastfed and neither received a bottle.



Unnatural for 'not wanting to feed his baby'? No, it simply does not cross his mind. No doubt it works well in many families, for dad to give a bottle, but for both of us, we believe that babies are fed from the breast and that's that. No big deal. He's not unnatural, it's simply out of our range of experience. He doesn't have breasts, I do, so I nurse baby. *shrugs*

Patricia - posted on 04/03/2012

Most guys these days want to feed their babies.. I aint never met a guy who said i wont feed my baby because its a moms job.. I was taking to my boyfreind about it ans he said thats stupid he has 3 kids and he wanted to feed all of them... Unnatural is for a father not wanting to feed his baby.. What kind of bond does your husband have with your kids... What if something would of happend to you, would your husband have to move in a woman to feed your baby milk....