do you think breastfeeding after 1 is ok?

Patricia - posted on 03/30/2012 ( 423 moms have responded )

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i think its not ok.. i try to get my baby off the bottle around 1 so thats why i think it weird to breast feed after maybe 1

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Momof2 - posted on 03/30/2012

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I think a lot of it has to do with whats normal where you live. the doctors and nurses here encourage people to breastfeed longer. where some areas they may say 6 months and some areas may say a year. my family doctor encouraged me to keep going until my son decided to self weaned. the nurses at the hospital where my son was born really try to encourage people to breast feed and even back then they also said 2+ years would be best. I think it is up to every mother if she wants to give formula or breast milk and to continue for however long works best for them and their child. I am a stay at home mom so since i didn't have to worry about pumping or supplementing with formula I was able to take my doctors advice and let my son self wean. (which like i said earlier was 2 1/2 when i got pregnant again and even then it was mostly just at nap and bed time)



my sister was formula fed and she grew up with a lot of ear and throat infections. when she was young she ended up having to get tubes in her ears and later also had to have her adenoids taken out. I was nursed until my mother let me self wean. I think i was around a 1 1/2 she said. my brother was ten years younger than me and he nursed until he was almost 3 when he self weaned. Both my brother and i had/have better overall health than my sister did/does. My mother is a registered nurse and works at the same hospital where my son was born. I grew up seeing it as normal to nurse longer because that is what is encouraged here and what people around me did.



I can understand a woman wanting to wean earlier because it doesn't feel comfortable for her anymore but for me it is normal to go longer. i refuse to feel bad for making the best health decision for my son that was encouraged by several doctors and nurses.

Patricia - posted on 03/30/2012

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yea i kno about the milk syndrome with the bottle my oldest son got it with formula, painful for him and me..i dont mean to frustrate you maybe its because i never got to breastfeed i dont understand.. the thought made me sick the thought of me doing it not other ppl.. alot of my friends breastfed with no problem..but just babies i never got to talk to mothers that breasfed further.. so can u guys tell me the experience you have in breastfeeding how did u feel

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 03/30/2012

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Patricia---



breastfeeding and bootle is the same i think on getting a child off of.. just like the pacifier its a security thing but not good for them.



Yes, I will agree with this... ;) The longer you go the more prone they will be to become attached. However, it is not hard to wean them. Other's may disagree but I have done it twice. With my son, I have got him down to 3 bottles, he was getting 5, 3 weeks ago. In two weeks he will go down to 2. Then 2-3 weeks later he will go down to one. With my daughter I started cutting the breastfeeding down every 3 days. By 2 weeks she was off the boob and fine with it. However, she was only 18 months. It would definitely be harder at age 2 and up.



ETA: I never gave my children a soother. I do not agree with them unless they are premie's or have a suckling issue.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 03/30/2012

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Jodi---



Patricia, the issue of drinking from bottles is about the teeth. The way that a child drinks from a bottle can affect tooth decay.



This is only true if you let them walk around with a bottle or take it to bed. In my home my boy is on a strict routine. Has been since 3 months. He gets his bottle at specific times of the day and does not get to walk arund, sipping on it nor does he get to take it to bed.



It has to do with the milk sitting on their teeth. We brush my boys teeth before bed and gets water after each bottle.



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Now at age 17 months by son gets a 4oz bottle in the morning, a 6 oz bottle at 3pm and an 8 oz bottle at 7:45pm (bedtime). He gets water (only) all throughout the rest of the day.



I see you did mention what I wrote above in regards to the bottle. Yes, you are correct. There is a big difference from them walking around with it or having set times... ;)

Patricia - posted on 03/30/2012

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breastfeeding and bootle is the same i think on getting a child off of.. just like the pacifier its a security thing but not good for them...ok maybe 1 is a lil to soon but after 2 is just to long i think.. my daughters dad gives my daughter a bottle at night when she spends the night at his house idono why he does but i havent since she was like 1 and a half.. i think he dont want to deal with her crying or whateva it is.. i stay up with her until shes tired and she says ima take a lil nap that means im going to sleep.. on her own no bottle or anything. we make the decisions not the kids. we can keep our toddlers healthy by feeding them right they can take vitamins not like a newborn so thats why i disagree with breastfeeding beyond 1 or 2.. but moms that do it thats fine i cant tell u not to who am i? its just something i wanted to ask and know..like i said its a beautiful thing and a right thing, but to a certain point..

Minnie - posted on 03/30/2012

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If my child at 11 months 29 days needed to breastfeed I'm pretty sure she needed it at 12 months and 0 days. As would she at 12 months 1 days.



As does she at *gasp* 3 1/2 years....

Momof2 - posted on 03/30/2012

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It is definitely ok in my opinion to nurse in public however if they have a designated nursing area set up with nice comfortable chairs and more privacy why not go there and avoid the stares and rude comments. (I was getting stares and rude comments even when my son was a new born so its not an age issue.)



a mothers breast milk is specifically designed for their child based on nutritional needs and environmental factor to create specific antibodies to fight illnesses and give the right nutrients. your child cant get those benefits from anything else.



and while a Dr may say to stop giving your baby a bottle it is up to you as a parent. they have formulas specifically for children over 12 months and that can be given in a sippy cup, a bottle or a regular cup.

Jodi - posted on 03/30/2012

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Patricia, the issue of drinking from bottles is about the teeth. The way that a child drinks from a bottle can affect tooth decay. Breastfeeding, while it CAN still be an issue, is less likely to be because a breastfed child feeds differently. But quite honestly, if you start cleaning your baby's teeth from the start, allowing them to still have SOME bottles beyond the age of 1 isn't frowned upon either.



It is one thing to allow your child to walk around with a bottle hanging out of their mouth half the day, quite another to allow them to have a bottle at allocated times of the day (say bedtime, morning, and maybe nap time, which is all they probably should need once they are established on solids, and then give them a cup of milk or water with meals). Just as it is one thing to allow a child to hang off your boob half the day, quite another to allow them to breastfeed periodically during the day at certain times, and then giving them something in a cup with their meals. No difference IMO.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 03/30/2012

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I do agree Patricia that a mother can be just as close with a child that is bottle fed. I do not believe that is only from breastfeeding. I hold my son very close to me when he gets a bottle. He is 17 months and I still craddle him up to me when he has a bottle. He falls asleep in my arms at bedtime. He has also slept 11 hours every single night since 5 months. So, him being on Formula until 1 year and then cow's milk did not help him sleep longer.



However, breastmilk is healthiest. ;)



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They recommend weaning from the bottle at 1 year because at that age they are not dependant on it. The longer you wait, the more they understand and the more attached they become. It becomes a hitch they find hard to let go of. ;)

Patricia - posted on 03/30/2012

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but theyre not babies anymore.. so why does the doctor want us to take our kids off the bottle as soon as possible if you can breastfeed til 2+.. yea its healthier i think for babies why toodlers they are to big already.. and the comfort for who im as close to my kids as a mother that breastfeeds. and if breastfeeding your son at 2 is ok why go to a nursing room its ok to nurse in public right..

Sylvia - posted on 03/30/2012

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Yes, of course it is. The main reason more kids in North America aren't breastfed longer than a year is that, unfortunately, a lot of people have the same negative attitude as you :(



Nursing isn't just for nutrition and antibodies, it's for comfort and closeness and reassurance. None of those needs suddenly goes away when a baby becomes a toddler.

Momof2 - posted on 03/30/2012

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I nursed my 1st son for 2 1/2 years until i got pregnant again. Once he was one i started giving him cows milk during the day at home. i would still nurse him at nap time and bed time or if he wanted my milk instead of a sippy cup. if we went out to the mall i would usually take him to the nursing room if he got thirsty since he didnt like drinking milk out of the plastic bottles or cartons they came in. I wanted to let my son self wean.



I plan on doing the same thing with my 2nd son when he is born. i want him to be able to self wean. that being said if he isn't self weaned by his 3rd birthday I will stop nursing him then.



Nursing your baby is the healthiest option and it is recommended to nurse for 2+ years. My son is rarely ever sick is very caring and compassionate. It also helps to save money instead of buying formula or extra cows milk (I say extra because he was drinking both cows milk and breast milk once he turned 1). one of the biggest benefits were that i could nurse him in bed at nap and bed times and he would fall asleep faster and sleep better. if i fell asleep too we would nap together or at bedtime my husband would move him to his own bed when he came to bed.

Jodi - posted on 03/30/2012

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I think you answered your own question here:



"my mom always told me breast feeding was healthier and from what i seen breast fed babies seem to look healthier.. theyre bigger and look happier.. i didnt breast feed because i couldnt gut it i got a sick feeling to my stomache i couldnt even try but as a bottle fed mom i do think breast feeding is healthier.. and i think babies get sick less too.."



The health effects of breastmilk don't suddenly stop when a child is 1.

Johnny - posted on 03/30/2012

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Yes. It is considered the optimum healthy choice for a child to be breastfed until the age of 2. There is nothing wrong with stopping earlier if the mother chooses to do so, but continuing past age 1 is a good thing. It is just simply archaic cultural ideas that make us think there is something wrong with it.

Patricia - posted on 03/30/2012

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its no1s business really but we are just talking about it.. and i am a mom i dont disagree with breastfeeding i just think over the age of 1 is going to far.. just my opinion i wouldnt ever be mean to someone who does or if i seen it i wouldnt say something crazy just asking why it was necessary after 1..

Jodi - posted on 03/30/2012

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Of course it is ok. It's not only okay, it is highly recommended. It's not like they are still breastfeeding every 2-3 hours like a very young baby. At that age they have solids in their diet. I fail to see whose business it is when someone continues to breastfeed a toddler.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 03/30/2012

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Well as I said for me, 18 months is where I would stop. However, there is many benefits to breastfeeding. The health implications are great! There is no better milk than breastmilk in most instances (unless the mother is a drug addict, smoker, drinker...etc). For many it is much more than that, as well.



For many that go longer it has to do with the closeness, although I believe I get this still from bottle feeding my son. I still hold him close to me for each bottle he gets.;)



However, you will have to see if anyone that has gone longer than 18 months comes and gives you more insight. ;)

Patricia - posted on 03/30/2012

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so you said 4 they should stop, so explain to me the breastfeeding is it feeding them, a snack or what.. do they ask for it help me understand.. the ppl i know who breastfed it was only for babies no longer then 9 months

Patricia - posted on 03/30/2012

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i know alot of people wouldnt agree with me but your child is walking, talking, has teeth why continue to breastfeed til 2,3,or even 4.. they start kinder at 5 and some go to preschool at 3. no bottles must be potty trained so why still breastfeed.. i dont understand!

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 03/30/2012

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Of course it is OK. The AAP recommends at the very least to breastfeed to one year. The WHO recommends at the very least to breastfeed to two years. There is nothing wrong with breastfeeding for multiple years. For some the longer the better. IMO age 3 (maybe 4) is long enough.



It is different for everyone. I breastfed my daughter for 18 months. I could only breastfeed my son for 3 months due to medical problems. I wish I could still be breastfeeding him.



With that said, I would only go to 18 months, maybe age two. That does not mean I think there is anything wrong with going longer, it is just not for me. I do, however, think they really need to be done by age 4 at the most, since they need to get ready for the transition to school... ;)



I think Patricia, you will find most Mom's here will not agree with you. ;)

Minnie - posted on 03/30/2012

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Oh good grief. I was bored and thought that Debating Mums *miiiight* have something worthwhile.



Never mind.

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