Dress code for Moms

Katherine - posted on 10/15/2011 ( 340 moms have responded )

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This is crazy. Apparently moms can't dress in PJ's when they pick their kids up from school. There is now a dress code and they can't pick the kids up unless they are dressed properly.



What do you think of this?

http://thestir.cafemom.com/big_kid/12737...

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Lady - posted on 10/15/2011

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Why the hell would you go to school in your pj's? My kids would die of embarrasment if I droped them off in dressed like that and so would I - just get dressed for heavens sake and stop whinging!!!

Lady - posted on 10/15/2011

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You can be comfortable in jogging bottoms or yoga pants - pj's are for wearing in bed - not the school run!

Carolee - posted on 11/08/2011

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"I JUST asked my 15yo to tell me the first 3 adjectives that comes to mind when he sees someone in pjs in public? "poor, drug addict, or white trash", he proudly admits (and wants me to post) that it comes from him! lol!" - Jeanette

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Wow. I would be absolutely ASHAMED of myself as a person and as a mom if my kids were this proud of being judgmental. It saddens me deeply.

This wasn't about those who go to the store in their pj's. This was about people who drop off or pick up their kids in their own cars while in their pj's. HUGE difference.

And, for the record, I have worked at multiple stores that were located in all different parts of Indianapolis and the surrounding areas (some in very posh neighborhoods). From experience, I've seen more rich people go to the store in their jammies (I'm talking fluffy robes and bunny slippers) than poor people.

I'm not for it, I'm not against it. I don't think it looks "good", but it definately is FAR from the worst I've seen. If people want to be comfy, let them be comfy in peace.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/07/2011

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Jeanette, Seriously you are probably the most stuck up person I've ever met. You either asked if I lived in the ghetto or implied that my mom lived there. There's a huge difference between the inner city and a small town.

Woman up and learn how to debate.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/07/2011

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Hey, have you ever worn scrubs?????? It is like wearing Pj's...infact EXACTLY like wearing pj's. Guess who wears them?

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Francine - posted on 09/05/2012

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I do agree with the school, as the parent, as the adult, we are the ones setting the tone or examples for these young kids. There's no excuse for a parent to pick up their kids at school wearing PJs, have some pride and respect and maybe we'll start seeing kids doing the same.

Sal - posted on 08/30/2012

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Ummm no phebes standing out for wearing pj bottoms isnt weird, no it also isnt the best dressed school ever, just normal people who have enough sence to know that pjs are for sleeping in and not running around in, I am still stunned that people feel it is unfair that they have to dress is appropriate clothes to go outside the house, and I don't really care where you live, how much money you earn what hours you work get dressed it takes 2minutes have so e self respect, even after this thread was throughly debated earlier this year I have not seen one person doing the school run in pjs not any where...... Maybe it is an Aussie thing but it just doesn't happen where I live and I know Im not going to start the trend

Phebs - posted on 08/30/2012

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Well, that must be the nicest dressed school ever - if PJ bottoms stand out. Just imagine what pressure they would put on the teachers etc - they would cop it too - dress respectfully or ur fired, or bad reviews etc.

I personally wouldn't wear my Pj's to school - but if I saw another mum friend wearing them I wouldn't think anything of it - just that oh well, they must of been in a rush that morning.



I would actually feel like getting all the other mum's I knew to purposefully dress in bright coloured PJ's and Ugg boots and march rite up to the principals office - with a bunch of parents signatures and protest this ridiculous rule!

United we stand!



At least u had pants on!

Tammy - posted on 08/27/2012

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This is the 21st century, I can't believe there is a dress code anywhere! Though, there are more conservative parts of the country, I live in Southern California and as long as you are covered in a decent manner or don't look like a dirty bum, you can come dressed anyway you like!

Mommy - posted on 08/27/2012

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I think about what I wear to bed, and it's not appropriate to go outside in. I don't so much think it's ridiculous to enforce a dress code, I think it's more ridiculous that there were obviously parents who showed up in such inappropriate attire that this new rule was necessary.

Tracie - posted on 08/25/2012

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I can't believe this needs to a rule. Not wearing pajamas in public should be a given. It takes 30 seconds to put on pants and a shirt. C'mon, moms, teach your kids by example.

Gale - posted on 08/24/2012

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Okay I haven't read all the post yet stop half way through page two cause a thought came up, what would happen if a victoria secrets model picked up their kids in their work clothes? I don't think the daddies will make any complaints! :D

Sarah - posted on 04/12/2012

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thjo worst thing i did was wear along coat with just stockings and suspender belt underneath as was late to egt him to school. pity no postman to fuck when i got back i was horny as hell tho had to go to work lol

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 04/12/2012

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Kids, wear their PJ's too school. It is a big thing in middle school, right now. They all wear their PJ bottoms. My daughter does it at least once every 2 weeks. However, here, you can wear whatever you want to pick up your kids. As long as you are half covered. ;)

Sarah - posted on 04/12/2012

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i see mums in pjs collecting kids from school and think it is disgusting. Esp when they looked well slept in etc!!!

If i went in my nitie i think i would be done for exposure!!

Jane - posted on 12/05/2011

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Well, I'll say this...I've done many a drop off in my PJ's because I too work from home and have the luxury of working a few hours before kids get up in my PJ's and no one I talk to on the phone is any the wiser. Do I think it's a ridiculous rule? Yep...these are the parents for goodness sakes...they are not attending school, they are just dropping them off. BUT, this appears to be a private school and I guess if the parents don't like the rules, they can take their child elsewhere. I don't like a lot of what private schools do but it's a choice and you can choose to send your kid there and follow the rules or find another school that fits you better!

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I was out shopping yesterday with my girlfriend and we popped into the Cacique store to check out some PJ's. There was a mannequin dressed up with green flannel bottoms, a black tank top and a green cardigan with jewel buttons. I said "I like that" meaning the PJ's and my friend said she did too but she wasn't going to wear the cardigan to bed. I said to her that the cardigan is for the people who want to jazz up the outfit when they run off to do errands! Talk about cross selling ;-}

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 12/01/2011

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LOL Then you get to show off your flashy PJ bottoms :) I see your point though which is why I don't do it unless I'm forced (ie: dared) to.

Debbie, my mom works full time as well. But she works from home so she can wear PJs the bum!

Teresa - posted on 12/01/2011

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I guess it depends on the pj's. In summer I'm down to almost nothing but in winter I'm almost fully dresses. Still, I take into account if I might have to get out of my car and have to interact with people. No, sweats is about as comfy as I get taking my son to school. WHat is you got a flat or something?

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I've never worn my PJ's to my son's school. I work full time and go to school, so I don't really have the luxury of wearing PJ's anywhere except to bed. But, I could CARE LESS what the other parents are wearing, good lord. Some of the 'clubbin' outfits I've seen at back to school night are much more revealing and deserving of such a rule, but still! Sheesh, same stuff is being worn at the mall and Walmart, who cares. Um, come to think of it, could Walmart implement some rules? Yikes is all I can say, every time I go. I've had to explain more uncomfortable things to my son while at Walmart, just trying to pickup shampoo and dog food.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 12/01/2011

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LMAO Welcome to the dark side ladies! Have some chocolat milk and cookies :)

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Hope, I'm about to leave to take my girls to school in mine too. My son isn't even AWAKE yet, so I'll carry him down to the van in his sweats. We'll drive to school, let them out, and drive back.... It's no problem. I kind of like my yellow shirt that says 'World's Coolest Mom' (and yes, I bought it for myself lol) and my light purple fuzzy pants... :)

Hope - posted on 11/30/2011

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OK ARE READY FOR A SHOCK!!! Hold on the the desk, I don't want you falling off your chair and hurting yourself.

I TOOK MY SON TO SCHOOL TODAY WE MY PJ'S ON!!

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/30/2011

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Like Cookie monster will probably have to sing someday: Pajama bottoms are a sometimes clothing option.

Ells - posted on 11/30/2011

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I agree with this to be fair, i think it's common sense and decency to dress to go out. It's also not hygenic to go outside in sleepwear. why not wear slippers too then?
everybody, not just moms, should wear appropriate clothing. then again i'd rather see someone out in their pjs than in mini skirt and tight top (especially if they dont have the body for it)...
but this is just my opinion-

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/29/2011

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Emma, neither does my husband which can make family visits awkward. I only wear mine after showers and on weekends. Except for that dare.

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I thought of this post as my son and I were in our pjs dropping the girls off at school this morning. I did comb my hair though. We do a 'drive by' to drop them off and my jammie pants are much warmer than my jeans. It's getting 'chilly' here now.

Carrie - posted on 11/29/2011

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Sorry if I'm a little late on this, but here is my take on it. If a mom is wearing a pair of pajama pants and a regular t-shirt and flip-flops or something, who the heck cares! On the other hand, I saw a lady at the bank the other day wearing full-on pj's, a robe and some big fuzzy ass slippers. Maybe this is what they're talking about? It also depends upon whether you're getting out of the car. How the heck can they tell if you just pull up to the curb?

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/27/2011

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I haven't been out in PJs since a few weeks ago. Well except to fix my MIL's front door this morning. And to let her dog in and out,

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/27/2011

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LOL Thanks Sal and welcome to the dark side, we have cookies and chocolate milk :)

Sal - posted on 11/27/2011

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And I think I'll do it again tonight.... I am mighty glad he is only there a week though Or I might get too comfortable out in them

Sal - posted on 11/27/2011

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Guess what meggy??? I took my son to work in my pjs!!!! It was 1am but I was thinking of you when I done it- lol

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/27/2011

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I still say there should be and are exceptions and there is always a chance your perfectly set up routine will fall apart once in a while.

Katherine - posted on 11/27/2011

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lol :)
whats crazy about. I get dressed before taking my kids to school. I teach my kids to make the effort of getting up and being presentable. lol crazy - geeze next moms will have to be "properly dressed" to go to the store or the bank.

by the way I am a mother of 3 plus a 5 month old and yes i did get dressed when pregnant.

Sherri - posted on 11/15/2011

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We actually have to go to the dump. We usually make the trip once a week.

Stifler's - posted on 11/15/2011

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damo takes the wheelie bin out but sometimes but forgets to take the bag out to it

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/15/2011

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Neither have I. Back at my parents' house my dad took out the trash since he left for work at 5:30am. Here in BC I live in an apartment complex so we just take stuff to the dumpster.

Sherri, do you just compost or go to the dump?

Sherri - posted on 11/15/2011

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I have never had this problem because we don't have such a thing as trash pick up.

Katherine - posted on 11/15/2011

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In in ontario, we have some schools with full day 5 day a week junior and senior kindergarten. Alot of schools are tranistioning into this....they spend the am or pm hours with the teacher learning and then ECE (early childhood educators) come in and implement other activities that the teacher has laid out for them.

Im showered and in my nightgown for the day.....unless we head out and then i'll put on sweats

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/13/2011

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Sherri, that would've been the same anywhere and I was told that by the private school I sent my daughter to (for 220$ a month because I was given a 1000$ grant by the Diocese of Rochester, much cheaper than 1/2 day Kindergarten then the babysitter) but I like the idea of full day kindergarten.

With the OP topic. I wore an old long sleeved t-shirt today with some bleach stains on the left sleeve yesturday and today. But I don't think too many people noticed yesturday at Walmart or today at the park because I had my jacket on.

Sherri - posted on 11/13/2011

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Preschool or Pre-K here is only 2-3 days a week for 3hrs a day.

For Kindergarten they learn the same amount in half day as full day. The curriculum is exactly the same the only difference is they have more breaks and free time for full day. Which is not offered here anyways but for those areas that do have it.

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2.5 hours for K? We don't even have any preschools that are that few of hours... I think my son's school is actually the only one that even offers preschool at less that 5 days/week... at least in MY driving range... if not all of them on island. Of course, his school day is 7 hours... I pick him up early one of his 2 days/week, but I'm the only parent that does that.



We leave the house at 7 almost every day. The girls school doesn't START til 7:45 (7:50 to be in class or be tardy), but they are crossing guards for the lower grades morning club and need to be at school before 7:30. They get out at 2... except it's 12:30 on Wednesday's. That's the hours for all public schools K-5 here.



Oh, and on the topic of the op.... my t-shirt today is almost a perfect match to my jammie pants. They're a darkish purplish kind of color. I can't find my blue leopard print jammie pants and I'm really bummed.... ;)

Sal - posted on 11/13/2011

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My daughter in aus (nsw) will be at school proper next year for us it is called kindergarten this year she has been in transition at her primary school it is one full day per week it has been free but that is more luck for me than the general rule if this wsnt available she would be in preschool which was Around 30 per day but just school hours

Ange - posted on 11/13/2011

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My daughter did full days every other day and it work out alright and she loved it.... there is nothing wrong with full days I actually prefer it and I think Meggy has a great point

Hope - posted on 11/13/2011

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There are introducing the pre prep program at the moment but it comes with a cost. As of next year at my sons school (public school) they wiil be running the prre prep program in the new building they currently building. It will be 3 days one week, 2 days the next but comes with a cost of $25 per day and is school hours only. But in saying that it is not compulsory.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/13/2011

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Honestly I think full day is a better choice because the teachers aren't rushing to get their lessons finished in a shorter time span. My daughter and my best friend's daughter both did full day kindergarten and neither girl suffered. If a child was tired in my daughter's class, they could nap during recess, I think it's better for the kids and the teachers.

Sherri - posted on 11/13/2011

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I am sooooo thankful for only half day kindergarten I honestly would search for a private kindergarten that was only half day before ever sending my my child to all day kindergarten. It is too long for them IMO and they will be in school all day for the next 16yrs with college no reason to rush it.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/13/2011

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Hope, do you do pre-K programs in Australia? I haven't seen them done here in Canada unless it's the Headstart program. I asked my husband but he doesn't remember. I'm from the US and we have Pre-K. I sent my older one there because she was so close to the cut off for starting Kindergarten.

That's another thing I learned when I moved to Canada. BC doesn't do cut offs

Hope - posted on 11/13/2011

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We call kindy, prep here in Queensland Australia and it is full time. The same hours as primary school (grade1- grade7)

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/13/2011

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Sherri, we have full day Kindergarten in Kelowna, one of the first in BC. My 7 year old also went to full day kindergarten last year. A lot of public and private schools where I'm from are doing full day kindergarten because it's better for both the children and the parents.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/13/2011

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And it's Sunday afternoon here and I'm laughing at you all for doing that. Meanwhile I used to have to put my coat and boots on to get the paper because the stupid paper boy

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