Dress code for Moms

Katherine - posted on 10/15/2011 ( 340 moms have responded )

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This is crazy. Apparently moms can't dress in PJ's when they pick their kids up from school. There is now a dress code and they can't pick the kids up unless they are dressed properly.



What do you think of this?

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Angela - posted on 11/13/2011

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that is nice... My brothers kids go to school so long and my niece she has to ride the bus over an hour...poor thing. Sounds like you school was like it was when I was a kid in Michigan

Sherri - posted on 11/13/2011

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@Angela our Kindergarten is only 2 1/2hrs long. Our school day is only 6 1/2hrs a day beginning in 1st grade so that is really no different than you.

Hope - posted on 11/13/2011

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Haha Angela I am currently sitting with a nice bid cup of coffee to help me get over that traumatic experience :)

Angela - posted on 11/13/2011

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Sherri, I rather they come start later and come home earlier... shorter days that is. I think 6 hours is long enough for elementry kids, and for k-2 they do half days or shorter weeks. The kids still learn everything like they do in the USA in fact I think they score higher...but do not need so much time away from home.

Angela - posted on 11/13/2011

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Ha ha Hope I have done that Pj, barefooted, boob flopping mode getting the garbage out! So hate it when that happens especially before I even had a cup of coffee!

Hope - posted on 11/13/2011

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Well ladies I just had to run the bin out to get emptied in my pjs, no bra and boobs flopping everywhere haha, was too late so I had to race it across to the other side of the road. I am sure the truck driver enjoyed the show in review mirror as he drove away hahaha

Sherri - posted on 11/13/2011

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I actually rather it so they are home earlier in the afternoon. So no complaints from this mom.

Angela - posted on 11/13/2011

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Well if they keep making school days early maybe the kids should just pack a suit case and move in for the week....

Hope - posted on 11/13/2011

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Wow that is so early. I sons school first bell goes at 8:45 but learning starts at 9am and the school day finishes at 3pm. I live in Australia

Sherri - posted on 11/13/2011

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I don't think it is too bad. My son gets out at 2:20 and is home by 2:45pm.

Angela - posted on 11/13/2011

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Sherri that is so early but more the norm I think in the USA. The biggest issue is the bus trip to and from... poor kids have such a long day, just like adults!

Sherri - posted on 11/13/2011

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My 1st grader next year will need to catch the bus at 7am and school starts at 7:50am and they are out at 2:20pm

Angela - posted on 11/13/2011

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I was just remembering when I was first starting out with my girls I worked nights.... (I was a nurse) I did 3p-11p during the week and 7a-7p on weekends I rarely took a day off so as to make ends meet and the bad hours gave me more money...
I lived in my scrubs and a ponytail, I also would many times shower at work, fresh scrubs were provided via laundry :)

Ange - posted on 11/13/2011

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I am a stay at home mom it is not like I have to be someplace else at that time in the morning so yes I do wear fannel pj bottoms to the school in the mornings things do happen where people can't get dressed right away and like alot of people have been saying "I put my children before I put my self!!!!!" everyone has their own opinions about this and some seem to have the perfect organized schedules that they can keep up with at the spare of the moment thing but my house hold is pretty damn busy from the time we get up to the time we go to school so sometimes that does not include me getting dressed

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/13/2011

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Sal, I've worked as a resident assistant and a care aide back in New York. I wore a uniform to work because of my job so if there ever was a case where I over slept (and there wasn't because I programmed 4 different alarms when I worked mornings) I could've changed from my PJs to my work clothes in the employee washroom. A few women on the night shift at one assisted living community I worked at did that. When you're a care aide, if you've worked with the family long enough you can usually show up out of uniform and they don't care.



On school times back in the US my older daughter started school at 9:30 and was out at 3:15. Here in Canada she starts at 8:30 and gets out at 2:15. If there wasn't the teacher strike here in BC, she'd get out at 2:30.



Here in Canada the older kids in middle school and high school don't start until 9am. Back in the US we start at 7:45!

Nelly - posted on 11/13/2011

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I agree there is a time and place for pjs parents have to set the example for their kids

Angela - posted on 11/13/2011

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I agree Emma, it is too early and then when you add home work etc.... too much. In fact I just read an article in the USA where they want to extend the day.
I think it is to accommodate adults but not kids.

Stifler's - posted on 11/13/2011

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that's fucking ridiculous. i didn't start school at 8am until grade 11. before that it was 9 the whole way through school.

Angela - posted on 11/13/2011

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When I had my older kids in school in the States, it ranged from (depending on where we lived, etc) 7:30-8:45 first bell.
Some kids like my niece goes to a special school, she has to catch the bus by 6:40 to get to school on time. I know kids that live in the country side, get on the buses earlier. So yeah a parent may go to the bus stop in PJ's.
But school times vary from as early as 7:15 and 9am was rare rare rare, never had that time in fact when my kids went to school. I drove my kids mostly. They hardly took the bus except a few times.
Also I had 3 kids, and at times all were in different schools, making our day start even earlier. I remember when Samantha was still a lilttle preemie and Jessica was just starting school, it was hairy scary getting us all together in the car, car seat, breakfast ate, school supplies etc.
It can be hectic to say the least.
My 3 year old starts preschool at 8:45am. I see the older kids ( kindergarten and up) starting much earlier. Depends on the school.

Stifler's - posted on 11/13/2011

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What time do kids even start school these days? I started at 9 when I went to school.

Angela - posted on 11/13/2011

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"You wouldn't get up late run to work in your Pjs punch in and then go home and change you are up in time or you run 5 mins late and say sorry and get on With the day, I see this as no different "

Sal, you may not see it different, But I sure as heck do. Not anyone is paying me to be a parent. It is my responsibility to make sure my kids get to school on time, my attire is not in any manual that I know of.
With the exception of indecent exposure laws according to where you live it simply is a choice. It is only judgment if one is not breaking any laws.
I think it is silly when you have kids whose parents do not give a darn what their kids are doing, nearly getting to school on time.



Just have to say to that

Sharlene - posted on 11/13/2011

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Yeah but when your in hurry to get 2 older kids of to school andc 2 babies under 19 months I usually wear my PJ'S pants and a t -Shirt or top then when i get home dropping them I get in NORMAL CLOTHES LOL. there must be heaps of mums out there that have done this is the 21st century or are we

Sal - posted on 11/12/2011

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And the post was indicating that there was such a problem with people coming in pjs they needed to make rules to curb the behavior

Sal - posted on 11/12/2011

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You wouldn't get up late run to work in your Pjs punch in and then go home and change you are up in time or you run 5 mins late and say sorry and get on With the day, I see this as no different

Sal - posted on 11/12/2011

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You wouldn't get up late run to work in your Pjs punch in and then go home and change you are up in time or you run 5 mins late and say sorry and get on With the day, I see this as no different

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/12/2011

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I think Kristel got it right. There are times in everyone's perfectly scheduled lives that things just happen. I'm sorry that every mom doesn't 'buy the idea' that things happen. I don't know maybe it's because of my job as a care aide where I've had to deal with things suddenly happening (Grande maul seizures, ostomy bag popping off, someone pooped in the dinning area, someone wandered off ect) that I can actually believe that you may not have a few extra seconds to do much except brush your teeth and your hair.

I guess I should applaude the moms who haven't had any oopses in their schedules or had to deviate from what they had intended to do.

And if you all think the PJs are bad, my husband was wearing an I Am Canadian t-shirt with holes and sweat stains on it and some holey camo pants when he first met my parents and they didn't judge him for it. Of course maybe that's because my dad used to wear Velcro sneakers to church before my brother and I cured him of that nasty habit. But my parents still had no issues with me marrying him.

Sharlene - posted on 11/12/2011

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I dont think that would really matter, just as long the parent is'nt exposing them through inpproiate Pj's and not flennette PJ's AND NOT A CRAZY DESIGN OR PATTERN I guess ,cheers

Kristel - posted on 11/12/2011

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I'm not saying that it's ok to be in your pajamas every single day, there are times things happen, and some people have a good reason for it. But really why should anyone care?

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/12/2011

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I guess you missed the part where I typed "Slept through the alarm" And until it started being -3C in the mornings I walked my 7 year old to school. If she was going to be late she would eat breakfast on the walk to school and I'd wait until I got home to eat.

There are times where things just happen. Power outage so no alarm goes off. Forgot to set the alarm on your phone too. The baby got sick while you were trying to get dressed, your husband never threw the clothes in the dryer like he said he would ect ect. I'm sorry but both my kids come before me. Thankfully I've never HAD to show up in PJs (A spouse initiated dare is not a necessity, except if you're married to someone like my husband) but I hope if I ever HAVE to the other parents at my daughter's school will understand and have been in my shoes and won't judge me for it.

Stifler's - posted on 11/12/2011

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haha. i don't buy that you don't have time to get dressed either. it takes 2 seconds to pick out a dress or pants/skirt and a top and put it on.

Sal - posted on 11/12/2011

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I have drive 15 km each way to school no where go get take away breakfast and I won't be driving the 15 km to drop lunch off so we go when it is all done..... It just stuns me that people say they would turn up In pjs because they put their kids first but won't set the alarm to get their kids their on time...

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/12/2011

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Honestly I'm torn. I only wore PJs once as a dare that I wouldn't do it. My husband put me up to it and he doesn't let anyone live down something. Usually I put on my clothes (I get too hot at night so I don't wear jammies plus it's easier to nurse that way) brush my teeth and hair do the morning routine and take my 7 year old to school. I don't go out in my PJs because I believe they aren't for more than going to the mailbox or getting the paper as far as outdoor activities go. Unless you're really sick and can't get anyone else to get to the pharmacy or take your child.



But if you wake up extremely late (ie: slept in past the alarm and you are stopping at Timmy's to make sure your child has breakfast and promising to drop of lunch later or giving a toonie for hot lunch) then I'm sorry but your kid being on time for school is A LOT more important than throwing on a pair of jeans. However please throw on a bra if you're not an A cup or make damn sure you're wearing a large sweater.



It's not laziness to put your child ahead of your outward apperance.

Ange - posted on 11/12/2011

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I wear PJ pants down to the school in the mornings because I am to lazy to get dressed that early in the morning... and Sal sometimes not all times but sometimes there is such thing has not having time what if you woke up super late and then you had to rush around getting getting the one child ready for school the other two children ready to take her to the school... every one is different we don't all work the same....So Sal you are right in away

Sal - posted on 11/12/2011

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I am going to say it again if you want to go in pjs knock your self out but to day you don't have time to dress is a crock you are making excuses for laziness it takes less to
time to dress than to boil the kettle have a ciggy or update facebook or CoM

Sal - posted on 11/12/2011

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I am going to say it again if you want to go in pjs knock your self out but to day you don't have time to dress is a crock you are making excuses for laziness it takes less to
time to dress than to boil the kettle have a ciggy or update facebook or CoM

Kristel - posted on 11/11/2011

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1. Pajamas do not affect ones ability to drive or parent.
2. As long as it isn't see through, low cut or high cut or from Fredricks why would they care?
3. If you are a parent you have custody of your child not a school regardless of being in pajamas or not, a school CAN NOT legally with hold your child unless the police/authorities get involved and I doubt there was a law against dropping or picking up children in Pajamas the last time I checked.
4. Not every parent has enough time to drag their kids out of bed kicking and screaming while getting them ready for school and then get themselves dressed on top of that.
5. This is America, if people can walk around wearing hoochie sorts and pick up their kids I should have the right to pick up my children from school in pajamas that actually cover my body.
6. Really does the school not have any better educational issues to re enforce or think up than a Pajama issue with parents?
7. What part of the budget for schools is going to actually going toward fighting parents in pajamas? Just curious, how much of my taxes is going toward the time and effort for this?
8. I don't go around in Pajamas all the time, but pajama pants are way less tighter than yoga pants and don't really show the panty line...
9. I would agree if it were please don't show up like a prositute, but how many of them dress in pajamas that aren't lacey nighties?
10. This is the least bothersome for school education, and How many gangs wear Pajamas to pick up their kids from school? Try not many...

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/10/2011

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Thanks Angela,

We're having a high of 12C today which is a nice change from last weekend at my MILs where the high was 2C. We're looking at 8-10 this weekend!

I had fun dressing my 7 year old this morning because she can't figure out what to wear!

Ange - posted on 11/10/2011

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LOL I say kiss me bum I am gonna dress the way I want to and I don't care if any one else likes it or not.... If you are going to the school and back then there really is no big deal about going in you pj's heck I do all the time even when I take my daughter down to the school I guess I am just lazy that way

Angela - posted on 11/10/2011

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Sorry to hear about that Sherri, that is too much for October!
I second the cold weather Meggy...no thanks.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/09/2011

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LOL Angela it was -3C about 27F No thanks!

My friend out near VT got hit a few weeks ago by that nor'easter but my family in Western NY keeps getting saved by Lake Ontario

Becky - posted on 11/09/2011

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I have a friend who lives in Connecticut and her family lost heat and power for several days. They had to go stay in a hotel! We both went to school together in Cote d'Ivoire, so I told her it was like she was back there, except at least there, it would've been warm!
We can get some pretty brutal weather here, but at least our infrastructure is set up to deal with it. We very rarely lose power, even in a huge blizzard, and when we do, it's never for long. Our road plowing system sucks though!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/09/2011

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That sucks big hairy balls...did you guys lose power too?

Sherri - posted on 11/09/2011

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Well I have you guys beat on the weather we just had 14" of snow a week ago in October. That is unheard of and most lost electricity for up to a week.

Katherine - posted on 11/09/2011

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My realtor showed up yesterday am to get papers signed in her pjs'.....found out later she wasn't feeling well, i don't think anything differently of her...she's still amazing at her job, just because she wore pjs' doesn't mean she does her job any less....she sold our house and helped up purchase another

Angela - posted on 11/09/2011

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\Off topic a little, Over here is it is suppose to be a very frigid winter. Usually our winter are cold and rainy. The dampness seems to penetrate my bones. I grew up in Michigan and it gets well below freezing but I could deal with that over this damp cold. Well their was exceptions I remember winters in Michigan where it was too cold to even go outside. I also do not miss shoveling snow from my door way to just a path to my car and the snow blower.



ETA I have to say when I saw Mom's in PJ's and long underwear it was when I lived in the south. So maybe the weather has something to do with it.... or not.

Becky - posted on 11/08/2011

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It'd be celcius. And yep, it is cold! That is one of the main reasons I don't leave my house in pyjamas - it's too bloody cold here to go outside in anything other than multiple layers for about 80% of the year!

Angela - posted on 11/08/2011

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Oh your a brave one Meggy! also is that F or C? either way that is cold.

I usually go by bike to take Claire to preschool. So I just dress us warm and comfy. PJ's are not warm enough.

Most Dutch Moms go by bike and so do the kids by the time they get older. They do not have school buses here. So almost all Dutch Moms have bad hair in the AM :)

Becky - posted on 11/08/2011

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Totally off topic, but before this thread gets locked, I just have to say, that is some awesome weight loss, Brittany! Way to go!

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