Dress code for Moms

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/07/2011

Hey, have you ever worn scrubs?????? It is like wearing Pj's...infact EXACTLY like wearing pj's. Guess who wears them?

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/07/2011

Well, that is awesome Sherri...so in your eyes, it is not only ok to judge someones appearance....you have back up..LOL.

Sherri - posted on 11/07/2011

Doesn't matter. It won't effect your grades but it can certainly effect opportunities presented to you.

Jobs do not care and often won't even give someone with the pink hair and in P.J.'s a chance. Even if you are the most capable.

Do the research the inappropriately dressed person will not get the better job.
Here is an interesting article.

Who Judges You Based on Appearances
Want to know who’s judging you based on appearances? I can tell you:
* Potential employers
* Current employers
* Coworkers
* Potential mates
* Current mates
* Friends
* Waiters/Waitresses
* Everyone you know
* Everyone you don’t know
http://formerslacker.com/blog/2007/02/13...

Here is another amazing one - http://thequarterroll.com/Blog/2011/Apri...

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/07/2011

Oh, and I think the PJ wearer would know better than to wear PJ's when going to an interview..LOL

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/07/2011

Ok, back up a second Sherri. First of all, yes a students job is school....but one they are NOT getting paid to do...they are PAYING for it. While I agree that many (like the people in this thread for instance) judge strictly on appearance, others can look beyond appearances.

If I am a student with pink hair, and dress in PJ's occasionally, but I get straight A's and have a personality to boot, go to every class, participate.... the pink hair and PJ's are not going to effect my grades. If I am a yuppy, button shirt, kahki wearer with perfect hair, but I miss constantly, don't participate in class, and get poor grades....who do you think the teacher is going to like better and pass???

While yes, the yuppy dressing person at first glance may get a job at an interview, while the pink haired may get over looked at first....who is going to be the one more capable??? Chances are, the pink haired Pj wearer will win the better job in the long run.

Sherri - posted on 11/07/2011

@Meggy BTW, a few weeks ago my daughter's school had everyone go to school in PJs for school spirit day. Nothing terrible happened.

Totally different they consider this a special circumstance and this would not be everyday attire. This is a special day at school where it would be considered appropriate for this one day only.

Sherri - posted on 11/07/2011

@ Marina Your attire to school does not reflect how hard of a studier you are, or how seriously you take school.

No it doesn't but it does have consequences because you will be perceived that you don't give a damn and often will not be taken seriously by a teacher and even overlooked. Most teachers would not even consider recommending someone dressed inappropriately for an intern position or job.

How you present yourself and how you dress can have many negative consequences. Because you can be the smartest, most educated, most perfect person for a position. However, we are judged on our appearance and you would be overlooked if not dressed appropriately.

And sorry but school is a job and students should be dressed as it is. This isn't a sleepover party.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/07/2011

All I want to know now is how the hell do small town and university students equal ghetto? Unless someone was refering to my mom wearing her PJs for work. And if that's the case then someone really lacks class.

BTW, a few weeks ago my daughter's school had everyone go to school in PJs for school spirit day. Nothing terrible happened.

Katherine - posted on 11/07/2011

"If as an adult you cannot bother to change from what you wore to sleep in, you probably cannot be bothered with doing much else."

I can admit, I sleep in my panties, get up, shower and put my pj's back on, when I was working, I wore my pjs' to work, on the bus, to downtown and changed into my uniform. If I was going out after, I had a changed of clothing, if not, I would change back into my pjs and head home!!!! Whats the big deal, I have 2 degrees under my belt, a good paying job, a house that I own, a suv that I own, all of my student debt is almost paid out (end of this month YAY)!!!! But yet I don't roll out of bed and go to work.

Just because someone wants to be comfy and pick their children up from school in the pj's, what does it matter to everyone else what they wear? we don't know their story, they could have been home sick, working from home, spending the night/day in the hospital, lost a loved one, hell they could be just freaking lazy. why does it matter to everyone else???

My mother always taught me, if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all!!! maybe some should learn this????

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/07/2011

@ Jeanette, I live in the most expensive city outside of Vancouver in British Columbia. Definitely not the ghetto. I'm in a rather middle of the road area. But I live a block from the beach/ lake front near some million plus dollar homes. My husband is in university learning 3d animation and game design. A friend of mine and my MIL both live in small towns/villages where it's acceptable to go to the corner store in your PJ bottoms. And my mom works from home in the suburbs.



Also my mom taught me manners if not how to dress and act like I'm better than someone who decided to wear PJs to an AM class. Perhaps you would do well to teach that to your children? Jesus said, Judge not lest ye be judged right? Why not try that yourself?



ETA: My 7 year old has separate school clothes and play clothes and attended a private Catholic school back in Rochester before moving to BC with me. I'm only answering that because you're asking questions about if we buy clothing for our children. What do you expect me to say?: Well shucks no ma'am. I send her off in whatever feed sack looks the best on her?

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/07/2011

This is probably one of my favorite lines of yours to quote "If as an adult you cannot bother to change from what you wore to sleep in, you probably cannot be bothered with doing much else."

It is a toss up with this one though "Wearing pajamas out in public gives the impression of low income, lack of education, and carelessness; because if you are too lazy to change clothes, you are probably too lazy to acquire an education, a job, and good hygiene. "

No judgement there at all.

I am not one to put on heirs for appearance sake, and worry about what others think. Frankly, I don't care. I think pajamas can be cute in public...and I will definitely admit having to run to the 7/11 in pj's early morning to pick up milk. Yup. Judge away.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/07/2011

I have no issues with PJ's.

Katherine - posted on 11/07/2011

I don't think PJ's is the problem. I think it's the WAY you dress. Tanks, fine, low cut up to the boobs shirts no no. In that respect I can see why there would be a dress code, but this article is talking about PJ's.
Not slutty, skanky stuff------PJ's.
That's the debate.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/07/2011

LOL, those were your words. Not others. Obviously you are judgmental also. I read your comment earlier about trying not to be on a high horse of judgement...oh girl....you are so high up, it is gonna take a ladder to get you down.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/07/2011

LOL, I love people like you that don't really know how to debate...rather they twist words....that is a classic beginner strategy.

Jeannette - posted on 11/07/2011

Yes Marina, I referred to them because those remarks have been just as judgmental and mean. You really are making my points here.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/07/2011

Also "My daughter is off at University and the ONE girl who thought she was going to wear her pjs and slippers to class was made fun of. If you do not take your education seriously, no one will take you seriously whilst there."


Your attire to school does not reflect how hard of a studier you are, or how seriously you take school. Hell, the girl could have been up studying all night, and did not have a chance to change before class. But really....who cares?

Jeannette - posted on 11/07/2011

Also Marina, by you stating that you should wear your little black dress that makes you look like a "street walker" (your words not mine), that means you must not wear that typically for errands. You are only making the point.
I don't recall ever bringing religious beliefs up, but if YOU think you will go to Hell for the way you dress, that is YOUR belief.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/07/2011

Jeannette, you may not have brought it up, but you did respond about it "I read remarks such as "slutty" and "skank" when referring to women who wear low cut or high cut clothing - isn't that a bit presumptuous and insulting? I really don't care because they dressed the part. "

Jeannette - posted on 11/07/2011

@Marina, I was referring to the other mothers who made remarks about women who dress slutty and look like skanks. I didn't even bring that up.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/07/2011

Did you ever think that maybe you are being judge for being so judgmental of others? I mean, just because these cloths are not your style, does not mean others cannot wear them.

I have a cute tight fitting optimus prime shirt that is low cut and show my curves....I MUST be a slut....and poor cause I got it for 12.99$ at target.....I must be a whore for my sexy black little dress that is satin and shows quite a bit..backless...going to hell for that one....good thing it cost 200$ so I know I am not looking poor....maybe a street walker though. Think I will pick up my son today in THAT!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/07/2011

WOWZA! Jeanette, settle down.

Jeannette - posted on 11/07/2011

I will explain this Angela: if you want to be perceived as lazy, unsuccessful, unclean, then dress the part. If you want to be perceived as someone who cares about yourself and those around you, then dress the part.
I read remarks such as "slutty" and "skank" when referring to women who wear low cut or high cut clothing - isn't that a bit presumptuous and insulting? I really don't care because they dressed the part.
I never stated that people with less income are less than, but it is insulting to be told one looks as if they don't make that much. The people themselves are not less than, but what they can afford is, which is why none of us strive to be poor.

Yes, I know I shared what I believe it portrays when people deliberately dress in such a way that is contradictory to what they believe about themselves, yet are shocked when they learn that people are judging them on what they put out there. I was going to edit my post this morning to take out the ghetto remark for the very reason - I knew it was being provocative and not making a point. However, you've already read it, so I left it.
I don't think there should be a dress code law, to be clear, I prefer less interference thank you.

Katherine - posted on 11/07/2011

Why are we talking about dentists? Jeanette did you not read the OP? Stay on topic.

Angela - posted on 11/07/2011

I want to say just because others do something does not make it right and I am sorry but as I stated your words were very distasteful and hurtful to me and I did not understand your attacks on the impoverished or low income as you stated. If I find something insulting I will say something and if I do something insulting and hurtful I hope someone will point it out to me.
I am the first to admit I make judgments and mistakes but at least I apologise when I see the error of my ways and do not blame it on the oh everyone else does it so why can't I be excused crap.

Angela - posted on 11/07/2011

But Jeanette I did not ever state people where from the ghetto, or less than if poor, and and I am sorry yes I understand at times using all caps, but you did this with words that were insulting. I don't understand this and I winced as I read your words. I hardly feel the statements you made about ones economic level for example has anything to do with this debate. I even asked you to explain your statement.



Edit to add most people would be beside themselves is to someone dyeing a preventable death of an abscessed tooth.



Wait edit to ask... when did I say everybody could put aside money for the Dentist....urgh never mind your are deflecting at best

Jeannette - posted on 11/07/2011

@Angela, yes, I am capable of making a point without insults. Laziness is quite the pet peeve, and excuses for it are too. Let me give you another example of when I will become belligerent - defend people who are too lazy to put their shopping carts in the cart catchers. Especially the people who park RIGHT there!
Now, regarding the use of say, all caps or exclamation marks to pointedly shout...ummm...you do that too. I do believe you were pretty beside yourself about someone dying from an abscessed tooth and had made the point that everyone

Angela - posted on 11/07/2011

@Jeannette Carter
I think the tone of your post with the all caps IE Shouting, assumptions people can not afford “Walmart pants and is it far out your price range” Speaking of Mother's never dressing one and telling people to grow up and along with these little nasty statements “Wearing pajamas out in public gives the impression of low income, lack of education, and carelessness; because if you are too lazy to change clothes, you are probably too lazy to acquire an education, a job, and good hygiene.” is
ARROGANT, PRESUMPTIOUS, JUDGEMENTAL AND INSULTING AND DOWN RIGHT NASTY.
In addition not anyone stated they wanted to send their kids to school in PJ's. So I am not sure what your point was in stating “Let's just send all of our kids to school in their pjs. This should get interesting.”
It is not that you over reacted Jeanette you are over judgmental and make big assumptions. Did you read your posts before you hit the post button? Should I assume you are not educated well enough to make a point for your side of the debate with out becoming personal and attacking peoples character as well as people income levels ?
What does being low income have to do with anything. Are you saying it is bad to be low income? That it makes you less than? Asking people if they live in the Ghetto what if they do?
At the risk of sounding like your I just have to turn the tables. Didn't your mother teach you how to speak in a way where you can make your point with out insults? You could have made your point with out doing so, since you did not I will make a lot of assumptions of your character and the example you set for you children not to matter what you wear to their school.
That is to be intolerant of others who think differently than you and it is okay to attack someone if they do, and sure judge people who have less income than you.

Jeannette - posted on 11/06/2011

@Meggy, do you live in the ghetto? My daughter is off at University and the ONE girl who thought she was going to wear her pjs and slippers to class was made fun of. If you do not take your education seriously, no one will take you seriously whilst there.
@Liz, yeah, I believe I stated you would have the "just don't give a damn" attitude.
I cannot believe how vehemently people are arguing FOR the right to wear bed clothes in public. Seriously? Do you buy your children separate clothes, or do you ship them off to school in pajamas? If you tried, you would be called to the school to change your child into daytime (up and ready) clothing. I wouldn't send my children to school in night clothes because it would reflect on me and my lack of care for my children's attitudes and dress. I am just glad my children do not own slippers and find other wardrobe offenders (hehe) offensive.
I also enjoy reading how my distaste for pj wearing in public has turned into me obviously being supportive of some TnA showing. Really? That's where you see me going with this?

Angela - posted on 11/06/2011

Well it just goes to show we all pass judgment some harsher than others. But I never assumed just because one wears jeans, jogging pants etc over PJ's they are educated and great examples to their children. But for some I guess that is all one needs to do.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/06/2011

I'm not saying that I think it's fine to wear PJs out in public. I've seen people wearing them in my friend's small town of Berlin (NY) to go to the Shell station for a gallon of milk and we both thought it was odd and couldn't she get some sweatpants at least? And my cousin in law wears them to the corner store where most of my inlaws live in Canoe. But I can't even bring myself to wear them further than the apartment lobby to pick up my mail (I also just wear socks sometimes instead of taking time to slip on my sneakers or get my slippers on. But I'm not going to condem someone for wearing PJs to pick up their kids or even to their uni classes.

My mom works from home and she's hardly out of her PJs or maybe wearing a bra. she has to dress nice when she trains clients on the computer programs her company sells. But when she's at home she wears her PJs. My brother and I really could care less.

Sal - posted on 11/06/2011

i also cant see how having a nice day chilling at home is ruined by not wearing pjs.....i almost wear the same thing day in and day out, jeans, fitted t, (long or short sleeve) and ballet shoes, there is nothing easier and more cmfortable than that, it can take you anywhere, never need to worry about being not suitably dressed, lunch shopping play park, chilling at home, very comfportable, my teen son isn;t ashamed to accidebtly bring a mate home and mum is in pjs at 3pm, a quick change of shoes and a scarf and scarf or earrings and i;m ready to go any where, school meeting, dinner with hubby or freinds, it isn;t hard to be respecable, and i almost exclusivly dress from op shops so it isn;t expensive either

Sal - posted on 11/06/2011

if someone can tell they are pjs then they are for bed....but by the same rule if you rocked up in jean and a t that looked like you slept in it i'd still think lazy bitch came out in the clothes she slpt in...

Stifler's - posted on 11/06/2011

one of my friends always wears clothes that look like she just rolled out of bed. we know for a fact she is lazy and says she's doing housework and laundry when she isn't. because their place is always filthy, not in a i cleaned but my kid just threw toys everywhere straight after way.

Sherri - posted on 11/06/2011

No one is complaining about wearing a tee and jogging pants that is acceptable and outside clothing. Actual P.J.'s are not.

What does what underwear we choose to wear reflect anything on our children. This isn't even in the same ballpark. Nobody sees our thongs, underwear or bras??

Also we should always set an example for what we expect from our children. I expect my children to be nicely dressed, neat, showered, teeth brushed, hair brushed when they leave the house. So because I expect this from my children, I also expect this from myself as I am my children's best influence and teacher. First impressions last a lifetime and are not often changed. So I have an expectation as to how I choose to present myself and my children in public and adhere to that.

Also it is unacceptable and against the rules to go to school in P.J's, tank tops, spaghetti straps, anything shorter than to the tips of your fingers and anything with tears or rips. So I feel it is my duty as their mom to also be appropriately dressed and be that positive role model.

Sal - posted on 11/06/2011

me neither never saw people in pjs any where at uni even in my dorm they didn;t even come to breakfast in the dining room in pjs, and when i see someone in pjs i am not thinking what a confident, comfortable young lady who is happy being herself, i am thinking dirty lazy no self respect, she must be so miserable to go out like that ...

Stifler's - posted on 11/06/2011

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Katherine - posted on 11/06/2011

I bath before putting on my pj's (but I call them my lounge pants, cuz well, I don't sleep in them).

But i'm more relaxed that way, I HATE getting all dressed up, wedges? What are they? Flip flops - yes please, crocs ok, brikenstalks - LOVE IT!!!!

I wore my sweatpants/jogging pants and a tee to dinner, with my crocs, did i care, nope, my bestie was beside me in her yoga pants, tank and sweater, along with fip flops....my son....at 7months old was STILL in his pj's from last night!!!!! Heaven forbid we have nice chill day at home, relaxing, playing and enjoying ourselves.......and I showered and put on my sweats

Stifler's - posted on 11/06/2011

And noone wore pajamas to uni when I went to uni.

Stifler's - posted on 11/06/2011

I've never seen anyone around here wear pajamas. Most people sleep naked in CQ. Even old grandmas have Guess bags and wear wedges to nip down to Coles in their Clubsport here.

Sal - posted on 11/06/2011

i am with sherri on this, i just can;t see the reason for wearing pjs all day, to me it indicates that you don;t care enough about your self or others to bath and change before you go out, i wouldn;t ever leave the house in the moring without showering and changing, and if i am leaving the house in the afternoon or night i am already out of my pjs they are not day clothes, i get the comfy aspect but there are loads of comfy respectable clothes, and as for the time issue i just don;t buy it (unless you are sick) it really takes me no more than 5 mins to shower and throw on some clothes, im my opinion i would rather you came 5 mins late than unbathed in your pjs...

Katherine - posted on 11/06/2011

@sherri really? you think it sets a bad example to our children if we wear pj pants? what type of bad example do you mean?

That we like to be comfy on our time off from work
that we respect ourselves
that we keep ourselves covered
that we are confident in who we are
that we have confidence enough in ourself to go out in public and not care what we're wearing??

Should we be wearing short shorts? thongs? chaps? bras? what kind of example does that set for our children?

I think if you are covered, no breasts, bums, bellies handing out that you are fine. I will wear what ever I want whenever I want to. As long as I am covered then to me I am decent and respectful of myself and others around me

Katherine - posted on 11/06/2011

I was just thinking that Meggy, I spent most of my 4 college years heading to class in my pj's (thats for 2 different diplomas).

I know alot of people who wear pj pants just as their comfy loungy pants, I for one am one of those people. I CAN"T stand sleeping in clothes (panties....thats it, thats all I can stand....i know TMI), so when I wake up I throw on my pj pants and a big ol'tee or tank!! Thats who i am

If people want to think of me as being lazy go for it, I am on mat leave, I don't need to impress anyone other then myself.

Once I do head back to work I have to wear a uniform, and most days i head into work in my pj bottoms as they are warmer then my uniform pants, and since i work with babies and toddlers Id rather have clean pj pants to go home in rather then snot/puke/piss covered pants.

Sherri - posted on 11/06/2011

In my opinion Meggy because they are immature and were not taught better.



I am with Jeannette on this one. I honestly am disgusted when teens and adults wear P.J.'s in public and I am not talking dropping off in your car where nobody can see you anyways. I am talking people who actually wear them as clothing. It really is in poor taste and really sets a poor example for our children.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/06/2011

Jeanette, if wearing PJs gives one the image of being low income and uneducated then why are there so many university students walking around in PJs at the college across the street from my apartment?

Liz - posted on 11/06/2011

@Jeannette- I don't see why anyone would care what I wear to the school as long as my tits and ass aren't hanging out. Honestly if someone feels the need to pass judgment on me because of it, I really don't give a damn. If anyone wants to assume I spent the whole day in the same clothes I slept in, I don't care. If anyone wants to assume I'm lazy and jobless, I don't care. On my time off from work I wear what I want. On the weekend when my kids have time off from school and the want to wear sweats, I let them.

I'd rather teach my children to be confident with themselves and not be judgmental of others.

Jeannette - posted on 11/06/2011

@Katherine, your post says it all - "they should just be thankful parents are dressed and not all hanging out", because just having clothes on is a bother.
My point is this, we have lost levels of civility just by our demeanor, attitude, and yes DRESS codes. If you are wearing something that we all know to be pajamas, we now know what you wear to bed - thanks. If as an adult you cannot bother to change from what you wore to sleep in, you probably cannot be bothered with doing much else.
"Busy" is not a reason to not get dressed. You don't have to wear make-up, heels, and have a professional appearance. As someone who has slept in up until 6 minutes before the kids have to go to school, it is not too hard to change from pjs to jeans and a t-shirt with a pair of flip flops.
Wearing pajamas out in public gives the impression of low income, lack of education, and carelessness; because if you are too lazy to change clothes, you are probably too lazy to acquire an education, a job, and good hygiene.
I know there are those that will defend their choice to don pajamas at all hours in all locations - waving their Master's degrees, but seriously, you are projecting much less.
If what we wear is not something to think about, why do we have uniforms, professional dress, casual dress, night clothes? Why not throw the towel in and just buy the ever stretchy always comfy pjs for everyone for everything?
I know, I know, I am overreacting right? Maybe, but there is an attitude that goes along with defending your right to wear whatever whenever - just don't give a damn.

Katherine - posted on 11/06/2011

I haven't had the chance to start school with my little man yet, but i'm sure that there will be the occasional day of drop offs and pick ups where i'm in my pjs, does it really matter what i'm wearing? they should just be thankful parents are dressed and not all hanging out!!!

the difference between jogging pants, yoga pants and pj's are this to me: jogging pants are thick and warm for the winter, yoga are strechy, cling to your bum and are meant for exercising, usually black or grey (think lu lu lemon pants) and pj's are usually very colourful and with prints!!! (written as i sit here in a big baggy nintendow wii tee and bright super hero pj bottoms!!! But i'm not leaving my house)

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/06/2011

Sheesh Jeanette! Remind me to never wear my scrubs or pick up my child when I've been home sick all day around you!



I don't agree with people wearing PJs outside and I don't do it unless I've been feeling really sick and need to run to the pharmacy. But some moms do work from home and don't see a point in getting dressed just to pick their child up from school. Or maybe you're not feeling too hot? There are a lot of reasons why someone may wear their PJs and we as women shouldn't be so judgemental about it.

Victorya - posted on 11/06/2011

I think this rule is dumb. BTW jogging pants and yoga pants are not any different from pj pants.