Dress code for Moms

Sarah - posted on 10/17/2011

I wouldn't wear pj's to drop my kids at school or pick them up. I'd feel hypocritical insisting that my kids were up and dressed and ready if I wasn't bothering to do it myself.

On a Monday for example, my Dad comes and takes my eldest to school........and I'm STILL up and dressed just to greet my Dad! It's not exactly hard to pull a pair of jeans on when I get up.

I can kinda understand a dress code, there's a Mum at my daughters school and I feel like covering all the kids eyes as she walks past!
I highly doubt that if I wore a tank top (or what I assume is what I would call a vest top!) I would get in trouble, I'm assuming that there's Mum's there that are flashing WAY more than the average vest top, and that's why they've felt the need to make the rule.

Are they going over the top? Probably, yes.
Do I think that Mum's should set a better example......yep!

Becky - posted on 10/16/2011

The tank top is really the ridiculous one. A tank top doesn't have to look sloppy. I can see the issue if it's one you wear to bed that your boobs flop out of, but you can buy some very nice and modest tank tops too.

Karla - posted on 10/16/2011

First, I personally don't were pj's in the car because of my fear of having car trouble at just that moment.

Second, I don't mind the *respectfully request* part of the parental dress code.

Third, they went way overboard with the *alternate transportation* part of the dress code. nutty.

Sal - posted on 10/16/2011

Wtf.... Prey tell why are they in pjs in the afternoon while I'm sure mums might do shift woMrk or be up with babies at night but in the afternoon get your lazy but in some real clothes set an example of self resPect for your kids and have a little Pride in your right self it tAkes 2minuites to put on jeans and a t Shirt

If someOne can tell they are pjs maybe dont wear them.....

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 10/16/2011

Unless I'm really sick I don't go anywear without at least putting on jeans and a t-shirt or sweatshirt. I don't own yoga pants (but I should) I've only gone out in pajamas for work stuff or if I have a bad cold or something and am just running up to the pharmacy.



However I don't think it's right for a school to tell parents they can't wear pajama pants or tank tops. I live in an area where it gets into the mid 30's in the summer. I wear tank tops and shorts in the summer to go pick up my 7 year old.

Melissa - posted on 10/16/2011

i wonder if this was written because a parent wore inappropriate pajamas to school e.g. her sexy stuff (i can't spell it sorry) or something real skimpy. I don't think this is meant for those long flannel pj pants and t-shirts, because obviously if a parent is home sick that day they won't make a parent go home, but maybe it was stated for that problem parent that they had once wearing her skimpy pjs

Liz - posted on 10/16/2011

I can understand a military base having a strict dress code or a private school.

Sapphire - posted on 10/16/2011

I posted earlier that this was a school on a military base, and the school is requesting parents to represent their military spouse by not looking sloppy/frumpy. Whether this is actually enforceable or not, who knows? But I do know enough about military families that each member of the familiy represents the active duty military member. I am sure the last thing an activie duty member wants or needs is a commanding officer tattling on his subordinate because his wife looks sloppy while dropping off the kids.

Liz - posted on 10/16/2011

I guess I should be glad that sweats and tank tops aren't again the dress code at the elementary school then.:)
The high school has a policy against spaghetti strap tanks.

Sherri - posted on 10/16/2011

I LOVE it!!! I think this is great. Start being a role model for your child and if it isn't allowed on school grounds for your child, it definitely shouldn't be for the parent's either.

I have NEVER shown up to school in a tank top or PJ's it just isn't appropriate. IMHO.

Liz - posted on 10/16/2011

I totally agree Heather, I don't get the no tank top rule. I wear tanks all summer and all winter for the most part, even when I was in school and it was against the dress code I still wore them. I don't see why they are considered inappropriate.



I don't usually see moms wearing sponge bob pajama pants and I don't own any myself that have cartoons on them. I am an adult so when I say PJs, I mean sweats or yoga pants and a tank top or tshirt. Why the hell should I have to change to go through the pick up line at the school.

Kate CP - posted on 10/16/2011

I think it's stupid. :P

Lady Heather - posted on 10/16/2011

I think the focus on the pjs in the responses is weird. Did you all miss the no tank top rule??? Most of my warm weather shirts are sleeveless. And yeah, I'm a grown woman. I will wear spaghetti straps if I so choose. Doesn't mean I look skanky.

Ashley=) - posted on 10/16/2011

Lol come on pjs to go get the kids.Its one thing young girls going to the shop etc with there fluffy sheep pjs on (which is so wrong looking)but moms picking the kids up now, no way.

Is it that hard to get dressed?

Mary - posted on 10/16/2011

I completely agree with GIllian on this...really, how much trouble is it to throw on a pair of sweats to pick up your kid? They are not stating that parents need to be "dressed up" - just that they need to be dressed according to the school's dress code, which is really fairly loose at all of the public schools around here.



I'm not huge on appearances, but before leaving the house, I do at least take the effort to wash my face, brush my teeth, throw my hair up in a pony tail, and throw on something other than my jammies. It takes me roughly 5 minutes to do this. I'm not getting dressed up - in the summer, this involves a pair of running shorts and a tee, in the winter, some yoga pants and a fleece.



I admit, I am one of those people that shakes my head at those tooling around the grocery store in their slippers and SpongeBob pj bottoms. Sorry, but I'm not going to take you seriously, and I am going to judge you as a lazy slob who belongs on the "people of Walmart" website.



I find it sort of pathetic that parents need to be told to get dressed before leaving the house. I have a little more self-respect than that. I also think it is a rather poor example to set before your child. I think it's rather asinine to tell your kids that they have to get dressed before going out, if you yourself can't muster up the effort to do the same.

Liz - posted on 10/16/2011

I like my pjs and have worn them to drop off or pick up my kids. I really don't care what anyone else is wearing and I really don"t care what anyone else thinks about what I'm wearing. I work nights so naturally during the day I want to be comfy.

Stifler's - posted on 10/16/2011

LOL! Who wears pyjamas to pick up their kid??? It's like 3PM in the afternoon? I'd like to know how they know what mums are wearing? Don't the kids just come out of school, find the car and get in and go?

Becky - posted on 10/15/2011

Most of my pyjama pants look a little ratty, so I probably wouldn't wear them to drop my kids off at school, but sweats or a tank top, heck yeah. This rule is ridiculous and I don't see how it would be legal.
Although I have to say, unless you are sick, it's a wee bit lazy to still be in your pyjamas at 3 in the afternoon when you go to pick your kid up from school!

Kelly - posted on 10/15/2011

Most of the year, I am wearing yoga pants and a tank or sweatshirt when i drop J off--they look like PJ's--because I go directly to the gym after dropping him off. As long as the important parts are covered, who cares whether my bottoms are plain grey or have little blue dogs on them??

Now that I am on chemo, d*** straight I'm wearing my PJ's!!! It takes every ounce of effort I have to drive him safely to school, I'm not going to waste what little energy I have on extra laundry and pulling on jeans....which most might take for granted, but jeans take A LOT more effort that stretchy yoga pants....not to mention how cold they are in the morning, and I am NOT doing well on the body heat front at the moment--I swear my whole body is like ICE!! Even on warm days!

Katherine - posted on 10/15/2011

I turn up in PJ's ALL the time. BFD. I just roll out of bed, get her eady and go. Screw them and they're "rules."

Jodi - posted on 10/15/2011

I must admit, I turn up in sweat pants/shorts and tank tops in the height of summer ....... I don't see the issue with that really.

Brittany - posted on 10/15/2011

The school can not force the child to find an alternate way home if that parent is listed as a pick up person.

I do not ever drop off or pick up my son in PJ's because, when I drop him off I am on my way to school and when I pick him up I have usually just finished my day.

I do not see anything wrong with Mom dropping off or picking up their child while still in PJ's as long as they are acceptable. I, as a parent, would be offended if some lady showed up in lingerie. If she was in yoga pants and a tank or some tinkerbell pants and an over sized shirt, I could care less. Maybe today is her day off.

Katherine - posted on 10/15/2011

I think the rule was already implemented in the handbook. So it was before this fiasco.

Jodi - posted on 10/15/2011

I find it amusing that so many parents must be wearing their PJs to school pick up that they even HAD to make a rule.

I have never still been in my PJs to pick the kids up from school. However, I have been known to drop kids off while still in my PJs, but I usually threw a shirt over the top, so you couldn't tell. I never had to get out of the car. I just crossed my fingers that the car wouldn't break down or that I wouldn't have an accident on the way home.

Katherine - posted on 10/15/2011

LOL, Heather.

Lady Heather - posted on 10/15/2011

I'm not one to wear my pjs outside, but if it's hot out I'm going to effing wear my tank top. It's not the fucking Vatican. I'd refuse to put something over my tank top just to get into the elementary school parking lot. They'd at least need some interesting artwork or something, Michelangelo caliber.

Although there's a good idea for school fundraising. They can have a souvenir school t shirt stand outside the lot to sell cheap 5 dollar shirts to inappropriately dressed mothers.

Sapphire - posted on 10/15/2011

Trust me, this isn't going to be enforced. A public school can "respectfully request" a parent dresscode while dropping off/picking up a kid, but seriously, you think the principal is going to stand out there and monitor parent license plates? Finding an alternate pick up method? Sorry-it wouldn't hold up an dI highly doubt a school board actually approved it. It's more than likely an individual school policy. And once challenged, policies can change. All it takes is 1 parent to make enough noise about what to not wear.



ETA: Here is the disclaimer from the link: * edit to include that this rule is on a military post and thus enforceable (in theory) because the school can notify someone who can come down on the military member.



OK.....so perhaps becasue this is a public school on a military post, there *may* be some enforceable (in theory) policy. If Mrs. Jones shows up sloppy in PJs to drop off her children, and she represents her husband, Seargent-Major Jones, well then it's my interpretation that all family members represent the military. Look the part. Again, just my interpretation on the issue, and I'd love to hear from some of you with military experience.

Jurnee - posted on 10/15/2011

Personally , I wouldnt go to school in my pj's, but this rule is just going a bit overboard. I dont see how its interfering with the learning process, or any process for that matter.

Lady - posted on 10/15/2011

Yoga pants - in my world - are like thiner jogging bottoms - usually tighter and stretchy and in colours of exercise clothes - trousers basically that you would wear to do yoga.

Jenny - posted on 10/15/2011

Telling adults what to wear is stupid. I'd tell them to take a leap if they tried telling me what to do. And I don't wear jammies in public.

Carolee - posted on 10/15/2011

I've always called yoga pants and pajama pants the same thing. I think they're technically different, but they're interchangable to me for the most part. I think pajama pants have a better chance of having patterns or pictures or something.

Lady - posted on 10/15/2011

I would imaging they wouldn't make them do it that day - that they wouldn't let the parent take the child - I think they mean if the parent consistantly reaks the rules then they might ask them to find some other person to do the school run.

Firebird - posted on 10/15/2011

Is that even legal? I mean really, if I arrive at school with my pj pants are they going to hold my child hostage if I don't find another ride home for her? That's demented. My cousin and I spent all last winter dropping the kids off at school while wearing our pj pants. They're the warmest clothes I own and Canadian winter's get bloody cold! And what the hell are yoga pants? lol

Carolee - posted on 10/15/2011

The whole "find another way home" thing is absurd. What if it's a single parent without family around, it's after school, and all the busses are gone? Some people don't have the option of another way home.

Teresa - posted on 10/15/2011

I think it's absurd. Who the hell cares what the parents wear to pick up and drop off (as long as they're fully covered) their kids. At least the kids are IN school.

I dropped the girls off on Friday in my jammies. I never set foot out of the vehicle. It was my ONE day last week that I could just go back home, so who cares... I DID get dressed before picking them up since I was out of the van then.

I notice the 'rules' say 'respectfully request' to the parents and 'request' that the kid finds another way home. I'm thinking that means they can't REALLY require this of the parents, but are just trying to strongly influence it.

Lady - posted on 10/15/2011

You can be comfortable in jogging bottoms or yoga pants - pj's are for wearing in bed - not the school run!

Carolee - posted on 10/15/2011

Some people just like to be comfortable. I'd personally rather see moms in pajama pants than some of the slutty things that are WAY too tight and low on top/high on the bottom.

Lady - posted on 10/15/2011

Why the hell would you go to school in your pj's? My kids would die of embarrasment if I droped them off in dressed like that and so would I - just get dressed for heavens sake and stop whinging!!!

Katherine - posted on 10/15/2011

I know. It's beyond ridiculous. You're right private vs public I could maybe see.
I think it's a total infringement on their rights.

Carolee - posted on 10/15/2011

If it were a private school, I could somewhat understand (but not agree) with the rule. But, this is a PUBLIC school. If it were a problem with moms wearing their lacy racy nighties, that's one thing, but pajama pants? Really? I completely disagree with this rule.