Expensive Baby Gear & Outrageous Nurseries

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What are your thoughts & opinions on expensive baby gear & over-priced baby nurseries?



I know that some pricey baby gear is an investement if you are planning on a few children. Car seats, strollers, breast pump, swing, etc. There is some merit to purchasing a high-ticket item like a Britax car seat. But I don't get the insane price of a Bugaboo $600+ stroller. Designer clothing or designer baby bags? A joke & waste of money, IMO. Upscale baby cribs and changing tables, beautifully interior decorated nurseries? All for the mother-a baby does not need or require all that sophistication. I thought I went overboard with painting & partially decorating until my son arrived early. He had a partially completed nursery, and guess what? He refused to sleep in the crib! I couldn't get him in the nursery until about 9-10 months!

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Jodi - posted on 11/26/2009

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One of my brothers insists on buying name brand clothes for the kids (and when they were babies) for the quality because they will "last longer, and they get more wear out of them". Yeah, ok, that's great in theory, but really, what's the point if they grow out of them first? Seriously, I get the same wear out of the ones I bought at Target or other stores - because they get us through until they outgrow them in most cases!! And boys are ALWAYS going to wear through the knees.



But I'm not arguing with him - let him think that. I get all their hand-me-downs in excellent condition for Taylah :)

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Quoting Sharon:

I totally agree if you work hard and can afford upscale pricey baby gear, then more power to you! Since all car seats have to meet federal safety laws, it really is an issue of what you can currently afford at the time. I have heard stories of moms going beyond broke in massive credit card debt over the need for an upscale stroller or round crib, etc. It's not worth it and the baby has no clue what he's being around in or what the crib looks like. It's all for the mom. Traci, I know what you mean about cheapo cars too! My husband's first three cars ranged from $500-$1000.


Doesn't that apply to every luxury in life, not just baby gear? I do agree that spending outside your means just for the sake of keeping up appearences is irresponsible. It's also false economy to buy the items with the lowest price ticket.



I doubt a high end stroller is going to fall to pieces after 6 months use. Buying a high quality crib may be safer than purchasing the cheapest on the market. Same for car seats. I don't think you need to break the bank to get all those things. I agree with Traci that there are lower cost brands such as Graco and Fisher Price that provide quality items at affordable prices.



Expensive brand and designer baby clothing is however beyond ridiculous. I love quality clothing but for myself to invest in something like that I always consider how much use I'll get out of an item. Will I get value for money? I just don't see how cost effective it is to buy a baby onesie for £25 when you can get 5 for £10 knowing that in a months time it will no longer fit. It's money down the drain. Money that could be better invested in your child's future. Unless your on living on a massive income, Why would you want to spend your life scrapping the barrel in order to keep your baby in labels?

Erin - posted on 11/25/2009

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My daughter's pram, carseat, wardrobe and swing were all over $350 each. I then picked up her change table and cot for about $180 each, her playgym for about $100, and bouncer on sale for $50. My Mum bought the pram (and that of my two step-sisters who were both due around the same time as me) but I managed the rest on just my wage (my daughter's father bailed when I was 8 weeks pregnant). We also painted her room and got a new rug for the floor. So yeah I did do the 'nursery' thing - I wanted to be able to walk past the room and have it be beautiful - but I don't think I spent an excessive amount of money on it.

Designer clothes though is something else entirely. I have not bought my daughter any, but other people have - eg..my friend from The Gold Coast sent her a Ralph Lauren polo that she literally wore ONCE and outgrew. Especially with the rate my daughter grows, there is really no point spending that amount of money on clothes for her. My friend, though, dresses her two girls almost entirely in surf brands. They are 3 and 11 months. A Roxy t-shirt for a baby is about $40... I'm sorry but I just think it's INSANE!!!

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I totally agree if you work hard and can afford upscale pricey baby gear, then more power to you! Since all car seats have to meet federal safety laws, it really is an issue of what you can currently afford at the time. I have heard stories of moms going beyond broke in massive credit card debt over the need for an upscale stroller or round crib, etc. It's not worth it and the baby has no clue what he's being around in or what the crib looks like. It's all for the mom. Traci, I know what you mean about cheapo cars too! My husband's first three cars ranged from $500-$1000.

~Jennifer - posted on 11/24/2009

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They make some hella-cute baby stuff these days.......and if babies stayed that small, I'd have bought all of it. The only thing I spent money on were the bedding sets.

Peter had a Glenna Jean - it was about 350 bucks. Autumn had the (discontinued, so I REALLY had to search for a new one) "Carter's John Lennon bedding - that was about 250 when I found it new and unused. The rest of it was "my" old dresser - redone, an old wash stand that my grandmother had that I put a pad on (changing table) and my bestest retail friend in the world - Wal-Mart.

I see no point in spending money on items that a child isn't even going to remember having.

It seems more like a status symbol than anything.

ie: Britax wouldn't be popular if Britney Spears hadn't known how to strap her kid into a carest correctly in a mini-cooper and had a paparazzi take the picture of it........

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Anna - posted on 11/24/2009

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Quoting Esther:

Well, I completely agree that the price tag of the items you buy for your kids has nothing to do with how much you love them. That being said, I did spend a lot of money on Lucas' crib (which has now been converted to a toddler bed) and my parents bought me a hugely expensive stroller ($1200). If they hadn't purchased it for me, I would have bought it myself and I would have not regretted it at all. Even though I know I'm not having any more kids. I love his crib and I love his stroller. And I work hard for my money so if that's how I choose to spend it, isn't that my right?



I agree, I work hard for my money and if I want to splurge on a few expensive things, then why not ? We spent $1200 on Jack's crib which converted to a toddler bed and then to a full size bed. I think it was worth every penny. I also shopped around and looked on consumer reports when I needed to purchase a double stroller. I bought a $600 stroller Phil & Teds Sport Buggy, which is a single that converts to a double  but is still the size of single and light weight. I love it and it has been a lifesaver, I don't regret my purchases in the least.

Traci - posted on 11/24/2009

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I never used a changing table either. I don't see the point in them. I guess they make for a cute little piece of furniture in a nursery, but I would never use one. I'm more comfortable on the floor. I keep a little basket underneath my endtable with diapers, wipes, and a changing pad and it's much more convenient.

Traci - posted on 11/24/2009

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I am not much a fan of all those "yuppie" brands...I'm more of a Fisher-Price/Graco kinda girl. I like the cutesy patterns they have. The last baby I felt in my heart it was gonna be a girl, and I was really into the pink/brown flower patterns Graco had out, so when the travel system went on sale for 139 bucks (that's the stroller, infant seat carrier, plus the carseat base), I picked it up. The quality is just as good as those pricey ones, and I think they are way prettier anyway. I don't like the industrial look for baby stuff.

Our crib was less than 300 bucks and it's on the third kid, plus we can use it as a full size headboard/footboard once my daughter is done with it.

I mean, if you've got the means, then go for it. It's your money! If there was pricey stuff out there I liked and I had nothing better to do with my money (which I honestly think would never happen), then maybe. But I'm all about the sales and the good deals. 600 bucks for a stroller is just not something I could ever do. Hell, my first car cost me 800 bucks...and I saved my rearend off to buy it!!!

Charlie - posted on 11/24/2009

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Coopers great grandnanna bought his whole nursery and she is one of those people who does not do cheap all her choice not mine as much as i tried to tell her it was ridiculously expensive and she didnt have to she did and Cooper has a beautiful room i have to say thanks to her .

Personally i like to be surrounded by beautiful , inspiring things whether they are expensive or not , Coopers clothing all started out designer until i realized it wasn't worth the money ( even though he looked rockin ) i started buying from best and less which i found had awesome kids clothes in "my" taste and at a cheap price .
I say if a parent wants to buy expensive then go for it as long as they can afford too , if a parent enjoys the thrill of sniffing out a bargain then all the power too you mumma !!

Money does not equal love i think we all know that .

Sharon - posted on 11/24/2009

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I agree. I bought the best rated car seats on the market, they also happened to be the priciest. Strollers were a different story. I wanted one with lots of features but most of the those weren't rated highly. So I looked for the best rated one - kind of hard to do as the online rating sites hadn't taken off yet and consumer reports seemed to test strollers pretty gently. So I returned a lot of them. In the end I think I paid nearly $200 for a massively heavy stroller with lots of features but worked well but my favorite was $97 Combi that folded to nearly umbrella stroller size.

We never did the nursery thing. The babies never spent any amount of time away from us. A small corner of the livingroom was converted to "baby land." Swing, playmat, wallie stickons, pack-n-play, mobile etc. I just didn't see the point of repainting & decorating when the baby doesn't care.

We didn't use a changing table - why? It was just as easy to change the baby in the bassinet or crib or on the couch and I didn't have to walk all the way across the house every time he was wet.

Designer clothing - hahahahaha I went to a resale shop for the first time in my life and found ALLLLLLLL this cool designer baby clothing with the retail store tags still on it. I bought TONS of it for a few dollars.

But for the most part they wore Circo from Target for every day life, lol.

And the older kids thing... yep - my 14 yr old would probably rather die than be caught in $12 jeans from walmart. he's outgrown his jeans alreadys (all three have and school just started in august) and he is begging my mom to take him to the big retail stores in tucson to buy him new clothes. I told her TWO pairs of pricey jeans and two shirts, thats it, the rest will have to come from target or walmart or they can hunt the discount retail shop I work at for those kinds of things at a better price. (you only 1/4 of the price there or less. I got nice slacks for $14 - previously $125 - NOT irregulars!)

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Quoting Cathelijn:

I think it such a waste to buy only expensive clothes for babies first of all they trash it second they wear it for like 3 months and grow out of it. For anyone who know H&M I love it for babies and kids ( and myself) it has the cutest clothes and it doesn't cost a fortune so its ok if they only wear it for 3 months.



I was working in H&M when I was pregnant with Rhys. It was great, I got first pick on all the sale items plus 25% discount. A lot of the baby clothes were still in as good as new condition for Lucas!

Esther - posted on 11/23/2009

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Well, I completely agree that the price tag of the items you buy for your kids has nothing to do with how much you love them. That being said, I did spend a lot of money on Lucas' crib (which has now been converted to a toddler bed) and my parents bought me a hugely expensive stroller ($1200). If they hadn't purchased it for me, I would have bought it myself and I would have not regretted it at all. Even though I know I'm not having any more kids. I love his crib and I love his stroller. And I work hard for my money so if that's how I choose to spend it, isn't that my right?

Cathelijn - posted on 11/23/2009

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Ofcourse buying expensive stuff has nothing to do with how much you love your baby people who think that really need to get their heads tested.

Isabelle is the first baby in my family for about 14 years so there is not much stuff that was handed to to me also because my family lives in a different country and to ship over hand me downs is really not worth it.

When I stay I Holland with Isabelle I do put her in some clothes that I wore when I was a baby but I wouldn't let her go out with :-)) come on, they were fashionable 30 years ago for my sister and worn by 3 kids.



She does have a fancy pushchair which was a gift because we wouldnt have been able to afford it. My uncle bought us the pushchair with an infant car seat. My parents bought a moses basket with linnen and blankets but that is it. Isabelle still shares a room with us because we have no more room!



I have to say in my younger years I used to spend lots and lots of money on clothes and shoes. But at the moment we can't afford it for Isabelle or ourselves. My family does buy her lots of fancy clothes that I wouldn't buy her but they enjoy buying it and dressing her up.



I think it such a waste to buy only expensive clothes for babies first of all they trash it second they wear it for like 3 months and grow out of it. For anyone who know H&M I love it for babies and kids ( and myself) it has the cutest clothes and it doesn't cost a fortune so its ok if they only wear it for 3 months.



I am still contemplating made to measure kneehigh £155 boots for myself but that might have to be a Christmas gift foom somebody... ANYBODY???

Mary - posted on 11/23/2009

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Well, for those who can afford to splurge, I guess it is their perogative. I'm sure a lot of first time parents genuinely start out thinking "I care enough to have only the best for baby", and after they come, you realize that it is mostly for you. ESPECIALLY with clothes...that 3, 6,9,12, etc month-old could care (or know) less about the difference between that Target-brand sleeper or the pricey Ralph-Lauren one.

I've been fortunate...my sister was one of those moms that went nuts on clothes for her kids. Lucky me, she saved them all, so Molly has some very nice, brand-name hand-me-downs (I haven't had to buy much at all in the way of clothes =)! ). She had the means, she got pleasure out of it, and now, they are being used twice! Genna and Molly could care less, although my niece (7) thinks it is really neat that "Baby Molly" is wearing her old clothes.

The only really pricey item I did indulge in was a BOB stroller (~ $350.00). BUT, I had done a lot of research, talked to a lot of "non-materialistic" moms whose opinions I respected, and this seemed like the one worthwhile expenditure. Mind you, this jogger is not necessary for everyone, but with our lifestyle, and usage, it seemed reasonable. I have used the crap outta that thing...it's great on trails & such, and if a tire blows (I've done this twice now) I take it to the bike shop to be repaired. It is the only stroller we own, folds up easily and compactly, and is fairly indestructable. Down the line, it can be converted to this gizmo that hauls, for example, sporting equipment (similar, but more durable than those wheeled carts you see people with at the beach). It is a purchase I would happily make again (dear God, I sound like a commercial, lol!)

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All of the big items were given to us by my partners aunt and uncle who are loaded and have 3 kids - the youngest is now 4 so they didn't need any of their baby stuff anymore so we got; matching crib, change table, and dresser, matching swing, bouncy chair and play mat, matching jogging stroller and umbrella stroller and our infant carseat was a gift from my partners parents and his grandma, our second carseat we bought ourselves and we paid all of $80 for it.



All of his more expensive and brand name toys and clothes have been given to him as either hand-me-downs or gifts for xmas or his birthday or just cause someone wanted to get him a gift.



I've never had to buy anything that might be expensive... but if I had the extra money... I probably would - right now I don't have the extra money, that 'extra money' has gone into a bank account for his education or whatever later on - but if there was extra money after that amount, I would probably buy a lil extra expensive crap. Not to show off or 'have better things than other people' but just as a thing for my son to look back on and to look at pictures and think "wow... I didn't need that crap... it's nice that they went that extra mile to make being a baby special for me.. even if I had no clue then." And it definitely wouldn't be to the extent of 'platinum babies' lol



PS: I bought a $200 pair of jeans ($237.99 to be exact), they were on sale from $425 and were custom made, Lithium Jeans made in the store after measurements were taken and material picked - it was also a complete splurge on my part when I was 19 and the only person I was responsible for was myself lol

Jodi - posted on 11/22/2009

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Quoting Amie:



Quoting Jodi:




Quoting Amie:

Our oldest is starting to care though, she's 9. I bought her a pair of $50 jeans for back to school. It's gonna suck when all of them are old enough to care. On the bright side when our two youngest girls are old enough our oldest will be of age to work and will be earning her own money to buy that stuff if she wants it. lol.








Oh, Amie, I feel your pain.  My stepdaughter went through this.  I remember once, there was a particular pair of sport pants she wanted that were $40 in a brand name store.  There were an EXACT replica (and yes, it looked exactly the same) in K-Mart for $20, and she refused to wear the K-Mart brand because of the tag.  That is the day she had to start doing more chores for us to pay for her clothes......








She's over it now - at 17, she has a part time job, and she pays for her clothes if she wants to be fussy about it.  She has very much learned to be a little more aware of the cost of her clothes, LOL :)








I have heard of parents paying $200+ dollars for jeans (it seems they haven't heard of the word "no"), so you got off lightly this time :)








I must say, it's a really good argument for school uniform!!!









$200?!! For ONE pair of jeans?! Good lord. My parents let me start babysitting at 12. They invested the $40 for the babysitters course for me, I paid them back once I got a few people who I babysat for regularly. I quickly learned how to budget and the value of my dollar earned.






I plan on doing the same with my kids because honestly the kids do I see now a days whose parents hand them everything really sicken me. I don't mean the ones who work at home and earn their stuff. I mean the ones whose parents literally buy them whatever they want and let them piss around doing meaningless crap because and I quote "You're a kid." When your child is a teenager you should be preparing them even more for their future away from home. I know one of my sister's friends is going to lose his mind when he leaves home and has to start paying bills. He won't have gas money for his brand new car. (Yes his parents bought him a brand spanking new car.) Though who knows, they'll probably fund all his crap because "He's young and shouldn't have to worry so much." Ugh... sorry rant ensued. LOL!





LOL, I so agree with your rant.  Our kids work for their money!!  My son has chores for his $10 a week (he is 12), and he will get extra if he does extra work.  He also helps count money for our business, and is now getting to an age where he can go over there on busy days with my husband and help by selling the drinks and ice creams, etc, as well as the cleaning.  I used to teach horse riding, and I started doing that when I was 12 or 13, my dad paid me to do it, as it was part of their business.



Yep, $200 for a pair of jeans, seriously....... I've never paid that much for a pair of jeans for myself, buggered if I'm going to pay that much for a pair for my children!!!

Amie - posted on 11/22/2009

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Quoting Lindsay:

My thought are that some of these things are obviously more for the parents and for show than for the actual baby. Yes, they may use them but really they could easily function with a different brand for a much better price.

A lot of my high ticket items were given to me at baby showers and were used for both kids. When I did my regestries, I looked more at the safety of things and durability than price. We got several nice things that were very helpful. I bought the crib and bedding myself from target for a very reasonable price and they worked just as well and looked nice too! =)

When I opened this I immediately thought of a show I saw a week or two ago on WE called Platinum Babies. It's quite rediculous and can't get over hearing them say how much these kids are loved because they have such nice things...gag!


Wow what a rude and ignorant thing to say! I would have gagged too!

Amie - posted on 11/22/2009

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Quoting Jodi:



Quoting Amie:

Our oldest is starting to care though, she's 9. I bought her a pair of $50 jeans for back to school. It's gonna suck when all of them are old enough to care. On the bright side when our two youngest girls are old enough our oldest will be of age to work and will be earning her own money to buy that stuff if she wants it. lol.






Oh, Amie, I feel your pain.  My stepdaughter went through this.  I remember once, there was a particular pair of sport pants she wanted that were $40 in a brand name store.  There were an EXACT replica (and yes, it looked exactly the same) in K-Mart for $20, and she refused to wear the K-Mart brand because of the tag.  That is the day she had to start doing more chores for us to pay for her clothes......






She's over it now - at 17, she has a part time job, and she pays for her clothes if she wants to be fussy about it.  She has very much learned to be a little more aware of the cost of her clothes, LOL :)






I have heard of parents paying $200+ dollars for jeans (it seems they haven't heard of the word "no"), so you got off lightly this time :)






I must say, it's a really good argument for school uniform!!!





$200?!! For ONE pair of jeans?! Good lord. My parents let me start babysitting at 12. They invested the $40 for the babysitters course for me, I paid them back once I got a few people who I babysat for regularly. I quickly learned how to budget and the value of my dollar earned.



I plan on doing the same with my kids because honestly the kids do I see now a days whose parents hand them everything really sicken me. I don't mean the ones who work at home and earn their stuff. I mean the ones whose parents literally buy them whatever they want and let them piss around doing meaningless crap because and I quote "You're a kid." When your child is a teenager you should be preparing them even more for their future away from home. I know one of my sister's friends is going to lose his mind when he leaves home and has to start paying bills. He won't have gas money for his brand new car. (Yes his parents bought him a brand spanking new car.) Though who knows, they'll probably fund all his crap because "He's young and shouldn't have to worry so much." Ugh... sorry rant ensued. LOL!

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Nope, not into the brand names, especially for babies. It's not worth paying that much for something they outgrow the next week, throw up on and stain or when they get a little older dump something on and ruin. My son sleeps in a $120 crib and his room is decorated in cross stitch samplers that I did before he was born.

That said, he does have brand name clothing but only because it was bought for him (by someone else) or was a hand-me-down (I agree with Jodi, I love hand-me-downs and shop at second hand stores). One of my hubby's co-workers gave us a bunch of cloths and she's a brand name-aholic. My son had rompers made by Ralph Lauren when he was 3 months old - I didn't even know Ralph Lauren made a baby line.

Jocelyn - posted on 11/22/2009

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I bought my son a very nice $600 crib...yeah, we ended up co-sleeping until he went into a twin bed :S...learned my lesson there! lol I STILL want that $1200 round crib tho...*sigh*
3 years later and another baby, I buy from Walmart!!! or Co-op lol. I would love to be able to afford a Bugaboo stroller, but my little $30 umbrella works just as well.
I must admit that I do buy the designer diaper bags...but $180 is the most I've spent on one. I get ones that I can use after as a normal purse, so it's an investment imo :P I would have loved to have a perfectly decorated nursery for my son, but I know now that if I had, nothing would have been used and it would have all been swapped out for Disney Cars stuff and hockey bedding. So this time around I haven't even painted my daughters room yet, and I'm just getting the bookcases and stuff set up (she's 6 weeks). My lovely $600 crib is still in pieces in the corner LOL

Jodi - posted on 11/22/2009

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Quoting Amie:

Our oldest is starting to care though, she's 9. I bought her a pair of $50 jeans for back to school. It's gonna suck when all of them are old enough to care. On the bright side when our two youngest girls are old enough our oldest will be of age to work and will be earning her own money to buy that stuff if she wants it. lol.



Oh, Amie, I feel your pain.  My stepdaughter went through this.  I remember once, there was a particular pair of sport pants she wanted that were $40 in a brand name store.  There were an EXACT replica (and yes, it looked exactly the same) in K-Mart for $20, and she refused to wear the K-Mart brand because of the tag.  That is the day she had to start doing more chores for us to pay for her clothes......



She's over it now - at 17, she has a part time job, and she pays for her clothes if she wants to be fussy about it.  She has very much learned to be a little more aware of the cost of her clothes, LOL :)



I have heard of parents paying $200+ dollars for jeans (it seems they haven't heard of the word "no"), so you got off lightly this time :)



I must say, it's a really good argument for school uniform!!!

Jodi - posted on 11/22/2009

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I'm not a fan. When I had my son, my husband-at-the-time and I had virtually no money. We were REALLY strapped for cash, and I was the main income earner in our house, so we knew that it was going to be an issue. As soon as I found out I was pregnant, I put us on a really strict budget and started tucking money away like there was no tomorrow to make sure we could afford for me not to work for a couple of months (yeah, not a long time, but we struggled that badly). I also went out and started laybying the things I needed - a cot, baby bedding, stroller, car seat, some clothes, stocking up on nappies, bottles,etc. I never bought half the furniture some people buy for their nurseries, never had the money to decorate the nursery. And you know, it really didn't matter!!



When I had my daughter 5 years ago, I was financially in a much better place (like you would hope you would be in your mid thirties, LOL), but I hadn't kept most of my stuff - I had loaned it all to family, and I got it all back and I received so many hand-me-downs from my nieces. One of my sister-in-laws is so into name brands, my daughter has worn them most of her life.....but not because I buy them. I LOVE hand-me-downs!! I'm also a great one for shopping second hand.



Sure, I can afford to buy new, but I think it is wasteful when I can save that money for a nice family day out or a family holiday. Those things are WAY more important.

Lindsay - posted on 11/22/2009

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My thought are that some of these things are obviously more for the parents and for show than for the actual baby. Yes, they may use them but really they could easily function with a different brand for a much better price.

A lot of my high ticket items were given to me at baby showers and were used for both kids. When I did my regestries, I looked more at the safety of things and durability than price. We got several nice things that were very helpful. I bought the crib and bedding myself from target for a very reasonable price and they worked just as well and looked nice too! =)

When I opened this I immediately thought of a show I saw a week or two ago on WE called Platinum Babies. It's quite rediculous and can't get over hearing them say how much these kids are loved because they have such nice things...gag!

Amie - posted on 11/22/2009

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I agree Sharon. While I will spend quite a bit on my kids I'm not a fan of buying brand name things for them. They don't care. They don't even know. The things they do have that are brand name were gifts.



Our oldest is starting to care though, she's 9. I bought her a pair of $50 jeans for back to school. It's gonna suck when all of them are old enough to care. On the bright side when our two youngest girls are old enough our oldest will be of age to work and will be earning her own money to buy that stuff if she wants it. lol.

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