extended breastfeeding

Jen - posted on 03/09/2012 ( 374 moms have responded )

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And i'm talking about going past the age of 3. What are your feelings of say an 8 year old still doing it?

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Mother - posted on 03/12/2012

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"There is NOTHING wrong with going past the age of three."

-- no one has said there was anything wrong with it.



And you're right, there is a huge difference between 3 and 8. And the question CLEARLY says 8.

Minnie - posted on 03/12/2012

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Th is thread isn't about the average age of self weaning, it is about older school aged children still breast feeding



Now if the thread stated up to 4-5, I can see people getting up in arms but that is not the case here.



Actually here's the description of the topic: And i'm talking about going past the age of 3. What are your feelings of say an 8 year old still doing it?



She was vague about it. There's a HUGE difference between 'going past the age of three' and nursing an eight year old.



There is NOTHING wrong with going past the age of three. That is very common across the world. Not here in western culture because there's a stigma, but that doesn't mean squat.



Then to the second part of her topic," what are your feelings on an 8 year old still doing it?" My feelings are that it's something that is so uncommon to the point of being an extreme oddity. Not something I would be comfortable doing, and perhaps something that should be encouraged to stop.

Mother - posted on 03/12/2012

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"It would do this country a lot of good if the men would get off their horny horses about breasts.

Men are stealing breasts away from babies.

This is a sad thing and if men weren't so outrageously turned on by breasts it would be better for the next generation. "



This thread is not about the men and their likes. So, if the men didn't find breasts arousing you'd be ok with an 8 y/o breastfeeding?? I'm sorry, I would still have a problem with it. I even find 5-6 y/o's breastfeeding to be abnormal.



"And I don't think anyone here is defending nursing beyond age 5-6 or so. "



--if this is the case, then members shouldn't be posting in support of it or getting this upset over the topic. Now if the thread stated up to 4-5, I can see people getting up in arms but that is not the case here.



And for the record, I get aroused by my husband stimulating my breasts. It is natural. It isn't something horrible and dirty that MEN have projected onto breasts, to STEAL them away from our children. Breasts are sexual in nature. It causes uterine contractions, which bring on orgasm. It is how our bodies work. I think this fact alone, would be cause for concern if a woman was still breast feeding her 9-10 y/o son while he massages his erection. Don't you?? Even if it was a daughter. I believe the mother is 'allowing' the bf'ing to continue at such an extreme age for reasons other then nutrition.

Merry - posted on 03/12/2012

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Ok, no, breastmilk is not low on the todem pole. What do you think is more nutritious?

Rice cooked in nasty disease ridden water?

Or breastmilk.

Yeah, kids breastfeed to stay alive in some countries because it's the only complete nutrition food!

It's the best of the best. Some in other countries will give breastmilk to their elderly or sick too because they know it will help keep them strong and alive.



Remembering breastfeeding is said to be similar to remembering cuddling or hugging mom. I know older kids and adults who remember breastfeeding and none of them have issues from it. They have a strong knowledge of the purpose of breasts and if they don't finds breasts arousing oh freakin well! It would do this country a lot of good if the men would get off their horny horses about breasts.

Men are stealing breasts away from babies.

This is a sad thing and if men weren't so outrageously turned on by breasts it would be better for the next generation.



And I don't think anyone here is defending nursing beyond age 5-6 or so. I think the vast majority of people agree that age 6 is getting into the age where weaning should be complete.



But nursing to 4 or so IS normal and natural and healthy and fine.

Mother - posted on 03/12/2012

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"That description of the mother and her nine/ten year old son sounds like she was posting extreme and outrageous things just to get your goat. How do you know she's telling the truth? "

-- well, of course, I don't. Just like I don't know if you or anyone else on here is telling the truth. You could be feeding me a big line of bull as well, one can only go by what others post. I do know the video that was posted and the 9 y/o boy from last year are true because they posted them on the news channels.....BFing. Th is thread isn't about the average age of self weaning, it is about older school aged children still breast feeding, and I think it is horribly wrong.

Minnie - posted on 03/12/2012

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I honestly have never known of a child nursing any older than six years old. That description of the mother and her nine/ten year old son sounds like she was posting extreme and outrageous things just to get your goat. How do you know she's telling the truth?



A child nursing past six is extremely rare. Any child nursing at eight is on the fringe. Most children who nurse to natural duration, meaning they give it up of their own accord, stop at 3 1/2 to 4 years of age, which coincides exactly with our closest ape relatives, and supports the need of our fast-growing, large human brains.



I myself would not nurse a child at six, seven or eight years old. And I really don't think my 3 1/2 year old daughter will continue past four. She's following a normal course of natural weaning, paring the frequency and need down of her own accord.



I -do- think nursing an eight year old is odd. I don't know the family though, and it really seems like an extremely out of the ordinary occurrence.



However, there have been -many- people in this thread who are not using 8 as our debating point, but young ages like two, three and four, and I stand by my assertion that those are biologically appropriate ages to be breastfeeding at. Most children self-wean by four years old.

Mother - posted on 03/12/2012

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I would like to add........did anyone see the post in here about the 9 y/o old girl giving birth?? Prime example....our children are reaching puberty far earlier then we suspect. Can you imagine BFing a pregnant 9 y/o?? After all.....she needs lots of nutrition!!!



ETA:: UGH..........just finished reading it and the youngest child on record is younger then 9....she was 5. *SMH*

Mother - posted on 03/12/2012

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"but then again, I heard a lot older too."

-- REALLY? Aleksandra? You've heard of older then 8 y/o?? I've heard up to ten and I'm completely disgusted with that. These women need to give their gawd damned head a shake.

Mother - posted on 03/12/2012

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"Sexual arousal doesn't come into it, " -- I disagree. I've already posted this but I'll post again. I knew a Mom that breastfed her 9-10 y/o son and she defended is vehemently. Then she decided to tell us [online group] about how he would get an erection and massage it away. I believe there is a sexual element. Did you watch that video?? That little girl was just a wee bit too interested in boobs at 8 years old. She was drawing pictures of how she and her sister sucked on them.



Extended BR to me is 3-4 years of age. I don't think that is popular but I still think it is acceptable. However, after a child gets into school aged years, I don't believe it is strictly for the mother. For a mother to watch her son massage away an erection is enjoying herself way too much. And can you imagine the social impact of that?? Can you picture an 8, 9 and 10 y/o. They are HUGE. My daughter was as tall as my breasts standing, so in theory they could just walk up and help themselves while you prepared dinner? C'mon.



I have a real issue with it. And if a child is masturbating while doing it, regardless if it is outside their clothes is wrong. And don't tell me the other extreme EBFing Moms aren't encountering the same thing. This is the age our child start to explore their bodies. Maybe no penetration and maybe they are fully climaxing but they are definitely making a connection.

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"Hmm, are you really suggesting that breastfeeding is an appropriate way to comfort a grade schooler? "Oh honey, are those multiplication problems getting you down? Here, have my breast." Puleeze"



I'm not suggesting I'm saying it is ok to ebf a grade schooler for comfort. You are taking it to an extreme that wouldn't happen, older bf children are capable of self soothing, they do not bf any where near as often as younger bf children, generally they have one bf a day (if that) and this is generally either when they wake or when they are going to sleep, in a similar way another child may have a drink at these times. I can't see the issue, breast milk is still beneficial for these children.



There is a huge difference between using a dummy and bf, personally I wouldn't recommend anyone use a dummy, I despise them, but I can see why other parents choose to allow their child to use them and that is their prerogative. I've seen many school age children still using a dummy, far more often than they really should, they fall over here's your dummy, they want something they can't have, here's your dummy, they are tired here's your dummy etc. Would you allow a child a lovely or a teddy to help them sleep, that's the same as bf used for comfort, sometimes self soothing is about using what you have around you...



Common sense to me says that any child who remembers bf will have a more accepting view of it. Sexual arousal doesn't come into it, I remember seeing both my parents naked well into my childhood, I can easily look at my husband naked and see him as a sexual being. You are missing the fact that an ebf child is not the same as an abused child they will not have the same negative connotations Linked to the breast. But ok I'll humour you, let's say that they do feel awkward seeing breasts sexually, why would that be an issue? There are so many other ways of connecting sexually and intimately with your partner, in fact many women don't even like breast play/ stimulation, many men are bum men rather than breast

men. That's like suggesting a woman wouldn't be able to keep a healthy relationship because she won't give a blow job, it happens relationships evolve.



I'm not going to touch on the weaning age as the others have pretty much said what I would say, so I'd just be repeating them.



"You sound agitated. Maybe you should go suck on your mom's breast and calm down. "



Funny you aren't you, I'm not agitated, I'm not even slightly annoyed, I could suck on my moms breast but that would be inappropriate considering she stopped bf'ing me when I was 6 weeks old and I'm now 27...

Aleks - posted on 03/12/2012

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My girl is now 3years and 1 month old. Still going strong breastfeeding..... um, not sure I would even know how to stop breastfeeding her without seriously messing up my relationship with her...so yeah......

I am an extended breastfeeder, and will be going to natural duration most likely.

I mean WHO recommends minimum of 2 years and then for as long as desired, not UP TO 2, but MINIMUM....

As for an 8 yo, yeah, that does sound a bit much... but then again, I heard a lot older too.

Jodi - posted on 03/11/2012

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Exactly Emma, I don't understand this mentality of having this view that there has to be a line.

Stifler's - posted on 03/11/2012

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That's what I said though. Just because it's rare to see it doesn't mean it's wrong to extended BF. Just because our culture thinks it's weird is no reason to wean before your baby or you are ready if circumstances permit.

Minnie - posted on 03/11/2012

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Actually, Tracie, the ages covered in this conversation have jumped around wildly. We've been debating with some who believe it's wrong to nurse past two, some who believe it's wrong to nurse past four and then the extreme of eight years old. I think for the majority of this thread those opposed to extended breastfeeding have used three years as their cut-off.

Jodi - posted on 03/11/2012

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"The proof is in the pudding. It is very rare to find a child still nursing past age 2. That's my evidence."



Correlation does NOT equal causation. So just because you don't see many children breastfed beyond the age of 2 years does NOT mean this is when babies self-wean. That is really poor logic.



I also refer to MeMe's statistics here, where she states the average percentages for a child being nursed as a toddler.....The information you have there is PURELY cultural.







The following are still breastfeeding at age 2:

(please note, these are approximate figures because they are based on charts)

South Africa - 30%

India - 70%

Indonesia - 55%

Mexico - 25%

Kenya - 50%

Mongolia - 60%

Jamaica - 30%

Madagascar - 60%

http://www.childinfo.org/breastfeeding_i...



Shall I go on? These are not insignificant numbers, it is VERY common. The figures also indicate that this idea of weaning your children (as opposed to allowing self weaning) before the age of 2 is very much a product of the developed world, not a natural thing at all.

Minnie - posted on 03/11/2012

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No no, we were not talking about how many children are nursing past age two. We were talking about how many children SELF WEANED earlier than age two. Big difference there.



It's rare in our country because that's our culture. It's not biologically appropriate though.

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Out of the 6 kids (5 moms)... two moms work from home (the other 2 that nursed longer), one mom works out of the home, one doesn't work (the one w/ two kids... 3 now though), and me.... I work out of the home, but as a nanny so my son was always w/ me.

Stifler's - posted on 03/11/2012

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All the mums (only 3 of us breastfed) weaned at 1year-13 months because they all wanted to go back to work that is probably a huge reason why people don't breastfeed past then. Actually 4 of us breastfed 2 had another one on the way and 2 went back to work

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Emma... I actually never SAW them breastfeeding at any age. I just know they did it. ;) The other boys were weaned somewhere between 10 and 15ish months.

Stifler's - posted on 03/11/2012

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It's rare where I live to see a child breastfed past 1 to tell the truth. I don't know anyone who nursed past one. That doesn't mean it's wrong it just means those mums wanted their boobs back or their kid didn't want it anymore.

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Out of the little boys I know very well that are 3-5... my son's 'group'.... half of them were breastfed til 2.5 or 3 something. ;)

Celeste - posted on 03/11/2012

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I don't think kids nursing past 2 are that rare, though. I think there are more preschoolers nursing than we think. I know for myself, I didn't talk about it and no one really knew it except my other breastfeeding mama friends because #1) they were only nursing once a day in the morning and for #2) I really didn't want to deal with people's attitudes.



Now grade schoolers? That might be a rare occurrence.

Tracie - posted on 03/11/2012

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The proof is in the pudding. It is very rare to find a child still nursing past age 2. That's my evidence.



Speaking anthropologically, of course, in developing nations, this is not the case. Mothers are encouraged to nurse children as long as possible so that there's more food for adults. Children are the "low man on the totem pole" so-to-speak when it comes to getting a share of the tribe's food stores. Because of this, children often must nurse up to age 5 just to stay alive. But we don't live in a developing nation and we have no problem finding excellent sources of nutrition for our children who can chew with their full set of teeth. :-)



Historically, no, not so uncommon for a four year old to still be nursing. The question that started this topic was about an 8 year old, though, not a 4 year old.



Common sense for me says a grown man who has memories of sucking on his mother's breast will have a harder time being turned on by the sight of his naked wife. And as for grabbing and sucking on her breasts during sex, that would just remind him of his mother, no? Ewww. Talk about a mood killer!

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 03/11/2012

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The 179 women studied were recruited from La Leche League Area Conferences. All had nursed at least one child for six months or more. Weaning ages varied widely, ranging from one month to seven years, four months. The average age of weaning for children was 2.5 years (3 years for youngest children).



Actually those who nurse over the age of three account for approx 3% of breastfeeding Mom's around the world. Some places it is higher but, as an average across the world, 3% is the approximation. Those over age 2, varies from Country to Country.



US

24%nursed and weaned sometime in the second year (between 12-24 months).



6%nursed their baby past the second year (between 24-36 months).



5%nursed their baby past the third year (greater than 36 months).




Canada

82.9%.......Percentage of babies breastfed at birth



18.2%.......Percentage of babies breastfed at 9 months




It is not all that common to breastfeed past 2 years. I am not saying it is a bad thing at all, just showing it is not common. Although, I do have a huge discomfort with school aged children... But hey, that's my discomfort. Not everyone's.

Mother - posted on 03/11/2012

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"Yes, common sense does have to dictate. Common sense for me says that an adult who remembers nursing at three or four years old would have a healthier view of breastfeeding and children and probably wouldn't think much of it. Do you really think that in the course of human history a child nursing at four years old is so outrageously rare?."



I think her very first sentence says grade school children. I don't think she is referring to 2,3 and 4 y/o.

Minnie - posted on 03/11/2012

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By the way, my earliest memories are from 2 1/2 years old. My 3 1/2 year old is still nursing.



Yes, common sense does have to dictate. Common sense for me says that an adult who remembers nursing at three or four years old would have a healthier view of breastfeeding and children and probably wouldn't think much of it. Do you really think that in the course of human history a child nursing at four years old is so outrageously rare?

Minnie - posted on 03/11/2012

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There is no cutoff suggested because the overwhelming majority of babies will self wean by age 2.



Where's your evidence for that? I'd say true self-weaning tends to happen more around 3 1/2 to 4 years of age. Would make anthropological and biological sense anyways. An average of two years is extremely short for a species with a large brain such as ours.



There's no cutoff suggested because there's no evidence for harm nursing a child older than that.

Tracie - posted on 03/11/2012

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Hmm, are you really suggesting that breastfeeding is an appropriate way to comfort a grade schooler? "Oh honey, are those multiplication problems getting you down? Here, have my breast." Puleeze.



By that age, a child should have the skills to self soothe to a great extent. Resorting to a sucking mechanism for comfort seems babyish in the extreme. No different than a paci. Would you recommend a paci for a grade schooler?



There is no cutoff suggested because the overwhelming majority of babies will self wean by age 2. Experts probably aren't thinking that they need to actually tell people that breastfeeding a grade schooler is a bit much.



As far as memories go, common sense would have to dictate this. Unfortunately, that doesn't seem to be in ample supply these days.



You sound agitated. Maybe you should go suck on your mom's breast and calm down.



(For the record, both of my children were EBF until they self weaned. I'm ALL FOR breast feeding. For babies.)

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That depends on how you define a need. Ebf may not be needed nutritionally but many would argue (and rightly so) comfort is a need, would we die without it no but we need it never the less.



Yet another paedophile comment, oh joy, sigh. Yes there are a few moms who would do this to abuse their children, however the vast majority do it because they feel it is right for their child. As already covered in this debate the Health advisory boards (who, aap etc) recommend bf to at least a year but health benefits are seen if bf continues to the third year or further...if it was detrimental to a child in any way they would give a recommended age cut off due to whatever detrimental affect it had, they don't!



As for if a child is old enough to remember, how on earth would you decide this? I have memories from when I was 18 months old, I have friends who can't remember anything from when they were 5 yo, there is no way to tell what will be remembered by a child, unless you have a time machine and can travel into the future!



What would be the issue exactly with someone remembering being bf? Surely it would just mean that instead of seeing breasts as solely sexual objects they would be seen as functional as well. There is a difference between bf and abusive behaviour regardless of the age of the child.

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I think if a child is old enough to have memories of being attached to your breast, that's too long, because it could cause sexual confusion problems later on. I also think a child sucking on their mother's breast at an advanced age may cross the line into sexual abuse. Babies NEED the breast. Grade schoolers don't.

Laura - posted on 03/10/2012

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I'm new to this thread, and I don't want to fight!! My personal experience was that my twins slowly weaned themselves. We stopped nursing completely about 2 weeks after their 4th birthday and that was only because I had to take some heavy duty medication. Up until then we were nursing first thing in the morning only or if someone got hurt. I was ready to wean-they weren't and one of my daughters still asks to nurse when she is overtired or very emotional.

I think that the decision to wean is up to mother and child. I have a negative gut reaction to a child as old as 8 nursing...I would be concerned about a child nursing at an age where they are becoming aware of their sexuality. This could lead (in my opinion) to some confusion and maybe some issues later in life.

That having been said, I am all for extended nursing just coming from my own experience-my daughters have never had an ear infection and have no allergies to date. In 4 1/2 years they have each had 2 viruses that made them vomit and a few colds and that is it. Hooray for breast milk!!!!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/10/2012

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*****MoD Warning*****



Ladies, please keep the thread on track, and discontinue the bickering. This is the last and final warning, or this thread gets locked down.



~DM MoD Little Miss~

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 03/10/2012

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Alrighty then. No worries.

Jodi - posted on 03/10/2012

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MeMe, here's the thing. I never said you said it. What you quoted suggested it. I was questioning the information you quoted. Stop taking it so personally.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 03/10/2012

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Yes and I did NOT say they didn't. Laura asked me why they would say it is easiest to wean from a breast, bottle or dummy at 1 year. I simply replied to that question. I am not saying you should not continue after, it just may make it more difficult for everyone. I support breastfeeding up to age 3. I have said that at least 7 times on this thread. So, it would be great if you would take everything I have said into account, please, let's not go backwards.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 03/10/2012

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Jodi, it is how you word your rebutal's. You are very intelligent, I know you understand what I am saying.



Saying things like:



then you obviously don't have a clue.



I don't know, it just isn't something I say to people. Kinda provoking if you ask me...



wondering where MeMe's rather inaccurate information might be coming from.....



Sounds pretty provoking to me. It wasn't my information that was inaccurate. It was information I got from a kidshealth.org site. So, if you feel it is inaccurate, it is their inaccurate information, not mine. Asking me where I got my information because it sounds innaccurate, sounds less like wanting to fight and get a reaction... But whatever, if you want to play like that go ahead. I will refrain from answering you from here on in. I am a very intelligent person too, I will not have anyone reflect me in any other way. Thanks for you kindness anyhow.

Jodi - posted on 03/10/2012

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The point is, the AAP actually recommends breastfeeding beyond 1 year as long as mother and child feel comfortable, it is beneficial to do so and they advise there is no psychological damage from extended breastfeeding.

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Laura quoted:

""Pediatricians and parents should be aware that exclusive breastfeeding is sufficient to support optimal growth and development for approximately the first 6 months of life‡ and provides continuing protection against diarrhea and respiratory tract infection. Breastfeeding should be continued for at least the first year of life and beyond for as long as mutually desired by mother and child.



Increased duration of breastfeeding confers significant health and developmental benefits for the child and the mother, especially in delaying return of fertility (thereby promoting optimal intervals between births).



There is no upper limit to the duration of breastfeeding and no evidence of psychologic or developmental harm from breastfeeding into the third year of life or longer."



The ENTIRE excerpt was very different. That's what I was saying. Therefore the meaning of what Laura posted was very different to the meaning of the ENTIRE excerpt you posted.

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"Jodi, if you don't like my information than don't read it. I am not pulling this stuff out of my arse."



Actually MeMe, when you quote and copy and paste information like that, I just like to know where it is coming from. Not all sources are valid. I saw what you copied and pasted as inaccurate and wanted to know where it came from so I could consider it. If you think that is childish of me, then you obviously don't have a clue. I think it is sensible to question the validity of information provided. I never once suggested you pulled it "out of your arse" so to speak. I questioned where you got it from.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 03/10/2012

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Laura---

Breastfeeding should be continued for at least the first year of life and beyond for as long as mutually desired by mother and child.



MeMe---

The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends feeding babies only breast milk for the first 6 months of life. After that, the AAP recommends that a combination of solid foods and breast milk be given until a baby is at least 1 year old.



Yeah, I can see how it is heaps different from one another... sigh...

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 03/10/2012

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What? I can handle it, I prefer for it to be done in an adult fashion. A childish interaction is not what I am here for. I can get that at home, thanks anyway. I also do not know what you are talking about there Kelly.

Jodi - posted on 03/10/2012

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Ah, okay, so that wasn't official AAP information that you were quoting. I thought it was odd for it to have been on an AAP site. It actually isn't. Thank you for clarifying where it came from.



It also is heaps different to what Laura wrote. Just saying.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 03/10/2012

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The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends feeding babies only breast milk for the first 6 months of life. After that, the AAP recommends that a combination of solid foods and breast milk be given until a baby is at least 1 year old



How is that any different than what Laura wrote?



Some experts say that after the first birthday is the best time to begin weaning because kids are more adaptable to change at that age. (A 2-year-old toddler, for example, is likely to be much more attached to breastfeeding and less flexible about giving it up.) A 1-year-old baby is also eating more solid foods and so may naturally lose interest in nursing. Engorgement will also become less of a problem for moms around this time because as the demand for breast milk decreases, so does milk production.



Says some experts It doesn't say it is the AAP experts. However, it was on the same site I got the above statement from the AAP. I closed the site since. Let me see if I can refind it. I am not sure what I exactly used for my search title....



http://kidshealth.org/parent/growth/feed...



In this it explains both sides of the coin. How I see it and how you, Laura, see it. It does say things like



Many moms make the decision to wean with mixed emotions. On the one hand, weaning brings with it more freedom and flexibility, as well as the proud realization that her child is reaching a major milestone. On the other hand, nursing is an intimate activity that fosters a strong bond between mother and child — and some women find it difficult to let that go.



Another approach is to leave the decision of when to wean completely up to a child. Once they're eating three meals of solid food a day (plus snacks in between), kids often breastfeed less and less. In this situation, you may find that your milk will dry up from lack of demand, and pumping may be necessary if you want to keep the milk flowing.



Which is also something I have said. I know for me mine was pretty much dried up with my daughter because she was only breastfeeding about twice a day by the time she was 17 months. Once a day at 18 months... So for those that have said it does not dry up as long as you are feeding them once a day, it is not always true.



Jodi, if you don't like my information than don't read it. I am not pulling this stuff out of my arse. If you enjoy and get a kick out of condesending me, than do it behind the scenes. Quite honestly, you are making yourself look a child and it is rather unamusing. I don't play like you do, so keep it to yourself or for someone else. I don't allow my children to talk to me the way you think you can, I won't accept it from you. Quite honestly, I am to the point that anything you say is not worth reading. I did think for a while there that you brought some validity to debates but I am beginning to see that you are much better at putting people down than actually debating... *eye roll*

Jodi - posted on 03/10/2012

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Yeah, that's pretty much what I found Laura, which is why I am wondering where MeMe's rather inaccurate information might be coming from.....

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Here's a direct quote from the aap

"Pediatricians and parents should be aware that exclusive breastfeeding is sufficient to support optimal growth and development for approximately the first 6 months of life‡ and provides continuing protection against diarrhea and respiratory tract infection.30,34,128,178–184 Breastfeeding should be continued for at least the first year of life and beyond for as long as mutually desired by mother and child.185



Increased duration of breastfeeding confers significant health and developmental benefits for the child and the mother, especially in delaying return of fertility (thereby promoting optimal intervals between births).196



There is no upper limit to the duration of breastfeeding and no evidence of psychologic or developmental harm from breastfeeding into the third year of life or longer.197"





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Jodi - posted on 03/10/2012

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Where does the AAP say that? I have looked but I couldn't find it. Everything I have found says congratulate yourself if you are continuing breastfeeding past a year, and encouraging that to continue, and also says to phase bottles out between 12 and 24 months.

Merry - posted on 03/10/2012

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No it's not contradicting anything, I'm saying the easiest time to wean a child off anything is when they grow out of it themself.

Not at one year, two years, six months, etc.

The easiest time is when they grow out of it on their own.

It's different for every child yes, so moms being told that one year is the EASIEST BEST time to wean is just not helpful to their babies.

Does that make more sense?

You can limit things, and restrict their uses but if a child wants a bottle of water before bed at 3 years old I highly doubt that one bottle of water will do any harm.

And same goes for a breastfeed beyond that age.

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