Fashion delima: This mom has fashion frustration

Annabelle - posted on 08/06/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I am 30, married about 4 months, and have 5 children (combined) ages 16, 14, 12, 11, and 9. And I am in a total fashion rut/state of confusion. I am too young to dress "old" but too old to dress "young". I am a professional administrative assistant in a very casual company so I don't have to dress up for work, but I don't want to look like a slob either. I have teenage daughters and I find that a lot of my clothes resemble theirs and match their styles/trends. I am not single anymore so the low-cut and/or tighter "eye catching" outfits aren't appropriate - in my opinion. I have a college degree and am returning to college this fall to further my education more. I want to dress lifestyle/age appropriate,I don't want to be mistaken for my teenagers friend anymore instead of their parent, I don't want undo attention from the opposite sex, I want to look classy/professional but not old or stuffy. I want to be taken seriously and not looked at like a young mom who is stuck in her 20's and can't let go of her youth. I don't mind my age or my body but I can't seem to find a happy place where clothing is concerned!!

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Krista - posted on 08/07/2012

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It IS tough to dress at our age. A lot of the stores are either for teenagers, or grandmothers. If you could let us know in which country you live, we can recommend some stores.

The nice thing about being 30 is that you can dress in more fashion-forward or lady-like styles without it looking like a costume. If your company is very casual, you really can't go wrong with something like dark-wash straight-legged or trouser jeans, a button-down shirt in a flattering colour, and stylish heels, bag and jewelry to top it all off. The big thing is to always make sure you're well-groomed. If your hair is neat and well-styled, and you're wearing tasteful makeup, it's a lot easier to get away with jeans for work.

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"I have heard a lot about pencil skirts! I am 5'6 and about a size 6 ( long legs) could I pull one off ya think?" Annabelle

YES!!! It will give you a little curve about the hips, and long legs are perfect for this skirt.

Krista - posted on 08/07/2012

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Anabelle, you were MADE for pencil skirts, darling! They're a wonderful way to show off shapely legs while still looking tasteful and work-appropriate. With a figure like yours, you should have no problems finding all sorts of flattering, cute outfits for work.

Jenn - posted on 08/07/2012

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That's funny because at 39, it has finally dawned on me to wear what makes me look and feel good ! I take a lot of inspiration from Pinterest which has an entire section devoted to outfits put together. Through trial and error, I have an age appropriate, classy and comfortable look for myself. Look at online stores like Gap, Ann Taylor or whatever best describes you. They often have entire outfits put together for ideas. Jeans and flats? Chunky necklaces? Belted dresses? A-line and empire waist look good on anyone at any age. Scarves add instant flair. Even jeans and tshirts can be sassy and practical. I don't wear clothes too tight simply because it isn't comfortable! Skirts to the knees or maxi skirts. Dark denim is always classy and a step up from faded. In winter, little cardigans over a tshirt or blouse with cute flats. Accessories should be your new BFF!

Your 30's is going to be awesome. You will find yourself becoming even more confident and fashion becomes fun again. There are lots of great looks for ladies in their 30's and 40's!

Annabelle - posted on 08/07/2012

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I have heard a lot about pencil skirts! I am 5'6 and about a size 6 ( long legs) could I pull one off ya think?

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I'm right there with you, and I totally agree with what Corrine said about your style reflecting yourself. Look at pictures and find styles that will work in your life.

These are my favorite styles...
For classes and casual errands, I wear dark jeans and a fitted tee or cami with a trendy cardigan. I like the hip length cardigans with the big floppy collars. They are usually worn with a belt, but if I'm wearing jeans, I leave the belt off and just wear it open. (If you add heels and a dressier purse, this style can be good for more casual workplaces as well).

For work, tailored slacks and a fitted button up ("fitted" not "tight") and some eye catching jewelry. I also LOVE pencil skirts, but they are not for everyone.

Stifler's - posted on 08/06/2012

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Me personally I'm 24 so I have skinny jeans (even though I'm fat) or straight leg, singlets or nice floaty tops or dresses. I'm not big into tunics and stuff that goes out of fashion I have *one* though that I only bought because it was half price from Myer. I have high waisted skirts anyway even though I don't work.

Stifler's - posted on 08/06/2012

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High waisted skirts are cool now, and appropriate for work. You should watch Up All Night and have a look at Reghans outfits I love them!

Corinne - posted on 08/06/2012

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I know exactly where you are coming from! I've just had a massive clearout of all the 'stuff' in my wardrobe, it was stuff I'd worn, but it wasn't really 'me'. I spent a long time just looking at catalogues and in shops, trying on different styles and such, to see what I liked and what actually suited me. Now I've loads of dresses, knee length to floor length, that I wear with either ballet flats or tights and boots. I've got a couple of pairs of jeans and some vests and t's for slob days and a mess of training gear that double as pj's. I'd set aside some time to have a mooch and decide what you really like. Clothing is a reflection of personality, let your come through. Happy shopping!

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