Female Viagra , would you ?

Charlie - posted on 10/18/2010 ( 47 moms have responded )

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So many women say they lose the desire to have sex after children so with many pharma companies racing to find a female version of viagra would you consider using it ?

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Serena - posted on 10/21/2010

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@Kimberly...I'm with you on the WINE!
I'm not sure about anyone else but sometimes you just have to have sex to start feeling good about yourself again. There have been times that I wasn't in the mood but forced myself to get into it and felt better after. But I would have no problem with a female viagra. I know there have been times where I have had no sex drive and things just feel out of place, but perhaps I'm just a horny perv who thinks about sex too much anyways :)

Caitlin - posted on 10/19/2010

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But it may solve a problem.. If the problem is lack of sex the repurcussions aren't only physically not getting to have sex, but it can have an affect on the couple as well. It can cause the other partner to stray, or whatever, depending on your relationship and the3 man/woman of course.

When I got together with my husband he started having some ED issues after about a month, because he was having some anxiety about the commitment (he lost a previous wife and was afraid it would happen again). I'm not saying I would have strayed, but it was a temporary fix for the solution. We dont' have that issue anymore, it only lasted about 2 months, and he took something for it, and it helped us connect more on another level.

Pamela - posted on 10/21/2010

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Mmmmm...chocolate and wine...that'll do just nicely. Who needs viagra?

Kimberly - posted on 10/21/2010

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And WINE, I take it all back! Wine makes for a lucky night on an altered mind. I could take or leave the coffee but chocolate is a MUST!

Cat - posted on 10/21/2010

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Nope... wouldnt take it... I have zero sex drive at the moment, but like others said, its more a mental thing, and I'm unhappy with my body, exausted, and depressed... I'll work on those issues one at a time, and hopefully raise my libido a bit... If my husband decides he cant live with that, he knows where the door is, and if he ever offered me female viagra, I'd throw him through it...

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Sharon - posted on 10/21/2010

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ugh the point to that was - lol - from the way her wall reads - the chart works better than viagra possibly could.

Sharon - posted on 10/21/2010

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LOL Carol - one of my uh, more, um, sexually motivated female friends, has started a "whore" chart.

Various unfavorable household chores earns a particular, um position or act, lol.

Johnny - posted on 10/21/2010

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I hear you Sharon. Although, unfortunately when my hubby gives me a back rub, which I truly & deeply appreciate, I fall asleep. But I do try to pay it back later ;-)

Sharon - posted on 10/21/2010

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Viagra only works for dudes who WANT sex. If you dont' really want it, it don't really work (I think thats what they say) If I don't want it, I don't want it.

Frankly, when hubby rubs my back, talks to me like an adult & human - I get turned on. Sooooo its hard to imagine needing/wanting a chemical stimulant.

especially, this late at night, this night, right now, lol

Kayle - posted on 10/21/2010

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Yup...Kamden came and my se drive went down the drain. So yeah I'd try it. I'm sure my hubby would appreciate it. lol

Charlie - posted on 10/21/2010

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Serena said : sometimes you just have to have sex to start feeling good about yourself again.

Yes exactly , sometimes its the cure but first you have to put yourself out there , i know if im feeling unattractive , depressed when we do have sex even if i dont feel like it i ALWAYS feel better after !

Cat - posted on 10/21/2010

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lmao that totally reminds me, that IF my hubby wanted to up his 'odds' so to speak, he only need buy me some Baileys... I cant figure out why he hasnt connected that yet, some day I may have to spell it out for him :D

Charlie - posted on 10/21/2010

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Well chocolate and coffee are mind altering substances arent they your cure all ;P

I dont think its always about having enough sleep either , you know the old saying "use it or lose it " well that applies to your sex drive , my mind boggles when people say " oh well we have sex once a month or less id be happy not having sex at all "

So once a month i get when your busy and tired thats when making an effort comes in what worries me is when people say " Id be happy not having sex at all " personally i dont think that is normal or healthy in a relationship and SOMETIMES people need something to kickstart their sex drive , i do believe once a person gets back into the rythym of it their natural sex drive kicks in .

Pamela - posted on 10/21/2010

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@Jenn: Yeah but if I'm pissed at my hubby because he's a slug with helping with the kids, I sure as hell am NOT going to take female Viagara. I shall make him suffer instead (evil maniacle laughter).

Kimberly - posted on 10/21/2010

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I'm with Cathy, Becky and Sarah. I don't need it.

I'll just use mind over matter ;P



And Wine!

Jenn - posted on 10/21/2010

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@Pamela - I think sleep is a factor, but I also think there's another factor. After you have kids you see your husband in another light, as he does you. Some men have a hard time seeing the woman as a woman again instead of just "Mommy" and vice versa, and if the man isn't stepping up to help out it pisses you off and the last thing you want is for that lazy, useless slob (just thinking of a name some might like to call their SO) touching you.

Jenn - posted on 10/21/2010

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I guess if I had no drive I'd try it - but I'm the one who wants it the most! LOL!

C. - posted on 10/21/2010

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Nope. On a normal basis, I want it more than my husband.. I think it'd be evened out if I lost some of my sex drive lol.

Pamela - posted on 10/21/2010

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No. No I wouldn't. I distrust drugs and pharma companies. Frankly, loss of sexual interest after children has more to do with exhaustion than anything else. A well rested woman = a woman wanting sex. You don't need any damn drugs; you need sleep.

Caitlin - posted on 10/19/2010

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I didn't mean to say it would solve all problems. My self esteem is down the crapper right now too, and I really don't feel like haivng sex much at the moment. I want to lose weight, mines not a hormonal thing, it's a I gave birth 8 months ago and have been snacking incessantly since then. I bought one of those cheesy workout DVDs and I do that a few times a week and so far all it's made me do is hurt walking up and down stairs. I'm glad my husbands issues were temporary, because I don't know if we would have connected ont he same lvel to start with. That being said he's given me 2 beautiful girls, and if he had problems now, I woudn't up and leave, but it would be hard (or not hard - sorry, bad joke..)

I'm under the impression that sometimes it may be a good thing to try, because if it give you back the urge and you get into it, you might remember how great it is (or can be), and want to do it more often. Yet again, this wont help the hormones of course..

September - posted on 10/19/2010

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If I ever lose the desire to have sex, sure, however I'm not sure that will ever happen! :) I LOVE sex even after having our son.

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@ Cailtin, I understand what you mean. It will solve A problem but not necessarily THE problem. What I mean is that if my sex drive is down the crapper because I have self esteem issues, it won't change anything to take viagra. I might get aroused but I still won't have a better self-esteem. If it's because I have hormonal problems... it won't fix the hormone levels in my body, etc.

I am not a fan of the band-aid solutions. I understand if it is used as a "temporary fix" as you say as long as the cause of the problem is addressed also. In your case, you knew what was causing problems and you worked on it... It's fine with me to use the Viagra in the mean time. It's really case by case for me. I am not one to tell someone else not to take it. To each their own.

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No, I think it won't solve the cause of the problem so it's not something I'm willing to put into my body.

Rosie - posted on 10/19/2010

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yes i would. i want some right now as a matter of fact, but that would just leave me horny and by myself still. guess i'd have to find something to do....

Bonnie - posted on 10/19/2010

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I think my husband and I have equal amount of times where we are too tired between his work schedule and me being with the kids. If they did, my husband would probably try to put it in my drink from time to time as he has said a couple of times (jokingly) he would slip me a Mickey in my drink lol

Sarah - posted on 10/19/2010

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I would agree with Cathy and say no!
I lost my libido a while back for quite a long time, and there's no way I would have used female Viagra to try and bring it back.
Not sure why I feel that way to be honest, I just don't like the idea of using it.
Oh, and my libido is back now anyway! Yay! ;)

Dana - posted on 10/19/2010

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Men's penile malfunction can be mental as well as a woman's. That kind of reminds me of the other debate about depression/anxiety. Can women just "snap" out of their mental state and become wet/excited? What if taking drugs so you could have sex actually helped you slip out of your funk.

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I'll be the odd one out... NO!

Men need viagra for a physical malfunction ... if women lose sex drive it's more commonly psychological. I don't take mind altering drugs!

Dana - posted on 10/19/2010

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Well, I haven't lost the desire to have sex, if I did then I definitely would be beating down the door to the pharmacy for a prescription of female Viagra!

LaCi - posted on 10/19/2010

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Absolutely. Not now, but in the future if I faced any issues, I would totally use it. as long as it's like viagra and I just take it when the mood strikes, I don't think i'd be interested in long term, daily meds for that though. Who knows though, I haven't been in the situation so maybe I would :)

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If I had any reason to need it in the future yeah why not, but right now I have no reason to use it whatsoever =p

Joanna - posted on 10/18/2010

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Yes, and I'd probably get myself a prescription... I hate having no sex drive, I miss the intimacy with my husband, so I would DEFINITELY be on bored!

Jocelyn - posted on 10/18/2010

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Yes, if for some reason my sex drive falls below that of my hubby's I'd be all for it! As it is...he can't keep up lol

Nikki - posted on 10/18/2010

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Yes I would, in fact my hubby would probably start to spike my food with it if there were such a thing!!

Johnny - posted on 10/18/2010

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No, I'd scare my husband. He already finds me hard to handle ;-)

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