Erin - posted on 07/10/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )
My best friend in the whole world is about to undergo IVF treatment after being diagnosed with some fertility problems. The exact nature of these problems are unbeknown to me as she is too embarrassed about her body failing her to even share these details with her closest friend.
She started trying for a baby just after I found out I was pregnant and I feel like the problems she's having conceiving is hurting our friendship as she shows little-to-no interest in my daughter. I fell pregnant while on The Pill, by complete accident, so I have no idea what it feels like to want a baby and be unable to have one. I can only imagine how disheartening and frustrating it must be, but the bitterness and resentment is starting to put a serious strain on our friendship. She BARELY calls (lives interstate) and actually changes the subject when she does and I talk about Milla. She's also told me she doesn't like talking to her sister anymore either because all she talks about is her two boys. I've tried gently explaining that we're not doing it on purpose - that when you have children that's just what happens - but she still gets pretty aggravated by it.
And even though I love her to death and and am sorry she's having to go through this drama, I'm starting to get thoroughly pissed off. Is that unfair?? I just don't feel like I should have to censor my conversations! I can acknowledge that she's having a hard time, but I still think she should want to hear about my daughter (who she calls her niece) and her sister's boys.
My friend's returning from overseas next week and the treatment starts then, so I'm thinking things are only going to get worse. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!