Jodi - posted on 03/29/2012 ( 49 moms have responded )
We just had a very sudden and tragic death in our family (hence my absence as of recently) and after going to a christian wake and funeral, my husband and I got to thinking and talking about our own arrangements after death and waht we want. He is Agnostic but wants Catholic services because it's what his family believes in. I personally don't understand this, but I would respect his wishes upon death. I am Pagan, I want non-denominational services by a non-denominational priest. I do not want a wake, just visiting time before my funeral, a short funeral and to be cremated. He told me he's not comfortable with that. Does it matter what he's comfortable with? I mean...it's MY funeral, it's my passage into whatever afterlife there is (I believe in reincarnation). Shouldn't MY beliefs and wishes be respected, even if it goes against everything every other person who attends personally believes?
So, I'm wondering, what do all of you want in regards to services upon your death and do you worry about wether or not your wishes will be respected? (Also, would a will or something make him legally bound to respect my wishes?)