Girl becomes Mum at 10

Kellie - posted on 11/11/2011 ( 141 moms have responded )

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http://news.ninemsn.com.au/world/8373232...





There is so much wrong with this I don't even know where to start.



1. It is illegal to have an abortion unless the woman/child can prove she was raped? some women can't even prove this after a lengthy trial let alone in time to terminate an unwanted pregnancy after some asshole has violated her.



2. The legal age of concent is 12?! Wtf! Yes yes different culture blah blah, but 12? I suppose I should be grateful there is a consenting age at all.



3. She's 10. That poor child :(

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Kellie - posted on 11/13/2011

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Sharlene FFS Rape is RAPE, is is not consentual. The CHILD was 10 years old, regardless of wether she had a boyfriend or not she was by law, even Mexican Law raped as she was not old enough to concent. Unless it was the parents raping her THE PARENTS ARE NOT AT FAULT, nor are they criminals because their daughter got raped.

The fault of rape lies purely at the rapist feet, not any other.

Sharlene - posted on 11/13/2011

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Then how about the parent's, do they get charge with satutory rape as well??????

Hope - posted on 11/13/2011

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I just found this information on a webpage

"Rape is prosecuted at the state level, and state laws vary. A review of criminal laws in all 31 states showed that many required that if, for example, a 12-year-old girl accused an adult of statutory rape, she had first to prove she was "chaste and pure." Nineteen of the states required that statutory rape charges be dropped if the rapist agreed to marry his victim."

Helps to explain what may be going on and why.

Sharlene - posted on 11/13/2011

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sorry left something LOL. If she does have a boyfriend how old is he?????????????????????????

Sharlene - posted on 11/13/2011

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Im hearing alot of talk about parents to step parents, what if she just has a BLOODY BOYFRIEND and I still say the pArents should be prosected

Kellie - posted on 11/13/2011

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You don't think a 12 year old is capable of making the decision the terminate but you do think they're old enough to be a mother?

Right.

Mommy - posted on 11/13/2011

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Here in Jersey, a girl can consent to an abortion without her parents' knowledge or permission after age 12. In New York she can do so once she is old enough to get pregnant. I don't know many 12 year olds that are capable of making life decisions, but I guess that's the world we live in.

Kellie - posted on 11/13/2011

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ahh cool thanks Hope.

There is no if though, if she was 10 even under Mexican Law by definition she was Raped as she was not old enough to consent.

Hope - posted on 11/13/2011

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Kellie the article you posted is of another girl who gave birth at the same hospital last year, it was found in that Girls case that the girl was raped by her step father. The girl in the article posted in the debate question gave birth less then a month ago and the investigation is on going as to weather she was raped and if so who raped her.
Just thought I should clarify so we all have our facts correct.

April - posted on 11/13/2011

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i know there are a lot of scary details in this horrible story about this 10 year old victim, but HAVE to say that I am impressed that she visits her baby everyday to breastfeed him! It is hard to imagine a 10 year old even having boobs, but I know times are changing.

Kellie - posted on 11/13/2011

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Here is some more info (pre birth)

http://articles.cnn.com/2010-04-19/world...

It seems the girls step father raped her (for those questioning where the parents were, where are most parents when their children are raped? Not there, that is unless they are the ones doing the raping).

Brittany, you were horrified at 16, what do you imagine this little girl was feeling at 10?

Brittany - posted on 11/13/2011

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As a mother, and being honest, I can not say what I would do in this situation.

My daughter is not 10, heck she is not even 5 yet, and things in America are different then in Mexico.

I would not want to force my 10 year old into having a baby but, I also would weigh the trama of an abortion. More important I would weigh the trama of her rape and she was doing before I could make any sort of decision.

I do not think any of us can sit here, pro-life or pro-choice, and say we know 100% how we would act.

I would be beyond angry with myself for letting this happen to my child, I do know that.

I will keep this little girl in my thoughts and I hope her and the baby are doing much better.

Who knows? Perhpas she will be an excellent mother. Having kids is hard no matter how old you are.

I also know that I would be there to support my child. Imagine being raped, finding out your are about to have a baby, and being 10? I was raped from the ages of 14-17 and when I was 16 I found out I was going to have its baby. I was HORRIFID!

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She nearly died giving birth.if the pregnancy was confirmed early enough it would of been far less traumatic than what she went through in the end.



I agree at ten why was she having sex..where were the parents.Even if she did not want to have an abortion and thats okay i understand that.



Her life was in danger for medical reasons if she were my daughter i would ask about what was best as in an abortion.



If at ten she had no clue about her choices as a parent i do and i will seek all information and go down any route to help my child.



I can 100% guarantee my ten year old children would not be having sex unless god for bid they were raped.

Sharlene - posted on 11/13/2011

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1/ where were the parents
2/What's a child doing have sex at the age of 10 yrs old
3/The parents should be prosecuted
4/And the child should be removed from parents custody

DISGRACEFUL

Stifler's - posted on 11/12/2011

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Oh yep she's 10 and WASN'T raped... what is wrong with people. As for abortion seriously I would rather my 10 year old abort than give the baby up for adoption.

Vicki - posted on 11/12/2011

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I highly doubt that she even knew about abortion, she's 10. Yes an abortion would have been devastating, but so is pregnancy, birth and motherhood for a child. There's no solution that would have left her unscarred. This will affect her whole life and man that did it will probably never be punished.

Ashley - posted on 11/12/2011

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I suppose it doesn't mention that the little girl did not want an abortion or that her parents even tried to convince the court that she should be allowed to get one, but I cannot imagine that at 10 she would even have understood the choices put in front of her.
I just feel terrible for this poor little girl. She was supposed to be a child sooo much longer.

Bridget - posted on 11/12/2011

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This is so wrong :( that poor child. Age 12 for the age of consent is disgusting that is just a child. I am usually against abortion but she should have been able to have one. It would have saved her and this poor innocent baby alot of suffering.

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I don't really want to touch the abortion issue, but did it say anywhere that she wanted an abortion? Yes, I realize the issues w/ a 10 year old having a child are immense. I just look at my own almost 10 year olds (REALLY hard to do under these circumstances) and while I know they couldn't handle raising a baby.... I can't imagine they would be ok w/ an abortion either....



I don't know. The whole thing just sucks any way you look at it. There is NO good/right answer for a situation as devastating as this.

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I understand abortion.A child having a child.A ten year old.I am sorry but opinions should be out the window, i would not expect an adult to continue with a pregnancy they did not want /esp after a rape let a lone a ten year old child.

I would love all unborn babys to live of course but god for bid my little girl have to endure what this ten year old child has, i would not shy away from allowing an abortion.

My job is to protect the child i have FIRST.

Katie - posted on 11/12/2011

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if a ten year old gets raped i can't really imagine a more reasonable path then abortion. She's 10! To each their own when it comes to the abortion debate and all, but SHES 10! When I list up all of the effects pregnancy had on my body, the list is a long one, and I am a grown woman not a barely pubescent little girl. To say she should continue on with the pregnancy unless her life is at risk is in my opinion an absolutely ridiculous statement. Of course her life is at risk, her physical health, her mental health, everything will be affected for the rest of her life because of this pregnancy. To say she should keep the baby is to choose one life over another in itself. Difference of opinion I guess........

Very sad story though. I hope whoever did it gets a big dose of karma real soon

Vicki - posted on 11/12/2011

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So so sad on so many levels. Poor child. 10 year olds are still babies really, she should be able to play with dolls, or a baby sibling, not have her prepubescent body and mind go through rape, pregnancy and abdominal surgery.

Erin - posted on 11/12/2011

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I can believe someone would actually try to argue that a 10yo has a responsibility to continue with a pregnancy that was the product of statutory rape (at the least).

That is a child. Who has now undergone major abdominal surgery that will have who knows what sort of impact on her future fertility.

The story is unbelievably sad. The fact someone could read this and STILL push the pro-life BS is beyond me.

Jeannette - posted on 11/11/2011

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Aaahh, when adults do unto children...they should be killed! As a pro-lifer (for myself not anyone else), I think expecting a child to handle another adult decision/life after being forced/coerced to handle an adult act is ludicrous! Children should have as much of their innocence for as long as possible. This should not be condoned by anyone - not even a religion!
I would also like to add that yes, the life of the unborn baby is something I consider, but we are talking about a baby (10!) in my eyes; therefore I would want to protect her first because she is here and suffering already and her unborn will not know her suffering if she were allowed to abort.

Kellie - posted on 11/11/2011

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she's not a woman, she's a CHILD, a 10 year old CHILD!

I don't believe 99% woman who has had, is about to have or who has considered aborting their child, did or will do simply because they 'decide they don't want their baby'. You are oversimplifying the issue/decision/choice. And it should always always be available for a woman to choose.

Tiffany - posted on 11/11/2011

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I should have read it before I commented. If her life was at risk that's different, but I do believe that there should be rights for unborn babies...not just "rights" for women who decide they don't want their baby.

Kellie - posted on 11/11/2011

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Did you read it? she nearly died, she was having seizures when she presented at the hospital and they had to do a c-section. And I absolutely believe anyone has the right to an abortion, especially a rape victim and a 10 year old at that.

Tiffany - posted on 11/11/2011

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Absolutely unimaginable! Cannot imagine a 10 year-old having to go through labor, but two wrongs don't make a right. If the little girl's life isn't at risk then I still don't think you can play God and kill the unborn life either...regardless of circumstances. Life is life.

Kellie - posted on 11/11/2011

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You would think not, but I suspect they might think differently. It did say they were investigating but I don't fancy their chances of finding the person responsible, if they were going to find him he would already be found.

Becky - posted on 11/11/2011

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If the age of consent is 12 though, then sex with a 10 year old would be rape, by definintion. So it shouldn't take much to prove! Unless the father is the same age, I guess.

Kellie - posted on 11/11/2011

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Well that explaines the silly law then Becky, I didn't even consider religion of where she comes from I just thought wth is with that!

Becky - posted on 11/11/2011

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Age of consent is only 14 in Canada, which is absurd. They have been talking about/trying to raise it to 16 for years, but I don't think it's gone through yet.

This story is so sad. :( I can't imagine becoming a mother at 10! Ha, it wasn't even biologically possible for me to become a mother until I was 13! It's sad that she couldn't have an abortion without having to prove rape, but chances are that she comes from a Catholic family and wouldn't have anyway... (nothing against Catholics, just bringing it up because Mexico is quite strongly Catholic, I believe.)

Kellie - posted on 11/11/2011

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Yep, in Tasmania and South Australia the consenting age is 17, all other states it's 16.

Kellie - posted on 11/11/2011

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Yep, in Tasmania and South Australia the consenting age is 17, all other states it's 16.

Kellie - posted on 11/11/2011

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Ow wow really Katherine? Where are you? In Australia it varies from state to state but I think in my state it's 17, I'll have a look and see if I can find out for sure.

Mind you it doesn't really stop anyone sadly.

Katherine - posted on 11/11/2011

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Wow I couldnt' imagine having my own child at that age, let alone my child becoming a mother at that age. I'm so glad I don't have a little girl yet......better be aware of the boy when he starts hitting that age....:S

I believe the legal consenting age here is either 13 or 14, but I believe it should be higher

Aniesha - posted on 11/11/2011

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Very very sad, I feel so sorry for the poor little thing. God knows I struggled enough with becoming a mother at 23!

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