Esther - posted on 07/06/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )
My husband and I are both Dutch. When my mom was young, she moved to Canada with a friend and they lived there together for about 1.5 years. The friend met a man in Canada and she married him and ended up spending her life there, while my mom moved back and married my dad. She remained close to her friend and her husband though (I call them aunt & uncle) so we visited them in Canada frequently as I was growing up and they came to Holland often as well. For some bizar reason I always felt more at home in North America than I did in Holland. I also always loved speaking in English and always read all my books in English. A lot of Americans who work with me don't even know I'm Dutch as I don't have an accent. I don't know why this is. My parents used to joke that it was because I was conceived in Canada.
Obviously when I was offered the chance to move to New York through my job, I jumped on it. My husband was able to find a job here as well so we moved 2 weeks after the 9/11 attacks (great timing). We are extremely happy here and cannot imagine ever moving back to Holland (not that there is anything wrong with Holland, but the US just seems like a better fit for us). Our 18 month old little boy is officially a US citizen.
HOWEVER, and this is a big however, all of our relatives are of course still in The Netherlands. Fortunately they are in a position (financially) to visit us regularly (4-6 times a year) but it's not the same as being able to just drive over whenever you feel like it. I feel a lot of guilt about depriving my parents of the opportunity to have their grandson in their lives every day (he's their only grandchild and likely to remain the only one) and I have guilt about depriving my son of having his grandparents around the corner as well (not to mention all his cousins, aunts, uncles etc.). On the other hand, we are happy here, and I think it's a great opportunity for my son to grow up bi-lingual and bi-cultural.
Do any of you have any words of wisdom to share?