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After responding to a post it was suggested that I am living in the 50's or 60's, or with that type of mentality. How could one decide that factor on one post alone? I had stated that my husband works hard and that I am a sahm and when he comes home I don't expect him to work. The 'work' I'm talking about does NOT include parenting our children. We share that responsibility 24/7. You are never 'off-duty' from being a parent. But, bc I stay at home and he works 16 hours per day (or more!) 7 days per week and I am the one with the kids and the home it is my responsibility to clean the house and take care of my children and not to leave them unbathed and the house dirty and expect him to do it when he gets home. Am I doing it specifically for him? No, I'm doing it for all of us, myself included. What kind of mother would I be to not do those things? I do it bc I'm a mom, bc I like a clean home, and yes, bc I do feel that it's my job. We're partners and while he's working and making a living for us I take care of the home and kids. He's running a business and working crazy long hours, who would really expect him to come home and bathe the kids, mop the floor, make the beds, do the laundry, etc. Being a sahm and housewife, is it not our responsibility to do those things? I know every situation is different and alot of factors play into family dynamics but in my particular situation I don't get why what I do was so scrutinized.