Handmade gifts... a do or a don't

Amanda - posted on 12/30/2010 ( 64 moms have responded )

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Just before Christmas I was browsing the internet for a couple last minute gift ideas.... I stumbled upon a list of do's and don'ts and was a little put off that one of the major "don'ts" was handmade gifts! it included ALL handmade gifts, not just cheesey ones. i was a little put off by this because i personally LOVE handmade gifts and made a few gifts this year and have already ordered some supplies to make next years gifts!
so what do you think, are handmade gifts a horrible idea or are they a thoughtful idea?

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Hand made and HOME GROWN- My kids favorite Green Gift is the TickleMe Plant Kit. The TickleMe Plants are real plants that you can grow indoors year round, that will close their leaves and lower their branches when tickled. Its a REAL plant and the kits include everything you need, soil, flower pot and seeds. My kids treat them as their pets. We grow some to give away as hand made gifts- we get a paint set with the kits to paint the greenhouse and flower pots...our young artists love this part

Visit http://www.ticklemeplant.com to see live one in action. They sprout in days and have pink fluffy flowers. A great learning experience too. You can also find some on Amazon.

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@Dana...awesome trees...do you have an etsy?



@Lindsay...my SIL did fleece blankets for everyone too, except no monograms. But each was made with a pattern or print that fit receiver's personality and interests. My daughter got one with VeggieTales on it. She loves it, and I love it because it's not another toy to clutter the house with!



One of my friends is a fabulous seamstress and has made Eliza one-of-a-kind dresses. ♥ She also made my diaper bag for Eliza and is making me some clothe diapers for the one in the oven. I couldn't ask for anything more.



I think we've come to the conclusion that the article is wrong and homemade gifts are awesome!

Dana - posted on 12/30/2010

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Hmm, that's interesting. I think it all depends on the giver and the receiver. I make trees and family & friends are all waiting anxiously until their birthday or now since Christmas has passed they're waiting to see if they get one next year for Christmas. Of course my trees aren't crappy either and would cost a pretty penny if you went out to buy one. - I don't mean that as snotty as it can come off. lol

Here's an album of a couple trees I've made recently for gifts.



http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=20...

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I don't really give a rats but if it is a don't or not. If you are outside my immediate family and want something from us for Christmas or your birthday you WILL get a homemade gift. i.e. cookies, bath salts, candy, etc.

LaCi - posted on 01/03/2011

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I like handmade gifts.



My best friend/cousin does that a lot. For family members.



I planned on doing food for the next holiday season. Giving everyone a bunch of homemade treats in some sort of decorated box or bag. I don't think anyone would complain about getting a box of treats. And I'm awesome to the sweet tooth. :p screw that article.



It's not like they'll be getting anything better if I don't. I'm broke. I wouldn't have gone out and bought everyone a 3d tv instead

Kim - posted on 01/02/2011

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When I was a preschool teacher I loved getting homemade gifts, they seemed more personal. I knew some teachers who would scoff at a Gingerbread person decorated to look like them, but to me it meant they spend the time making them just right. I try to figure out homemade gifts from the kids to their Grand or God parents for Christmas. Like this year I found clay pots with a butterfly on them. The kids painted them and I added candy inside and wrapped them up. They can use it for flowers or as we have, as a pencil holder. Sure I could have bought a pencil holder or mug but my kids took the time to paint them especially for each of them.

Mother - posted on 12/31/2010

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WHA-?? Oh my....I must be a rotten person then because I always make stuff. Not every gift but the majority. For x-mas I knitted all the kids their choice of hats and mitts and toys......they loved them. My sister in law didn't have lots of money so she put my favourite recipe in a a jar (just the dry ingredients) with the recipe and a hand knit cloth over the top. I LOVED IT.

I think they are thoughtful and personal. Much nicer then just picking anything from a shelf to have something to give at last minute.

Petra - posted on 12/31/2010

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Emma - I'm so like you. I love getting handmade stuff, the thought and the work that goes into the gift speaks volumes. But if I made gifts for people, I think they would be insulted. Not so crafty... my talents lie elsewhere :-)

Stifler's - posted on 12/31/2010

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i know right... i don't make anything. handmade gifts would be good if other people gave them to me but i suck at crafts so i probably wouldn't even go there.

Becky - posted on 12/30/2010

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Wow, some of you ladies are making me really jealous with your talent and creativity! I enjoy crafting, but I'm not that great at a lot of crafty stuff. I am now inspired to work at it more and improve my skills so I can give lovely handmade gifts too! :) I'm all for giving handmade gifts. The things that I will keep forever for my boys are the afghans and quilts that were made for them by my mom and other friends and family members, not the outfits that were bought at the store, no matter how adorable I think they are. The homemade things were made with love.
I wanted to make pesto and bruschetta this Christmas to give as gifts to family, but didn't get a chance. I'm going to put in an herb garden this year, so maybe next year I'll have enough basil for that. I think homemade food is always a great gift.
I do think that if you're going to give a handmade gift, it should be something you're really good at, that looks like it could have been bought in a store. Your first ever attempt at a knitted sweater with a too-tight neckhole and one arm longer than the other probably isn't the best gift. Of course, when it comes to children making handmade gifts, that's completely different. If my 2 year old gave me a piece of paper he'd scribbled on for Christmas, I'd treasure it. :)

Sharon - posted on 12/30/2010

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You have to think of who you are giving this to.

Is your gift on par with your blind grandmas' knitting ability? Is "kitchy"?(or however you spell that) is it "shabby chique"?

Or could you make a living at it? i had a friend who told me her embroidery was awesome and she was going to give me something embroidered for christmas. I was excited. My mother has EXCELLENT embroidery skills. People pay her THOUSANDS to repair special items when embroidery comes unraveled or damaged. Even if my friends' skills are 1/4 of my mothers skill, it'll be lovely!

Yeah um.... I don't know even know what you call it, but its these plastic grid squares you sort sew together and lace up with yarn? the colors were HORRID. The "art" was nonexistent ... I was NOT going to hurt her feelings. i thanked her generously for it praised it for being innovative.... and hid it.

I LOVE getting cookies, cakes and pies as gifts. Just don't get insane with exotic shit. Unless you're positive the extra extra dark chocolate raspberry torte is going to be loved by your friend, stick with the simple chocolate torte. ( i hate raspberry torte, lol).

I make nice jewelry. I can bake pretty well. I made a unique christmas tree for my mother in law. I was decorating for her when she was ill. She was away seeing a doctor in another town and hubby said she would enjoy coming home to decorated house. I found a clear glass christmas tree. It was meant to sit on some sort of base but I couldn't find it. I cleaned it out shined up the glass and stuffed it full of mini colored x-mas lights, I ran out and bought a mini wreathe and set it inside that. It was so pretty and muted. Not glaring or garish at all. HAHAHA it was an antique glass fixture - just happened to be shaped like a cone. She loved it. She was amazed I had thought of it. It was a mistake on my part - sort of.

I love handmade gifts. At least the person tried. showing thought and care.

Johnny - posted on 12/30/2010

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I love giving and receiving handmade gifts. This year, we got a beautiful painting done by my uncle, who is a well known local artist. We could never afford his stuff, and it was a personalized piece about my daughter. It will always be in our family. We also received some baking, new knit scarves and a set of homemade candles. All useful, personal, and great.

I made some Christmas ornaments for a few people and gave baking to others. I haven't done as much as in the past, I simply don't have the time now. But I generally find that the personally made gifts are often the best received.

I'm guessing the writer of this story is just a loser who can't make anything good themselves and probably has a grandma who is a terrible knitter.

The other day on the radio I was listening to a program about "What is the Worst Gift You've Received?" This one guy calls in to complain about people who give charitable donations in your name. What a turd! I hope everyone he knows heard him and gives to starving African children in his name next year. Some people really need a swift kick in the arse!

Tiffany - posted on 12/30/2010

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I think it depends on the person. Every year my Mom and I get into this whole deal about Christmas presents....she feels she needs to buy stuff that she 'thinks' I will like. I would rather get nothing then get a bunch of stuff I will not use and waste her money. I always end up regifting her gifts, and it makes me feel horrible that she wasted her money. I personally love handmade scarves, hats, etc. but it would depend on the friend making them. It all depends on what you're making and who it is for.

Jenny - posted on 12/30/2010

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Bullshit! I prefer handmade gifts. I don't need anymore junk from the store that someone stressed out over buying. I'd much rather appreciate something made for me by hand.

My 8 year old just started knitting. I'm sure her friends and relatives will love her gifts next year.

Bonnie - posted on 12/30/2010

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I think homemade gifts are a great idea depending on what the item is and who it is going to.

Joanna - posted on 12/30/2010

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I love handmade gifts! I gave my bestfriend and my sister-in-law both aprons (they like to cook), my grandma and grandma-in-law got picture frames we built and me and my 3 year old painted, and my adopted-out-daughter got some matching tops and hairbows I made for her and her doll.

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Ha ha Emma! My mom was going to get me a parenting magazine when my first was born, but she never found one she liked. SHe said they were all for Stepford-ish women and she thought they were just not helpful... If I remember correctly, I got a BBQ set that year instead... She likes getting me kitchen/cooking appliances - there's the hint for me! Hee hee hee... the funny thing is that I didn't really learn how to cook very well until AFTER I moved in with my hubby! My mom taught me casseroles, but I rarely ever make casseroles any more, I use the skills my hubby taught me. I make a great soup from scratch (noodles and everything!). :D

Stifler's - posted on 12/30/2010

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my parents got me a parenting magazine... bwahahaha ARE YOU TRYIN TO TELL ME SOMETHING!

i got them nothing so meh. i want to get them a new camera for paying for our wedding because i forgot to get them a gift then.

Sherri - posted on 12/30/2010

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Handmade gifts an AWESOME idea. I LOVE homemade gifts the absolute best!!

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I got a bread machine from my parents for Christmas this year (wich will really mae my jams easier to make! Woo hoo!) and my daughter's teacher and the teacher aid for her class are both getting lots of yummy bread through the rest of this school year! I've talked about it with them before and they both love baking as much as I do, but they both also agree that sometimes it's hard to find the time, so I know they'll love the little gifts all the time :)

As a side note, I often do little gifts and stuff like that all through the year. I make jams and canned fruits all year long, I bake whenever I get the chance (now more that i have my bread machine!), I love doing cross stitch, I'm getting into scrapbooking, all sorts of stuff, so I do give little gifts to people I care about all through the year. It makes me feel a bit better when we can't always afford birthday and Christmas presents for those people... :)

Tara - posted on 12/30/2010

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We do homemade gifts for our librarians, our parents, our friends and the gentleman who runs the local skating rink.

This year we made homemade fudge (well Steve made homemade fudge, I told him which kinds to make. He is the best fudge maker.) I made pecan shortbread and Steve made homemade peanut brittle. (we knew there were no allergies present beforehand)

We also mixed up some nice spiced mocha coffee mix, layered it in jars and the girls tied ribbons on them. For us it's a way of saying thanks to people and giving a gift I knew they would like and not have to find a place for. My mom asks that the kids take their money, pool it and buy food to donate to the food bank, they like it cause it's easy and nice. :)

In the past I have made hot/cold bags, which are just small pillows full of pot or pearl barley and sewn shut. Easy and fun and useful, pop it in the microwave for 2 minutes and it's cozy warm. I don't think you have to be super crafty to give homemade gifts, as long as you know the receiver and know what they would appreciate and expect from you. Steve's baking is far better than mine btw. He has far more patience than I do, and fudge requires patience, lol

:) oh edited to say I think the article is bunk, and we are all proof.

Krista - posted on 12/30/2010

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Cool. Just making sure. :) She also knit him the most ADORABLE multi-coloured socks.

As well, some classless bitch I know recently made me an awesome photo frame for a baby picture for Sam. It has his full name and time/date of birth, his birth weight, and the most adorable little cartoon critters painted on it. Stuff like that is nice because it's really personal.

Krista - posted on 12/30/2010

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There's also a picture in that photostream of a green sweater with red apple buttons -- that's handmade as well.

Dana - posted on 12/30/2010

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That's a really nice sweater!

Sara, I don't have an etsy page. Some day I hope to.

Caitlin - posted on 12/30/2010

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Oh that's amazing and adorable! I'd love to get something like that homemade.. So much extra effort goes into it it makes it more special..

Kate CP - posted on 12/30/2010

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Krista: Well, the link is missing the h in the http and those are some cute pics of a baby but nothing else "home made". ;D



Edited to add: Duh. Just realized the knitted thing is that adorable red sweater the baby is wearing. Don't mind me. I'm just retarded. :P

Krista - posted on 12/30/2010

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Caitlin, try this one instead, then: ttp://www.flickr.com/photos/24208698@N06/3995849550/in/set-72157622516807888/

Kate CP - posted on 12/30/2010

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Hand made gifts are great if they're made well AND you know the person receiving them will like it. I gave a pair of earrings to my BIL's girlfriend for her birthday one year that I hand made (I make jewelry as a side business so these don't look like crappy earrings and were made with real semi-precious stones) and she looked like she was about ready to throw up on them. She said "thank you" but I've never seen her wear them and the look on her face when I gave her the gift said it all. It actually really pissed me off. Needless to say, the little shit hasn't gotten anything from me since.



However, my friends and family often ask for hand made things from me. I make candles with natural essential oils; I run a baking business and my cookies and breads are to DIE for, I make jewelry with precious and semi-precious stones and recently I've added polymer clay to my list of materials. I'm damn crafty and every time I make a gift for some one (except BIL's pissy girlfriend) they adore it. So yea, I'm pro-hand made stuff. ;)



Edited to add a link to show some of my shtuff:



http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=20...

Caitlin - posted on 12/30/2010

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Krista - the link didn't work! I'd love to see them. When I was pregnant with #1, I tried all sort of patterns to crochet cute baby things and they were all shitty.. The extent of my crocheting skill extends to granny squares to make blankets, but i'm fine with that..

Krista - posted on 12/30/2010

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I love handmade gifts and store-bought gifts. To me, what makes a gift great is if it's THOUGHTFUL, and if the person really tried to give me something that I'd like, as opposed to just something that they want me to have.

So if someone made me a tole-painted crucifix with a Hummel figurine Jesus on it...well, I'd thank them profusely, but it would never hang on a wall in my home. When I was pregnant with Sam, however, a friend of mine knit me some sweaters for him, and they're just beautiful: http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=72... So that gift, I was absolutely thrilled with, because it was thoughtful and lovely and just my taste.

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I prefer them personally. Having been a poor as dirt actor for years before I had any money that was my usual. I learned to knit, I play guitar/write songs for people, I've cooked things, I've made portraits, made frames, different teas for different health issues, cookbooks...a variety.

My fav's have been yummy homemade gluten free granola, homemade bacon fat dog treats for my dog lover friends and family, the songs and a Tom Baker Doctor Who scarf I knitted for my Dad (who loves Sci Fi). These all went down pretty well with most of my bf's or family...the ones who were not grateful, ahem my very non-tactful bro who only ever wants some computer game, can suck it. I don't have the cash but I have the drive to learn a new skill and make you a gift...I think that means more than going to Best Buy for Lego Batman (for a 38 year old no less).

Amanda - posted on 12/30/2010

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Dana- I'm a tree fanatic also!
I forgot to mention that one of the best gifts we got this year was from my hubby's aunt... she made everyone a cookbook entitled "food to increase sexual desire " LOL it was great

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One of my most favortie gifts is a handmade calligraphy book mark wit hmy name on it! It's so pretty and I think of the recipient all teh time when I read my book and use the bookmark.

Jenn - posted on 12/30/2010

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I think they are a do - more personal with thought put into it rather than giving a gift card or something like that. I made gourmet cookies and put them in nice tins with each type in a separate muffin paper for my son's bus driver and teacher and 2 teacher's aides. Some people don't like the idea but I know one of the teacher's aides and she said they were delicious and very much appreciated. If you don't recall from the one thread about what makes us special - that is one talent I have is baking so it's not like I was giving them some burnt-ass nasty tasting crap that someone threw together. My kids all got hand-knitted sweaters and hats for Christmas and we love them!

Dana - posted on 12/30/2010

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That's really cool Liz. I haven't thought to make anything else, I happen to be a tree fanatic so I've just been doing those. I doubt I'm crafty enough yet to make a butterfly or anything else out of wire. :|

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Dana-I used to make something quite similar to those but they hung on a wall instead of attached to a base and I never even thought to make a tree. I made some dragons, butterflies, and other stuff.

Personally I love handmade gifts. I am a very crafty person or I used to be before I had a herd of kids anyway. I got a journal this year that was covered in leather and hand painted by a friend and it's my favorite gift:)
One of my sisters though, you can make something beautiful expensive and very similar to something she would buy but she could care less if she knows it didn't come from a store. I made her this necklace and earring set one year that were probably the best I've ever done. She put it on and said "this must have costs a lot, I love it", when I told her I had most the supplies but it took forever to make she looked horrified that I didn't "buy" it for her.

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I make homemade jams and canned fruits every year. :) I didn't even remember those in my first post because it's just something I do - I don't even think about it any more! lol

Caitlin - posted on 12/30/2010

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I made homemade jams from handpicked berries this summer. I have people wondering if I have any more hanging around spare because they were that good. Much better than store bought. I made blueberry, strawberry, rasberry and orange marmalade.

Jocelyn - posted on 12/30/2010

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I love handmade gifts ^_^
Six of my Christmas gifts I gave out this year where handmade (2 cross stitch, 3 scrabble art, and personalized wall letters)
But I think it depends on the receiver. I know a couple people that I wouldn't give handmade gifts too, but their loss lol
I love receiving hand made gifts; to me it shows that they put a lot of time, thought and energy into my present.

Dana - posted on 12/30/2010

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It takes me a few hours, not sure how long really since I just work on them when I can at night.

I think that if I start talking about price ranges and stuff, one might think I'm trying to sell them on here which is in violation of NO THUMPS. :D



And thank you ladies!

Lady Heather - posted on 12/30/2010

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I made cookbooks for my extended family because they are always asking for my recipes. Everyone seemed to like that. I like handmade gifts if they are a) delicious or b) useful in some way. I'm not sure I would want a bunch of random decorative items or something, but I would appreciate the thought. The same can be said for non-handmade though.

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Dana, your trees are gorgeous! How long does it take to make one? Do you take special orders? What's your price range?

Desiree - posted on 12/30/2010

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Hand made gifts are special it means that the person has taken the time to think about what to give you and has put a bit of themselves into the gift. It would be like turning down a gift one of my children has made for me, these are the gift I treasure the most... This comes from those gifts from friends as well, Even making me breakfast or bringing me a cup tea in bed is a gift in itself, because I know this person has thought about me and what I may need in that moment.

Amanda - posted on 12/30/2010

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Dana- That is gorgeous! those are definately not crappy, you have the right to sound snotty about 'em :)

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