Shannen - posted on 02/12/2011 ( 24 moms have responded )
How long do you have to be with your partner before you can say anything when it comes to family issues on his side?
When do you gain the right to have an opinion and be able to voice it somewhat with your partners family?
My husbands Family is all sorts of screwy. We have been together for 7 years and married for nearly 2. I thought i was close to his sister. She has rung me before to vent about what their mother is or isn't doing and also about their other brother.
I sent her a e-mail because i thought we were close. It was a vent about how their brother is in jail and he deserves to be there, which she agreed with when i last spoke to her.
All hell broke loose and now i have been outcast and my husband was hung up on by his own mother 2 times last night.
Everything from my husbands past has come to light, things like his mother staying with his step father even though he was mentally and physically abusing my husband. The fact that she has never some over here to see her grandkids we always had to travel to them but they can travel the same distance once a fortnight to see their son in jail.
If i had kept my mouth shut none of this would have happened but i thought we were close enough that i could tell her how i felt with out the huge shit fight. I didn't expect her to be happy with what i said but instead of telling me she doesn't need to hear it she just deleted my husband and i off her FB.
Have i been together long enough to have something to say or should i have kept my mouth shut?