How much time do you spend with your significant other?

Lady Heather - posted on 01/21/2011 ( 25 moms have responded )

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I was just talking to my sister about this. Apparently in her family, her husband goes to work, she is at home with baby all day and then evenings and weekends they spend at least half their time apart doing things on their own and with friends. Around here, my husband is home at 5:30 and he rarely goes out anywhere. I have a once-a-month thing with friends but otherwise my social stuff is done during the day. So pretty much all weekends and evenings we spend all together. He used to come home for lunch every day, but his new office is too far away. Still, today he had a meeting in town and popped in to see us. My sister says that's nuts and would drive her crazy.

What is your normal? Do you get sick of each other? I never seem to get sick of my husband and he's been around for almost 10 years now. Maybe we're just weirdos. I think my brother and his wife are the same though. So we're not the only ones.

It's not like we can't bear to be apart or something. He goes on business trips sometimes and it's fine. It just seems to be what we do and we always have fun.

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Nikkole - posted on 01/21/2011

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My husbadn works from 3pm-12am sometimes 3am so he sleeps in in the mornings so i dont get to see him for long! On the weekends he lets me sleep in IF he dosent work saturdays and its our family time :)

Kylie - posted on 01/21/2011

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I spend a lot of time with my hubby. He gets home at 4pm and we go out with the kids or work in the garden together. Some days we make dinner together and we pretty much spend all weekend together unless he takes the kids so i can have some time off. Maybe once a month he goes out with his mates and i probably go out at night without him every couple of months.
We've been like this for 10 years and I dont get sick of him, hes my best friend.
Sometimes in the evenings he will play his games and I will read or go online and we don't talk.

Stifler's - posted on 01/21/2011

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We still text each other while he's at work or he will ring me on lunch. People think that's weird hahaha

Lady Heather - posted on 01/21/2011

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We really don't have a lot of time just one-on-one. Basically 1.5 hours at night. We go to bed early (9:30). We hardly ever go out. Last month was the first time ever that we went out twice in one month - office Christmas party and then my mum and stepdad took the grandkids so we went out with my sister and brother-in-law. Before that we hadn't been out since our anniversary in October. And before that it was my brother's wedding in April. Terrible.

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My DH and I spend what time we can together. He works 45+ hours per week and spends every minute he can after work with our kids, eating his dinner, and taking a shower. I get time with him at the same time or after the kids are in bed. He gets one or two days off a week and we do things that need done around the house but we try to do at least 4 hours of family time each of his days off. As for one on one time with my DH? Uh, yeah. Not that I don't want it but he let one of his bff move in just over a year ago and now we are caring for him as well. (he is like an autistic/bipolar/copd adult & has a hard time managing his own life.) Anyway, DH and I do get out once or twice every so often. We drop this kids are my dad's house and go to this great little asian restaurant not to far from him. So we do get time to ourselves when not in bed. :)

Laura - posted on 01/21/2011

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We spend almost every evening together unless one of us has something going on. On the weekends it depends on the time of year, sometimes he spends most of the weekend hunting, or he'll take the boys so I can get stuff done around the house, or we'll go shopping together. Sometimes he'll take one boy and I'll take the other and get some one on one time. I think we have a good balance going. There are some days when one of us will just have to get out of the house away from each other and kids :) It will be fun when #3 arrives.

Mrs. - posted on 01/21/2011

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My fiance works nights four days a week (sometimes 5 if they need him). It usually goes from 3ish to 1amish. I watch the baby most afternoons and evenings. He like to get up bright and early, give me an extra hour or so of sleep. So, we get to spend a few hours during the day together for the most part and then spend his days off, usually as a family.

Recently, I've been dealing with a sort of throw back to my PPD and have found the isolation a bit off putting. My mother nudged me into finding something to do just for myself because I really need it. So, I enrolled in a morning class at the city University in creative writing. I think this will really amp up our time as a family. I really need something outside of my child and my fiance.

That being said, I wish I could be around him more. My daughter is at the stage that she has started to try to keep him from going or getting ready for work. Either that or she grabs her little outdoor boots when he's getting ready and tries to go with him. Our budget is tight though and we need those hours. Just wish we were independently wealthy or something.

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We usually spend weekends together with our son. I do most of my socializing during the day because I am a sahm & our son is in school, but I do take 2 evenings a month for myself. My husband takes one evening every week for himself (since he works during the day), and we have a special, child-free date night once a week.

He usually goes to work about 8:30-9am and is home between 4:30-6pm depending on meetings, with the occasional overnight business trip. So even on nights one of us goes out, we get time to spend together.

That said, he recently set up an office here so he could work from home a few days a week--at first, I loved it.....but it got old fast. It's not that I don't love his company, it's just that he gets underfoot a lot. His job requires him to spend a lot of time just sitting around thinking (usually trying to come up with solutions for what ever problem his client has), so he constantly comes out to me and tries to "think out loud" and get my opinion--like I have any idea!!! and this distracts me from my own work. My house is slowly, but surely becoming a cluttered mess :P

Bonnie - posted on 01/21/2011

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Mu husband usually starts work at around 7 or 8am and he usually gets home around 6 or 7pm, sometimes earlier. He gets one day off during the week and every other weekend off. His scheduling isn't bad at all, but with him being up around 5:30am on the days he works, he is sometimes falling asleep by 9 or 10pm. I usually don't go to bed before 12 or 12:30am. Even if I fall asleep on the couch, I will still get up again and stay up til around that time. We try to go grocery shopping as a family and we try to get out either just together or with friends once every other month if not a bit more than that. We have known eachother for 10 years and been married for almost 5 years. I don't think we ever get tired of eachother. Even when we first started dating, we were seeing eachother at least 3 days a week.

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My husband's work schedule allows us to spend tons of time together. He works night shift...on two, off two and every other weekend...which also means every other weekend is a three day weekend! I stay home. I do have a very small business, but that only gets me out of the house twice a month or so. And I go on a monthly girls' night. Other than that, we're home together or doing something together. We LOVE it, and I'm so thankful that we can live like this. We have our fingers crossed that he'll be getting a promotion in less than two years. That would put him working Mon-Thurs 10 hour night shifts from 9pm-7am. He'd be home for dinner every night (and able to see the kids after they get off school, when that time comes) and EVERY weekend would be a three day weekend. Plus the money would be better. We're really praying hard for this!

Sherri - posted on 01/21/2011

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My husband works a lot and on average gets home between 7-8pm. Eats and he is in bed by 9-10pm the latest. He is up and gone before I or the kids ever wake up. On weekends we are constantly running in different directions with the kids activities etc. We might spend one weekend night together that is about it.

Tara - posted on 01/21/2011

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further to that.
We don't spend every waking minute together, but we're in the house together. He will be off teaching guitar to one of the girls while I read with another etc.
But we all love being together as much as we are. It helps that everyone has their own room, so we all have our own space.

Tara - posted on 01/21/2011

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same with us. we are self-employed and so work together all the time, and spend almost the rest of our time together. I have a once a month thing with the ladies here in town. And in the winter when he works and I do not, the kids and I do stuff together with other homeschoolers, We always seem to have fun no matter what we are doing or where we are.

Jenn - posted on 01/21/2011

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Brian leaves for work early in the morning and I get up with him and make his lunch and make him a coffee - then we can have a mini-makeout session to start the day. Nothing says good morning like grabbing your man by the shirt collar and sucking his face off right before he walks out the door. ;) He gets home from work at various times depending on where they're working or what they're doing (he works in construction). Sometimes he's home at 3:00pm - sometimes he's home at 7:30pm. If he gets home early then he might go to town to grab a Timmies and visit his buddy for a bit, otherwise we eat supper and then he'll lounge on the couch (usually he'll nap for a bit), then we get the kids off to bed between 7:30-8:00pm. After that we hang out together watching tv, taking turns on the computer, or having sex. So yes, I'd say we spend most of our free time together. However, during the week that he was off for Christmas - by the end of the week we were both ready for him to go back to work LMAO! There is such as thing as too much of a good thing. :P

Shauna - posted on 01/21/2011

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Lets see.. My husband goes to work at 5am he gets home at 4:30. Has to be to second job by 5 and works till 9 or 11 depending on the day. And he works 7 days a week. So he sees me in bed thats it. And never sees our child. I hate it but thats life. Somebody has to pay the bills.

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Brad and I have barely been apart aside from work and stuff since we met. We moved in together 4 days after starting to date. I got pregnant 3 weeks later, it was one of those, we met and just knew kind of things. I cant get enough of him :)

Lady Heather - posted on 01/21/2011

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Yeah, I've been away with the little one a few times to see family and by the last few days I am always on the phone with him telling him he needs to get here NOW. Ha. I get sick of the family - not the husband. We did spend three whole months apart about 5 years ago because I was backpacking Europe. That was rough. He ended up buying a ticket to come meet me in England so that he could see me a week sooner than my return date.

Charlie - posted on 01/21/2011

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Jamie works mainly at night , he leaves early in the morning and is back just after lunch so it's like he is here all the time .

We don't get sick of each other , I only had my first time (in 5 years )away from him last January when my eldest son and I went away for two weeks to see family , GOD I missed him we would call each other three times a day .

He is my best friend and I am his , we love hanging out !

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My SO works back shift, it blows. I barely get to see him. When he was on days we would spend all of our free time together. We have mutual friends that we hang out with. We do everything together. I never felt like i needed time away from him. I dont have enough time to spend with him!

September - posted on 01/21/2011

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We both get home around 6 and spend the evenings together during the week and we spend all of our weekend time together with the exception of a rare occasion where we go out with our friends separately. We all need a little time for ourselves, makes the heart grow fonder! :) I never get sick of spending time with my husband.

Stifler's - posted on 01/21/2011

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My husband works Mon - Friday. He leaves here at 5AM and gets back at 630PM. Sometimes on weeknights when he comes home I go grocery shopping or to the servo to fill up the car or to the strippers with Tamara and Renee (LOL) or we go out to dinner with friends. He hardly ever goes out unless it's for work purposes like to the work yard to do something even though I don't care what he does. We don't actually talk the whole time he's home though sometimes I go on Facebook or for a shower alone and often he goes to bed and I stay up to read or watch a movie. We spend every weekend together mainly except sometimes when he stays home with Logan while I go out on the town (he hates going out) we mainly go away to Bundy or to Blackwater to visit Pete and Roxy and stay or have BBQs at the Millins all weekend anyway and we can do that together it's not like only one of us is invited. We just never feel like I NEED TO GET AWAY FROM YOU either. I have gone away for a week or 2 by myself with Logan because he had to work and I needed to organise wedding stuff and wanted to catch up with friends.

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 01/21/2011

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Being that my Hubby is co-owner of his own business his work hours are flexible and on average…we spend about 5hrs a day on the weekdays…and more on the weekends…it does vary, I see him enough that I enjoy our time apart as well…it makes the heart grow fonder

Carolyn - posted on 01/21/2011

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my husband comes home at 6-630 and is usually home for the evening, but we usually each have our own little hobbies that we spend some time doing during the evening. We have dinner together, play with munchkin, bed time routine, then usually he'll play some xbox while i dink around on my pc editing pictures or surfing the web. Ill go work out when his schedule permits me to attend classes on time.

Weekends, i go out usually saturday afternoon, and he'll go play hockey sometime sunday ( or another season appropriate sport).

Now when i go back to work that will all change, there will be days where i will see him long enough to say hello and goodbye in the same sentence for 4 days in a row. for now, when he is home for more than 2 days straight, I look forward to him going back to work LOL. the house stays cleaner that way and its easier to keep baby on his routine !

I think we have a good mix though of time together and time apart. I would probably kill him if we were attached at the hip. I have always needed a regular dose of me time, and turn into a real bitch when i go to long without it.

Rosie - posted on 01/21/2011

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my husband works at night so i rarely get to see him. i work in the morning and get to see him for like 10 min while i'm getting ready, i come home, and we talk for another 10 minutes before he goes to bed. then he gets up at 4:45 and see's me for like 5 min. before he goes to work, and the cycle continues.
on his days off, he tries to stay up a little bit later. some days it works dome days it doesn't. tonight we are planning on going out. we havn't done that in ages. but one of my kids is acting sick, so it probably won't happen. sigh.
i would give anything to see my husband more. it's put a strain on our relationship.

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