Huckabee thinks Portman is a bad role model

Mrs. - posted on 03/04/2011 ( 35 moms have responded )

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Fox News host Mike Huckabee claims Oscar winner Natalie Portman is a bad role model for America -- all because she got knocked up before marriage. Huckabee went on a radio show Monday and said, "One of the most troubling things is that people see a Natalie Portman or some other Hollywood starlet that boasts of, hey look, we're having children, we're not married, but we're having children and they're doing just fine."



Portman is engaged to her baby daddy -- co-star Benjamin Millepied.



Huckabee -- a Republican who could make a run for the White House -- added, "There aren't really a lot of single moms out there that are making millions of dollars each year by being in a movie"



"I think it gives a distorted image that not everybody hires nannies and caretakers and nurses. Most single moms are very poor, uneducated, can't get a job, and if it weren't for government assistance, their kids would be starving to death and would not get healthcare."



So far, Portman has yet to respond.



Thoughts? I'm not sure what is more offensive, the idea that all single moms are uneducated or that having a baby before getting married makes you a bad role model.

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Mrs. - posted on 03/04/2011

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Another gem of a comment. You really think your were a better role model at 18 simply because you managed to get married before you gave birth? A better role model than a Harvard educated, wealthy, proud of her Jewish faith, engaged, Oscar winner, who waited until she had a stable home and career to provide a home for her child? If she manages to get married before she has the baby is it all fixed? It's like a magic morality wand right?

Krista - posted on 03/06/2011

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Rosa, the reason you received such strong responses is because you have basically said that you are a better role model than Ms. Portman, solely by virtue of the fact that you were married when you had your child. So evidently the fact that she is highly educated, proud of her faith, intelligent, has led her life without a breath of scandal or typical starlet behaviour, and waited until she was (extremely) financially stable before having kids...well, does that mean absolutely NOTHING to you?

The way you posted your statement, you make it sound as though ANYBODY who is a married mother is ipso facto a better role model than an unmarried mother, and that any and all other factors in their lives are utterly irrelevant.

And well...a statement like that is bound to raise some hackles. I'm sorry, but while I firmly believe in marriage, if I had a girl, I would much rather she grow up to be a Harvard-educated, Oscar-winning, respected actor who has a baby with her fiance, than grow up and get pregnant and married at age 18. Not to say that you're a bad mom or a bad role model. But pregnancy and marriage at age 18 is just not the life to which we aspire for our kids.

Krista - posted on 03/04/2011

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Funny that Huckabee didn't feel the need to speak up about single moms when the unmarried Bristol Palin got pregnant.

Johnny - posted on 03/06/2011

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I know I still believe in marriage. I think many of us do. I think we just don't see it as some magical act that makes everything good. I was married for 3 years before I had my daughter. For me, being married is important. But I know that did not make me a better mother than someone who is not married. I find it rather naive to assume that because someone has signed a piece of paper and made vows that it makes them a better person or a better parent than those that have not or choose not to. You may feel that having a baby outside of marriage is wrong for you, but that does not make it the case for everyone.

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Thanks for making all the unmarried mothers feel inadequate for not having a shiny bit of metal on their finger and a fancy piece of paper. Pat yourself on the back for your great achievement.

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I am technically conservative on many points. I am conservative, except where I am intrinsic or grassroots. When it comes to womens' issues, stay the h*ll out of our bodies and our biz.You don't see women going after mens parts for parenting all the kids or lying and cheating their way into so many panties. So leave us alone to to the decision making of our own personal bodies. When we have polycystic ovaries, vaginal tearing and endometriosis do they all want to discuss the rights and wrongs of those issues? Nope we're on our own. All the other huge issues have been ours to deal with for hundreds of years preceeding, lets leave it that way.

Like many men, Huckabee has a nice voice to listen to, he looks like he could be such a sweet person. Then he goes voices these idiotic conservative opinions about things he should understand more from an empathetic point of view.

Tracey - posted on 03/07/2011

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Sounds to me like subliminal messaging. The more he gets his name in the media, the more familiar his name becomes and they more likely people are to vote for him. It doesn't matter what he says he only wants people to know his name.

Nadia - posted on 03/06/2011

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last time i checked a single mom wasn't engaged to the father of her child. a single mom is just that - single!!! and compared to all the other moron starletts running amok in Hollywood, i'd be thrilled if my daughters looked up to Natalie Portman as a role model. She's educated and can support herself and is a grown woman in a committed relationship.

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Ha-ha-ha! This is funny! Wife & mother at 18 is not something I would ever strive for-ever. I feel sorry for the young women who have been unexpectently thrust into the role of wife & mother in such a short time span. They haven't LIVED yet! These young women haven't had life & work experience; higher education so they can support themselves and their children. Now there's nothing wrong with being a young parent, honestly. But you're no role model 'just because' you were married before you had your child. Yep-Natalie Portman role model anytime over someone naive and inexperienced.

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I wasn't married for 2 of my 3 children and i can tell you now that i am not a better parent to my 3rd child just because i got married before i had him. I also didn't change my aprenting styles or become super mum as soon as i signed that piece of paper. But hey according to Rosa the day i got married i became a good mother but the day before i wasn't. Huh go figure.

Rosie - posted on 03/06/2011

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i totally hate how our society looks up to people they don't know as role models. who the fuck cares if ms portman got knocked up while unmarried? does that make her unable to care for her kid or something? does it automatically mean the babies dad is not going to be involved?
where was he when sarah palins TEENAGE UNWED daughter got knocked up? she doesn't count cause she's that crazy bitches daughter??
he's nothing but a bigoted, hypocritical twit who has no business doing what he does. fucktard....fuckturd.

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Huh... I had a smart ass respinse to Rosa, but Cathy and Rebecca beat me to the punch :) Ditto!



My best friend and her husband waited until their son was almost 3 to get married. Did she suddenly become a better mother the morning after her wedding? No way! In these days, marriage isn't as important to some people as it used to be (it still is for me, but that's just me and I totally can respect and admire those who know what does and does not matter to them in the long run).



R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to me... man, between the ignorant Muslim haters thread and this thread I've got that song stuck in my head...

Mrs. - posted on 03/06/2011

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There was this show in the 80's, I don't know you might be too young to remember it Rosa. There was this old white guy and his red headed daughter...there was this weird live in nanny who would sometimes moonlight on another show at an all girl school. The old white dude adopted these two little black kids - one of them was really little and had dimples...What was that show called? Oh yeah, Diff'rent Strokes.

Don't make me post the lyrics to the theme song.

If you want people to respect your beliefs, try leading that way.

Rosa - posted on 03/06/2011

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Apparently no one believes in marriage anymore. It's wrong to have a baby outside of marriage no matter who it is. But thanks for making me totally feel inadequate as a person. If that was your goal you achieved it so give yourself a pat on the back.

Karla - posted on 03/05/2011

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I don't believe I will be taking any advice on role models from a conservative Republican anyway:)

Johnny - posted on 03/05/2011

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Apparently it's only worth condemning when it is a mature, educated, successful woman. If it's a 16 year old not yet out of high school riding on her famous sister's coat tails, that would be another matter. Here's Huckabee back in 2007:



Republican presidential hopeful Mike Huckabee, a former Baptist minister and the former governor of Arkansas, recently picked up the endorsement of Chuck Norris. Now he’s entered the fray on the Jamie Lynn Spears situation.



And while the candidate has been notably caught off-guard by breaking news in recent weeks, he passed this test of pop culture with flying colors.



News of Britney Spears‘ younger sister’s pregnancy broke early this week and is in all the tabloids, including OK! Magazine. On the campaign trail in Iowa, Mike Huckabee was asked how he felt about - what else - pregnant Jamie Lynn.



Even White House hopeful Mike Huckabee is weighing in on Jamie Lynn.



While Huckabee’s answer may have fit any out-of-wedlock teenager in the same situation as the younger Spears, the candidate commented with confidence:



“In my mind it’s a tragedy when a 16-year-old who is not really prepared for all the responsibilities of adult life is going to be now faced with all of the many responsibilities of honest-to-goodness adult life,” he told CBS News.



“Apparently, she’s going to have the child and I think that is the right decision, a good decision, and I respect that and appreciate it,” Mike Huckabee continued. “I hope it is not an encouragement to other 16-year-olds who think that is the best course of action. But at the same time I’m not going to condemn her.”



“There’ll be plenty of people in line to do that and I always look for the shortest lines. I just hope that she will make another right decision and that’s to give that child all the love and kindness and care that she can.”




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Janessa - posted on 03/05/2011

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why is he bringing all this up now. Natalie is 30 year old women and is well off she can choice want she wants for her life. Why didn't he not bring that up when sarah palins daughter was pregnant and who is benefiting from it now she is that is a bad role model.
Anyways why do people alwyas bring women in general down like it is always our fault. The last time I remembered it takes two to have a child. He should also talk about all the dead beat dads all over and that is many reasons why sigle moms go on welfare no help from their children fathers.

Johnny - posted on 03/05/2011

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I completely fail to understand why people link being married to being a good parent?

Becky - posted on 03/05/2011

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How is she sending the message that it's okay to make babies and not get married when she is engaged to the father of the baby? Typically, engagement leads to marriage! While I do tend to hold the traditional "first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in the baby carriage" view, I wouldn't call Natalie Portman a bad role model because she chose to have a baby when she was financially stable, had her education and career, was emotionally ready, and was in a stable and committed relationship!

Pansy - posted on 03/05/2011

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The last person I would want as a role model for my daughter is someone who got married and was pregnant at 18 years old. I was still in high school at 18, and then my first year of college. That is the LAST thing I would want for my daughter. I would rather have a successful career woman who went to Harvard as a role model than a teen mom. Call me crazy ...

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Really Rosa? I mean, seriously?!?! I should tell my daughters that it's okay for them to get pregnant at 18 as long as they marry their baby's father instead of wanting them to wait until they've finished college and started a career? Huh... I guess I've been WAY off in my parenting! lol...

I think Mike Huckabee needs to closely examine his own life before judging others... "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone" is my favorite Bible quote if we're going down that route... :D

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Seriously Rosa. So any teenager could go and get married have a kid and all is good? A stable income and love of a man who your not married to but engaged to means nothing??
Hmmmm i should never of had kids then. I wasn't married when i gave birth to 2 of my children.

Rosa - posted on 03/04/2011

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I'm not sure why everyone keeps comparing what Huckabee said about Portman to being a teen parent. I got married and pregnant at 18 and I think that I'm a better role model than Portman because she isn't married. Portman is not a role model and should not be described as so. She sends the message (to everyone not just teen moms) that it's okay to make babies and not get married and that is not the message she should want to send.

Johnny - posted on 03/04/2011

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Who cares if she's married, engaged or single?? To me, she's definitely a role model. She's waited until she can support her child, established a successful career, taken time out to get a great education, and worked very hard. She'd be far ahead of most other celebrities and also most politicians as far as a role model I'd hold up for my daughter.

It is great and very helpful to have an involved partner with whom to share parenting responsibilities and perhaps a relationship. What children need are stable, consistent and loving parents, who show one another respect, consideration and care. They don't need to even be in a romantic relationship, marriage, partnership or anything else to make that happen.

If anything, Natalie Portman illustrates that you should have your life together, get a good education and reasonably secure finances before getting knocked up. That applies no matter what age or marital status you happen to be.

Huckabee is the usual conservative fool who is more focused on ideology than reality.

Pansy - posted on 03/04/2011

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Ummm ... Natalie Portman is not a teenager. She is a 30 year old woman. Funny that huckabee puts her down, but what would he suggest? A nice abortion? I'm guessing that wouldn't be on his list ... damned if you do, damned if you don't.

I personally don't look to Hollywood to teach my children about what is right and what is wrong. But I also don't think it is wrong to have a baby out of wedlock when you are a grown adult making your own money and more than able to support yourself and your family. I have more respect for her than I do for the poor couple that can't afford kids and just keep having them ... but I guess that's ok, cause they are married.

Lady Heather - posted on 03/04/2011

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I highly doubt that any teen girls are looking at Natalie Portman - a successful, educated woman in a committed relationship - and thinking to themselves "omg maybe I should get knocked up right now!". Really, seriously doubt. Just like they probably never looked at the unmarried Angelina and said to themselves 'omg! Maybe I should adopt a menagerie of kids!".

Lacye - posted on 03/04/2011

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I absolutely love Natalie Portman. She is a good positive role model! She went to college, Harvard if I remember right. Not sure about that but I will check later. She has made something of herself. Who cares if she's not married to the father of her baby. People have been having children out of wedlock for centuries. I mean really. It's not like something like this just popped out of nowhere.

Kelsey - posted on 03/04/2011

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I think he's trying to say that basically all the hollywood ladies getting knocked up before marriage is not setting a good example for all the young teens out there just trying to 'fit in'. Lets face it, hollywood is not a good positive role model anyways and its kinda scary to have kids look up to some as them. I suppose I'm traditional and believe that marriage should come first and I would not really like to see my teenage daughter pregnant before marriage, even if she was engaged; however, I would support her in her decisions.

Nikkole - posted on 03/04/2011

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HA HAHA this article makes me laugh If They think Natalie Portman is a bad role model what do they think about Britney Spears, Lindsey Lohan,Paris Hilton or Miley Cyrus, Huckabee would probably say they were amazing role models for children!!!! Natalie Portman is not a bad role model she is NOT a single mother for God's sake she is engaged to her baby's FATHER!! HUH people get on my nerves!

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She's also not a single mom, she has a partner. I am not married to my partner, but we are in a committed and loving relationship, I don't see how this is in anyway making a difference to our daughter. And while single moms are often disadvantaged, they are also often not completely alone in the world. A few of my friends are/have been single moms, and most of them had great support from the father and/or their family. I could ramble on here, but again - what does being unmarried have to do with anything?

Lady Heather - posted on 03/04/2011

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Basically everything about that is offensive. In any case, she is not a single mother. She is in a relationship with the father. How on earth does that qualify as single? My sister had her baby before getting married and she was never referred to by anyone as a single mum. Kind of a silly term for someone living with the dad of the baby. Ha.

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How does her not being married make her a single mum? She is engaged for crying ou loud and supports herself anyway so if she chose to do this by herself then more power to her.
He sounds like a knob.

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