Irresponsible Parenting in public

JL - posted on 07/17/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )

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I am tired of going to places geared toward children and families like the pool and Chuck E Cheeses and having parents just let their children do as they please with no supervision.



Like at the pool I go to so many parents put thier little kids over in the baby pool area and then they pay no mind to them and some even go off into the big pool to swim while their child is left alone. I stay in the baby pool area and watch my child and if I get up I take him with me. I have had to on more than one occassion pull children out the baby pool after they have fallen face first into the water and had troubling pulling themselves up because they are so small or have not been taught to hold their breath and pull themselves up instead they panic. I find it completely irresponsible that these parents just leave thier little kids to fend for themselves especially when the lifeguards are only on duty in the big pool and the fact that thier is a sign at the baby pool speciifcally stating that kids cannot be left alone without adult supervision.



I honestly don't really like taking my kids to places like Chuck E Cheese...I do it with reluctance... because so many parents just park themselvs at a booth and let their little kids..I am talking about kids under the age of 6.. run around unsupervised . I understand that the place is set up in a way to keep kids safe from being abducted but this to me does not mean that they should run around wild out of eye sight. When I sit at a booth I make sure my children are in eyesight and with a buddy and if they want to go to another area I go with them. I have seen so many kids just running around being rude, pushing other kids, stealing tickets and cyring because they cannot find their parents while their moms and dads are sitting at a table oblivious to what is going on.



I have had to on more than one occasion help distraut children find their parents. I have had to on more than one occasion verbally discipline someone elses child . I have had to on more than one occasion provide comfort and first aid to a child I do not know who has gotten hurt and does not know where their parents are at. All because these kids have been left unsupervised.



At this point I am sick and tired of irresponsible parents and they should realize how lucky they are that parents like me are watching out for their kids for them.

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aime I just read your post about the people from the reserve giving the kids tobacco to make them ill so they can get drunk., I know where I am living now that some of the families come into town from the res and do the same thing but they give them alcohol poisoning and ditch them at the hospital for the night so they can get pissed and play bingo! really a sad situation

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we don't have chuck e cheese but we do have a similar place. it is very small and the parent tables are right in front of the giant play structure. most of the children that go their during the day are 6 and under so I do let my child run about. we have never had a problem and I am thankful for this place because it is one of the only places she can securely leave our side and go off to make friends. at ours each child gets a bracelet with a bar code and the parent gets one to. when someone wants to leave with a child they need to have the matching barcodes. they scan them and their pictures will appear on a computer for the workers to see. if they match the tall gate will be buzzed and unlocked but if they don't match they will remain locked. it is very secure and I feel quite safe to sit their and study while my child runs about.

Traci - posted on 07/20/2009

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I know!! I follow my kids around constantly when we go places...I don't want my children being "that kid" if you know what I mean!!! Lazy parents, lazy ANYBODY for that matter, really bothers me. Kids don't ask to be brought into this world, you know? The least people can do is care for them properly.



Joy, that pool story is absolutely appalling! I can't imagine walking away from a pool area with my kid in it! So depressing...



Jenny, I used to love Chuck E. Cheese, but now all I see is a giant petri dish when I look at those places, so I'm sort of glad we don't frequent that establishment any more. There's one a couple towns over from me and I'd love to go there, but my husband would freak if I went there...he has all kinds of cop friends who work in that town and he said it's nothing but gang bangers bringing their kids there. They are constantly getting calls over there because it's the ADULTS who don't know how to behave themselves....That is definitely an environment that I don't want my kids around.

Amie - posted on 07/20/2009

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Ya social services was involved with the one I was talking about. My mom was working at the hospital at the time as a special care aide and witnessed this crap going on. She was one of the ones that went forward to the authorities. I don't know what happened after that but I do know there was an influx of kids to our town's foster homes from the reserves. It was something at least. Not sure how long it took for them to get some of their kids back, if at all, but I remember it quite well. Made me sick, I was a teenager at the time too.

ME - posted on 07/20/2009

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How on earth is this kind of thing allowed to happen? No one reports these people to Soc. Services, they don't get their children removed from their homes? I'm absolutely appalled...I've never, ever, in my life heard of such behavior, let alone witnessed it...Some people should NOT be allowed to procreate at all...I agree!

Amie - posted on 07/20/2009

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OMG! You know it's kinda sad this doesn't surprise me. There's a McDonald's in the next city over from us (it's on my way back to my hometown) that had to close it's play center down. Parents were taking their kids buying them a happy meal, then dumping them to play for hours while they went up the street to gamble at the casino.
Even in my hometown I can remember a number years ago their being a big outrage towards one of the reserves. They had parents coming in at the end of each month with their band checks, buying groceries and then feeding their kids tobacco to make them sick (in small doses the nicotine won't kill a kid but it will make them very sick) putting them in the hospital for the night for observation and then leaving to go get drunk. Like holy crap. Some people should not be allowed to procreate at all.

Esther - posted on 07/18/2009

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Tracy - you're not alone. My husband went to a toy store tonight to get a wooden train for my son. While he was there, someone from the store walked up to him with a kid and asked him if it was his child. Obviously it wasn't. The man from the store told him that parents leave their kids in that store all the time while they go shopping in the mall. One time the parents left their child in the toy store (it's a very small store) for 3 hours before they came back to pick him up. Some people really have no business being parents.

Dawn - posted on 07/18/2009

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girl i feel your pain! it happens to me everytime i go out! i was at the beach one time and my kids were playing as i was watching them a little girl around 3 came and sat down next to me. i asked my daughter do you know where she came from she said i dont know not an adult in site. I was so dumbfounded that i no adult was with her. just pick my kids up and took the girl to the cop that was their. i never did go back to that beach again!

ME - posted on 07/17/2009

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I can't even believe stuff like this happens! I follow my child around like I am on a short leash when we are at the park, the pool or someplace like that, and if he's not behaving and walking calmly at my side in the store or on the sidewalk, then he gets carried or pushed in a cart...if he still can't behave, then we leave. Parents wonder why their children grow up to be irresponsible foolish teenagers and adults...here's your answer...or at least part of it!

Tracy - posted on 07/17/2009

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Before I had my little one I used to be an assistant manager of Australian Geographic store. It had lots of fun stuff for kids and we usually would blow magic balloons and had demo products in the store. Any way often parents would leave there children in the store for hours! I used to joke with my boss and say we where a daycare center. However leaving your child in a store while you go of and have a coffee or shop is very dangerous. Often after an hour we would call secruity to take the little ones to find there parents. I have had children as young as 3 left in store with no adult. One night it was closing time and I had little boy in store unsupervised once again. I did'nt want to kick him out of the store because he was so young and did'nt want to but him in danger. Finally the mum turned up 15 minutes after closing time. This used to get me so angry, as it so irresponsible of the parents to do this. These would be the same people that would go to a pool and not supervise either and expect someone else do it.

Jaime - posted on 07/17/2009

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I agree that it is incredibly frustrating to go to a public place that is geared toward families with small children, and not enjoy it because you are constantly on the look out for your own and everyone else's children. One thing that comes to mind when reading your comment Joy, is that although it is very honourable of you to help the children when their parents are no where to be found, what happens when you are not there? And that's what is scary for you too I'm sure. I absolutely agree that it is the parents' responsibility to mind their children and teach their children manners, but it is also the responsibility of the facility to make sure that they reinforce their rules...not just with signs. Signs are necessary, but if people are continually leaving their children in the baby pool alone, then they need to have their privilege of being there taken away, or there needs to be a life guard in that area to enforce that parents are to remain with their children at ALL times. It is great that there are activity centres for children to enjoy so that they can develop great social skills, but they will only benefit from these places by having parental participation in what they are doing. I go to a play group with my Son every Monday, and although he is only 5 months and doesn't run around, I certainly stay close to him and attend to him with some of the different toys that we do not have at home. My friend also attends the play group with me and she has a 2-year-old that has a blast running around and playing with all of the toys...but even though this is a small group, she still makes sure that she is involved in what her Son is doing, while giving him a bit of space to explore but keeping a close watch to be sure that he is using his manners and cooperating with the other children in the group.
Joy, I would not give up hope on these facilities just yet, but perhaps writing an email or a letter explaining your concerns might encourage them to implement stricter parental expectations when it comes to the safety of children in public places.

Sara - posted on 07/17/2009

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I was just thinking about this last night actually. I was shopping for a gift for someone's birthday and there were these two children just running wild all over the store, I had to verbally redirect them a couple of times while the mom just stood about 5 feet away looking through a rack of clothes. She didn't even react when I said something to her children (they looked to be about 5 or so). I know I would have a problem with someone else trying to tell my child what to do. It's ridiculous. It's so important to me for my child to have manners and act appropriate in public. I mean, I realize there's going to be tantrums, but there's a difference between throwing a tantrum and then just having poor manners and no supervision. But I have to say that actually, my favorite is when children are in public misbehaving and the parents say something like "When we get home I'm gonna whoop your ass"...great parenting.

JL - posted on 07/17/2009

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AHH! For some reason this posted twice I tried to the delete the other one so I hope it took otherwise this topic is on the community twice..so I am not crazy just having issues with the COM site today!

Abby - posted on 07/17/2009

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i second that. your child ur responsibility!! it winds me up, and when ur in a supermarket and a child runs in ur way, and ur have to stop ur trolley running into them, and then their parent gives u a dirty look....it winds me up. but here i find dr surgeries the worst! control ur child there's sick people round!!



grrr, im with u on this one joy! xxx

Jenny - posted on 07/17/2009

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Maybe that's part of the reason for the upswing in violence at Chuck E. Cheese lately. I avoid those places like the plague. For me, it doesn't matter where I am, my children must be behaved at all times or we will leave then and there. I've only had to do it twice with my daughter, once leaving a full cart of groceries in the store and once sitting in the car while dad finished his lunch in peace in the restaurant. Now she knows I'm serious and is generally on her best behaviour in public at all times.

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