Is it really necessary to attack every post?

Angel - posted on 09/13/2011 ( 103 moms have responded )

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Is it really necessary to go through all the posts and attack EVERY single post that doesn't agree with you?



What is the point of someone doing that?



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I am referring to the topics on which we are able to vote on. You have the option of commenting on every post.

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Rosie - posted on 09/14/2011

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see there are some instances where people are expressing WHY they don't do something, and in all honesty can't say why they don't do that without inadvertantly insulting the opposing side. i see it with religious debates all the time. i do not believe in god. why? because i don't believe in fairytales. how do i say that i think it's delusional to believe in god, without inadvertantly insulting the believers?

it's gonna happen in almost every debate, because that's HOW you debate.

the only way it's an "attack" is if you specifically tell that person that they are delusional. or in the spanking threads say that they are abusing their children etc.

Jakki - posted on 09/14/2011

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The funny thing is when women think they are being attacked and get allllll hysterical, when in fact someone was just making a general statement.

Anyway, I think Debating Mums has much less nastiness than some of the other communities. Let's congratulate ourselves on our maturity!

Ez - posted on 09/14/2011

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See this is the problem.. many (in fact, I would venture to say MOST) women on this site can't separate the personal from the ideological or philosophical. And they can't debate.



To use your spanking example (since it seems to be the real issue here), they will see someone speak out against hitting children and take that as a personal affront to their worthiness as a mother.



Unless someone explicitly attacks you (and there are rules and moderators in place to deal with that), don't be so sensitive. If you ARE that sensitive, don't enter the debates.

Johnny - posted on 09/13/2011

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There are just some topics that people have very strong opinions on. For people who are vehemently for something or opposed to something, it is very difficult to not try to get their message out about an issue. I find people always think it is about "judging" but I think it is really that people passionately believe something is right or wrong and feel that they need to change other people's minds to help them. I think if we are honest with ourselves, almost all of us have these things that stir us up and get us going. Parenting issues, politics, religion, driving, the economy, education, etc etc. I'm not sure where all this concern about "judging" keeps coming from, I see it all over COM. I actually don't see that much real "judging" (such as "you are a bad person" etc.) but people trying to get others to change their mind.

Karla - posted on 09/20/2011

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Yeah, no, I never troll... I just go to boards with which I don't agree. :-)



I still can't figure out why this is so bad either. I mean if people want to go about saying "the sky is falling" why is it so bad for me to go in their little room and say, "um, no, it's not!"



Yeah.



Now the bouncy bouncy song is in my head.

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Tara - posted on 09/20/2011

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****Mod Warning***

At this point I am going to lock this thread as it, is inflammatory in nature and doesn't really serve as debate material.
Please refrain from carrying this thread and the personal attacks into other topics of discussion.
Thank you,
Tara, you friendly DM Moderator.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/20/2011

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Brittany, you can play pretend all you want. It is rather funny watching you not own what you say.....please....by all means.....continue. *chomping on some popcorn borrowed from Lisa'

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/20/2011

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Brittany, I am really trying to be nice. Obviously you are new around these parts.

Brittany - posted on 09/20/2011

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So you are ASSUMING it was about you......in this case the assumption only makes an ass out of you.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/20/2011

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And nope, I don't think everything is about me....just when it is blatantly obvious.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/20/2011

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Apparently you do NOT. And for your information America, it is a fucking riot you think Kate and I are sidekicks. She and I both can have a private laugh about that.

Brittany - posted on 09/20/2011

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As far as I am concerned this is the internet, not real life. If she, or her side kick, want to be big and bad on the internet, let them. I just refuse to put up with it.

AND YES MARINA I AM TALKING ABOUT YOU LITTLE MISS!!

Brittany - posted on 09/20/2011

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Marina,

Can I ask you why you think everything is about you? The world, nor my comments, revolve around you.

If my comment was directed at you I would say :

Marina is such an internet troll.

I am a grown woman. I get straight to the point.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/20/2011

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Funny, and ironic, being attacked on a "why do people attack" thread. I can see the humor in that.

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Things get heated but it's rare serious personal attacks are made at least in DM and most people don't follow people from post to post making stupid insinuations or attacks!

Jaime - posted on 09/19/2011

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Anyone that can debate well, can debate both sides of any argument. But the point of a debate is to present fact-based information about a given topic. On CoMs however, I think we tend to inject our emotions into a lot of what we say, so naturally someone out of the 5+ million members on CoMs is gonna disagree with something that someone said in some thread about something or other. For the record, we have all trolled CoMs at some point and I dare anyone to disagree with me! :P



*she says as she walks away scratching her ass and picking at her rotting tooth* Happy debating :)

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/19/2011

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LOL Kate, I am many things....but I do not wear a beard very well ;)

Karla - posted on 09/19/2011

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From Brittany "It is called INTERNET TROLLING. Got to love those trolls."

I'm kind of assuming Brittany is answering th OP. (Perhaps she didn't even read the thread?)



edit: Oops I just saw the other conversation... I think I'm wrong!

Kate CP - posted on 09/19/2011

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I'm just picturing Marina with a big-ass beard under a bridge. That gave me a giggle. ;)

Stifler's - posted on 09/19/2011

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ROFL @ Marina the troll.



Attacking/trying to make the other side of the argument invalid is what debating is all about.

Charlie - posted on 09/19/2011

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" There was a time when some threads were started specifically to bash Canada, Australia, and the UK in order to try to make up for all the US bashing that was going on at the time. They didn't work out so well though. It just ended up being their own citizens complaining about their own countries and a few people expressing irritation with Crocodile Dundee. "



Thats because no one can take the piss out of Australia like the Aussies can.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/19/2011

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Yeah Brittany, sweetheart...if you are referring to me.....you really need to choose your battles darling. I have NO clue who you are, but love me or hate me....I am well known around this community.

Katherine - posted on 09/19/2011

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Are you talking about this community or others? Because if someone asks a question and wants an answer, not everyone is going to agree. That's fair. You need to get a better feel for this board. We debate sometimes it's hardcore, but no one attacks.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/19/2011

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Hold the applause until after Christmas time...you may have a different view ;)

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/19/2011

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LOL, this post by Jakki made me laugh...like really laugh....."Anyway, I think Debating Mums has much less nastiness than some of the other communities. Let's congratulate ourselves on our maturity! " Honey, you ain't seen NOTHING yet!

Jodi - posted on 09/19/2011

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LOL, Johnny, I think that's because we are capable of taking the piss out of ourselves without getting all heated over it :P

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 09/18/2011

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Thankfully the closest I've heard to American bashing is how Americans and Canadians do certain things other countries don't do as much.

IMO every country is messed up in one way or another. I can say this because I have now officially lived in 2 countries and there are some dumb things the Canadian government does and some things they should borrow from the US.

Johnny - posted on 09/18/2011

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Well, even as a Canadian I have to admit I've seen my fair share of anti-American commentary around here. Not too much lately though. There was a time when some threads were started specifically to bash Canada, Australia, and the UK in order to try to make up for all the US bashing that was going on at the time. They didn't work out so well though. It just ended up being their own citizens complaining about their own countries and a few people expressing irritation with Crocodile Dundee.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 09/18/2011

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I haven't noticed much anti-American or anti any nation really on CoM which is great.

Jenni - posted on 09/17/2011

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In topics of debate, I see nothing wrong with attacking every 3 posts... if you have the time! lol



As long as you are attacking the points and not the person. But yeah, I can see it getting pretty annoying when someone attacks every single post.



I'll be the first to admit that I can be a little over-zealous at times in other communities (outside debate communities). I use my debating statitude in communities where it may be unwanted. Sometimes it's hard to switch gears out of this community, where I spend most of my COM time. But hey, there's just some topics I'm passionate about (we all have them) and a lot of us have been in this community for some time. So we get a little bored of each others opinions. lol! Ok, I don't mean it that way... but on a lot of popular topics we've debated each other soooo many times, we already know where everyone stands and what everyone's opinions are on those topics. ;)



We need fresh meat!



But I try not to debate topics where people are genuinely searching for advice. I'm usually a bit more sensitive to those topics. But topics where the OP is stating their opinion on something, is fair game imo. As well as there are some topics I just can't seem to turn a blind eye to, no matter how hard I try.



I do wish that some people didn't take my disagreeing with them personal. I tend to forget some people may not enjoy a good debate like I do. Or have as thick of skin as I do when someone disagrees with my post.

Jenni - posted on 09/17/2011

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I personally don't find "Canuck" derrogatory. ;)
You all can call me a 'damn Canuck' all you want! Although, it's originally suppose to refer to French Canadians... but I guess it was catchy enough to use to refer to all Canadians.

Jakki - posted on 09/17/2011

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Bad luck Meggy. BTW Has there been much anti-Americanism on Debating Mums? I haven't seen any but I haven't read every word.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 09/16/2011

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I get attacked every day in my own home for being an American... usually by my own husband. I need a break.

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