Is saying someone is "too thin" rude?

Lotte - posted on 08/14/2011

yes and I get sick of it. I feel like I look unhealthy and like a frail, walking target. Not my fuckin fault I can't gain weight

Julianne - posted on 12/31/2010

Psyllium husk is a natural way to clean your gut out. Its super cheap, i get it at the bulk barn its like 2$ and it does the week of cleanse. All you do is take the husk and mix a tbs of it with 8 ounces of water. About an hour later drink another glass of water. What it does is turns into a jelly when it hits your stomach, on its way out it expands to the lining of the bowel absorbing any sludge that may be stuck along the lining of the bowel. It does not give you diarrhea like the detox cleanses do, because its not a laxative. It does promote healthy bowel movement however. Once the week is done any toxins are expelled from the bowel, for more sever cases you can go for a month. (ie sever bowel upset like ibs crones or any other disorder) What i do is take probiotic supplements so the gut flora is also not upset by the cleanse, and a teaspoon of black strap molasses every day to give your bowel the needed minerals to digest food properly. That way you can absorb the optimum amount of nutrition and calories from the food you eat.

Krista - posted on 12/31/2010

Hopefully once your body has settled back down from being sick, you'll be able to put some poundage back on, hon. I can imagine that trying to gain weight in a healthful manner is really tricky, because most healthy foods are non-fattening.

Julianne - posted on 12/31/2010

try omega supplements then. omega 3 6 9 would cover all your good fats. to help you put on weight. Drinking lots of water as well. Maybe cleansing your bowel it can function properly in absorbing the nutrients you are putting in your body. I think everyone should do a good colon cleanse once a year to expel toxins, especially if you've been sick. Good colon cleanse as in not the fad diet thats going on right now.

Cathy - posted on 12/31/2010

Hate avocados... eat nuts, bananas, sardines, mackeral, tuna...

I don't like being 8 stone, I liked being 9 stone.
But because I've been ill it's destroyed all my reserves. They were all in my ass which has now gone as flat as a pancake. I liked having a curvy behind because I don't have much upfront. I'm just not going to be able to regain that weight any time soon no matter what I eat.

It's not a blessing, it's a curse!

Krista - posted on 12/31/2010

Cathy, have you tried increasing your intake of healthy fats? Avocados, bananas, nuts, things like that?

You probably have, so feel free to ignore me if I'm telling you shit you've heard before.

But, like Julianne said, if you feel healthy at that weight, then that's obviously your "natural" weight.

Julianne - posted on 12/31/2010

well that's a healthy weight for you, or theirs a problem preventing you from gaining weight. If you feel healthy, i would go with the healthy weight for you..Unless your worried, then i would see a nutritionist or something to go over your food intake and see where you could be going wrong. Either that or see a doctor.

Cathy - posted on 12/31/2010

I exercise plenty (not increasing my walks to more than 8 miles a day unless it's for work purposes). I eat more than my share of healthy food and then I resort to the unhealthy because I'm still hungry.

All I ever do is maintain my weight, never gain. The only time I've gained weight is during pregnancy or when my entire diet consisted of savoury pies and chips(fries to Americans) neither of which I'm opting for now.

Julianne - posted on 12/31/2010

losing weight and gaining weight are the same. Exercising and making sure you get enough nutritional value out of the food you do eat without eating to few or many calories. Empty calories go both ways, if you eat too much empty calories, you can either get filled up to easily so you dont want more food and end not get proper nutrition, resulting in being underweight, or your body can burn it off too quickly and crave more so you over eat and then you end up underweight.



When i started exercising and eating right, i put on 30lbs. I did the exact same thing after having gabby and lost weight.

Rosie - posted on 12/31/2010

it depends on the context to me. if someone says oh i wish i was as thin as you, you are sooo thin! i don't feel that is insulting, they aren't trying to be.
now if someone says go eat some cheeseburgers twiggy, yeah that is rude.

Katherine - posted on 12/31/2010

You're lucky Cathy. I never eat them myself...

Cathy - posted on 12/31/2010

No one ever has tips on how to gain weight healthy ... it's always have a cheeseburger ... I'll eat three and still not gain weight! :p

Julianne - posted on 12/31/2010

When your losing weight healthily, not on a crash diet that's harming your body, you will get a lot of support. The only way you wouldn't get support, is if you were harming yourself in the process. It would be a great idea to start one, i know lots of ideas to boost your metabolism healthily and great exercises that speed up the process. I got back down to my pre-pregnancy weight pretty quickly and would love to help other women with tips that worked for me. When you know someone else is going through the same thing, it gives you the extra push to stick to it.

Tiffany - posted on 12/31/2010

I think you would find a lot of support if you posted a thread on trying to lose weight. I have a lot to lose...a lot. I've already started the changes slowly, but starting tomorrow I'm going all gung ho about it lol. The number 1 reason people fail at eating healthier and losing weight is because they don't have a support system. I think it's a great idea to start something here for that.

Petra - posted on 12/31/2010

I'm with you, Jenn. I've hovered around a size 6-8 (American/Canadian sizing) most of my adult life. A few years ago I blew out my knees and wound up a size 10 - I had more than one chin and some serious spare tire. I still wore a bikini to the beach and thought "Eff you" to people who commented on my weight. Post-baby, I'm a size 2-4. I'm 5'7" and, according to those online BMI calculators (which are fucking bunk, as far as I'm concerned), I'm in the normal range. But I frequently get comments about being too skinny. I find it kind of weird that the perceptions of obesity and anorexia are often based on appearance, rather than measurements of health or dietary practices/habits. Appearances are misleading, more often than not.

Jenn - posted on 12/31/2010

OK - since we're talking sizes now - when I was 18 I was 5'8" and weighed 128lbs, and I wore a size 7. I was in the healthy range for BMI, yet my cheeks were sunken in and I had comments that I needed to eat more, even though I did eat and I wasn't a light eater by any means. Now my BMI is on the cusp of being obese and I wear a size 16, but I still feel sexy as hell and have no quams about walking around naked in front of my man so I guess the pressures of society haven't gotten to me. And I still think it's annoying to use the word anorexic to describe the way someone looks whether it's a Barbie doll or a real person.

Krista - posted on 12/31/2010

And to just think, earlier today I was gonna post a thread on helping anyone lose weight that needs it. I do, and I need support. I don't think I would find it in DM.

Actually, I think you'd find plenty of support. Goodness knows I could stand to lose quite a bit of weight, and I'm sure there are other ladies here who wouldn't mind dropping a few pounds as well. And even the more slender ladies here have probably had food/body issues and could empathize. I think a thread like that is a great idea, actually.

Teresa - posted on 12/30/2010

That's why I get all my shorts as hand-me-down's. No shopping involved. ;) I think I was in a 3 before getting pregnant w/ my son. Now I have mostly 5's and (I think) one 7....

Katherine - posted on 12/30/2010

I hate shopping for jeans or pants. They're all different sizes....so annoying.

Katherine - posted on 12/30/2010

Roughly.

Katherine - posted on 12/30/2010

A size 5 in juniors is a 3 or 4 in woman's. A size 11/12 is an 7-8.

Tiffany - posted on 12/30/2010

It depends on the way you say it and the context in which it is said. I have a friend who is super skinny. She eats a TON, but just can't gain weight. When people have said things to her, it really bothers her because she is healthy and eats more then anyone I know lol. Unless it's a close friend/family, I would watch what I say. As for the model in that picture, parents need to make their children aware of how pictures are photoshopped and how that is not attainable or healthy. That picture is obviously very photoshopped.

Kelly - posted on 12/30/2010

Ha, I was just thinking about starting another thread on this and wondering if any one else was noticing this phenomenon.



In America, many retailers are now putting smaller sizes on larger clothing. I noticed it years ago when it first began b/c I am peculiar about my weight and knew that my jean size should not be going down if my weight was not. I worked at GAP Inc (who also owns Old Navy and Banana Republic) so I asked about it.

Apparently, the original intention was to make bigger women feel good about themselves by fitting into a smaller size, thus they would always buy Gap jeans b/c apparently women like to say "I'm a size 6" a lot more than "I'm a size 8" what ever their size may be.



unfortunately, other retailers caught on and the new sizes became more "standard" so smaller people were "sized out" The smallest sizes were too big, thus the invention of the sizes 2, 1, 0, and 00. But because all the retailers were messing with their sizes and there was no real standard set, sizes are no longer consistent across brands.....I hate that.

Johnny - posted on 12/30/2010

I was looking for hoodie in Old Navy about a month ago. The small was the only one that fit, but it was a bit short on me. I got one at American Eagle. It was a large. If I'd bought one from H & M, it probably would have been XL. Ridiculous!

Kate CP - posted on 12/30/2010

I actually hate Old Navy for that very reason. I bought a bunch of maternity clothes in what I *thought* was my size and they look like damned tents on me. :/

Johnny - posted on 12/30/2010

I'll also add that almost all the time, when shopping in American based chain stores I wear a size or two smaller than I do in European or Canadian based chain stores. Old Navy is the king of this vanity sizing thing, just like mentioned in the Esquire article.

Kate CP - posted on 12/30/2010

Rebecca: That was a good read. Thank you! :)

Rebecca - posted on 12/30/2010

Old Navy's sizing is a cheap old throne of lies!!!

;)

Johnny - posted on 12/30/2010

I'm in Canada. Some stores I shop in size 2-4-6-8-10.... and others size 5-7-8-11-13. Extremely confusing. Then there are the lovely XXS to XXXL like Old Navy. But jeans are sometimes sold like men's sizes being 28-30-32. And then there is the lengths issue since every store has a different definition of petite and now instead of jeans being listed with lengths like 32x32 they are just 32R.

I hate shopping.

Rebecca - posted on 12/30/2010

Warning do not show your SO the above link if he is sensitive about his waist size ;).

Rebecca - posted on 12/30/2010

Actually, one of my friend's husband sent me this link when I was whinging on facebook about sizing.
http://www.esquire.com/blogs/mens-fashio...

I guess men have some sizing issues too.

Julianne - posted on 12/30/2010

i have an extremely hard time to find clothing that fits me as well. i have wide hips a large chest yet the rest of me is super small. so if i get tops that fit me in the chest, the neck line arms and belly are too big, same with jeans, they fit my butt, and there too big on my waist and thighs. i buy clothing and alter them to fit at home.pretty sure every woman has the same hard time getting clothing that fits, unless your super skinny or are built like a brick, i dont know many brick like women....

Kate CP - posted on 12/30/2010

The fashion industry really has us women by the short and curlies. Men have a much easier time of shopping for clothes because they can measure themselves and say "Okay, I have a 32 waist, a 34 inseam...that's the size pants I wear!" and go buy the damn pants. WOMEN on the other hand have to try on 3 different sizes depending on the manufacturer because of the leeway given to different companies. A size 8 in one brand is NOT a size 8 in another brand. And that drives me fuckin' nuts.

I go into a store and I'm grabbing sizes 12-20 depending on what I'm buying and where I am. I look like a damn nut trying to find clothes that fit. I have a big ass, big boobs, and a smaller waste. I'm a plus sized woman, yes I am over weight, but I have a genuine hour-glass figure. You have any idea how hard it is to find clothes that look good on me?! I hate the fashion industry for that reason. >:|

Julianne - posted on 12/30/2010

really, if there the same why don't we have size 2-4-6-8 etc.

Stifler's - posted on 12/30/2010

I agree with Sherri. Above size 12 (USA 12 aka Australian 16) IS plus sized. Australian size 16 is the largest some stores stock. In department stores (KMart, Target etc.) size 18 and above is in the plus size section. I personally agree with this... size 18 is overweight. You have to be at least 90kg + to be size 18.

Lindsay - posted on 12/30/2010

Canadian and American clothing sizes are the same...

Julianne - posted on 12/30/2010

id be a size 4 American...wow you guys make me feel really small :P

Lindsay - posted on 12/30/2010

a 5 in junior is like a 6 in woman's...a 7 would be an 8...I think that's correct.

Julianne - posted on 12/30/2010

lol yea, i was wondering since i take a 5 or 7 depending on the make maybe i would take a 6 American?lol

Bonnie - posted on 12/30/2010

Julianne, that's what I was thinking because that's where I am. Most sizes are 1,3,5,7, etc., but there are also quite a bit that go 25,26,27,28, etc.

Julianne - posted on 12/30/2010

oh..i wear junior clothing then.?..:P

Julianne - posted on 12/30/2010

canada

Ooo - posted on 12/30/2010

I think it's rude to call someone too thin in the street. When a person becomes a model it's a different storey because their body is the tool of their trade and they put themself up for critique. Models who are too thin are portraying an unhealthy image as good. Something that is bad for most people shouldn't be portrayed as good.

Kate CP - posted on 12/30/2010

Actually, in American sizing the "odd sizes" (3, 5, 7, 9, etc) are Juniors sizes for teens.

Bonnie - posted on 12/30/2010

Where do you live, Julianne?

Julianne - posted on 12/30/2010

i cant use the online conversion, my size isn't there? Thats funny, we have odd sizes, America has even. sometimes i see even size clothing..not too often though.

Krista - posted on 12/30/2010

And for your sake, I hope you don't have a thyroid issue cause it really sucks.

Charlie - posted on 12/30/2010

Oh haha ok I thought you were asking for real , I feel pretty clever for picking it now ;)

But yes you cannot tell these things or the reasons for it .

Krista - posted on 12/30/2010

Loureen... it is a thyroid issue. What I was getting at, however, is that these things alone cannot possibly be seen through just looking at someone. Someone might look at me and think I'm severely dehydrated, but really it's a case of hypothyroidism. Sure, you can tell someone's "general" health level, but you can't tell what lies beneath. There are people out there who are gravely ill, but look great.

Sherri - posted on 12/30/2010

You made me laugh Joy. LOL!!