Just had it.

Lindsay - posted on 10/03/2010

I'm going to go ahead and lock this thread. This is not a debate and the OP has said what she needed to.

Lindsay DM Mod

Holly - posted on 10/03/2010

I've taken breaks from DM's when I was at a time of vulnerability emotions wise and KNEW I would not be able to handle differing opinions that may seem a little "gangy" on one side (even if I'm on the "popular" side).



We all need breaks sometimes and we all need to know our limits. I hope you come back refreshed and ready to debate again! :)

Lyndsay - posted on 10/03/2010

Wow.

Isobel - posted on 10/03/2010

the difficulty is, however, when you have an unpopular opinion a lot of people are going to respond negatively to your post. It's not ganging up on somebody if you're not trying to hurt them...If you know that EVERYONE is going to disagree with a particular stance, why be upset when they do?

Amanda - posted on 10/03/2010

I think that this is a Debating Mom's community - we should debate *obviously* - but we should also not break anyone down. I haven't read whatever thread that all of this has stemmed from - but I do know that a few times I have posted, I was singled out for my opinion, when I wasn't the only one with that same opinion.

REGARDLESS this is a Circle of Mom's community, and we are all kick ass mom's. Why do we have to break each other down?

At any rate, I hope that you come back refreshed.

Teresa - posted on 10/03/2010

I haven't read whatever you are referring to yet, but taking a step back can definitely be a good thing. Pain and hormones definitely make everything harder!

Carolee - posted on 10/03/2010

Christina, I do hope you come back refreshed.

Umm... just a curosity question because I see these types of posts scattered throughout the groups I'm in...
Why announce that you are leaving with reference to someone or something that has annoyed you and blame that for you (general you) leaving?
I've always been interested in that particular behavior, and the "why" behind almost every action taken by people.

Dana - posted on 10/03/2010

Calm down, Christina. I didn't say it did have to do with me. Nor did I say that you don't know what the word ignorant means, Do you every actually read a post for what it says instead of flying off the handle and talking everything so personally.
I don't feel guilty at all nor did I "go off on this thread". lol I was talking to Tah, just because you started this thread doesn't mean I can't talk to anyone in it.

I thought you were leaving to go calm down a bit anyhow, it doesn't seem to have worked.

?? - posted on 10/03/2010

Take a breath Christina. Not everyone [I would bet hardly anyone] knows or even cares about your personal issues right now. "Bombaring me at my most vulnerable time" is a statement that says to me, that you should take it upon yourself to back off. You can not expect people to stop being passionate about their stances just because you're in an oversensitive mind frame.



Take a break, breathe, and relax. No one is 'picking' on you. No one wants to take advantage of you in your vulnerable state. You know this forum and you know that everyone is passionate as well as opinionated. They aren't going to stop, for anyone.



Only you are responsible for yourself. You want to post your opinion, you have to be prepared for other opinions in return. You know if your opinion is going to be the less popular opinion, it's going to feel like you're being ganged up on - and you should know that is NOT the case.



Go, relax for a lil bit and calm down. It's NOT personal.

Tah - posted on 10/03/2010

@Christina, i think she was saying that whoever called you ignorant because you may or anybody for that matter may not be well versed on a subject didn't know the meaning of ignorant. I also think since you said uneducated in your post she was just pointing out that she didn't mean you were uneducated just in case you took offense to that. I think we all get a little heated on these post sometimes if the subject is sensitive and we can all take offense, i had to fall back for a young minute before during some debates before i said some things i would regret..well no, i'm lying. i probably wouldn't have regretted them so let me rephrase, before i said some things that people didn't know i was capable of and did a dance of joy while typing them.

C. - posted on 10/03/2010

Dana, first I never said it had anything to do with you. It wasn't even just that thread. Lately I felt like people have been bombarding me at my most vulnerable time. I don't care that people have a different opinion at all, I just don't like to be ganged up on- and yes, I felt that way. And you can take that comment about not knowing what the word ignorant means and throw it out the window. I know what the word means, but again, the whole thing about implying that I wasn't educated wasn't even all about you, so I don't even know why you had to go off on this thread like that. Maybe you felt guilty or something stupid like that, I don't know.. But it wasn't even all about you, so please keep these types of comments to yourself and out of this thread. This wasn't posted to have people go off on me about something stupid.

Dana - posted on 10/03/2010

Well being ignorant on a matter doesn't mean that you're an ignorant person. Maybe people don't understand that, I guess that would mean they're ignorant to the definition of ignorant. ;) lol

Tah - posted on 10/03/2010

i just read some other post after i saw this one and i must say i can see where she may have felt ganged up on and that people were implying she was ignorant or uneducated...i can see where she would draw that conclusion...this was the first thing i opened so i didnt know where it came from. Then i opened a couple more and said..o..now i see...

Dana - posted on 10/03/2010

It could have been when Christina said to me "Thank you, Dana *rolls eyes* I replied "No problem, :D just trying to educate you"....which is a far cry from calling anyone "uneducated" but, who knows...

C. - posted on 10/03/2010

Thank you, Sharon.

Tah - posted on 10/03/2010

did i miss something?...who said you were uneducated?....maybe you need a timeout because of everything but dont let it get to you. i hope u come back...

Sharon - posted on 10/03/2010

Its always a good thing to recognise your limits. enjoy your time away. come back refreshed.